Curious about everyone's thoughts about starting new insomnia and ask a STM threads? The current ones are from November and December respectively and are getting big enough that my mobile app is choking on them and crashing. Don't want to step on anyone's toes or if this was discussed during the week I was incommunicado, so thought I'd raise it to the group.
Curious about everyone's thoughts about starting new insomnia and ask a STM threads? The current ones are from November and December respectively and are getting big enough that my mobile app is choking on them and crashing. Don't want to step on anyone's toes or if this was discussed during the week I was incommunicado, so thought I'd raise it to the group.
Whoops I completely forgot... I'll make a new one for stm!
Also, I'm doing a last nighttime feed and a small part of me is hoping LO takes a massive dump any second, so I can kick my husband and get him to change the kid. Lucky jerk has slept from 11 with relatively little interruptions. Must be nice....
edit: the kid is bone dry. Clearly the two of them are in cahoots...
@homemake awesome; I have a feeling the February one is going to be a doozy. Do you want to just make the one you just started a Janu-ruary kinda thing for ease? Or start a very special birth month one in (ohmygod only) 7 days?
@WinchesterGirl I completely agree. I mean, at least we knew *why* Voldemort was evil; he was abandoned! Umbridge is just the banality of evil and bureaucracy. Which everyone hates.
So we finally got an acceptable offer on the house this weekend, inspection 2/2 and closing 3/15 if all goes well. We don't have another house to move into because we've been slacking on looking over the holidays and the fact that it's been on the market a year now without a single bite, we were losing hope. Luckily the buyers are willing to rent our house to us until end of May.
Doctor's also scheduled my induction for 2/7, 3 days before my due date. I'm not thrilled about this.
I anticipate a spectacular meltdown sometime over the next few months.
Also, I'm doing a last nighttime feed and a small part of me is hoping LO takes a massive dump any second, so I can kick my husband and get him to change the kid. Lucky jerk has slept from 11 with relatively little interruptions. Must be nice....
edit: the kid is bone dry. Clearly the two of them are in cahoots...
Aw man, I remember many a nights being up for the umpteenth time nursing the kid with hubby sleeping on my side, baby falling asleep on my lap and me awake forever. Everyone in the house sleeping but me. Wanted to smack my husband so bad :-p Mind you, he was/is awesome with the assist when I need it but since I was the one nursing never made sense to wake him up, plus he just has an uncanny ability to fall asleep in a snap where as I take forever. But still, wanted to smack him so bad.
@Lafreeman21 Lol, I watched all the HP movies in December, same reason. But I stopped movie 7.5 right before Snape dies. Because no pregnant lady can deal with the emotions that scene involves.
My husband had been reading The Philosopher's Stone to the bump since August, and it actually seemed like LO recognized his dad's voice when he came out. Highly recommend doing that, especially in these last few weeks.
Also, I'm doing a last nighttime feed and a small part of me is hoping LO takes a massive dump any second, so I can kick my husband and get him to change the kid. Lucky jerk has slept from 11 with relatively little interruptions. Must be nice....
edit: the kid is bone dry. Clearly the two of them are in cahoots...
Aw man, I remember many a nights being up for the umpteenth time nursing the kid with hubby sleeping on my side, baby falling asleep on my lap and me awake forever. Everyone in the house sleeping but me. Wanted to smack my husband so bad :-p Mind you, he was/is awesome with the assist when I need it but since I was the one nursing never made sense to wake him up, plus he just has an uncanny ability to fall asleep in a snap where as I take forever. But still, wanted to smack him so bad.
Ugh, all of these things. Yes, he's awesome, and helps when he needs to. And then immediately drops into a deep and restful sleep (at least, that's what I assume by how bloody loud he was snoring last night). And I feel so guilty waking him up. At least one of us should be functional during the day, right?
Guys I'm having a mini freak out. It's 11:17, and I've only felt baby move maybe 10 times total since waking up at 8am. A brief blip of that was a few hiccups when getting up and then a few slight movements within the last hour. I drank chocolate milk and laid on my side- nothing. Chocolate usually always gets him.
I feel like like a crazy person overly worrying, but having your doctor discuss possible unexplainable fetal demise due to cholestasis is terrifying.
Currently waiting for H to get home so we can go by L&D for monitoring. I can't wait around for the nurses to call me back and possibly have those hours of waiting be bad.
I know as soon as I get there he'll probably move like crazy but I just can't take this worry.
@kirstynikole You're doing the right thing. How much longer do you have to wait for your husband? Can you catch a cab and have him meet you there? It sounds like acting will make you feel better than waiting, and provided the cab ride wouldn't cost you $50, I think it'd be a reasonable investment for your peace of mind. Keep us updated.
Movement can sometimes slow a bit towards the end just because the quarters are getting pretty cramped, so try not to worry too much. Hoping you get some good reassurance at L&D!
@kirstynikole when I had little to no movements, I freaked out and called, but my OB told me to turn off all the lights and noises (like the tv) because they can lull baby to sleep. Lying down in silence seemed to help for me because she woke right up as soon as the tv was off. Sending positive thoughts your way!
@kirstynikole sending good thoughts your way! I'm glad you called, it's always better to know than to worry! I had the same thing a few weeks ago and when in for a few NSTs and everything turned out just fine plus I got an update on where/how baby was going so that's a plus too. Keep us posted and try not to stress too much!
Thanks y'all unfortunately we live outside city limits so a cab is out of the question. He should be home within the next 5 minutes and the hospital is an 8 minute drive.
They've said anything below 10 movements in 2 hours is something to watch for, however that's for a basic pregnancy not for one with cholestasis so I'm not sure if I should be more concerned. What sucks is that not much info is know about what can cause fetal problems from cholestasis.
Thankfully as as soon as I posted this I got a call back from my doctor saying I can go to triage at anytime I feel concerned for monitoring. And literally as I was in the phone kid starts kicking around, and throwing punches. He's now been moving nonstop since my last post.
So so of course I look like a huge liar.
eta: I have one of my two weekly NST tomorrow. If he starts being weird again they said come in, if not I can wait until tomorrow. This kid must think he's funny giving me a scare.
@kirstynikole So glad he got moving again! I think you had every right to freak out and I'm glad your doctor told you to go in whenever you feel like you need to! Last week I had the same thing - she was barely moving around, they hook me up for the NST and within minutes she starts going nuts. Already troublemakers before they're even out of the womb!!
@kirstynikole same thing happened to me last night. I felt decreased and sluggish movement all day yesterday. It's a horrible feeling not knowing if you're overreacting or if there's a legitimate reason for concern. I like what @LivingLaVidaGinger suggested to try with lights and all sound off if possible. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn't. Either way it's always scary. Glad LO is cooperating now, even if it does make you look like you lied you know your body and baby best and if something feels wrong, it never hurts to have it checked out.
BFP #1: DD born on 08.25.12
BFP #2: 09/08/15 miscarried at 6w
BFP #3: DD2 born on 02.07.17
@kirstynikole I'm SO glad you called and LO started moving around! I'd way rather look like a liar and have everything okay than be self conscious and end up in a bad situation.
I totally just stole a donut that wasn't mine to eat. Stop me, I dare you.
I was so confused because I saw someone post this on Facebook and automatically thought of Pi day... I didn't realize there was an actual Pie day too. More days to enjoy pie; I won't complain.
Ive not been posting much the past few days, been more of a dirty lurker as its been a tough few days. Ive not been feeling great & have probably been taking too much out of myself and literally have had to just give in and let everyone else take over and just go to bed. Ive not really been eating much and have horrible constipation so its not been a barrell of laughs. My milk hasnt come in & because ive felt so rubbish i havnt been trying to get cora to latch or pump for stimulation. Cora also had a bit of a sticky eye which turned out to test positive for group b strep. Shes on eye drops which have cleared it up but we also had to take her to the hospital yesterday for blood tests just to be on the safe side, which have thankfully come back clear. But its been so worrying and makes me so cross that it isnt something that is tested for here in pregnancy & also that i wasnt given antibiotics despite the prolonged time between my waters breaking & actual delivery (42 hours). Emotionally its been tough between worrying about cora with the gbs, not being able to feed her & feeling a bit of pressure from my husband who as a gp is very pro breast feeding & just general not feeling well. However, i still have so much to be thankful for as Cora is doing well, is oblivious to the gbs & is feeding & sleeping well & her eye is almost fully better thanks to the drops. Shes an absolute wee doll & we are truly blessed with her & so in love. My husband has been so great doing everything that i havnt been able to from feeding & nappy changes to washing & grocery shopping. My parents were here sat & sun which was a godsend as they took over & let us just sleep & my mil was here for a few hours today helping out too. hopefully were both on the mend and be able to get into a way of going soon.
@Janefelicity I'm so sorry you're having a rough time right now.. if it helps any, just remind yourself it will get better, and you'll find your routine and way of things within the next few weeks. Every baby and experience is different, so don't be too hard on yourself. You love your baby and are doing what you can while still healing and figuring it all out. Breathe and know, we're all here for support as well as your family.
I know it's tough, but you're doing the best you can and you are doing great!
@Janefelicity Sorry you are having such a rough patch. Take care of yourself and know that it will get easier. Recovery from childbirth is hard but it sounds like you have good support in your husband and family. Use their help as much as you need to in order to get some rest. Sending positive thoughts your way that You and Cora are both feeling better soon!!
@janefelicity I'm sorry you're feeling so crappy! I hope you begin to feel better soon. You're doing the best you can and it will get easier as you begin to heal. Hopefully your milk comes in but if not, don't worry as long as she's getting fed!
I am so sorry to hear this @Janefelicity, but I'm so glad you posted it. It's good to open up and share when things are feeling grim/overwhelming, because then you can find out how wide your support network extends. You and I were labouring at the same time, and I'm thinking of you from all the way over here on the very West Coast of Canada. We're in the same boat, at very similar stages in our recovery process, and it's important to remember that everyone struggles with this part. My husband has also been carrying the team, groceries and laundry and changing wise. Can you focus on the fact that he's such an amazing partner to support you through this normal and challenging period? Because the fact that he's being so amazing actually shows how amazing you are too: you picked this man to have Cora with. You've made sure she has an amazing father who protects and loves and cares for Cora and her mother.
@Janefelicity +1 to what everyone else said and l'm sending you and Cora lots of hugs. Your body has been through so much and you have done so much to take care of this baby! You're a great mom. Be gentle with yourself.
And, if you start to feel hopeless, talk to your H and care providers. FX this passes quickly and your milk comes in!
Girls even just writing that was tough, im not usually the type to ask for help & i think that not being in charge and control has been most difficult for me. And your respsonses have genuinely made me tear up, youse are all great & i really appreciate it!
Re: Weekly Randoms (1/23)
edit: the kid is bone dry. Clearly the two of them are in cahoots...
Naive hopes. Umbridge is a treat though.
Married: 10/10
EDD: 8/27/16 MMC 1/16
Rainbow Boy: 2/04/17
TTC: 4/18 BFP: 1/2/19
EDD: 9/6/19
So we finally got an acceptable offer on the house this weekend, inspection 2/2 and closing 3/15 if all goes well. We don't have another house to move into because we've been slacking on looking over the holidays and the fact that it's been on the market a year now without a single bite, we were losing hope. Luckily the buyers are willing to rent our house to us until end of May.
Doctor's also scheduled my induction for 2/7, 3 days before my due date. I'm not thrilled about this.
I anticipate a spectacular meltdown sometime over the next few months.
Thanks, me too! Just a lot hitting us at the same time but that seems to be how it goes sometimes :-) One day at a time, right?
My husband had been reading The Philosopher's Stone to the bump since August, and it actually seemed like LO recognized his dad's voice when he came out. Highly recommend doing that, especially in these last few weeks.
Ugh, all of these things. Yes, he's awesome, and helps when he needs to. And then immediately drops into a deep and restful sleep (at least, that's what I assume by how bloody loud he was snoring last night). And I feel so guilty waking him up. At least one of us should be functional during the day, right?
I feel like like a crazy person overly worrying, but having your doctor discuss possible unexplainable fetal demise due to cholestasis is terrifying.
Currently waiting for H to get home so we can go by L&D for monitoring. I can't wait around for the nurses to call me back and possibly have those hours of waiting be bad.
I know as soon as I get there he'll probably move like crazy but I just can't take this worry.
Have they given you movement parameters to look out for? How far too low is 10?
They've said anything below 10 movements in 2 hours is something to watch for, however that's for a basic pregnancy not for one with cholestasis so I'm not sure if I should be more concerned. What sucks is that not much info is know about what can cause fetal problems from cholestasis.
Thankfully as as soon as I posted this I got a call back from my doctor saying I can go to triage at anytime I feel concerned for monitoring. And literally as I was in the phone kid starts kicking around, and throwing punches. He's now been moving nonstop since my last post.
So so of course I look like a huge liar.
eta: I have one of my two weekly NST tomorrow. If he starts being weird again they said come in, if not I can wait until tomorrow. This kid must think he's funny giving me a scare.
I totally just stole a donut that wasn't mine to eat. Stop me, I dare you.
It's official. There is no longer any comfortable way for me to sit at my office desk any more :-p
Also, it's National Pie Day and I have no pie!!!!!
Cora also had a bit of a sticky eye which turned out to test positive for group b strep. Shes on eye drops which have cleared it up but we also had to take her to the hospital yesterday for blood tests just to be on the safe side, which have thankfully come back clear. But its been so worrying and makes me so cross that it isnt something that is tested for here in pregnancy & also that i wasnt given antibiotics despite the prolonged time between my waters breaking & actual delivery (42 hours).
Emotionally its been tough between worrying about cora with the gbs, not being able to feed her & feeling a bit of pressure from my husband who as a gp is very pro breast feeding & just general not feeling well.
However, i still have so much to be thankful for as Cora is doing well, is oblivious to the gbs & is feeding & sleeping well & her eye is almost fully better thanks to the drops. Shes an absolute wee doll & we are truly blessed with her & so in love. My husband has been so great doing everything that i havnt been able to from feeding & nappy changes to washing & grocery shopping. My parents were here sat & sun which was a godsend as they took over & let us just sleep & my mil was here for a few hours today helping out too.
hopefully were both on the mend and be able to get into a way of going soon.
I know it's tough, but you're doing the best you can and you are doing great!
Sending over love and hugs ❤❤
Hugs to you.
And, if you start to feel hopeless, talk to your H and care providers. FX this passes quickly and your milk comes in!