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teacher mom-2 · January 2017

@Stankonia2014 I am the same with my mother. ILs are going to watch DD when I go into labor but they live 2.5 hours away so if I don't have warning, I told DH to leave her with one of our two favorite neighbors and only call my mom if all else fails. I rather my mom knows after I give birth because her biggest issues is drama and selfishness and that is not what I need during labor

LAMCH1980 · January 2017

@Stankonia2014, that is tough. I'm sorry. I hope you can work something out with her by then. We're paying a sitter to stay at our house when the time comes because we aren't near family. It's not ideal, but it gives me a plan.

kahlan82 · January 2017

My 3 yo has begun yelling at DH and myself "I serious about this. I told you 3 times." we are in trouble A LOT

Stankonia2014 · January 2017

@LAMCH1980, you have a PM.

Ahutch428 · January 2017

@Stankonia2014 That sucks, and I'm sorry you arn't in a place where you can rely on your mom. Hopefully y'all will be able to figure things out before June!

DH was diagnosed with strep throat yesterday and after avoiding him all day yesterday, I thought I was in the clear, but now my throat is starting to bother me... damn it!

Elyse1384 · January 2017

@Stankonia2014 that's so stressful! Sorry you're dealing with that. Is there a reliable babysitter who might be willing to be on call? Maybe "overtime" rates? I know it's not ideal, but my cousin had to go that route as she had moved out of state and didn't know anyone/have family close.

kfry22 · January 2017

@Stankonia2014 that's super frustrating. I have had my struggles with my mom as well so I understand your struggle. Hopefully in the next few months you can get to a good place with your mom and not have to worry about childcare during labor. I'm not sure if anyone mentioned this before, but do you have a neighbor or coworker who you would trust? Or more importantly that your girls would be comfortable with?

alm52386 · January 2017

@Stankonia2014 I got a call at 11pm to go to my friends house, the ones I babysit for regularly, and I stayed for a few hours until her parents could get there. Like other have mentioned, maybe finding a sitter to come by on short notice? Either for the whole time or until a friend or family member can be there?

flyingncmama · January 2017

@Stankonia2014, I'm sorry to hear about your mom troubles. That blows. I don't know about you, but once I became a mom and started seeing the world through a mom's perspective, I began to find my mother's behavior even more atrocious.

huskermom14 · January 2017

@Stankonia2014 I'm sorry you have that kind of relationship with your mom. That makes life so hard.

Also, I know we're Internet stranger friends right now, but I'd be more than happy to meet you so you could feel comfortable calling me to watch your kids if you and your mom are still on the outs! That would stress me out too so let me know if I can help! ❤

JAGinMI · January 2017

@Stankonia2014 that really sucks and just want to say that I feel for you. I can relate a bit with my mom.

Praying41 · January 2017

My 13 month old started getting her molars this months and it's a nightmare. 3 already in less than a month!!!!! She's always been a great sleeper but now is waking up crying like 5 times a night. I've started giving her Motrin before bed on bad days but it's not lasting long enough to give another dose and she wakes up in pain! As if I'm not already having trouble sleeping!!! I feel like a zombie... and of course DH sleeps like a log through the night! Ugh!!!!!!

michaela0704 · January 2017

Obviously I don't know your mom @Stankonia2014 but based on what @flyingncmama said...

I had this ridiculous idea that parents were all mature, like somehow it made ordinary people rise to another level at whatever time that happened for them in life, but when I had my twins when I was 26 it was like an epiphany... not to be funny but I literally told my dad 'it's amazing, ANYONE can have a kid and then I have to deal with raising mine in the same world as theirs...' it was naive to think that all parents suddenly had certain characteristics or had a way of thinking that was making their children a top priority. Anyways, I'm older now and have seen *almost* it all and I laugh at myself whenever I think about how I used to perceive adults and entering parenthood.

Stankonia2014 · January 2017

@flyingncmama & @michaela0704, that's exactly where my issues lie with her. She was a teen mom, she relied a lot on my grandparents to raise me, then when I was 8 she had my brother, literally he was 2 y/o and she started leaving us overnight alone to go out and party. So I raised my brother until she decided to settle down and get married my senior year of high school.

She was was a great grandmother when she was married. She is now in the process of getting divorced, she lives with my grandparents again and is back to sowing her wild oats. She only comes around when she needs to borrow money.

It's the hardest for me because my girls worship her, and I don't want to taint their image of her, but she only sees them when it's convenient for her and when she is around and they ask her to play, she declines and then just gossips to me about her life. I'm used to this, this doesn't bother me for myself personally, but don't treat my kids like that.

Sorry for the novel.:/

merrylea · January 2017

@Stankonia2014 - I wanted my two cents as the grandchild in a kind of similar situation. My paternal grandfather was both physically and verbally abusive to my father and his brother growing up. Needless to say, my dad was not extremely close (and my uncle cut him out of his life completely) when they became adults. After my grandparents divorced, and my grandpa remarried, he settled down, and became and OK guy. Quite frankly, he yearned for a relationship with his sons he knew he couldn't have because he effed up. My parents facilitated a relationship between myself and my grandpa (and his wife) and I appreciated it. I didn't know about the abuse until later, when it became more appropriate and I could make my own decisions on my image of him. It wasn't taint persay, but I got the full picture, and it filled in a lot of holes in my mind. Kind of rambling, but my advice is, you don't have to have a relationship, but it's nice to facilitate one with the girls, unless of course you see it being damaging to them.

doodleoodle · January 2017

That sounds awful @Stankonia2014 I'm so sorry

EmeraldNC · January 2017

@Stankonia2014 I am currently on the outs with my mother as well. She has mental health issues she will get treated, then go off her meds and it creates havoc on all of her relationships. She was physically and emotionally abusive in the ladder part of my childhood, and then has continued to be emotionally abusive throughout my life. When she is on her meds she is such a great grandmother to my children, but I have come to the point in my life where I can't guess on if she is medicated or not... and I won't subject my children to that. I doubt you live local to me, but if you did, I would totally help you out myself or help you find a solution!

hopeful808 · January 2017

@alm52386 I took mine out last time and did this time. It didn't close last time.

jc_twomamas · January 2017

@Stankonia2014 just popped in to say, I'm so sorry you have to deal with stress surrounding your mom. I hope that you and your H can find a situation for your littles that you feel confident and comfortable with. Thinking of you.

FSUNole31 · January 2017

I have not had to yell this much at a class I don't think ever. My 5/6 period block is about to do me in. I want to go home and indulge in lots of vodka sprites, but I may have to substitute fast food and dessert instead. Ugh.

huskermom14 · January 2017

We went to an indoor play place near our house today since it's all misty and gross outside. While jumping in the bounce house, DS all the sudden dropped and started freaking out crying and clinging to me like his life depended on it. I tried to get him to stand up and show me what hurt and he couldn't/wouldn't put weight on his left leg. Took him to the bathroom and took his pants off to see if anything looked wrong or was swollen or bruised but everything looked ok.

We stopped by the store and then got home about a half hour later and DH threw a binky over to the couch where DS and I were sitting. It fell on the floor so DS went to pick it up and instantly dropped to the ground and started crying again. He's sleeping now but I'm thinking if he won't put weight on it when he wakes up we'll probably have to go in.

Stankonia2014 · January 2017

@huskermom14, hope it's nothing. Keep us posted. Poor boy.

huskermom14 · January 2017

Thanks @Stankonia2014!

He woke up from his nap and still wasn't putting weight on it so they sent us to Advanced Medical Imaging for x-rays. If something shows up we won't get in to an orthopedist til tomorrow so it could be a looooong night.

I was supposed to leave at 7 am to meet up with ladies from my first BMB in St. Louis.

FSUNole31 · January 2017

Oh no @huskermom14! Hoping it is nothing serious and they can get him fixed up quick.

JessyKV · January 2017

Hope it's not broken @huskermom14!

MotherofDragons · January 2017

@huskermom14 hope it's nothing serious!

awillis13 · January 2017

Just got a call about my quad screen results, all good, low risk for everything. But they mentioned something about a protein produced by the placenta being slightly low and needing to come back around 28 weeks to make sure baby is still growing at a good rate? Is anyone familiar with this? Never heard about it before, and I was driving so I couldn't write down what she was talking about.

huskermom14 · January 2017

Negative x-rays, thank goodness! I'm guessing he just really landed wrong on it. Hopefully a night of resting it and some motrin will do the trick and he'll be back to normal in the morning.

flyingncmama · January 2017

@huskermom14, glad to hear nothing is broken. I hope he feels better tomorrow.

heath313 · January 2017

@awillis13 was it low pap a?

awillis13 · January 2017

@heath313 that might be it...she said something about they look for it to be over .42, and mine was .4 so it was only slightly below, but they also told me I was very low risk for downs and when I google low pap a i found info about it being a sign of increased risk, so I was confused

kfry22 · January 2017

The bump just suggested an article for me to read called "Ten ways to announce babies gender." You mean the freaking bump doesn't even know it's the SEX and not the GENDER? After all, the bump is where I got schooled in the correct word usage.

CurlyMommy416 · January 2017

kassyfry said:

The bump just suggested an article for me to read called "Ten ways to announce babies gender." You mean the freaking bump doesn't even know it's the SEX and not the GENDER? After all, the bump is where I got schooled in the correct word usage.

My freaking ultrasound tech asked me if I wanted to know the gender

Mport90 · January 2017

Semester started this week and I want to cry. So overwelmed, but I cant quit I have to do it.

silliegirlie143 · January 2017

@Stankonia2014 UGH parents suck sometimes (or most times, depending upon the parent in question). Hoping you find a solution between now and June!

@huskermom14 Glad it's not broken, but bummer about missing out on the Mommy meetup.

@CurlyMommy416 Mine did too! I thought of you ladies when it happened. Hahaha

Now for my Dear Diary post:

My week has been filled with the sickness. DD spiked a 104 fever last night. Took her in this morning and of course her temp read 98 at the office.

Made me feel like when you take you car to the mechanic and it stops acting up so you feel like you have to defend what it was doing... "I swear she had a high fever last night!!"

Soooooo DD has an ear infection in both ears (poor baby!!) and some pretty bad wheezing from the accompanying cough. Her nebulizer is shaped like a kangaroo! I find this super cool! What a great idea!

FSUNole31 · January 2017

I woke up with my throat on fire and a super stuffy nose. I knew it was only a matter of time before my germy students and own kids infected me. Ughhhh

Stankonia2014 · January 2017

You know it's going to be a great day when you walk into your break room and everyone is talking about how the 'special snowflake democrats' need to get over it because Trump's president now.

Yay 'Murica! ::eyeroll::

edit: excessive commas

ladylolly89 · January 2017

Stankonia2014 said:

You know it's going to be a great day when you walk into your break room and everyone is talking about how the 'special snowflake democrats' need to get over it because Trump's president now.

Yay 'Murica! ::eyeroll::

edit: excessive commas

Gotta love Nebraska.

mombod · January 2017

My grandfather passed away this morning. He was 90 and luckily passed in his sleep. Im still devastated. My anatomy scan is today so Im trying to focus on that but I am so sad.

Elyse1384 · January 2017

I'm so sorry to read you update @mombod. Ts&Ps to you and your family

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