@awoodruff27 how do you like having their birthdays so close? I was thinking I want to try to have my kids right around 2 years apart which would make their birthdays really close! Plus DH's birthday is the end of June, mine is the end of May and our anniversary is the beginning of June! Obviously I can plan to have #2 also in June but who knows how easy or hard it will be to conceive the 2nd time around. Just wondering what pros/cons might be.
@michaela0704 my DH says he is going to get a vasectomy as soon as #2 comes out! Since we want them close together I won't go on birth control in between. We will use the handy dandy pull out method
@awoodruff27, that was my exact experience after having three girls. This goes without saying that three sisters are just the best, I love watching their relationship.
The relief from people after finding out this one was a boy enraged me, as if we would've been upset with another girl. "Oh, your husband must be so happy to finally have a boy!' right in front of our daughters, as if they aren't good enough.
@michaela0704 my husband is all for a vasectomy. He pretty much wants to go as soon as we have our healthy rainbow baby. I want to hold him off just in case I get the urge to try for 4.
Married 12/17/2011 K born 8/31/12 C born 1/11/14 BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015 BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
@Stankonia2014 I have three sisters and we are all grown now and my parents still to this day get comments about my dad never getting "his boy". People never cease to amaze me with their comments.
Married 12/17/2011 K born 8/31/12 C born 1/11/14 BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015 BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
@michaela0704. DH is getting a vasectomy. I am sick of being on different hormones. After DS, I had major break through bleeding with the mini pill, IUD fell out twice, so I got the implant in my arm which made me gain weight. I see such a difference in my emotions when not on BC, so condoms until snippy snip. Although I really hate condoms.
Me: 34 DH: 35 Married: July 2009 BFP: November 2012 after 2 years of TTC DS born August 2013 Diagnosed with PCOS April 2016 3 months of trigger shot with timed intercourse BFN x3 First IUI: 9/17/16 BFP: 9/30/16 EDD: 6/11/17
DH has already said he plans on getting snipped as soon as possible after we know this baby is here and healthy. He wasn't 100% ready for this one, but oopsies happen when the hormones in bc mess with my system and we have 1 unprotected slip-up.
@michaela0704 I tried several forms of bc over about 10 years time and decided I hated all of them for one reason or another so we will do the pull out method until he has a vasectomy. I doubt we will wait long for him to get one since we are definitely done after this one. Not that I'm saying the pull out method is the best method but what I will say is that we have been using it for 8 years except the 4 months in which we tried to get pregnant and did each time. So it has worked exceptionally well for us!
Me: 36; DH: 38 DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17! **TW** MMC & D&C Aug 2016
@michaela0704 threaten him with more! my DH was totally against it, and now is all for it. We for sure know we are done and I can't do birth control. I will have pushed 4 babies out, he came to the conclusion he can handle a quick snip for the sake of our sex life.
@Stankonia2014 I have three sisters and we are all grown now and my parents still to this day get comments about my dad never getting "his boy". People never cease to amaze me with their comments.
I am one of 4 girls also and the same thing. One of my cousins repeatedly says that my dad went "0 for 4". Gross.
@michaela0704 vasectomy will be happening hopefully while I am still pregnant. My husband is open to it, but I had to call and schedule his consultation appointment for him (with his permission). That probably has more to do with him avoiding all doctors than avoiding this specific procedure.
@Knottie42089123 the one time we tried pulling out instead of other methods is the one time that I got pregnant accidentally. Don't want that to happen again.
@awoodruff27 how do you like having their birthdays so close? I was thinking I want to try to have my kids right around 2 years apart which would make their birthdays really close! Plus DH's birthday is the end of June, mine is the end of May and our anniversary is the beginning of June! Obviously I can plan to have #2 also in June but who knows how easy or hard it will be to conceive the 2nd time around. Just wondering what pros/cons might be.
We will have a 6 week period in may and June where we celebrate: mothers day, DH's bday, our anniversary, father's day, this baby's bday, my bday, and DDs bday. This one is due 2 days before my bday and DD was born 3 days after it. I actually am happy she's due when she is, if i had a baby in like October it would feel so left out! We plan to have a Bithday Week every June for me and the girls :-)
Only thing I don't want is for the girls to share a bday...but since my dr considers my due date 6/12 based on lmp (even though my dating ultrasound measured exactly in line with my ovulation date and says 6/16, which is what I'm considering my due date to be) I think I can convince them to induce on 6/19 if it comes to that. DD was born 6/21, a day early, so hopefully induction won't even be a concern and I'll go on time or a little early this time around too.
ugh, apparently the only member of our household to avoid the stomach bug over Christmas, has now gotten it. DS apparently had some tummy troubles when he was sleeping and woke up to a very disgusting bed. Messy poop EVERYWHERE. And he sleeps in a bunk bed, so it was all over the ladder when he tried to climb out, all got all over the blankets on the lower bed, on the carpet in his room. GROSS. Now I get to scrub the carpet before I go to work. I guess on a positive note, DH is still out of work (he got a job and starts his training on Thursday) so I don't have to take the day from work.
@alm52386 I like it actually. June is an awesome month for birthdays so I'm fine with all of them being in that month. DD1 is the 9th, DD2 30th and I'm due the 22nd. I did a dual party last year for them and it was crazy but fun. It helps that alot of DDs friends have younger siblings so a lot of the guests would be at both parties if we had two.
Mom to Madison- 5 and Lillian 2....and now surprise baby #3!
@kahlan82 I am so with you on hating the condoms deal... and when we started trying, we assumed it would take awhile as my body didn't cooperate for about 1.5 years of trying before my first pregnancy... we got pregnant the first month! I felt like we were cheated on the amount of time we got with no forms of BC... and I don't do well on any form that I've tried so I'm off the hormone/contraption path and need him to get one!
Thanks for all the input ladies! I'm going to push for it after this one arrives... this year would ideal from an insurnace/meeting our deductible after delivery... esp. since we said this should be it for us!
Feeling super sentimental today. My daughter turns 3 tomorrow!! She is getting so big, but I still see her like my little baby since right now she is my youngest. We are celebrating her birthday Saturday with a family party, but giving her a Minnie mouse kitchen tomorrow for her present. She is going to be so excited I can't wait to see her face!
Married 12/17/2011 K born 8/31/12 C born 1/11/14 BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015 BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
@delujm0 Your situation sounds like mine. In the early May to mid June span we have mother's day, DH's birthday, my mother's birthday, my brother's birthday, wedding anniversary, and father's day. We often throw my birthday in there too since I'm early July exactly 2 months after DH, so we take the middle in June to celebrate us both. The new baby will get tossed into the mix of celebrations and I think it will be fun.
@michaela0704, my H has a heart condition, so he uses that as an excuse not to get a vasectomy. I was on BC prior to this LO due to ovarian cysts. I'll probably just get back on that until one of us decides to make things permanent, but we are most definitely done after this.
as a christmas baby here, i say go for another baby in june if at all possible...my sister was a june baby with the pool parties and lots of friends and such, if i could even just share with her that would have been magical. my birthday has always been a sore subject for me. i dont think i had a party where more than 4 friends showed up ever in my life b/c it was always around christmas parties. not that any of us can plan on another june birthday, i say try b/c the opposite side of the calendar is not as "sunny"
Re: Birth control post baby. The one benefit to infertility... no birth control necessary. Wooohoooo
Also, my first time back on desktop view in a couple of days. I have 108 notifications! WTAF. Does anyone know a better way to keep up on mobile??? I don't think I've ever seen a way to view notifications on my app before. Then again... I spent much of the day yesterday talking to myself apparently so I'm probably doing it all wrong.
It must be Obama farewell address traffic or something in Chicago but I've been sitting in traffic for an hour and a half already just to get to work. Thanks, Obama, literally.
I guess I'm the odd person out for BC after this one. H said he'd get snipped. But honestly, I'm nearly homicidal without some kind of hormone regulation. I'll have my mirena until I can't anymore.
as a christmas baby here, i say go for another baby in june if at all possible...my sister was a june baby with the pool parties and lots of friends and such, if i could even just share with her that would have been magical. my birthday has always been a sore subject for me. i dont think i had a party where more than 4 friends showed up ever in my life b/c it was always around christmas parties. not that any of us can plan on another june birthday, i say try b/c the opposite side of the calendar is not as "sunny"
This! I am a Christmas baby and it's a sore subject. I am trying my hardest to play births at times good for birthdays!
You ladies are luck you get to enjoy the pull out method. My hubs is too responsible for that as he says.... no matter how hard I try to trick him. He will always stop and put a condom on. Ugh.... I just don't want to have to go back on birth control. We've talked about him getting snipped but I don't think he wants to do that. I guess we'll see how the rest of this pregnancy goes but I think most likely we're one and done.
@Mother0fDragons I have had them for about a week. In the symptoms thread this week it sounds likevwe arent alone which was comforting to me since it seemed early.
As for BC we discussed DH getting a vasectomy but both agreed that for us we are too young to make permenant decisions (we are both 29). Im not convinced we are done anyway. Prior to DS I used the pill for a decade but then I got pancreatitis. This can be very serious and I can no longer use hormones bc once you have it you are more likely to get it again. Between DS and this baby we used the trusty pull out method/natural family planning. After this one I will try a copper IUD (no hormones).
@Elyse1384. I have fertility issues but I know how that game works. When I want a baby I need fertility. The moment I decide to say eff it to BC because I can't get pregnant on my own, will be the moment the surprise pregnancy happens.
@Stankonia2014 how does a heart condition affect his ability to get vasectomy? Long term issues?
Me: 34 DH: 35 Married: July 2009 BFP: November 2012 after 2 years of TTC DS born August 2013 Diagnosed with PCOS April 2016 3 months of trigger shot with timed intercourse BFN x3 First IUI: 9/17/16 BFP: 9/30/16 EDD: 6/11/17
@kahlan82 Ah yes, I've known a few women that has happened to. We truly can't conceive without IF treatment. My DH has mosaic klinefelters and can't produce sperm (we even attempted TESE to try and retrieve anything for use). We have to use a donor. Literally the only thing about IF that makes our life easy is the lack of need for BC.
I will go back on BC (I use the Nuva Ring which I LOVE!!!) until we figure something out.
We are both willing so it's just a matter of talking to the doc about both options. I would be fine just being on BC but my DH is convinced I would pull an "oppsie" on him and let's be honest, I would! Ha!
@kahlan82, I'm not sure it does, that's just the excuse he gives. He had a heart attack and he says his heart isn't healthy enough for surgical procedures. He's a lying liar who lies.
@michaela0704 same boat as you. My DH is the biggest baby in the world for such a tough guy. I eyeroll hard everytime he tells me no one is touching his balls and laugh to myself that his wish is my command... muahahaha! I'll probably go back to my friend Mirena after DS3 until we can decide what options to take for the long term.
As for BC, I'm never going back on. I want all the babies. My husband can use a condom or pull out. His choice. He knows the consequences of the pull out method and I am totally ok with them.
Re: Weekly Randoms! 1/9
For those that will be done after this little one... how open is your SO to a vasectomy?
I feel like DH is coming up with every excuse in the book and even suggesting that I'll want another to the point of trying to convince me...
If not now, I'm sure this will come up again so I'll post again I'm sure
The relief from people after finding out this one was a boy enraged me, as if we would've been upset with another girl. "Oh, your husband must be so happy to finally have a boy!' right in front of our daughters, as if they aren't good enough.
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
Also, I was asked if my factory will shut down after this baby since it's a girl. Um, what?
Me: 34 DH: 35
Married: July 2009
BFP: November 2012 after 2 years of TTC DS born August 2013
Diagnosed with PCOS April 2016
3 months of trigger shot with timed intercourse BFN x3
First IUI: 9/17/16 BFP: 9/30/16 EDD: 6/11/17
Me: 36; DH: 38
DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17!
**TW**
MMC & D&C Aug 2016
@Knottie42089123 the one time we tried pulling out instead of other methods is the one time that I got pregnant accidentally. Don't want that to happen again.
Only thing I don't want is for the girls to share a bday...but since my dr considers my due date 6/12 based on lmp (even though my dating ultrasound measured exactly in line with my ovulation date and says 6/16, which is what I'm considering my due date to be) I think I can convince them to induce on 6/19 if it comes to that. DD was born 6/21, a day early, so hopefully induction won't even be a concern and I'll go on time or a little early this time around too.
Mom to Madison- 5 and Lillian 2....and now surprise baby #3!
Thanks for all the input ladies! I'm going to push for it after this one arrives... this year would ideal from an insurnace/meeting our deductible after delivery... esp. since we said this should be it for us!
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
Also, my first time back on desktop view in a couple of days. I have 108 notifications! WTAF. Does anyone know a better way to keep up on mobile??? I don't think I've ever seen a way to view notifications on my app before. Then again... I spent much of the day yesterday talking to myself apparently so I'm probably doing it all wrong.
Happy Tuesday, ladies!!
As for BC we discussed DH getting a vasectomy but both agreed that for us we are too young to make permenant decisions (we are both 29). Im not convinced we are done anyway. Prior to DS I used the pill for a decade but then I got pancreatitis. This can be very serious and I can no longer use hormones bc once you have it you are more likely to get it again. Between DS and this baby we used the trusty pull out method/natural family planning. After this one I will try a copper IUD (no hormones).
@Stankonia2014 how does a heart condition affect his ability to get vasectomy? Long term issues?
Me: 34 DH: 35
Married: July 2009
BFP: November 2012 after 2 years of TTC DS born August 2013
Diagnosed with PCOS April 2016
3 months of trigger shot with timed intercourse BFN x3
First IUI: 9/17/16 BFP: 9/30/16 EDD: 6/11/17
We are both willing so it's just a matter of talking to the doc about both options. I would be fine just being on BC but my DH is convinced I would pull an "oppsie" on him and let's be honest, I would! Ha!