We had a lot of rain Saturday that turned into an ice blanket everywhere that night. Everything is still icy here, and today while dropping the kids off in school, I noticed that the majority of the roads were decent, but since the schools my kids are at are on smaller back roads, those ones were crap. I feel like the roads where the schools are, are somewhat neglected and it's ridiculous when 99% of the traffic on school days have small children in the cars. (And now at least 1 grumpy pregnant lady).
I couldn't agree more @kswiger06. We often have days with freezing rain here too. It's the same thing with our schools and/or daycares. They can't even be bothered to salt the parking lots by the time parents are bringing their kids in.
Also, I was behind a school bus earlier and all of the back windows still had an inch thick of ice. No way that the driver can see through them. I was livid. I told my husband I was considering calling the school board.
************* First BFP: 12/16/13 EDD: 08/23/14 Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
I have a MIL rant! We were over there last night to talk about our plans for when I give birth. Mostly when we are dropping off DS and when we want him to visit and be dropped off so we can go home as a family etc.
anyway i mentioned we were interviewing in home daycares and she started going off on horror stories of terrible things she has heard happen in daycares. And how no person can watch four kids. Listen lady if you're not watching my kid or helping me pay for a nanny stfu.
Alright, I have a new one. So my husband has sort of taken over budgeting. He still hasn't come up with what he wants to spend for Christmas. On anyone (ummm except himself apparently) and I asked him to get it figured out so we can get the kids shopping done before they get out on break and because Christmas is less than a freaking week away. So yesterday he kept talking about some dumb fishing reel he wanted to buy that was getting bid on. He said it was expensive, but I didn't think there was a chance he'd buy it right now since it's a saltwater reel and we won't be going fishing in saltwater until July. Plus he has just recently spent money on fishing crap that i wasn't thrilled with but didnt throw a fit. Well I just got on ebay and this is what I saw.... and he's on his way home and unless he's got magical money powers, the shits about to hit the fan!
My mbf is pretty minor. my feet started to swell last week so i got compression support things so i wore them to work under my tights today & theyve been making my tights slide down all day & i then poked a hole in my tights tryint to pull them up. Im too tired for this crap!
@kswiger06 Ohhhhh no he did not. You are entitled to some major annoyance on that one!
My MBF is also MIL related. She keeps sending me texts, cards, etc acting like being on hospital bed rest is a trip to an all inclusive resort. She says I've "earned this quiet time before the birth" and that we will "surely look back on this as our best advent ever". It makes me want to kick her. This is one of the most emotionally and mentally challenging things I've been through. In addition to the boredom, twice daily injections, being at the mercy of others' schedules, and not being able to leave this room, I'm constantly worried about the health of my baby and the potential effects prematurity could have on her. It absolutely kills me to know i will leave this hospital without my baby even under the best of circumstances. When she acts as though I'm drinking Pina coladas on the beach it really diminishes my experience. I should probably say something to her, but not sure the ensuing histrionics would be worth it.
@lemieuxk do you think DH could intervene at all and say something? I feel like I would be so bad about confronting MIL on the issue too, but maybe DH could let her know how much of a trying time this actually is for you and that it isn't just a tropical island vacation for you? Or he could just not give you the cards and such unless there's money in the envelope... haha
@lemieuxk do you think DH could intervene at all and say something? I feel like I would be so bad about confronting MIL on the issue too, but maybe DH could let her know how much of a trying time this actually is for you and that it isn't just a tropical island vacation for you? Or he could just not give you the cards and such unless there's money in the envelope... haha
Haha, trust me there's no danger of money being in the card! I might ask him to say something, but one of the challenges in my relationship with her is that she tends to go around me and talk to H alone if she wants to say something she knows I won't like (i.e. trying to get him alone on the way out the door to.ask him for things that she knows I would say no to or feel uncomfortable about). I try to be direct and assertive in general, but she's my Achilles heel because she just knows how to push my buttons!
@kswiger06 i would definitely be cracking up about that!!
Sorry for the tangent, but I love when you use slang because British slang and American slang have totally different meanings. "Cracking up" here means laughing, which I am guessing is not what you mean in this scenario.
@kswiger06 i would definitely be cracking up about that!!
Sorry for the tangent, but I love when you use slang because British slang and American slang have totally different meanings. "Cracking up" here means laughing, which I am guessing is not what you mean in this scenario.
It can mean laughing here too but also really angry
@kswiger06 I don't think he gets to say he's doing the budgeting, if all he's doing is spending money on himself. Sounds like it's time to have a come to Jesus meeting about the Christmas plans! You have been very patient to wait this long for your shopping to start.
@lemieuxk That is super frustrating! Definitely she needs to be somehow told that it is not a vacation, and in fact stressful, sad, etc.
I love seeing @Janefelicity say something I'm not familiar with!! I'm still waiting for a very long rant using crazy obscenities I'd have to Google to get a translation lol
ETA I realize I could be chalking all this up in my own head and maybe there's not really the type of rants I'm imagining, but it's fun to imagine anyway.
so a couple months ago our exec director told us we all have to use up all our vacation time by year end or lose it, because they decided to change to a different system as of Jan 1, wherein we get a "lump sump" of hours based on how long we've ben with the company. So I went and used up all my time, thinking I'd have about a month paid vaca time to use for maternity leave. Which still isn't enough, but hey something is better than nothing. Well today, they told us that, never mind, out auditors (we are a nonprofit) have decided they don't like that and it will screw up the "books", because our state fiscal year runs July 1 - June 30, so we will not get our lump sump of vaca time for the year until July 1. And being as I was told to use my time up before year end, I will now have a whopping like 12 hours (they will allow us to accrue again until the 7/1 year starts) paid of my maternity leave. W.T.F.
To say this has made my already raging anxiety worse, is an understatement.
@WinchesterGirl I took over budgeting several years ago and it was heavenly. The last couple months though I've heard a lot of "I've got overtime coming up" or "it'll be fine, it always works out" and I'm not as laid back as he is. It drives me nuts just winging it, and I think I'm currently hanging on by a very thin thread before I have a meltdown... he did tell me today that I could leave now and go shopping and it would be fine. I'm like ok that's nice, but where's the dang budget sheet?? Which then was followed by me hearing about all his overtime coming up I think I'm going to take it back over for January or I might be claiming temporary insanity. and thanks for the suggestion @Gretchypoo a chair sounds like a fun weapon of choice lol
I think I'm mostly freaking out because that reel is ridiculously expensive and I feel like with Christmas now, and the baby soon, I just wouldn't have spent that kind of money on a hobby for later this summer.
@Rachelbd that sounds terribly unfair!! It seems like there has to be other people besides you that ended up taking their vacation, and now for no reason. Do you think the company will try to make it right with any of you who decided to use it since that's what they told you to do?
@kswiger06 I'd be pissed at that too. That's a ton of money to spend at Christmas time and with a baby on the way. H really wants a new video game system that comes out in March, but totally understands that he needs to make sure the baby is home safe and our medical bills are paid first. Ugh.
My MBF is minor. I hate H's "family" Christmas Eve and I don't wanna go. There used to be a big party, which I'd be fine with, but now there isn't anymore and he just likes to drop in on people on the street where they all live while they wrap presents. If we do find something fun going on, it involves drinking with a bunch of smokers which I clearly can't do this year, or even be around. His family is big on women in the kitchen gossiping, men having fun outside, and I hate being separated. He knows I hate it when he ditches me and tries not to, but they really pull us apart effectively. I want to fake a headache and skip it soooo badly. I really just want to take it easy this year.
@Rachelbd I would be PISSED. Can you take this to HR? Can you use your time in advance and not get it in July?
@lemieuxk Def have H speak to her. Even if it isn't "stop sending these insipid texts and cards you insensitive jerk!" it can be "lemieuxk and I are really stressed about the health of the baby. We are worried about the effects of him/her being born premature. Not to mention, lemieuxk is bored out of her mind being confined to one bed in one room." And then some call to action that does NOT involved MIL speaking to you. Can she help out by walking the dog or picking up diapers or calling her family to update them...?
@Rachelbd I would be PISSED. +1 to taking this to HR or trying to figure out a way to file a complaint. That is completely unfair.
My bitch for the day: I work and live on the west coast, but most of my team is on the east coast. There is a 4-hour call tomorrow morning at 6:30am that was requested by the director of marketing. I checked with my boss as to whether my attendance is really necessary, and unfortunately, it is. She said she usually wouldn't make me call in that early, but since there was a recent re-org, she really wants the director of marketing to have all of us on the call. So I will be calling in, from home, in my pajamas at 6:30am for a 4-hour call. Awesome.
@kswiger06 that is infuriating and I would be so pissed. I know with being a sahm and living off one income my H and I aren't always on the same page with the budget and it can get really frustrating and stressful. My mbf is money related as well, our main car needs expensive repairs and it is terrible timing right before Christmas. DH decides to take an unpaid day off work today, just because he hasn't had one in a long time. While this is true, he is coming up on a long weekend and HELLO now isn't a great time to taking unpaid days off. I am so annoyed I've avoided him all day and DD hasn't left him alone for a second, so it actually turned out to be more of a day off for me.
My daughter goes to an in-home day care and it has been great. I love the woman who watches her... she went to another in home day care before and it was also a positive experience.
My co-worker's last day was today for the next 5 weeks (she is taking a medical leave). So I have to handle our entire workload for 5 weeks alone with the two mostly incompetent new people. Send help, and chocolate.
As a recent addition to the hospital bedrest group, my MBF relates to the inconsistency in the nurses that I've had. It's a complete crap shoot every 12 hours. I seriously wanted to adopt my nurse Christine last night as my mother -- she helped me get a shower, cleaned up my room, changed my sheets, and even put peppermint oil on a hot washcloth to diffuse by my bed while I sleep because my nose was stuffy.
But then 7am came and poof! This bish Brenda shows up and has only been to see me twice all day and gave me a death stare when I asked if she could get me some more ice.
Here's to hoping my 7pm nurse is not a spawn of satan.
@beern I feel you! I haven't had any nasty or unfriendly nurses but there are definitely different levels of competence and investment. It's hard to be dependent on strangers for so much!
My MBF today is my stupid brain. Why is work picking up right now, the week before Christmas? I am completely consumed with getting through Christmas, getting everything together and baby brain is making a mess out of everything.
Married - 7/29/06 Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09 Mia - 6/16/11 Surprise! due 2/23/17
We used to do allowances too, but when we bought our house in the spring of last year, we stopped because we knew our monthly bills would be increasing.
I had 2 major bitchfits today, over different things. We had a calm (well minus me crying for no reason) talk this evening and hopefully we are on the same page again. Yikes!
My itty bitty BF is that I am freaking tired after getting almost no sleep and I'm sore and it is about to be 9 degrees out. Why do I need to be at work....I should be home in my cozy comfy clothes sipping tea and relaxing. But instead I get to leave work to drive home in 9 degree weather at 11:30 tonight. I am super bishy about this....
@lemieuxk I definitely agree with your DH saying something about your MILs texts- What a crock.
@kswiger06 I'd be livid! I think your DH became a DuH...
@Rachelbd Wtf?! Heads rolling is an under statement, damn I'm sorry!
My MBF- my special snowflake MIL has decided that our Christmas plans don't work for her. Each section of family was supposed to come over for like an hour or so and they each had their designated windows of time so I didn't get stressed out. So she took it upon herself to rework the schedule, somehow giving herself multiple hours and two seperate days because "she moved closer to us to be able to spend more time with us." She was all proud of herself and is now acting like a kicked puppy when DH said it wasn't going to happen that way. I'll be 9 months pregnant but really MIL, we're here to serve YOU.
@kswinger06 My H would be dead if he spent that kind of money without talking to me. But I'm glad you guys were able to talk it out.
@yogadevil Oh hell no!! If she "moved closer to spend more time" then she can spend more time on a different day with less stress.
It's Tuesday but kind of my Monday because I took the day off yesterday. My BF is my boss/boss' wife this morning. I came in today and his first comment is about the damn client cards. "I don't know why nothing has been mailed out." I have been working on these stupid things for 2 weeks and at least half of them were mailed out last week. And the reason I hadn't mailed the rest of them was because I was waiting to get the stamps I needed. So now you screwed up all the stamps! Yes, I took the day yesterday because I really needed to. But you really don't need to get stressed over cards. And the only time he makes comments like that is when his wife comes to "fill in" for me and I know she was here yesterday because everything is moved. I work my butt off for you and you basically say I haven't done anything. Gee, thanks. Have fun without me for 4 months! And H and I haven't decided if I'm permanently coming back yet. So yeah, great start to a holiday week. sorry, end rant
H and I also have allowances of a sort - we each keep 10% of our paychecks in personal bank accounts to do with as we please. Granted, once the kid comes, we may have to do away with that, but it's worked really well so far. H wants to buy a 5-time snowboarding pass? Cool! He can use his own money. I want (not need) new shoes? I use my own money. Granted, if it something one of us actually needs (like maternity clothes), it comes out of the joint pot. Anything out of the ordinary purchases that come out of our joint account over $40 need to be discussed first.
Re: Monday B*fest 12/19
thing with our schools and/or daycares. They can't even be bothered to salt the parking lots by the time parents are bringing their kids in.
Also, I was behind a school bus earlier and all of the back windows still had an inch thick of ice. No way that the driver can see through them. I was livid. I told my husband I was considering calling the school board.
First BFP: 12/16/13
EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
anyway i mentioned we were interviewing in home daycares and she started going off on horror stories of terrible things she has heard happen in daycares. And how no person can watch four kids. Listen lady if you're not watching my kid or helping me pay for a nanny stfu.
My MBF is also MIL related. She keeps sending me texts, cards, etc acting like being on hospital bed rest is a trip to an all inclusive resort. She says I've "earned this quiet time before the birth" and that we will "surely look back on this as our best advent ever". It makes me want to kick her. This is one of the most emotionally and mentally challenging things I've been through. In addition to the boredom, twice daily injections, being at the mercy of others' schedules, and not being able to leave this room, I'm constantly worried about the health of my baby and the potential effects prematurity could have on her. It absolutely kills me to know i will leave this hospital without my baby even under the best of circumstances. When she acts as though I'm drinking Pina coladas on the beach it really diminishes my experience. I should probably say something to her, but not sure the ensuing histrionics would be worth it.
@lemieuxk That is super frustrating! Definitely she needs to be somehow told that it is not a vacation, and in fact stressful, sad, etc.
ETA I realize I could be chalking all this up in my own head and maybe there's not really the type of rants I'm imagining, but it's fun to imagine anyway.
so a couple months ago our exec director told us we all have to use up all our vacation time by year end or lose it, because they decided to change to a different system as of Jan 1, wherein we get a "lump sump" of hours based on how long we've ben with the company. So I went and used up all my time, thinking I'd have about a month paid vaca time to use for maternity leave. Which still isn't enough, but hey something is better than nothing. Well today, they told us that, never mind, out auditors (we are a nonprofit) have decided they don't like that and it will screw up the "books", because our state fiscal year runs July 1 - June 30, so we will not get our lump sump of vaca time for the year until July 1. And being as I was told to use my time up before year end, I will now have a whopping like 12 hours (they will allow us to accrue again until the 7/1 year starts) paid of my maternity leave. W.T.F.
To say this has made my already raging anxiety worse, is an understatement.
I think I'm mostly freaking out because that reel is ridiculously expensive and I feel like with Christmas now, and the baby soon, I just wouldn't have spent that kind of money on a hobby for later this summer.
@kswiger06 I'd be pissed at that too. That's a ton of money to spend at Christmas time and with a baby on the way. H really wants a new video game system that comes out in March, but totally understands that he needs to make sure the baby is home safe and our medical bills are paid first. Ugh.
My MBF is minor. I hate H's "family" Christmas Eve and I don't wanna go. There used to be a big party, which I'd be fine with, but now there isn't anymore and he just likes to drop in on people on the street where they all live while they wrap presents. If we do find something fun going on, it involves drinking with a bunch of smokers which I clearly can't do this year, or even be around. His family is big on women in the kitchen gossiping, men having fun outside, and I hate being separated. He knows I hate it when he ditches me and tries not to, but they really pull us apart effectively. I want to fake a headache and skip it soooo badly. I really just want to take it easy this year.
@lemieuxk Def have H speak to her. Even if it isn't "stop sending these insipid texts and cards you insensitive jerk!" it can be "lemieuxk and I are really stressed about the health of the baby. We are worried about the effects of him/her being born premature. Not to mention, lemieuxk is bored out of her mind being confined to one bed in one room." And then some call to action that does NOT involved MIL speaking to you. Can she help out by walking the dog or picking up diapers or calling her family to update them...?
My bitch for the day: I work and live on the west coast, but most of my team is on the east coast. There is a 4-hour call tomorrow morning at 6:30am that was requested by the director of marketing. I checked with my boss as to whether my attendance is really necessary, and unfortunately, it is. She said she usually wouldn't make me call in that early, but since there was a recent re-org, she really wants the director of marketing to have all of us on the call. So I will be calling in, from home, in my pajamas at 6:30am for a 4-hour call. Awesome.
My mbf is money related as well, our main car needs expensive repairs and it is terrible timing right before Christmas. DH decides to take an unpaid day off work today, just because he hasn't had one in a long time. While this is true, he is coming up on a long weekend and HELLO now isn't a great time to taking unpaid days off. I am so annoyed I've avoided him all day and DD hasn't left him alone for a second, so it actually turned out to be more of a day off for me.
But then 7am came and poof! This bish Brenda shows up and has only been to see me twice all day and gave me a death stare when I asked if she could get me some more ice.
Here's to hoping my 7pm nurse is not a spawn of satan.
@kswiger06, heads would roll.
@Rachelbd, that sucks and I would be furious.
Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09
Mia - 6/16/11
Surprise! due 2/23/17
Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09
Mia - 6/16/11
Surprise! due 2/23/17
I would be pissed if he spent that much @kswiger06
I had 2 major bitchfits today, over different things. We had a calm (well minus me crying for no reason) talk this evening and hopefully we are on the same page again. Yikes!
@Spicyweiner - feel better!
My itty bitty BF is that I am freaking tired after getting almost no sleep and I'm sore and it is about to be 9 degrees out. Why do I need to be at work....I should be home in my cozy comfy clothes sipping tea and relaxing. But instead I get to leave work to drive home in 9 degree weather at 11:30 tonight. I am super bishy about this....
@kswiger06 I'd be livid! I think your DH became a DuH...
@Rachelbd Wtf?! Heads rolling is an under statement, damn I'm sorry!
My MBF- my special snowflake MIL has decided that our Christmas plans don't work for her. Each section of family was supposed to come over for like an hour or so and they each had their designated windows of time so I didn't get stressed out. So she took it upon herself to rework the schedule, somehow giving herself multiple hours and two seperate days because "she moved closer to us to be able to spend more time with us." She was all proud of herself and is now acting like a kicked puppy when DH said it wasn't going to happen that way. I'll be 9 months pregnant but really MIL, we're here to serve YOU.
@kswinger06 My H would be dead if he spent that kind of money without talking to me. But I'm glad you guys were able to talk it out.
@yogadevil Oh hell no!! If she "moved closer to spend more time" then she can spend more time on a different day with less stress.
It's Tuesday but kind of my Monday because I took the day off yesterday. My BF is my boss/boss' wife this morning. I came in today and his first comment is about the damn client cards. "I don't know why nothing has been mailed out." I have been working on these stupid things for 2 weeks and at least half of them were mailed out last week. And the reason I hadn't mailed the rest of them was because I was waiting to get the stamps I needed. So now you screwed up all the stamps! Yes, I took the day yesterday because I really needed to. But you really don't need to get stressed over cards. And the only time he makes comments like that is when his wife comes to "fill in" for me and I know she was here yesterday because everything is moved. I work my butt off for you and you basically say I haven't done anything. Gee, thanks. Have fun without me for 4 months! And H and I haven't decided if I'm permanently coming back yet. So yeah, great start to a holiday week. sorry, end rant
Married: 9/2013
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