We have told our sons and parents, but will wait to announce to the world. Since I'm older, the chance of miscarriage is high, so we don't want to announce until I'm out of the first trimester, or until it can't be hidden any longer! I will tell a few people at work, just in case I am suddenly ill with ms or in case of a miscarriage - I'm a teacher and being out sick is a pain! This is such a surprise pregnancy that the big announcement is going to be a shocker. Right up there with the Cubs and Trump for unexpected events!
@mj8215 your cousin . Wtf? Ive told a few close friends - people id turn to if anything happened. want to tell our parents and our DD after we are able to confirm a heartbeat.
@grace42 You're definitely not alone! I wasn't going to announce to anyone before the end of the first trimester, but once we started trying, we decided to share with some people earlier. We told his parents and sister and my best friend over the holiday weekend (at just over 5 weeks). We'll probably be telling most of our extended family and all my siblings at Christmas (I'll be just over 9 weeks). We still won't have an ultrasound by then, since my ob only does them just before 12 weeks, but we do go in Dec. 19 for blood work, exam, etc. so as long as all goes well, we'll be set to share!
I hope all goes well for you in sharing with your family!
@mj8215 Something similar happened to me... One of my husband's friends came by last weekend, and I told her that I'd told some people at work, and she said, "Well you should be careful because I had this friend who miscarried at 10 weeks." She then went into WAY too much detail about it. I wanted to say, "How on earth do you think this is helping us? Of course we know that can happen..." Instead I just told her maybe we should talk about something else. She's a psychologist and therapist but I guess somehow didn't realize the effects of what she was doing. Since then I've been way more paranoid about the possibility of M/C.
We aren't sure what to do. We will more than likely wait until after the new year begins (I'll be 12 weeks on Jan 1) to tell anyone. Last pregnancy we told my parents right away and we did a cutesy little gift thing, but we ended up losing that baby. This time they are out of state until probably April. We talked about taking a trip to see them to tell them in person, but there is so much hassle involved in that, I'm not sure I want to deal with it. I thought about sending a text with an ultrasound photo, but that seems crappy. Phone call sucks because I can't see their faces. Not that they reacted all that well last time.
Can we just keep it a secret from family indefinitely?
Told my parents, brother and his wife, in-laws, and DH's brother and fiancée this weekend. They're so excited. It's the first grandchild and niece/nephew for both sides of our family. My poor mom and brother then had to keep quiet during the big thanksgiving dinner. My brother talked to little that he totally missed that one of our cousins was there. He went to his in-laws and told then because he couldn't keep it in. Haha. Not a huge deal as they're not going to spill (at least not to anybody we know).
Almost told DH'a grandma today. Lunch together got onto a very depressing conversation about his cousin who is *TW being sent to wilderness school as a way to hopefully deal with his major defiance issues. He does not want to go and there are two men basically coming to take him away.
Anyway...I almost just shouted "I'm pregnant!" To bring something happy in.
We told our parents earlier this week and the rest of our immediate family at the Thanksgiving table. We go around saying what we're thankful for each year and my husband went last. He named his usual things and then ended with "most of all, we're thankful for the baby we're having in July!" Our family went crazy- it was an amazing moment!
To tell his parents, we wrapped a frame that says "Our First Grandchild" with a note that said "photo arriving July 2017". ❤️
Thanks guys for all your understanding! I am going to focus on all the people who responded so positively and are happy and excited for us. I should add that my cousin is generally someone who has a hard time being happy with the blessings she has and expressing happiness for others' good fortune... she loves comparing / contrasting her situation with others and being bitter about where in her perception the other person "has it better"...be it in family life, career, or otherwise. So I am trying not to take it personally. I am excited for all of you who announced over Thanksgiving!! @lph4248 I am sorry this happened to you. I had to tell a few people at work also because I am a physician and my work involves performing xray guided procedures and I had to switch out of those shifts just to be safe...it definitely felt odd to be telling people who are not family/close friends this early but thankfully my colleagues have been very supportive.
A coworker of mine just announced to the team that she is due May 6th ...... May! I don't know how she could keep such a secret for so long! I'm dying to share with the world (partly because I'm excited and partly because I have the worst poker face)!
Our plan is to wait until the first appointment next week and then send our parents a photo of DD wearing a onesie saying "best big sis". We will tell the rest after 12 weeks. DH doesn't know though that I told my BFF at work. She knew I was late and going to take a test. I need a friend and I don't care.
I have an appointment scheduled for the 12th (ultrasound and doctor's visit), so assuming that everything goes well there, we will announce on Christmas. I will be exactly 12 weeks. We are hosting Christmas Eve with immediate family, so we plan to have a fourth stocking hung up on the fireplace with "July 2017" written on it and the ultrasound photo wrapped inside. Hopefully, my family will notice it as they look at all the decorations in the house (we just bought the house and will not have our household goods until about a week before Christmas, so they will be looking around at how we have set everything up anyway). Christmas Day, we all go to my grandparent's house with the rest of the extended family. My grandmother has knitted all of the stockings in our family and when I married my husband and had my son, it was one of the first things I asked her to do each time - make them a stocking. I think their present from us this year, besides the usual framed family photo that they always want, will be a stocking pattern. We'll tell her we need it by July and the family will get the news as she opens it.
Married 25 May, 2013 William Alexander born 18 September, 2015 Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017 Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017 Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
So I'm a teacher and my principal says when you have bad news you have to bring him snickerdoodles (his favorite). Now, he considers pregnancy bad news because he has to find you a maternity leave sub (so I am joining the bandwagon of - nope, sorry, no cookies for you because that's rude). But today at work we had a pitch-in and somebody brought snickerdoodles not thinking about what they mean in our building and a coworker turned to me and goes "Are you pregnant?" So I lied...oops (I'm think I'm the only one who has been married more than a few months who doesn't have a kid so I'm the go-to for this kind of announcement)
Anyway, my past coworkers have done cute things for everybody when they got pregnant and announced. Donuts with a sign that says "Mommy can't be the only one with a belly" and an easter egg saying that "Baby (Last Name) Is Hatching" (this was right after Easter). Some just make snickerdoodles for everybody.
Anybody else have these kind of announcements at their work and have plans/past things they've done? I want some smaller and simple but think it would be fun (whereas I plan to just walk in and tell my principal and let him bug me about cookies for the next bazillion years...)
We've told close friends and our parents on Thanksgiving. Both of our parents thought we were joking, which I didn't appreciate. They just couldn't believe we were going to have another baby so close in age with DD (babes will be 22 months apart). After they got over it, everyone seemed happy.
We are SO excited and cannot wait for the new baby. I think I'll be officially announcing on NYE, I'll be 10 weeks. NYE is special for DH and I (engaged 2008 & BFP 2014), so it's fun to keep the tradition going of excitement! I'm thinking of a NYE Countdown to Big Sister pic.
I plan on announcing to my team/ boss in Jan. when I'm out of 1st trimester. My BFF works with me and she knows. We are in charge of sending out a monthly power point deck with updates and info for our department/company/site. I told her I just want to include a slide in there announcing so I don't have to tell everyone in person and so I don't miss anyone but having a hard time thinking of something? Any suggestions?
I have another ultrasound next week at 9+3. If all goes well then, we're announcing to my parents at the holidays. My mom is coming here and I ordered stockings that say Mom, Dad, Grandma and Baby - cannot wait to see her face! I told my dad we want to FaceTime while we do Hanukah presents - I'm sending his family a big package and the box I'll have him open last is a mug that says "Grandpa, Est. 2017." I think we'll probably announce on social media on New Years - I'll be 12 weeks, so I feel okay about it. Hilariously, doing that means I need to tell my work people (I work in entertainment, so that means my agents and manager) before their Christmas break (i.e. before my parents) so they don't see it for the first time on social media. Life is weird!
TTC #1: 4/16 BFP #1: 5/16 MMC at 8 weeks: 6/16 BFP #2: 10/16 Sweet baby boy arrived 7/7/17!
Anybody have any cute suggestions for telling people who are out of town? My two best friends both live in different cities (one lives on the other side of the country) and I feel guilty that I haven't told them yet, but I wanted to do something cute. I keep hoping they will come into town during the holidays and I can tell them in person. But if not, anybody have any ideas??
I plan on announcing to my team/ boss in Jan. when I'm out of 1st trimester. My BFF works with me and she knows. We are in charge of sending out a monthly power point deck with updates and info for our department/company/site. I told her I just want to include a slide in there announcing so I don't have to tell everyone in person and so I don't miss anyone but having a hard time thinking of something? Any suggestions?
While searching for work ideas there was a suggestion of that you're going to welcome a new member to the team and then include your due date and either an ultrasound pic or just some baby feet? Simple and Sweet
Anybody have any cute suggestions for telling people who are out of town? My two best friends both live in different cities (one lives on the other side of the country) and I feel guilty that I haven't told them yet, but I wanted to do something cute. I keep hoping they will come into town during the holidays and I can tell them in person. But if not, anybody have any ideas??
We told or immediate family in person by having our son wear a big brother shirt but for other family members who live out of town I did up Christmas cards to reveal our news. We got photos taken with santa at the mall and used this pictures for our cards so that on the front of our card is a photo of our whole family with santa and then when you open the card the inside has a picture of our DS crying on santa's lap while he's holding a chalkboard sign that says "santa says I'm getting a sibling for Christmas! Baby #2 due July 2017" I just mailed off a couple to our closest family and will wait till closer to the holidays to mail off the rest but I can't wait to see who catches it and to get their reactions! I expect a few phone calls...
Well - I told my boss this morning. Pretty much as soon as I asked if she had a minute to chat and shut the door she blurted out "OMG You're pregnant aren't you?!" She was super excited and as a working mother of 3 herself, I know she will be supportive.
I will probably tell the rest of the office next week. I think I am going to bring donuts in and put a sign on it that says "Eat up, my mommy doesn't want to be the only one with a belly. Love, Baby OUR-LAST-NAME" with a picture of our ultrasound.
well, I can't decide what really to do?! I will be 12 weeks right at Christmas so might have my mom open a gift at family Christmas that is a number 6 made out of wood with EDD painted on it, or a onesie?! This baby will be the 6th grandkids for them)!!!
Not looking forward to telling the in laws at all! They reacted weird and broke my husbands heart with DS. I mean completely ruined the experience for him and I felt terrible!!! They had no 'reason' to react bad either. We were married, financially stable and happy. I guess they just don't take surprises well?? Who knows. No clue when or how we will tell them...a text maybe?? Lol jk
I made Christmas ornaments for the family. one side says "Christmas Miracles in the making" and the other side has 2 snowman representing our son and the new baby. I wrote our sons namr under his snowman (which we used his thumb print to make) and the other says baby cagle july 2017. We are giving them to the family this week.
I don't have FB anymore, so that annoucement is out. I do have a instagram and I did post something back in October for some friends I have on there. As far as my parents I told them after my first positive hpt. My in laws are finding out on christmas.
Our immediate family knows, we had DD in a "best big sis" shirt a few weeks after our BFP and just waited for them to notice. We haven't told one set of siblings because they are expecting in March and the last time we saw them they did a gender reveal so we didn't want to take any attention away from them or have them feel that we were one upping them in any way because this has been long awaited for them.
A few people know at work, not keeping it a secret but not announcing it everywhere. I'm a terrible liar so if someone asks I tell the truth.
We'll probably announce on social media at Christmas. I was thinking about putting DD in her Xmas Jammies and something about asking Santa blah blah but she's 18 mo so who knows how that'll go.
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
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I feel like I may have commented on this thread previously but ... we went public after our first US. I was going to do something special but decided not to. We went simple and took a selfie of us with the ultrasound pic and just posted "Hey Friends, guess what?! Meet Cricket! Due early July 2017" then me being me I added, "Current State: Blob with arm nubs." (Cricket is what we are calling the fetus ... I hate that word, "fetus" lol!)
I did call my Grandma before we posted as she doesn't have a computer or FB or any of that. Parents, siblings and very, very close friends already knew.
I told my employer and a few co-workers last week because of some safety issues that I encountered while at work. They were all incredibly happy and supportive.
We told my immediate family over the weekend by giving them Christmas ornaments that said "aunt", "grandma", "grandpa", etc. on them. They freaked out, but I'm a little unhappy with them because they started telling other people even though we specifically asked them not to tell anybody else until we see H's parents next week. I'm pissed because it's not their news to share and they are essentially robbing us of being able to do that. Lesson learned: we'll be making sure that they find out about the birth after H's family.
So I did the photo of the shoes for our facebook announcement a couple of weeks ago. The way we told our parents was this: That was for my stepmom(my stepbrothers are 10-12 years older than me). My mom got a red one with MeeMaw and her 9 grandkids and this baby.
When we find out what we are having Im going to get wood letters for the name we choose and have our kids hold them for a photo to announce.
@LoveLee85 I get that, but I was having a hard time decoding it, and I more or less knew what most of it was supposed to be...I'm just not sure if they'll figure it out. They might, though, who knows. It's a cute idea...I just wouldn't want you to be disappointed if they don't figure it out. I know my parents wouldn't. They would just get annoyed and make me explain. If yours are good at puzzles, though, then go for it!
So, for those who were asking, I'm going to do my best to keep the twins factor a secret from my husband until Christmas Day. We're announcing to my parents and siblings on Christmas Eve. We're hosting at our house, and we have our stocking hung up on the fireplace. We are hanging up a fourth one with "July '17" on it and waiting to see how long it takes them to notice (should be pretty quickly - we're expecting our household goods soon, so they'll want to take a look at everything when they get here).
With that backstory in mind, I've wrapped a second stocking that matches the one on the fireplace in a box with one of those metal gift card holder boxes. I put our ultrasound that shows the twins and that the ultrasound tech wrote "Merry Christmas.....TWINS!!" on in the gift card holder and put that I'm the box with the stocking. If my husband doesn't get the stocking hint quickly, or asks what it's for, I'll just tell him I thought he might like to complete the set.
Married 25 May, 2013 William Alexander born 18 September, 2015 Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017 Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017 Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
Anybody have any cute suggestions for telling people who are out of town? My two best friends both live in different cities (one lives on the other side of the country) and I feel guilty that I haven't told them yet, but I wanted to do something cute. I keep hoping they will come into town during the holidays and I can tell them in person. But if not, anybody have any ideas??
I don't live near any family or close friends so I'm a big fan of paperless post for e-announcements and I use MPix for good old fashioned card announcements. (I only joined Facebook this year to plug into my subdivision activities and organizing play dates for baby. I'm otherwise not active.). We used paperless post for our first pregnancy announcement. We just did a cute photo at home with our US picture in hand. This time around I'm not as eager to announce - but once I get there I will go the same route.
We told our families immediately and my coworkers figured it out at my 5th week when I fainted in the hallway at work. Now we are discussing when to post on Facebook. I'd like to post on Dec 23rd (I will be 12 weeks) however my husband is worried since we won't have our 2nd blood test back for chromosomal diseases until the 15th week. We did not do the NIPT. I feel disappointed because I've been searching for months how we will post a cute Christmas announcement but I want to respect his decision too. This is our first pregnancy and we have no family history of diseases and I'm 30 years old. Advice!?
We told our families immediately and my coworkers figured it out at my 5th week when I fainted in the hallway at work. Now we are discussing when to post on Facebook. I'd like to post on Dec 23rd (I will be 12 weeks) however my husband is worried since we won't have our 2nd blood test back for chromosomal diseases until the 15th week. We did not do the NIPT. I feel disappointed because I've been searching for months how we will post a cute Christmas announcement but I want to respect his decision too. This is our first pregnancy and we have no family history of diseases and I'm 30 years old. Advice!?
TBH everyone and their mother announces on big holidays! Maybe a New Years compromise?
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Re: Announcing!
Ive told a few close friends - people id turn to if anything happened. want to tell our parents and our DD after we are able to confirm a heartbeat.
I hope all goes well for you in sharing with your family!
Dating: 12/21/2001
Married: 09/08/2012
BFP: 11/16/2016 EDD: 07/27/2017
Baby Fish born: 08/01/2017
Can we just keep it a secret from family indefinitely?
Almost told DH'a grandma today. Lunch together got onto a very depressing conversation about his cousin who is *TW being sent to wilderness school as a way to hopefully deal with his major defiance issues. He does not want to go and there are two men basically coming to take him away.
Anyway...I almost just shouted "I'm pregnant!" To bring something happy in.
To tell his parents, we wrapped a frame that says "Our First Grandchild" with a note that said "photo arriving July 2017". ❤️
I am excited for all of you who announced over Thanksgiving!!
@lph4248 I am sorry this happened to you. I had to tell a few people at work also because I am a physician and my work involves performing xray guided procedures and I had to switch out of those shifts just to be safe...it definitely felt odd to be telling people who are not family/close friends this early but thankfully my colleagues have been very supportive.
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
Anyway, my past coworkers have done cute things for everybody when they got pregnant and announced. Donuts with a sign that says "Mommy can't be the only one with a belly" and an easter egg saying that "Baby (Last Name) Is Hatching" (this was right after Easter). Some just make snickerdoodles for everybody.
Anybody else have these kind of announcements at their work and have plans/past things they've done? I want some smaller and simple but think it would be fun (whereas I plan to just walk in and tell my principal and let him bug me about cookies for the next bazillion years...)
We are SO excited and cannot wait for the new baby. I think I'll be officially announcing on NYE, I'll be 10 weeks. NYE is special for DH and I (engaged 2008 & BFP 2014), so it's fun to keep the tradition going of excitement! I'm thinking of a NYE Countdown to Big Sister pic.
BFP #1: 5/16
MMC at 8 weeks: 6/16
BFP #2: 10/16
Sweet baby boy arrived 7/7/17!
I will probably tell the rest of the office next week. I think I am going to bring donuts in and put a sign on it that says "Eat up, my mommy doesn't want to be the only one with a belly. Love, Baby OUR-LAST-NAME" with a picture of our ultrasound.
Not looking forward to telling the in laws at all! They reacted weird and broke my husbands heart with DS. I mean completely ruined the experience for him and I felt terrible!!! They had no 'reason' to react bad either. We were married, financially stable and happy. I guess they just don't take surprises well?? Who knows. No clue when or how we will tell them...a text maybe?? Lol jk
A few people know at work, not keeping it a secret but not announcing it everywhere. I'm a terrible liar so if someone asks I tell the truth.
We'll probably announce on social media at Christmas. I was thinking about putting DD in her Xmas Jammies and something about asking Santa blah blah but she's 18 mo so who knows how that'll go.
I did call my Grandma before we posted as she doesn't have a computer or FB or any of that. Parents, siblings and very, very close friends already knew.
Met: 08/2001 ~ Dating: 07/2004 ~ Engaged: 11/2009 ~ Married: 06/2011
TTC: Since 09/16 ~ BFP 10/28/16 ~ EDD 7/5/17
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We told my immediate family over the weekend by giving them Christmas ornaments that said "aunt", "grandma", "grandpa", etc. on them. They freaked out, but I'm a little unhappy with them because they started telling other people even though we specifically asked them not to tell anybody else until we see H's parents next week. I'm pissed because it's not their news to share and they are essentially robbing us of being able to do that. Lesson learned: we'll be making sure that they find out about the birth after H's family.
That was for my stepmom(my stepbrothers are 10-12 years older than me). My mom got a red one with MeeMaw and her 9 grandkids and this baby.
When we find out what we are having Im going to get wood letters for the name we choose and have our kids hold them for a photo to announce.
your lucky numbers are 6-7-10-20-17
its their 6th grand kid and I'm due 7/10/2017!!!! I'm excited for how long it takes them to figure it out!!!!
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7-10-20-17
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7-10-20-17-6
With that backstory in mind, I've wrapped a second stocking that matches the one on the fireplace in a box with one of those metal gift card holder boxes. I put our ultrasound that shows the twins and that the ultrasound tech wrote "Merry Christmas.....TWINS!!" on in the gift card holder and put that I'm the box with the stocking. If my husband doesn't get the stocking hint quickly, or asks what it's for, I'll just tell him I thought he might like to complete the set.
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
Maybe a New Years compromise?
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