Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: INTRODUCTIONS/EDD
Got my bfp some 10 days ago. H and I are both physicians (neither of us OB/G) so it's easy to go crazy worrying about all sorts of things that could go wrong (I'm generally a worrier) but we are trying to "be cool" and enjoy. We have been trying for a year ...went to see RE, got full infertility workup, all negative, then got pregnant on our own the next cycle
since we were already plugged in with RE he did lots of initial work up including blood tests and a first US yesterday - beautiful gestational sac and yolk sac
my progesterone was a bit low (8) so I was prescribed these suppositories - does anyone else have this issue? Trying not to freak out.
Best of luck to everyone!!
Based on my O date my EDD is 7/30 so that puts my at 3w 4d today. Its super early still so I am nervous but absolutely over the moon!
Married: October 2014
TTC#1:May 2016
BFP: 11/16/16 EDD: 7/30/17
4 fur babies
Me: 33 DH: 33
Married: 6.9.12
DS born: 4.9.14
DD born 7.27.17
BFP #1: 5/16
MMC at 8 weeks: 6/16
BFP #2: 10/16
Sweet baby boy arrived 7/7/17!
I'm excited (and terrified) to be over here - I'm with the awesome group above who got BFPs over in TTGP yesterday! I'll be a FTM, and according to O date, my EDD is July 27th.
TTGP kept me sane through the TTC process, I'm looking forward to getting involved over here!
ETA: EDD (more sites were showing July 27th)
Dating: 12/21/2001
Married: 09/08/2012
BFP: 11/16/2016 EDD: 07/27/2017
Baby Fish born: 08/01/2017
I'm a STM with a 2 year old DS. I got my BFP on 11/7and my EDD is July 18th! My 1st dr appt is Nov. 30th and it feels like ages away.
I'm newly pregnant for the first time and have to share it with SOMEONE! (DH doesn't want to announce until 12 weeks scan). We are nervous but happy (and I am nauseous as well, lol). Here's the stats...
Me:32 | DH: 38
Married: 10-2014
TTC: Since August 2015
BFP: 11/1/2016
Looking forward to getting to know everyone~
~Amanda
I was only on TTGP this last cycle but lurked for at least two others. I also got my BFP yesterday at 10dpo. I've got two little girls (3 and 1) and DH has his fingers crossed for a boy to carry on the family name. My EDD is 7/30 based on O, 8/1 based on LMP. But this will be my third c-section so I expect baby's birthday will be July.
Me: 33 DH: 33
Married: 6.9.12
DS born: 4.9.14
DD born 7.27.17
Dating: 12/21/2001
Married: 09/08/2012
BFP: 11/16/2016 EDD: 07/27/2017
Baby Fish born: 08/01/2017
I got a BFP yesterday morning 11/17! EDD is 7/27 based on LMP. DH and I are excited yet terrified. This is a rainbow baby for us as I had a MMC at 16 weeks last December. So we're cautiously optimistic! Congrats to everyone! I'm excited to go on this journey with you!
WELCOME!
Married: 06-2024
TTC #1: Since November 2015
Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
due to previous issues.
***TW***
BFP: 11/4/2016
BFP: 07/17/2024
Hello everyone! DH and I just got married in September this year. It's both of our second marriages and we are 30 (me) and 31 (DH). During my first marriage we TTC for 4 years and lost 12 tiny angels in the first trimester. The only answer I ever got was that I have PCOS, Endometriosis, and "these things just happen". Then my daughter was stillborn 3 years ago at 22 weeks. This time they said it was preterm labor and IC.
Flash forward to this year. I went in and got genetic testing at my specialist's urging and found out the reason for all of it is antiphospholipid antibody syndrome. So we removed my Mirena and went on aspirin. This month was our first attempt and we just got our BFP today. We got confirmation from our doctor this afternoon and our EDD is July 30th. We are so excited!
And thanks for letting me be a part of this board. When I lost my DD, the January 2014 mommas were the best support group I could ever ask for. I am excited to be a part of this group!
12 miscarriages in first marriage (2007-2011)
Surprise BFP - 06/2013
Daughter stillborn at 22 weeks - 09/09/2013
Married my best friend - 09/03/2016
Genetic testing came back with APS - 10/03/2016
TTCAL - 10/21/2016
BFP - 11/18/2016
EDD of Rainbow baby - 07/30/2017
We got our BFP today (11/18)!! We have been trying for a while so it doesn't seem real yet. I keep checking the tests to make sure that they're reading as positives
My EDD is July 27th. I can't wait! My husband and I have been together for 9 years, married for 3.5 years and are just over the moon. So happy to be a part of this board- hooray July babies!
@BMG2013 - Welcome! It didn't seem real for me either at first. I must have peed on 6 sticks at least over a week or so lol
Married: 06-2024
TTC #1: Since November 2015
Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
due to previous issues.
***TW***
BFP: 11/4/2016
BFP: 07/17/2024
Going to my PCP on Monday, then trying to figure out where I want to deliver- since I moved to a new state since my last delivery.
Nice to "meet" all of you!
@vmihelci - Welcome!
Married: 06-2024
TTC #1: Since November 2015
Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
due to previous issues.
***TW***
BFP: 11/4/2016
BFP: 07/17/2024
Im excited to be part of this BMB because with my first pregnancy I was just a stalker and regretted never making any friends and I always said that with my next I would be more involved!
My BFP was on 10/19 and the due date my OB gave me is July 2nd.
I am SO SO nauseous this time around!!! Ugh, it's been rough
I'm currently pregnant with #2, got my BFP on 11/16 and based on my LMP I'm due 7/21! Our first was born 7/11/15 so we'll be just making the 2 yrs apart goal we had. I wasn't very active the first time around so I'm hoping to change that this time. Congrats to everyone!
@Dcwtada Thank you for the kind welcome. I'm really excited to be apart of the group.
12 miscarriages in first marriage (2007-2011)
Surprise BFP - 06/2013
Daughter stillborn at 22 weeks - 09/09/2013
Married my best friend - 09/03/2016
Genetic testing came back with APS - 10/03/2016
TTCAL - 10/21/2016
BFP - 11/18/2016
EDD of Rainbow baby - 07/30/2017
1 on earth, 2 in heaven watching over us.
@sakeefer - Welcome!
Married: 06-2024
TTC #1: Since November 2015
Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
due to previous issues.
***TW***
BFP: 11/4/2016
BFP: 07/17/2024
I just got my BFP today after only having sex twice all month! Totally surprised but so wonderful. We have a 12 month old and I am so excited to be expecting #2! Congrats to everyone!
Married: 06-2024
TTC #1: Since November 2015
Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
due to previous issues.
***TW***
BFP: 11/4/2016
BFP: 07/17/2024
I have 3 biokids Dante(jan '06) James(june '12) and Alexander(may '13). I also have a stepdaughter Keiko (july'03). My husband(31) and I(31) have only been married since April '15 but together for 6 years and best friends for 14 years.
****tw****
I'm worried about this pregnancy because family history is that not many women make it through a pregnancy after 30. If they do most have stillborns. My first pregnancy ended in a mc at 13 weeks so my anxiety is amping up this time around.
Hope to stick around and offer/get advice through our time here.
@SaphireSweetie88 yes, a line is a line but DH was out of town and my sister in law couldn't see it based on the pictures I could get with my phone, so I couldn't get confirmation from anyone. When I woke up the next day, the line was totally there and darker, but clearly was longer than 10 minutes. so I peed on 5 more sticks and some said positive and some didn't. So I'm going with I'm pregnant (I'm now 4 days late) but go for confirmation on Monday
DH and I started TTC in July 2015, had no success... decided to take a break this past Spring and down shifted to NTNP. We really are very surprised and a bit freaked out, but very happy. We're both 36, live in Los Angeles and have been married for 3 and half years.
I look forward to getting to know you all. Seems fun to have contact with so many ladies with July dates...