Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: INTRODUCTIONS/EDD
Anyway, I'm 28 and MH is 27. We got married in August and have one fur baby named Pepper. We've been trying for a couple months but only charting this past cycle which I found beyond helpful. Got my first BFP yesterday (8DPO, CD29) but it was a squinter so I POAS 5 times to be sure!! Today it's a little darker and my temp rose showing what I think looks like a nice implantation dip
Early symptoms: mainly some light cramping as well as bloating and tender nipples (not dissimilar to pms). But yesterday at 4am I woke up with the weirdest taste in my mouth that I was so strong I got up just to brush my teeth! It was so odd, that's what made me test. The other thing I've noticed is how much more I've been sleeping: 13 hours the past 3 nights...
Oh and FF gives an EDD of July 16th - feels CRAZY EXCITING to write!! Looking forward to getting to know all of you!
Married August 2016
TTC #1 September 2016
BFP 10/31/16
EDD 7/16/17
also I meant to tell you that we finally saw the girl on the train and I thought it was pretty good!
Married: Oct 2015
Baby G born June 2017
TTC#2: July 2018
BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19
BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
Married August 2016
TTC #1 September 2016
BFP 10/31/16
EDD 7/16/17
Married August 2016
TTC #1 September 2016
BFP 10/31/16
EDD 7/16/17
Also, SO excited to see so many of you from TTGP here! Hi @osucma @GlitterFish @JAM85 @kat0607 @oxCherryBlossomxo @spk112 @TalesOfASocialIntrovert @Cait32 and @Pepper16!!!!!!
BFP #1: 5/16
MMC at 8 weeks: 6/16
BFP #2: 10/16
Sweet baby boy arrived 7/7/17!
Married August 2016
TTC #1 September 2016
BFP 10/31/16
EDD 7/16/17
BFP #1: 5/16
MMC at 8 weeks: 6/16
BFP #2: 10/16
Sweet baby boy arrived 7/7/17!
@leilac hey!!! So happy you are here!
BFP 3: 10/26/16//EDD: 7/2/17
Married: Oct 2015
Baby G born June 2017
TTC#2: July 2018
BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19
BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
Hi ladies!
I might be transferring over from June BMB because my date is looking more like July 1-2. Got my BFP on October 20th @ 10dpiui after 19 long months of trying.
Is anyone familiar with making the spreadsheets by chance? I sent a message to find out how to make one, so if not, I will try and get that done.
TTC since April 2015- low AMH, low Morphology
Clomid~ Feb2016-Apr2016, BFN x 3
Natural ovulation IUI June2016, BFN
IVF #1 08/26/2016- 4 eggs mature, 4 fertilized normally, 1 made it to transfer
Fresh Transfer 08/31/2016, BFP.. Miscarriage 17dp5dt
IVF results were hard to handle, wanted to attempt IUI a few more times
Medicated IUI (Gonal-F, Ovidrel trigger) Oct2016
BFP 10/20/2016!!!! Beta 1 (10dpiui) 16.9: Beta 2 (11dpiui) 42.23: Beta 3 (14dpiui) 282
TTC since April 2015- low AMH, low Morphology
Clomid~ Feb2016-Apr2016, BFN x 3
Natural ovulation IUI June2016, BFN
IVF #1 08/26/2016- 4 eggs mature, 4 fertilized normally, 1 made it to transfer
Fresh Transfer 08/31/2016, BFP.. Miscarriage 17dp5dt
IVF results were hard to handle, wanted to attempt IUI a few more times
Medicated IUI (Gonal-F, Ovidrel trigger) Oct2016
BFP 10/20/2016!!!! Beta 1 (10dpiui) 16.9: Beta 2 (11dpiui) 42.23: Beta 3 (14dpiui) 282
Congratulations on your new pregnancies.
This is pregnancy no.2 for me. My DD is 2 1/2 yrs old and is being promoted to big sister!
I am due on July 12th and got my positive this morning.
EDD 7/2/17 BFP 10/23/16 14 dpo (CD 43)
***TW***
This is our 4th pregnancy and we are totally shocked. We didn't think we would be able to get pregnant without help. So while we were charting and using OPKs, we had pretty much given up hope that we would ever get pregnant again. During our journey through infertility we had 2 miscarriages and a twin pregnancy. One of our twins went home to heaven just before their 2nd birthday as a result of a heart defect caused by a genetic translocation.
Age 35, H 34
Married 5/09
Pregnancy #1, IUI, MMC, D&C Feb 2012
Pregnancy #2,IUI, MMC, D&C July 2012
Pregnancy #3 IUI, BFP 10/25/12 - Two heartbeats on the U/S!
Twin Girls! C (6/24/13) and E (6/24/13-5/20/15)
Surprise BFP! 10/23/16, EDD 7/2/17
Dd has a chd with a vsd and pfo and correction surgery right before Christmas.
I surprisingly got a bfp today after several BFNs this month. I just felt off and my normal AF symptoms weren't there.
My EDD is 7/13/17. I have an almost 9 month old little girl and we started on the Feb 2016 board. I am almost 34. I was induced early with my daughter and being Canadian would love a July 1st baby.
Looking forward to a happy and healthy 9 months with you ladies.
Still can't believe I am going to have 2 under 2!
I am 38 (so medically-speaking this is a 'geriatric pregnancy', how sexy is that), and I have two girls (3 and 1.5). Excited but cautious since it's so early. **TW** This is my fourth pregnancy - I had an early loss in July. **End TW** I lurked a lot on TTGP and am happy to see so many familiar names, even though they won't recognize me (I posted in the Newbie thread but that's it).
My due date is July 12 but I may have a June baby...I have had preeclampsia twice, and had to get induced both times (at 35 and 36 weeks). It was especially severe in my first pregnancy. Hopefully no one on here will be in the same boat, but please do get in touch with me if it happens and you want support/info.
edited for clarity and to add a due date
Good luck to all of us!
My husband and I just found out (10/27) that we're expecting baby #2! My first was born 6/4/15 and we were married just one year before. As of now, our due date is the 7th.
We're so excited to be adding another tiny human to our crew.
Congrats ladies! I can't wait to go through all the fun of pregnancy with you!
Third time momma here! BFP on 10/29. I have no idea of EDD- maybe July 1? This was a huge surprise for us. We were done with two. One boy (6.5- March 2010), one girl (3.5- April 2013). I have no baby stuff left, have sold/given it all away. Our parents are going to sh*t when they find out (but with excitement). I'm a no-nonsense, fun-loving, honest and sarcastic person.
Got an exam on Monday- confirmed pregnancy. Bloodwork Monday afternoon gave me numbers in the high 900s and P16.9 (had low P with daughter). Repeat bloodwork on Wednesday gave me numbers in the high 2600s and P16.2. Putting me on oral supplements just to be safe!
We conceived my son on the first try, but my daughter took 18 months with unexplained infertility. So the fact that this surprise has happened is a blessing!
Side note- can someone please help me with my signature? I forget all of this stuff. How do I change colors? Is there a site to use? I was on TB with both pregnancies (had to create a new profile after my son because TB changed formats back in the day and didn't save old ones) but that was a looooong time ago! Thanks in advance
Married: 6/27/2008
DS: 3/14/2010 Planned, PG first try
M/C 6/2012
DD: 4/22/2013 Planned, UnDx Infertility, PG on our own
BFP: 10/28/2016 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE!
M/C 12/12/2016
BFP: 10/27/2017 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE
EDD: 7/2/2018
Had a loss in March 2016 - started trying again in August...
BFP on 10/27 with EDD about 7/10 but I'll have a RCS around 7/3 or 7/5 I'd guess....
~~ married 8.11.07
~~ DD1 1.16.11 ~~ DD2 1.3.14 ~~
~~ BFP3 12.22.15 MMC 2.29.16 @ 13 weeks ~~
~~ 2 D&Cs (3.1.16 and 3.10.16) for MMC
~~ BFP4 10.27.16 MMC 1.23.17 @ 16 weeks ~~ D&E 1.26.17 ~~
So we tried and charted in October and here we are. My system and periods had been far from the norm since the miscarriage so i wasn't sure if i was even ovulating again. BFP was 10/27 and my estimated due date is July 9th. I'm anxious to get the scan done at the end of November, fingers crossed.
~~ married 8.11.07
~~ DD1 1.16.11 ~~ DD2 1.3.14 ~~
~~ BFP3 12.22.15 MMC 2.29.16 @ 13 weeks ~~
~~ 2 D&Cs (3.1.16 and 3.10.16) for MMC
~~ BFP4 10.27.16 MMC 1.23.17 @ 16 weeks ~~ D&E 1.26.17 ~~
My EDD is 07-07-17 and my BFP was 10-31-16 after being 5 days late! This is my second pregnancy. I have a little boy who just turned 7 months who came 8 days early so I'm wondering if this baby will come in June or July. I was a member of April 2016 BMC but wasn't very active. Congrats everyone!!