Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Introduction and EDD!
I'm 25. I got my BFP Sept 27 yeah still trying to let it sink in. EDD May 31st. This is my first so I'm really scared
I'm 30 years old and I got my BFP on Sept 23rd followed by an HCG on Sept 27th that confirmed my pregnancy! This is our first and we are very excited/nervous! My husband and I live in Queens, NY and our EDD is May 26th, 2017!
Very excited to be on here and share my experiences and most of all learn from everyone elses.
My first pregnancy was pretty rough. I was diagnosed with Celiac Disease and spent the first trimester getting my diet under control. At 6 months I developed kidney stones, had a Stent put in and was on bed rest for the remainder of my pregnancy. Also, it took 3 days of being induced to have our first.
I am hoping and praying that this one will go a little smoother.
I look forward to getting to know everyone!
BFP 9/7/16
EDD 5/15/17
My DS will be 10 months old this week. Baby #2 is a surprise, but we are thrilled and can't wait to expand our little family!
If you stopped being a troll maybe I would
I am not sure about my actually EDD, I am thinking somewhere between 05/21 & 05/27. I am hoping my OB can give me more details today.
Looking forward to getting to know everyone!
EDD: 06/25/2006 M/C: 11/03/2005
EDD: 04/08/2012 M/C: 09/03/2011
EDD: 12/27/2012 Born Sleeping: 07/19/2012
EDD: 12/07/2013 M/C 05/30/2013 & 05/31/2013
EDD: 07/01/2016 Born sleeping: 03/02/2016
Sorry you got butthurt that someone who didn't intro or contribute to the community AT ALL posted a super AW-ish drive-by post and then got attitude for it. But that doesn't make any of us who were annoyed by that trolls. You have a right to want this community to be all rainbows and sunshine but the best thing about TB (in my opinion) is that is real, and ridiculousness isn't tolerated here and I don't see that changing any time soon. My suggestion would be to get over it.
(Edited: grammar)
Now let's just move on.
BFP #1 9/1999. DD Born 6/7/2000
BFP #2 10/2011. EDD 7/11/12. MMC discovered 11/2/11. D&C 11/4/11.
DX PCOS 10/2012.
BFP#3 1/11/13. DS Born 9/17/2013
BFP#4 9/30/17. Grow baby grow!
~Everyone Welcome~
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"Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?...But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." Matthew 6:26-27&33-34
Late giving my intro - wanted to wait until after my first ultrasound to confirm my little jelly bean! Will 8 weeks pregnant this Thursday with baby #2! Putting my due date at May 18ish - but I will be a scheduled c-section before this time. I first joined the bump as an August 2015 mama and had my DD. Looking forward to interacting with all you on this board this time around!
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EDD #2 5.4.17
I'm 9 weeks with baby #2 ! Due 5/20 but baby will be born before then. Looking forward to sharing this journey with everyone ❤
I got my positive pregnancy test a week after my dad's funeral. He lost a long battle with cancer and suffered complications from a surgery related to it. So while I'm so happy about this baby, it's still bittersweet.
I got my BFP on the 23/24th of August- the week after my sons second birthday.
EDD: 5/5/17- exactly as predicted as I was charting my temps.
We had been seeing a Naturopath to help us get pregnant and were booked into to a Fertility Specialist for our first appointment two weeks after I got my BFP. It was great to cancel that long awaited appointment.
We are very exciting to be giving our DS a sibling!!
Congrats everyone!
My EDD is 5/17
This is my third baby. DS is 4 and DD is 20 months.
I am 26 yr old mom of 2, hubby is 29. We have been together 12 yes and married 6.
This is out 4th pregnancy; 1st was a miscarriage of twins @10 weeks, we have a son now 3yrs old, and a daughter 19 months old.
So hello, everyone! I am a ftm, and due on May 17th with a single baby. I got my BFP on August 21, which was the first day of a missed period. I guess this explains how I started MS at "3w"... Since I was actually over 5w!
WELCOME
23 y/o;
[05/06/17]
First time mommy
90% of the way there
Surprise BFP# 5 - 9/2/16 - Due 5/13/17
Anyways! EDD 5/5/17. Got a BFP on 9/12 at 2am, immediately after returning from our Bali vacation! We're in our late 20's, have been together 10 years, married 2 year. We had just had started "not not trying" and poof!, this is our first pregnancy. I've been feeling a bit terrified and really hope I'll feel more at ease after my 12 week appt. We're also team green!
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
Good day ALL,
****I wanted to wait to post this until I had a more accurate EDD.****
My name is Carmen
SO & I have been together for 5 years. We are expecting our first baby & are very excited to start our family.
I am due 05/06/17
23 y/o;
[05/06/17]
First time mommy
90% of the way there
Hi everyone. I'm really happy to join my first mom group. I have been trying for 2 years and had 2 mcs, 2 cps and we are now sitting at 12w and this is the most pregnant I've ever been, so my husband and I are very excited. Without writing a novel, we have had a lot of fertility issues but have reason to believe that this one will really stick after all our efforts. All of the ultrasound results have been amazing so far and we're finally able to let go of some of our fear. I just turned 35 so I guess I am one of the older ones, boo. I also have 2 furbabies, Fizzgig and Chewie and they have both been incredibly sweet to me lately. I swear they know.