Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Weekly Randoms (9/26)
FTM, 2 Furbabies
married 03/17/07
lived in Houston, Austin, Los Angeles and NYC
due: 2/15/17
My husband has been telling me he just knows I'm having a boy because I've been more outspoken, and blunt about things. Sooo since we've found out that the baby is indeed a boy, he said "see I told you, you're not usually that brave about speaking out"
So I said "Must be, because I'm literally growing a set of balls right now."
2) it only took thirty minutes, but I was finally able to find the baby's heartbeat with a borrowed stethoscope (I refuse to buy a Doppler because I will abuse it). It definitely is not as distinct as a Doppler, but will absolutely do to get me through until the kicks become more frequent. Also, thirty minutes of poking made the baby move like crazy. H passed out on the couch with the dogs watching football, and I thoroughly enjoyed my time alone with babe last night.
I'm thrilled, Hubs is excited but also terrified.
Also, I just realized that after today's paycheck, I have only 10 more until my EDD. Holy crap, that's not a big number. Then I realized that I also only have approximately 10 more Dr. Appointments before my EDD.
WTH!! I feel like I've puked away half this pregnancy.
Please excuse me while I hyperventilate a little.
When I was a teenager I would put on literally any outfit (it could be a sweatshirt and sweatpants) and my dad and I had a game. I'd say "Do you like my outfit?" and he'd say "Where's the rest of it?"
We're expecting our second boy and although we always said we'd go for a third to try for a girl.. I'm starting to love the idea of being done after this one. I always said I'd like to have two kids, but I also want a little girl. Lately though, I'm starting to grow to accept being a boy mom- and I'm actually pretty excited about it!
I also am not sure if this is the right thread for this. I can think of about 4 diff threads to share this on.
I am guessing most of your H's are mostly joking/that's the thing Dad's are supposed to say about their daughters. But I must admit the comments about getting guns and appearance make me really uncomfortable.
It goes to a lot of the issues women have with they way they approach sex and their bodies as something to be determined in it's worth by men.
Again I am sure it's harmless, but it's something I wanted to point out because it something that I am even working on. How I treat young girls and how the conversations about how they control their bodies.
It it reminds me of how Trump thinks it's ok to keep shaming the former Ms Universe about her weight. Because he gets to determine her worth based on her appearance.
Ok. Soapbox rant over!
Not meant to offend just my two cents.
FTM, 2 Furbabies
married 03/17/07
lived in Houston, Austin, Los Angeles and NYC
due: 2/15/17
Science Vs. did an episode on Zika. I really love Wendy's approach to a lot of things, can't wait to hear this!
https://gimletmedia.com/show/science-vs/
FTM, 2 Furbabies
married 03/17/07
lived in Houston, Austin, Los Angeles and NYC
due: 2/15/17
But now they are starting to make comments about my oldest neice being "heavy" in front of her. Are you kidding me?! She is 7!! I don't give a crap what you say about yourselves, but if you feel she is starting to gain too much, buy healthier snacks. Encourage her to play outside and ride a bike with her. There are healthy ways to encourage kids, without essentially starting her out worrying about her size at the age of 7.
I have all the rage about it, in case you couldn't tell. I immediately changed the topic to how were they helping her to be healthy? The adults have all the control, after all. You buy the food she eats, you tell her what's ok.
But, it is important what we say to kids, whether it be about themselves (how we compliment or correct them), how they dress, or what they eat.
FTM, 2 Furbabies
married 03/17/07
lived in Houston, Austin, Los Angeles and NYC
due: 2/15/17
While I agree wholeheartedly that girls/women shouldn't be judged on their appearances, the reality is that they ARE.
If my girls want to go out in revealing clothing, they need to understand that they are going to be viewed/ treated a certain kind of way as opposed to someone who is dressed modestly.
Its all fine and dandy to say that girls shouldn't be judged, or judge others, but we also have to not live in a world of ideals and teach our kids the realities of today's world.
We live in a patriarchal society. It may never be fair, but I'm gonna do my best to make it better for your daughters
FTM, 2 Furbabies
married 03/17/07
lived in Houston, Austin, Los Angeles and NYC
due: 2/15/17
https://u.pw/1Wj20RQ
FTM, 2 Furbabies
married 03/17/07
lived in Houston, Austin, Los Angeles and NYC
due: 2/15/17