@SpaceBurger My MIL tried to rest her face on my bump. I backed away and asked what she was doing and she goes "I'm listening for him!" Umm, listening for what, exactly? You think he's gonna sing you a damn song? GTFO.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
@bamacoop and @scostel2 - I feel for ya both, although my MIL is completely MIA. We called her to let her know we were pregnant back at the end of January, but that seriously has been the only phone call or real contact we've had with her. I keep her in the loop via my private fb "close friends" settings when I send out detailed info on how the baby is doing, but she never even 'likes' or comments on anything. Even as we are planning to go back to Scotland in August, we are definitely not planning on spending much time with her. Rather spend it with Dh's grandmother who has been much more supportive. She's English though and is lovely and sweet. I guess my BF is that I wish his mom would actually be a mom and be interested in our baby (her first grandchild), even if it meant complaining about America, us, whatever.
For all the ladies that are sick ( @UFJen@bnsmith85 and any others I forgot to tag) my OB said anything under Tyenol brand, be it Tyenol cold and flu or sinus or whatever, is safe to take during pregnancy - she said if you feel it's turning into an infection, go to the family doctor because they can prescribe something stronger that is pregnancy safe since most OB's don't listen to things like lungs anymore. The best thing she said though "don't suffer! Take something" <--- my new
Had to go to my Dr appointment alone because FI had a stupid meeting that he wasn't able to get out of in time for my appointment. i know he couldn't help it but it still pisses me off.
It's Monday AND we have a huge rainstorm. I'm soaking wet because of course my raincoat doesn't zip over my belly. And my hair is no longer straight. This could also be a major petty problem list.
Me:33 DH: 34 Married: May 2011 TTC #1: May 2015 DS: 10/20/2016 TTC #2: June 2019 #2 EDD: 2/20/2020
@MRSCORKER you kill me!! Haha. But I am the same way. I have no sympathy. Luckily, my mil finally understands that I want nothing (or very little) to do with her. Even though she has always hated me she still would get irrationally mad when I would choose my mom over her. Wtf!? But, like I said, she's finally got it (11 years later!).
on the topic of people coming to the hospital, my dh's aunt and sister were talking about something on Facebook and I clicked into the comments and his aunt said something like 'it's a good thing we'll get new baby snuggles in October' and then said something like 'I'll race you to the hospital'. Um no! Way to assume you are going to visit me at the hospital. I actually picked a hospital this time that was almost 2 hours away from them (they live 45 mins from me and then we live an hour away from the hospital) so no one would be inclined to visit. I also want to make sure my dd is the first or one of the firsts to visit. If I deliver during the night and she has school, I'm telling my mom to make sure she goes to school first. And then I'm really hoping they'll let me leave after a day because I don't really want to be away from dd that long. So there will be no time for visitors. I got really pissed at the assumption! Plus my SIL and his aunt were the two who posted pictures and an announcement of dd's birth BEFORE I had!! So I really really don't want them near me.
@amye102485, your monday BF reminds me of my friend's 2 year old. Every morning before they leave the house to drop him off at daycare, he goes "oh no, where my keys?" It's because my friend loses her keys ALL the time before they leave the house, that now that's his favorite line before they leave. hahahaha.
@bamacoop, i think you might win this Monday's BF. Spending your first Christmas with baby and MIL sounds awful! I hope she doesn't complain that much when she's there.... but if she does, you can always vent to us because the way you tell stories is actually super entertaining and makes me giggle every time.
I think I'm in the minority here when I say I wish my mom could be with me in the delivery room instead of DH. I mean, I love DH with all my heart, and he's been nothing but amazing throughout this pregnancy---but my mama is my mama. She can make all the booboos and pain go away. I wish she wasn't so far away, so she could be with me when it's time.
@annabenanna I bet your mom being so far away and knowing she can't be there is really hard. While I don't want my mom in the delivery room, it is comforting to know she could be there in a matter of minutes if need be. You'll get to see her so soon though!
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
@annabenanna I bet your mom being so far away and knowing she can't be there is really hard. While I don't want my mom in the delivery room, it is comforting to know she could be there in a matter of minutes if need be. You'll get to see her so soon though!
Thanks @MRSCORKER! I do miss her, especially now. It's nice that we get to talk everyday, but still. She's got this arthritic psoriasis that attacks her bones and makes it uncomfortable for her to travel, so she can't be here. I am super excited to bring her a grandson in a few months though!
This is more of a petty problem but I keep accidentally bumping my belly on my desk and it hurts
Little one keeps kicking me right where my desk hits my belly and it's super uncomfortable. I feel like I need to sit a little bit back from my desk but then I'm reaching for my keyboard and my back starts to hurt.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
My husband finally got in touch with his mom about her wanting to stay with us after we have baby #2. He and I finally agreed that she could come down the last two weeks of October because that will be when he goes back to working nights at the hospital after taking paternity leave and I figured it could be nice to have someone those few night he works and it's just me with both boys.
Well, to our surprise she already requested October 5th (our due date) - 17th off from work and can't make any changes to the schedule since others have requested vacation around hers - without talking to either of us about dates at all.
My husband finally got in touch with his mom about her wanting to stay with us after we have baby #2. He and I finally agreed that she could come down the last two weeks of October because that will be when he goes back to working nights at the hospital after taking paternity leave and I figured it could be nice to have someone those few night he works and it's just me with both boys.
Well, to our surprise she already requested October 5th (our due date) - 17th off from work and can't make any changes to the schedule since others have requested vacation around hers - without talking to either of us about dates at all.
I would be RAGING. Honestly, if it were me (and keep in mind that I'm biased against all MILs), I would tell her tough luck, she can't stay then and she should have asked before requesting off. Again, I'm kind of a raging B when it comes to the ol' MIL.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
@annabenanna Haha, well I was pouting like a two year old this morning because I couldn't find my keys. I very rarely lose them, so I was so frustrated!
Also, I'm sorry your mom can't be with you. I would have a really hard time with that.
MRSCORKER Oh, I've had that thought and have shared that with my husband too.
I don't want her there during the first week because we need time to adjust to a family of 4 - last pregnancy she stayed in our 1 bedroom apartment with us on our couch after we brought baby home.. without letting either of us know that's what she was planning. This time, she can sit at home until we say she can come down.
And, as much as I really don't want to go before my due date I have hoped we go two weeks early so it's still on the timeline we were initially thinking, or we go as far as they'll let me after my due date.
My husband finally got in touch with his mom about her wanting to stay with us after we have baby #2. He and I finally agreed that she could come down the last two weeks of October because that will be when he goes back to working nights at the hospital after taking paternity leave and I figured it could be nice to have someone those few night he works and it's just me with both boys.
Well, to our surprise she already requested October 5th (our due date) - 17th off from work and can't make any changes to the schedule since others have requested vacation around hers - without talking to either of us about dates at all.
I almost hope you go a week at least over due to teach her a lesson. but I'm another one who didn't have the best thing going on with MIL either, so I would totally rather go over due than let her have her way.
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My MIL is in town and taking us to dinner tomorrow. Hubby told me to pick where we should go. While normally I love picking when it comes to MIL I feel pressured to pick somewhere nice but not expensive and really just don't give a crap. I want him to decide so I don't have to worry about it.
@annabenanna Thanks! It's nice having somewhere to vent about these things. I'm hoping it won't be as bad as I think. And every time I think about not wanting her here I feel really guilty, because DH wants her here and he came all the way to America to start a new life because I didn't want to live in England. So I feel bad making it sound like I don't want her to visit, since I know he would love it. So fingers crossed she just comes and sits on the couch all day. I can handle that.
RE: moms in the delivery room... I wouldn't want my mom in the room with me, and I hope she feels the same way. She mentioned wanting to know THE SECOND I go into labor, which isn't so bad because my family lives about 1.5 hours from me, so it would take a while for them to even to the hospital. So if they want to get here, pay for parking, and then sit in the waiting room for hours....well, more power to 'em.
But ain't no way my mom is in the room for any of it. When my sister went into labor 8 years ago, she drove her to the hospital and I met them there. My mom was a wreck. A complete wreck. So I took my sister inside and got her to her room and everything while my mom parked the car. I'm seeing my sister's nekkid body (ick! we aren't not close, be we aren't that close either), hearing her scream in pain, holding her up as we walk down the hall, etc. And my mom is in full freak out mode: wide eyes, big frown, yelling at people, can't figure out where to go, yelling really loudly "WHAT'S GOING ON?! WHAT'S HAPPENING?! DO I NEED TO GO BACK THERE WITH HER?!"
So I just give her my sister's purse and am like "Nah, we're good. Just go through this and find her insurance card and talk to the lady at the desk, mmkay? I'll be back later!" and left her there. She's nice and has good intentions, and most of the time she's great in emergency situations (she freaks out, but can get stuff done), but I wouldn't be so nice if it was me in labor this time. I'd be yelling back at her to calm down and be quiet and leave me alone. So.... no mom in the room for me.
I barely want DH there! He'll be nice and supportive, I'm sure. But he can't NOT say something stupid, I'm also sure. He'll probably be one of those guys who holds your hand and then complains that you're squeezing it too hard and now he's hurt... you know, while you're popping a bebe out ya hooha. I love him, but man... I'd punch him in his big British nose for that.
@annabenanna I'm with you! I think it might be a grass is always greener type thing too. My mom died, so its a different kind of absence for sure, but I also get pretty emotional thinking about what it would be like if my mom could be there with me. Most of the time when I'm sad I think about how awesome it would be to have her there and that it would probably be a relief for DH since she and I were so close and she was a much better comforter/support person than he is. But then there's also the rational part of my brain that knows that despite how close we were and how much we loved each other, she could also sometimes annoy the hell out of me sometimes so it's very possible that if I was lucky enough to have her around all the time still I'd be like "no thanks, see you when this kid is out" haha
@MRSCORKER You know, so many people talk about how great his accent is, but I hear it so much that I've gotten used to it! Sometimes I don't even notice it! Or I notice it, but it's... not lost it's appeal, really, it's just... part of who he is that I don't even think about it sometimes.
@annabenanna I didn't even think about that, oh my goodness. I should make her do the laundry while she's here! Of course, we don't have a line to dry anything on, though, so she'll probably say something about that. Ugh. Or about how we'll be wasting electricity by heating the house, or because we'll have an electric stove, or whatever. But you better believe she won't say anything when she uses our electric kettle to heat water for her tea!
I am so sorry that so many people are having MIL issues now that babies are imminent, but add me to the list of people whose MILs are their Monday bitchfest. My shower was this weekend and my MIL came up to NJ from SC. Seveeral months ago we told her that we would let them know that we were ready for visitors after the baby is born because she announced she was coming a day after the baby was born, which we are not comfortable with because they are going to be longer term visitors. She has been extremely touchy about feeling involved since then, even though H and I are not close with his family at all. This weekend, she pulled H aside and said "Just remember, this baby is half mine and we are VERY anxious to see it." Um, no. H and I are entitled to have a couple days to breath before we are expected to host long term visitors. I am not a grandchild incubator.
Um...."half mine"??? I'm sorry but that would make me flip out! Absolutely not! The baby is "half" your husbands but in no way does that make it hers. Nope nope nope nope.
I undrstand being anxious about seeing a new (first?) grandchild but I'd shut down that line of thinking right away.
I'm just now catching up on this thread and the posts about moms and MILs wanting to be in the delivery room reminded me of my BF for the day...
Saturday, my SIL (the one who threw me a shower and made all kinds of mistakes that would make anyone in their right mind cringe) came over to give me some baby clothes for Reagan she found at Goodwill. She then told me she had something she wanted to talk to me about (queue sense of impending doom). She began to tear up and tell me that if I didn't have a birth photographer, she would love to give us the gift of taking pictures during labor and birth. She is not a photographer. She doesn't even have a nice camera. She's just trying to weasel her way into the room. It was all I could do to not laugh out loud in her face.
The nerve of that bitch to make it seem like it was some great gift to us for her to invite herself into the delivery room and take pictures of my who-ha with a shitty-ass $150 digital camera!!!!!!!!!
@ignoscemihi - She totally is. A convicted felon, too. And a terrible mother. I promise you I don't say that lightly either. Her kids are perpetually filthy and sick. She brushes their teeth and gives them baths maybe once a week. They're 7 and 4. She just took her oldest to the dentist for the first time this summer and she had to have 4 baby teeth pulled because they were completely rotten and hurting her. Their house is a filthy disgusting crap hole. They don't let people in very often, but the few times we've been in there, there's trash everywhere, dirty dishes overflowing in the sink, dirty clothes blanketing the floors, stains everywhere on the carpet from their dog's pee and poop- they haven't bothered to train it even though they've had it for a couple years.
Oh @CopperBoom86 that is just so not ok. The shower stuff already was cray cray but all that?!? Mannnnn you are a saint for even halfway putting up with that!
Me:33 DH: 34 Married: May 2011 TTC #1: May 2015 DS: 10/20/2016 TTC #2: June 2019 #2 EDD: 2/20/2020
Am I the only one who likes both my MIL & SIL?! Lol I have a great relationship with them.. Especially my MIL. Can she a be a little much sometimes, yes, but she's always there for me and does so much for us. Same with my FIL. It's actually nice since my parents live in FL.
Married 11-11-11 TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year. BFP 02-15-16 with our first IT'S A BOY!!!
Re: Monday Bitchfest (12 Sept)
Everyone who is sick, I'm really really sorry. That is probably the most uncomfortable thing I could think of right now.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
on the topic of people coming to the hospital, my dh's aunt and sister were talking about something on Facebook and I clicked into the comments and his aunt said something like 'it's a good thing we'll get new baby snuggles in October' and then said something like 'I'll race you to the hospital'. Um no! Way to assume you are going to visit me at the hospital. I actually picked a hospital this time that was almost 2 hours away from them (they live 45 mins from me and then we live an hour away from the hospital) so no one would be inclined to visit. I also want to make sure my dd is the first or one of the firsts to visit. If I deliver during the night and she has school, I'm telling my mom to make sure she goes to school first. And then I'm really hoping they'll let me leave after a day because I don't really want to be away from dd that long. So there will be no time for visitors. I got really pissed at the assumption! Plus my SIL and his aunt were the two who posted pictures and an announcement of dd's birth BEFORE I had!! So I really really don't want them near me.
@bamacoop, i think you might win this Monday's BF. Spending your first Christmas with baby and MIL sounds awful! I hope she doesn't complain that much when she's there.... but if she does, you can always vent to us because the way you tell stories is actually super entertaining and makes me giggle every time.
I think I'm in the minority here when I say I wish my mom could be with me in the delivery room instead of DH. I mean, I love DH with all my heart, and he's been nothing but amazing throughout this pregnancy---but my mama is my mama. She can make all the booboos and pain go away. I wish she wasn't so far away, so she could be with me when it's time.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
Well, to our surprise she already requested October 5th (our due date) - 17th off from work and can't make any changes to the schedule since others have requested vacation around hers - without talking to either of us about dates at all.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
Also, I'm sorry your mom can't be with you. I would have a really hard time with that.
I don't want her there during the first week because we need time to adjust to a family of 4 - last pregnancy she stayed in our 1 bedroom apartment with us on our couch after we brought baby home.. without letting either of us know that's what she was planning. This time, she can sit at home until we say she can come down.
And, as much as I really don't want to go before my due date I have hoped we go two weeks early so it's still on the timeline we were initially thinking, or we go as far as they'll let me after my due date.
@annabenanna Thanks! It's nice having somewhere to vent about these things. I'm hoping it won't be as bad as I think. And every time I think about not wanting her here I feel really guilty, because DH wants her here and he came all the way to America to start a new life because I didn't want to live in England. So I feel bad making it sound like I don't want her to visit, since I know he would love it. So fingers crossed she just comes and sits on the couch all day. I can handle that.
RE: moms in the delivery room... I wouldn't want my mom in the room with me, and I hope she feels the same way. She mentioned wanting to know THE SECOND I go into labor, which isn't so bad because my family lives about 1.5 hours from me, so it would take a while for them to even to the hospital. So if they want to get here, pay for parking, and then sit in the waiting room for hours....well, more power to 'em.
But ain't no way my mom is in the room for any of it. When my sister went into labor 8 years ago, she drove her to the hospital and I met them there. My mom was a wreck. A complete wreck. So I took my sister inside and got her to her room and everything while my mom parked the car. I'm seeing my sister's nekkid body (ick! we aren't not close, be we aren't that close either), hearing her scream in pain, holding her up as we walk down the hall, etc. And my mom is in full freak out mode: wide eyes, big frown, yelling at people, can't figure out where to go, yelling really loudly "WHAT'S GOING ON?! WHAT'S HAPPENING?! DO I NEED TO GO BACK THERE WITH HER?!"
So I just give her my sister's purse and am like "Nah, we're good. Just go through this and find her insurance card and talk to the lady at the desk, mmkay? I'll be back later!" and left her there. She's nice and has good intentions, and most of the time she's great in emergency situations (she freaks out, but can get stuff done), but I wouldn't be so nice if it was me in labor this time. I'd be yelling back at her to calm down and be quiet and leave me alone. So.... no mom in the room for me.
I barely want DH there! He'll be nice and supportive, I'm sure. But he can't NOT say something stupid, I'm also sure. He'll probably be one of those guys who holds your hand and then complains that you're squeezing it too hard and now he's hurt... you know, while you're popping a bebe out ya hooha. I love him, but man... I'd punch him in his big British nose for that.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
@MRSCORKER You know, so many people talk about how great his accent is, but I hear it so much that I've gotten used to it! Sometimes I don't even notice it! Or I notice it, but it's... not lost it's appeal, really, it's just... part of who he is that I don't even think about it sometimes.
@annabenanna I didn't even think about that, oh my goodness. I should make her do the laundry while she's here! Of course, we don't have a line to dry anything on, though, so she'll probably say something about that. Ugh. Or about how we'll be wasting electricity by heating the house, or because we'll have an electric stove, or whatever. But you better believe she won't say anything when she uses our electric kettle to heat water for her tea!
I undrstand being anxious about seeing a new (first?) grandchild but I'd shut down that line of thinking right away.
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
Saturday, my SIL (the one who threw me a shower and made all kinds of mistakes that would make anyone in their right mind cringe) came over to give me some baby clothes for Reagan she found at Goodwill. She then told me she had something she wanted to talk to me about (queue sense of impending doom). She began to tear up and tell me that if I didn't have a birth photographer, she would love to give us the gift of taking pictures during labor and birth. She is not a photographer. She doesn't even have a nice camera. She's just trying to weasel her way into the room. It was all I could do to not laugh out loud in her face.
The nerve of that bitch to make it seem like it was some great gift to us for her to invite herself into the delivery room and take pictures of my who-ha with a shitty-ass $150 digital camera!!!!!!!!!
So, yeah, she's a real gem.
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year.
BFP 02-15-16 with our first
IT'S A BOY!!!
Seriously. Someone find the car I want and deliver it.
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
I wish we could take all this pregnant lady rage and bottle it and use it to fight terrorism or something.