Just to be clear, I'm all for moving to FB later in 3rd Trimester etc, I'm in no rush, I was just meaning there are a handful of regulars who have mentioned a few times how they don't have FB at all and it's just gonna be sad without them, that's all.
This is me! I deactivated my Facebook 4 years ago! But I might be open to swapping IG names with some regulars if/when there is a mass exodus to Facebook
In regards to the trust thing, I totally get it, Internet safety is a real concern & I like to stay vigilant. I have personally never been an admin/creator of a FB group, but I am a big Cricut crafter and I am on some small and also very large "secret" groups on FB. You can only be a part of it if you request access and the admin adds you. Also, you do not need to be FB friends with the admin or anyone else on the group. Those groups are really nicely structured & I feel like we all come together to chat about upcoming projects, etc. I love FB because it is very user friendly, & I am all for the big move when the time is right. However, in the meantime I have been enjoying the weekly threads & commenting when I can.
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Is it possible before we do the FB to do a prove your self thread with a picture of your face next to a newspaper and handwritten note with the date on it. This could weed out any catfish -- not that I'm saying any of you lovely ladies are catfish!!
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My last pregnancy, there were several fake profiles. Some were not found out until well into the 3rd trimester.
I like the bump because when chatting on here, people tend to stay away from being raunchy and try to stay amicable... My FB group from last baby got way too sex-debauchery-political-posturing-"debates" and I had to leave because it was just an unpleasant place to be. I like everyone on this medium!
Is it possible before we do the FB to do a prove your self thread with a picture of your face next to a newspaper and handwritten note with the date on it. This could weed out any catfish -- not that I'm saying any of you lovely ladies are catfish!!
I like this idea except I don't get the newspaper... could we just do the handwritten note with the date? I feel like that should be enough proof that we're real
Personally I don't get the FB fear. I am only on FB for the 2 mom groups I am in, both of which started from the Bump. There has never been any real crazy drama with either of them, and one has been going on for 4.5 years now. If anyone seems crazy admins can kick them out, but as PP said you are not personal friends with people just because you are in a private group with them. If you have privacy settings on your FB account no one can see any more information than someone who is randomly searching your name. And frankly, I would never post a bump pic on the Bump, because anyone can see it, but I would on FB because it is a much more controlled setting limited to those who are in the private group.
Personally I don't get the FB fear. I am only on FB for the 2 mom groups I am in, both of which started from the Bump. There has never been any real crazy drama with either of them, and one has been going on for 4.5 years now. If anyone seems crazy admins can kick them out, but as PP said you are not personal friends with people just because you are in a private group with them. If you have privacy settings on your FB account no one can see any more information than someone who is randomly searching your name. And frankly, I would never post a bump pic on the Bump, because anyone can see it, but I would on FB because it is a much more controlled setting limited to those who are in the private group.
This. Andplusalso, I won't be posting my own pic with a paper next to it to prove who I am. I'd do it via pm or whatever, but I don't do public Bump pics.
I've been in FB mom groups for almost 5 years now, and ultimately you just have to trust that people are who they say they are. The crazies will eventually weed themselves out. I just operate under the assumption that anything I put out there can be seen by anyone out there (for example, a lot of moms share online stuff with their husbands quite frequently). If I am uncomfortable with a stranger potentially knowing something about me, I don't post it. I stayed out of gift exchanges and secret Santas for a long time because I didn't want to share my address. It's all about your personal comfort level.
Is it possible before we do the FB to do a prove your self thread with a picture of your face next to a newspaper and handwritten note with the date on it. This could weed out any catfish -- not that I'm saying any of you lovely ladies are catfish!!
I really, really like this idea. On my first BMB, we had a catfish and it was insane. I have no desire to go through that again!
Woah seriously people catfish on here??? Like.....why?? What do they gain? Personal info? That's so messed up.
Ohhhh I remember reading about a catfish on one of the other BMBs, and it all exploded. I wonder if the thread is still on here or if it was deleted....
@JustJaney If you watch the advertisements TB posts on the sides of the page, I see it all the time. It's something like "Update: Catfish on July BMB". I'll post it here next time I see it.
Omgosh, I just googled "thebump catfish" and it was the first thing that popped up! I think you can get the gist of it, though so many posts and users are deleted because of the mass exodus.
So yeah, Catfish are a thing, unfortunately. But I think some people here made great points about how to protect yourself in a FB group environment. I personally think you put yourself more at risk on an open environment such as this one where anonymous users or lurkers can see everything you're posting. At least FB can give you more clues that the person you're communicating with is real or not.
The catfish was from July 14. It was one of the most absurd things ever. Then shortly after that the mass exodus occurred. I never joined a fb group for July 14, which after the exodus I wish I would have because the board just died. I wasn't as active on that one though.
Looking forward to to joining one this time around, but definitely later on in the pregnancies.
The catfish was from July 14. It was one of the most absurd things ever. Then shortly after that the mass exodus occurred. I never joined a fb group for July 14, which after the exodus I wish I would have because the board just died. I wasn't as active on that one though.
Looking forward to to joining one this time around, but definitely later on in the pregnancies.
Oh, so this was your last BMB?? What did you think when this happened? Did you have any clue?? So bizarre!
@JustJaney. I wasn't super active on that one, more of a lurker. Apparently there had been some suspicions from the very beginning of the board forming from some of the regulars that the woman was a possible catfish.
It eventually got to the point where they called her out and she could never provide the proof that she was who she said she was and the whole thing came to light. It really was crazy. She was super active on the board and shared quite a bit about her "life".
People were hesitant to post a lot after that, quite a few people left and those that were part of the fb group (the cat fish was discovered after the July babies were a few months old) mostly stuck to the fb group. Eventually the majority left after the rule changes and the board pretty much just died.
The catfish was from July 14. It was one of the most absurd things ever. Then shortly after that the mass exodus occurred. I never joined a fb group for July 14, which after the exodus I wish I would have because the board just died. I wasn't as active on that one though.
Looking forward to to joining one this time around, but definitely later on in the pregnancies.
On the January 2014 bump there was at least 3 found out. I remember one in particular was always so dramatic - like old school Jerry Springer over the top - and always asked questions that made you stop and make a face. When her "daughter" was born, it hit the fan when someone did a reverse search on the image and it was one of those realistic looking newborn baby dolls for sale online.
I remember another one had gathered a bunch of pictures they found online from a real family... That mama found out (I have no idea how) and let it be known. Haha.
i don't get head cases like that. I can't even begin to understand the whys. That's such a long term commitment... All the posts, comments, picture shares... So sad. I mean, what must their lives be like to have to live vicariously through a pregnancy chat board?
Omgosh, I just googled "thebump catfish" and it was the first thing that popped up! I think you can get the gist of it, though so many posts and users are deleted because of the mass exodus.
So yeah, Catfish are a thing, unfortunately. But I think some people here made great points about how to protect yourself in a FB group environment. I personally think you put yourself more at risk on an open environment such as this one where anonymous users or lurkers can see everything you're posting. At least FB can give you more clues that the person you're communicating with is real or not.
Sooo reading that thread has given me trust issues. Lol.
I would love a Facebook group! I have never really been in one for something like this. So I assume we would still need this board for threads, questions, etc. But it would be a way to really interact with all the members! Plus..... mobile sucks...
You can do everything in a FB group that you do here. It's just a trust issue because it's no longer anonymous. However, when it's a secret FB group, no one except people in the group can see your posts, and it's not searchable to people who aren't in it. That part is nice.
Ohhhh, I didn't know that. I would totally be down. But I do agree with others, wait a bit longer before we make one. Only because I still see some new people pop up here and there. I think by the third trimester most stragglers should be gone and repeat users will be established.
I would love a Facebook group! I have never really been in one for something like this. So I assume we would still need this board for threads, questions, etc. But it would be a way to really interact with all the members! Plus..... mobile sucks...
You can do everything in a FB group that you do here. It's just a trust issue because it's no longer anonymous. However, when it's a secret FB group, no one except people in the group can see your posts, and it's not searchable to people who aren't in it. That part is nice.
Ohhhh, I didn't know that. I would totally be down. But I do agree with others, wait a bit longer before we make one. Only because I still see some new people pop up here and there. I think by the third trimester most stragglers should be gone and repeat users will be established.
This is me too. I'm newly popped up myself, so hopefully I'll have time to establish myself
The whole catfish thing happened way back in the day on my December 2010 board. It actually didn't come out until we were in a facebook group and most of the group ended up leaving after feeling their privacy had been violated. Personally, I don't have time to keep track of everyone and their back stories. People had been screen shotting things that seemed fishy from the beginning so they brought all those out. It was really sad as we had all been part of the group for a long time. I am still facebook friends with several of the moms from the group.
My October 2012 group is still going strong on facebook and many of our kids are starting preschool this year!
Omgosh, I just googled "thebump catfish" and it was the first thing that popped up! I think you can get the gist of it, though so many posts and users are deleted because of the mass exodus.
So yeah, Catfish are a thing, unfortunately. But I think some people here made great points about how to protect yourself in a FB group environment. I personally think you put yourself more at risk on an open environment such as this one where anonymous users or lurkers can see everything you're posting. At least FB can give you more clues that the person you're communicating with is real or not.
Sooo reading that thread has given me trust issues. Lol.
Yea for these reasons I feel like I would only be willing to join a group where we had to prove our selves (either here or once on FB). If you don't show your face with date or picture of newspaper or online newspaper then you get kicked out of the group. I'm totally up for joining one later on if this happens. I'm actually excited for it!
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Omgosh, I just googled "thebump catfish" and it was the first thing that popped up! I think you can get the gist of it, though so many posts and users are deleted because of the mass exodus.
So yeah, Catfish are a thing, unfortunately. But I think some people here made great points about how to protect yourself in a FB group environment. I personally think you put yourself more at risk on an open environment such as this one where anonymous users or lurkers can see everything you're posting. At least FB can give you more clues that the person you're communicating with is real or not.
Sooo reading that thread has given me trust issues. Lol.
Me tooooo!
Me three! Also hated how mean people were to each other. Definitely in the later end of the pregnancy for a FB group.
Holy fuckin shit it took me like 4 hours to finally get through that thread (I was at work and whatnot) that is so BIZARRE and I feel like I was so naïve before!!! Catfish is for real man! Crazy!
Catfish are crazy! We had at least one in my last bmb and it really messes with your mind. Thankfully none of the people who moved to our FB were 60 year old men or anything!
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FB is way more user friendly than this site so I'm all for that. There's going to be stranger danger anywhere. Maybe the verification can be something we worry about when it's a more appropriate time to migrate over to FB.
I read the Catfish thread before I went to bed last night and my pregnancy dreams took a turn for the worse...OMG. Now I'm going through thinking of every bit of personal info I've given and whether that was too much...I think I'll be keeping personal info to things about the cats and dog for now But, seriously, did the Catfish actually ask for what people used as passwords? That is a HUGE red flag!!
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Even without catfish, real people can be crazy as shit. We had some incidences in our fb bmb.
Honesty, that's part of the reason I waited so long to jump in over here. The crazy was overwhelming in the early months of my old BMB. I just couldn't. When I logged in here a couple weeks ago....I was kind of amazed at what I saw. You guys did a good job of chasing away the crazies!
The catfish was from July 14. It was one of the most absurd things ever. Then shortly after that the mass exodus occurred. I never joined a fb group for July 14, which after the exodus I wish I would have because the board just died. I wasn't as active on that one though.
Looking forward to to joining one this time around, but definitely later on in the pregnancies.
I was in June 14, then testing mass exodus. It was a crazy and sad time to see such a lively place go down the crapper.
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I like the bump because when chatting on here, people tend to stay away from being raunchy and try to stay amicable... My FB group from last baby got way too sex-debauchery-political-posturing-"debates" and I had to leave because it was just an unpleasant place to be. I like everyone on this medium!
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https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12462811/newb-in-town
So yeah, Catfish are a thing, unfortunately. But I think some people here made great points about how to protect yourself in a FB group environment. I personally think you put yourself more at risk on an open environment such as this one where anonymous users or lurkers can see everything you're posting. At least FB can give you more clues that the person you're communicating with is real or not.
Looking forward to to joining one this time around, but definitely later on in the pregnancies.
It eventually got to the point where they called her out and she could never provide the proof that she was who she said she was and the whole thing came to light. It really was crazy. She was super active on the board and shared quite a bit about her "life".
People were hesitant to post a lot after that, quite a few people left and those that were part of the fb group (the cat fish was discovered after the July babies were a few months old) mostly stuck to the fb group. Eventually the majority left after the rule changes and the board pretty much just died.
I remember another one had gathered a bunch of pictures they found online from a real family... That mama found out (I have no idea how) and let it be known. Haha.
i don't get head cases like that. I can't even begin to understand the whys. That's such a long term commitment... All the posts, comments, picture shares... So sad. I mean, what must their lives be like to have to live vicariously through a pregnancy chat board?
Ohhhh, I didn't know that. I would totally be down. But I do agree with others, wait a bit longer before we make one. Only because I still see some new people pop up here and there. I think by the third trimester most stragglers should be gone and repeat users will be established.
My October 2012 group is still going strong on facebook and many of our kids are starting preschool this year!
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Children are like casseroles; it takes a lot to mess them up.
Jan17 Sept Sig: Pumpkin Spice gone too far