Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
feelinchubby824
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Re: Introduction and EDD!
EDD May 01, 2017
Children 5.5 (DD), 3.5 (DS) and a still born daughter who flies with the Angels.
We live in Canada. I know the majority on here live in the US. Look forward to getting to know everyone.
This is definetely going to be an April baby. I've had 2 previous csections and also the stillbirth. Pretty sure middle April. But I would prefer to stay here as I'm so far behind April ladies. Hope that's ok.
EDD 5/4, but will most likely be mid April due to previous C-sections and high risk during previous pregnancies.
11.2011 - DS1
02.2013 - loss at 6 wks
06.2014 - DS2
10.2015 - loss at 12 wks
03.2017 - DD
I got my BFP August 22 and my EDD is May 3rd. I have a 14 month old girl.
We've been trying for our second for several months so I'm excited to be here.
DH is 35, I'm 37, and this is my 5th pregnancy. I have two kids, DS is 4 and DD is almost 2. Sadly, I've had a loss after each kid. We've been trying this time since last December and that resulted in my last m/c. Got this BFP on the 19th and really hoping the pregnancy sticks!
I went in this week for blood work and my HCG levels came back good but progesterone was a little low so I'm on progesterone suppositories for now.
Married 8/27/2011
BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012
BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w
BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014
BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d
BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017
BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
I'm not entirely positive but I think my EDD is 5/1, this pregnancy is lining up exactly with my first. Three years apart for getting the BFP. My son's birthday is 04/29/14
so they could be birthday twins.
I am excited and nervous. Looking forward to a great board and making this journey again (despite being the crabbiest pregnant person ever!)
My BFP was Aug. 25 and my EDD is 5/4...I am super excited, but cautious since I had my first miscarriage last Nov. and it resulted in a complicated D&C. I have one son who is a toddler and is approaching 2 next month.I am already feeling major fatigue kicking in, ugg! My first appt. is set for 9/27. I always read through the boards during my pregnancy with my son, but this time around should be fun to participate
hoping this one sticks, so tentatively introing here, due date is 5/9/17, had betas done at 9dpo with hcg of 10 and progesterone of 28, hopeful so far.
DS - January 2014
TTCAL | April 2016
CP | June 2016
CP | July 2016
Only 36 more weeks until I can have some wine again
BFP on August 23
EDD May 7
I have a 4 yr old and a 10 month old. Excited!!!!!
11.2011 - DS1
02.2013 - loss at 6 wks
06.2014 - DS2
10.2015 - loss at 12 wks
03.2017 - DD
EDD: May 4
BFP: August 27
My husband & I have been TTC for 2 years & 2 months. We lost babies in November '14 & March '16. I don't know what to think about this pregnancy--nervous & excited. I feel both doomed because of my track record, & hopeful that this time it could actually work out, as I have a lot less stress in my life now with a job change, lost 13 lbs, & upped my metformin dosage. I don't have an appt scheduled yet but will call as soon as I can tomorrow a.m. I think I'll get in pretty quickly with my history. I have a really wonderful doc & we've already talked about trying progesterone if I got pg again.
I'm 30 and my H is 29. We've been together 5 years and married 2. We live in the United Arab Emirates (UAE) and about an hour south of Dubai.
We were TTC for 15 months and were told I had PCOS and both tubes blocked. We were preparing for a surgery (for blocked tubes) this month when we were VERY surprised with our BFP. This will be both of our first.
looking forward to getting to know women here!
Got my BFP on August 24!
EDD May 8.
***Tw previous MC mentioned***
Been TTC since June 2014. This is my second pregnancy, first pregnancy ended with a MMC discovered Nov 2015. Now PG with our beautiful rainbow after two cycles of Clomid.
So happy to be here
Me: 26 DH: 28
TTC #1 since 06/2014
BFP #1 09/23/15. MMC discovered 11/24/2015
BFP #2 08/24/16 EDD 05/08/17
EDD- May 4
This was our first month trying! This baby will be our 3rd child. We have an 8 year old boy and a 2 year old boy! We are still in complete shock. Really looking forward to going through this pregnancy with all of you lovelys!
Me: 26 DH: 28
TTC #1 since 06/2014
BFP #1 09/23/15. MMC discovered 11/24/2015
BFP #2 08/24/16 EDD 05/08/17
BFP: August 25th
EDD: May 2nd
baby #2
#1 DD Aug 2014 @39weeks via CS
#2 Due May 2,2017 hopeful VBAC
This will be my first baby and based on O date, my EDD is 5/8/17. (Based on LMP it would have been 4/28/17. The impatient me wishes this were the real date.) I don't know why but I'm terrified of this baby sticking. I'm trying to remind myself that everything right now is out of my hands.