@caseyewhitaker. Baby aspirin has been proven to minimize or or downright combat pre-e anywhere from 20-40% depending on which study you read and how early you start it. I've been on it since week 7. I can assure you, wholeheartedly, that whatever potential minimal side effects a baby aspirin regimen could have (none have been found FYI) will be far less concerning than severe pre-e: Pre-term birth, long NICU stays, low birth weight, underdeveloped respiratory system, underdeveloped nervous system, high bilirubin levels...And that's just baby.
My pre-e nearly killed me, no lie. I was a high stroke risk for nearly a month, was thisclose to needing blood transfusions multiple times, had organ failure, multiple hospitalizations for magnesium treatments and remained on countless meds for 2 years post birth due to the trauma my body went through. Take the meds. I promise you that you don't want to live through what we did.
ETA - the 'standard of care' (I hate that phrase because it assumes we're all the same) is now to treat all pregnant women with a risk of pre-e with baby aspirin. ALL. It's been proven that effective.
@caseyewhitaker Mine wasn't technically high either, but it had been at a point where by the end of the pregnancy it could be an issue since BP rises as we progress. For what it's worth, the dose isn't high at all since it's baby aspirin. I understand being scared, though. For me, I'll take the aspirin over a stroke. Ask all the questions you need to and make the decision you are comfortable with.
@caseyewhitaker count me as another in the baby aspirin regime. I started taking it about a month ago at my doctor's recommendation. I fly for work and she has me taking them to avoid blood clots. Also, my bp is on the high side of normal so the baby aspirin us for that too.
@caseyewhitaker I am also on baby aspirin. So far I haven't noticed anything except my BP is low. My doc isn't worried about it yet, but since I'm high risk due to previous Pre-E and now this short cervix I will have extra monitoring.
Like @DiFazette says, there have been no issues or concerns found with being on this regimen, only positives. I do understand the fear of introducing a new thing - whether that be travel, foods, medications, anything really - BUT I also trust my doctors to have the most up-to-date research and to have my best interest at heart. You can always get a 2nd opinion at your next app.
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STM's, how the heck do I go about getting a pediatrician? I mean I know I can get recommendations from my OB and friends, but when do I call to set up an appointment? How does the initial process go? Before the baby comes, right? Do I literally just call and say "Hey, my baby is due in December and I'd like to use Dr._____/Your office as a pediatrician. I heard great things about you guys." Then what?
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@em01092 When we found out pediatrician I made an appointment to go to the office and see everything. Also one of the doctors sat in a room with us and went over all their policies. Such as cancelling appointments, vaccine schedule, financial policy etc. They then had me of file when I had the baby and you give the hospital your pediatricians info and they will come to check on the baby while you are at the hospital, if they are affiliated with that hospital.
Thank you for asking about the pediatrician @em01092 ! I have been wondering the same thing. I'm also not sure when I need to have one ready? I assume by the time we register at the hospital, we'll need to know which pediatrician to list?
@caseyewhitaker I've also been on baby aspirin since about week 6 due to a previous MC. Like others mentioned, the only side effect seems to be low blood pressure. I thought it was odd at first but I read that it's common in situations like mine. I asked my doctor about it at my last appointment and she said I'll probably stay on it until about 36 weeks.
I like recommendations, so one way to find a good pediatrician is to ask your friends that have young children who they go to. I also asked my gynecologist who she would recommend and thats how I found our current doctor. Most provide a free intro/consultation to see if it's a good fit. Basically a meet and greet before the baby arrives. Don't feel pressured to go with the first person you meet with. This is someone you will be seeing frequently for the foreseeable future so make sure its someone you feel comfortable with. Good luck!
soooooo what do you do when people keep asking about/talking about your baby shower...but no one has actually offered to throw you a baby shower?! We have all the big stuff already. But I still thought it'd be nice to have a little party, maybe get some diapers? These are our first kids...1st and 2nd grandkids for my parents, 2nd and 3rd for his parents.
@brittnic86 Well, some people have already mentioned a sip and see after the babies are born, and I'll probably get some flack for my suggestion...why not talk to your mom about it or a close friend? Just say it would mean a lot to you to get together with friends and family to celebrate. You don't have to stress the gifts or anything, but say this is a big life change and it would be nice to celebrate.
@brittnic86 Well, some people have already mentioned a sip and see after the babies are born, and I'll probably get some flack for my suggestion...why not talk to your mom about it or a close friend? Just say it would mean a lot to you to get together with friends and family to celebrate. You don't have to stress the gifts or anything, but say this is a big life change and it would be nice to celebrate.
+1 to this idea. Or you could maybe say 'well i have no idea if/when a shower will be.'
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I am a little annoyed though, because I totally offered to throw my SIL and BIL their baby shower, and they actually turned me down. Said another friend was doing it. And then after their shower was over, they came to me apologizing, saying what a fiasco it was, and how they should've let me throw it for them. Now it's our turn, and not a peep out of them....granted SIL has managed to score us a TON of FREE baby stuff.
I don't even really care about presents, I just want to get together with our friends and celebrate baby girls. I have girlfriends with kids, but out of all of our mutual friends, I think we're the first to have kids, twins at that!
@brittnic86 I feel you being the first of your friends to have kids. We don't know anyone with kids. No one in our families even have kids remotely the same age range. My mom keeps talking about how I should wait until after my shower to buy most of our small stuff. But yet no one has actually planned a shower. I'll probably talk to her about it next month when I see her. Not that I expect a shower/gifts. Just want to plan accordingly.
@tinattt23 that's what people keep saying to me! "oh just wait until after your shower to buy stuff", and then I'll say that I don't know if/when we will have one...and no one says anything....
@brittnic86@tinattt23 - add me to the club. I didn't end up having a bridal shower b/c no one offered (my MIL asked like every week when it was going to be, but never offered to actually plan one). I eventually asked my mother and she was like, "oh, I didn't think you'd want one" (not sure why). Then she looked into it but said couldn't figure out where to host it in time to get the invitations out, so I finally told her to forget it.
Soooo this time I'm trying to not get my hopes up. My mother mentioned hosting one in October but again she doesn't know where to host it (her house isn't really an option, and she hates spending money, which makes it difficult to host elsewhere). Unfortunately she is also in the process of trying to move my grandmother from Florida to an assisted living facility nearby and so that is also taking up a lot of her time. So I'm not really sure if I'll end up having a shower or not.
@brittnic86 I was in the same boat, I'm the first of most of my friends to have a baby and everyone's been telling me they want to come to the shower, but no one offered to throw it. So I was talking to my mom and just kind of BAMing about how everyone wants to come to the shower but no one's even offered to throw it, and she honestly was surprised. She was surprised that I thought I wasn't getting one because it was her plan for her and my sisters to throw me one together.
We are still having a sip and see because that gives out of town family and friends a set time to come in and see the baby, but since we are having a shower we will make sure to put something about no presents on the invite. However if you're not having a shower, people may want to bring gifts to the sip and see and then you have the advantage of time with your baby to know what they need and what they don't. It can definitely work out no matter which way you end up doing it, but I would just go to your mom privately and ask if she knows if a shower is being planned for you or not so that you can plan accordingly. She may have just assumed that she would be throwing you one and forgot to let you in on it, like my mom, or maybe she really hasn't thought about it but would be open to throwing you one.
Glad I'm not alone in this lol. I had one friend who said she was thinking about throwing me a shower...but she's getting induced, then getting married two weeks later...and yeah no! She will have too much already.
@brittnic86 It's ok! I think I had mentioned a while ago that my mom had no intention of throwing me a shower because she was scared. I found out afterwards that DH asked my SIL to throw me one because of my family situation, and he said she was really happy to do it.
A friend did ask me if she could throw us a shower, which was nice...that will be in October. But it sucked that my mom didn't want to throw me one...and the one that will be in town? My parents aren't interested in going. They said they would get the "leftovers" of my registry so they don't have to buy any of the big things.
I'm pretty much over it, but yeah. It sucks when family doesn't want to help make big transitions special.
@em01092 a pedi will typically come check the baby out shortly after he/she is born, so you can always find out who that is if the hospital works specifically with a group/office (mine does), or who they recommend. I ended up going with the pedi that came to the hospital because I really liked that group and they're only 15 min away from my house. If you end up going with someone that doesn't come to the hospital, let the office you choose know the roundabout date you are due because you'll have to take baby in a few days after going home for a weight check and stuff. Then again a few weeks after that then every month or so for the first year.
I'm kind of in the same boat @brittnic86. That's why I was asking in another thread: ok what do I actually need for him vs having a shower where people help? I don't think that's grabby to say because that's kind of the point of a shower, which is to help you get started. My husband's family live on the southside of ATL and my family/friends live on the northside. Nobody in the family likes to drive through ATL if they don't have to. So anyway DH's family want to do their own shower, which is really really nice and I appreciate it.
My thing is I really want to celebrate with my own family too, and my best friend says she wants to do something but I'm feeling like she is too busy to throw something. My grandmother would totally facilitate something if she were able, but she's currently in a hospital bed in her living room. When I found out I was pregnant she wasn't even cognizant. Now she's alert and talking and in her right mind (DH believes the family talking to her about having a new baby has brought her back to us, which whether he's right or not really makes me emotional and comforted) but still stuck in that bed. This is why we did the gender reveal around her.
(I'm so long winded. Oh well.)
I have just been a little pouty (which I'm blaming on pregnancy) that nothing seems to be happening on my family's side. Like you said @brittnic86, I could throw something together so easily and have it at her house there in the living room so I can share it with her. If she could I know she would do it but you know, life.
This is why living 2.5 hrs away is hard. The more pregnant I get the more swollen I get riding in the car. It's the only swelling I've experienced. Every time we travel it's an event and I need a day to chill and recover usually. Once Eaton's born, an embargo on travel will exist. Actually, it will probably start mid-November the way DH has been talking. Not sure if we could convince anyone to come to a sip and see at our house, and even if we could my grandmother couldn't come.
/whiny, pout-fest.
*I'm also a little concerned my dad's extended family might get offended at not getting a shower invite and just assume I had one and didn't invite them. Not sure what to do about that if a shower doesn't happen.
For my first I didn't think I would have a shower because my mom is out of state and most of my close friends were having babies around the same time so everyone had their hands full. A good friend of mine asked to do it even though it was scheduled a mere 1month after she gave birth to her third child. I was reluctant to say yes but agreed as long as I could help out. It ended up being a lot of fun because she hosted, took care of the food and invites, (my mom pitched in money since she couldn't be there to help) and I did all the decorations and used many of them in my nursery later.
But don't panic if no one has assumed the responsibility yet, after I said yes to my friend. My SIL and MIL both were upset because apparently they were planning on throwing me one and were pissed that someone else had offered and I had excepted. I told them both I was sure my friend would love to co-host, and could use the extra help but they declined. Sometimes you just can't win!
Is anyone else experiencing random sharp pains in your nipples? It feels like nerve pain. Very quick and totally at random. I wonder whats going on in there.
For all of you with no one volunteering to throw you a baby shower, maybe your family or friends are planning one but keeping it a suprise
This! Or they are just slow....DD was born early jan, so about the same time frome as this pregnancy and my 2 SILs and MIL didn't mention a THING about a shower until october...... they did throw one in the end. sure makes things awkward though in the meantime!
Is anyone else having a hard time accepting that they cannot physically do some things anymore? I've been trying to set up my classroom the last couple days and I needed to move some furniture around and got so frustrated because I was getting winded, my belly was in the way, and then I felt like maybe I was exerting myself too much pushing furniture and lugging boxes around and what if I hurt Baby because I'm too stubborn to just ask someone to help me... Ugh. This could have gone on the why I'm crying thread too.
Is anyone else having a hard time accepting that they cannot physically do some things anymore? I've been trying to set up my classroom the last couple days and I needed to move some furniture around and got so frustrated because I was getting winded, my belly was in the way, and then I felt like maybe I was exerting myself too much pushing furniture and lugging boxes around and what if I hurt Baby because I'm too stubborn to just ask someone to help me... Ugh. This could have gone on the why I'm crying thread too.
Yes. I'm bitchy and sad because I can't do anything the way I want and I certainly can't enjoy anything. I teach fitness classes and I think I'm going to be throwing in the towel way earlier than I have with my other pregnancies. 4th time around as soon as I start moving I get serious abdominal cramps. Like the kind you get when you're running and you immediately have to stop because you feel like if you move your muscles are going to snap in half.
Is anyone else having a hard time accepting that they cannot physically do some things anymore? I've been trying to set up my classroom the last couple days and I needed to move some furniture around and got so frustrated because I was getting winded, my belly was in the way, and then I felt like maybe I was exerting myself too much pushing furniture and lugging boxes around and what if I hurt Baby because I'm too stubborn to just ask someone to help me... Ugh. This could have gone on the why I'm crying thread too.
So I ended up in tears and slapping the pantry door Sunday. Every time I opened it, it ended up catching on my belly. I can't walk up stairs to do laundry multiple times a day like I used to. I get cramps every time I reach up o stretch to do something.
@jandd2014 I was so proud of myself for making it to the gym this weekend, and then discovered that trying to do my typical weight lifting routine is a nightmare and very uncomfortable with my belly. I left super frustrated.
@jandd2014 I have had to physically avoid my classroom the last 2 days because I am not allowed to even put my posters on the wall. So I have sat in someone else's room and did my crafty hall passes and plicker cards.
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Shower update: Had a friend offer to throw us a shower, after asking for like the 5th time when our shower was. She said she wanted to maybe work with my mom to put it together. So I tell my mom this...and she says "oh okay, I was going to ask ____ about throwing one for you, I figured we still had a lot of time." Well we should probably have it sometime in October...and we're almost to September...
Maybe I'm just too much of a planner? But that gives us like a month to plan and get invites out? I swear my mom would be like the week before she wanted to have it, asking for addresses.
@brittnic86 Yeah you'll probably want invites out 2-4 weeks before the shower depending on if there will be any out of town guests. And since you're having twins you may not make it all the way to your due date, so I'd mention that to them as well.
@brittnic86 - I'm glad it got sorted out. I'm still definitely anxious about a potential shower date (we just have a lot going on in Oct and I know MIL will tantrum if the weekend doesn't work for her, so we also have that to deal with). So you're not alone in th scheduling woes.
@ashleaf2018 exactly. I mean, I guess I don't know exactly when you're supposed to have your shower...but I was figuring October...like a month before the babies will probably be born. Seeing as we're almost to September...if it were me planning it, I'd start planning it now lol. Then again my mom, who sewed my wedding dress, started on it in like March for our August wedding, and was just finishing it the week before the wedding.
@brittnic86 most people I have talked to say between 30-36 weeks is the best time for a shower. That way you have time to set up/ purchase anything you still need, but aren't as huge and miserable as you will be in the home stretch.
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@brittnic86 Yeah, mine is going to be early November since my scheduled C date is Dec. 1. I wish it could have been earlier, more like mid to late October but I wanted to work around my sister's tennis games so that she could go. Early to mid October sounds good for twins
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My pre-e nearly killed me, no lie. I was a high stroke risk for nearly a month, was thisclose to needing blood transfusions multiple times, had organ failure, multiple hospitalizations for magnesium treatments and remained on countless meds for 2 years post birth due to the trauma my body went through. Take the meds. I promise you that you don't want to live through what we did.
ETA - the 'standard of care' (I hate that phrase because it assumes we're all the same) is now to treat all pregnant women with a risk of pre-e with baby aspirin. ALL. It's been proven that effective.
Like @DiFazette says, there have been no issues or concerns found with being on this regimen, only positives. I do understand the fear of introducing a new thing - whether that be travel, foods, medications, anything really - BUT I also trust my doctors to have the most up-to-date research and to have my best interest at heart. You can always get a 2nd opinion at your next app.
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I am a little annoyed though, because I totally offered to throw my SIL and BIL their baby shower, and they actually turned me down. Said another friend was doing it. And then after their shower was over, they came to me apologizing, saying what a fiasco it was, and how they should've let me throw it for them. Now it's our turn, and not a peep out of them....granted SIL has managed to score us a TON of FREE baby stuff.
I don't even really care about presents, I just want to get together with our friends and celebrate baby girls. I have girlfriends with kids, but out of all of our mutual friends, I think we're the first to have kids, twins at that!
Soooo this time I'm trying to not get my hopes up. My mother mentioned hosting one in October but again she doesn't know where to host it (her house isn't really an option, and she hates spending money, which makes it difficult to host elsewhere). Unfortunately she is also in the process of trying to move my grandmother from Florida to an assisted living facility nearby and so that is also taking up a lot of her time. So I'm not really sure if I'll end up having a shower or not.
We are still having a sip and see because that gives out of town family and friends a set time to come in and see the baby, but since we are having a shower we will make sure to put something about no presents on the invite. However if you're not having a shower, people may want to bring gifts to the sip and see and then you have the advantage of time with your baby to know what they need and what they don't. It can definitely work out no matter which way you end up doing it, but I would just go to your mom privately and ask if she knows if a shower is being planned for you or not so that you can plan accordingly. She may have just assumed that she would be throwing you one and forgot to let you in on it, like my mom, or maybe she really hasn't thought about it but would be open to throwing you one.
A friend did ask me if she could throw us a shower, which was nice...that will be in October. But it sucked that my mom didn't want to throw me one...and the one that will be in town? My parents aren't interested in going. They said they would get the "leftovers" of my registry so they don't have to buy any of the big things.
I'm pretty much over it, but yeah. It sucks when family doesn't want to help make big transitions special.
My thing is I really want to celebrate with my own family too, and my best friend says she wants to do something but I'm feeling like she is too busy to throw something. My grandmother would totally facilitate something if she were able, but she's currently in a hospital bed in her living room. When I found out I was pregnant she wasn't even cognizant. Now she's alert and talking and in her right mind (DH believes the family talking to her about having a new baby has brought her back to us, which whether he's right or not really makes me emotional and comforted) but still stuck in that bed. This is why we did the gender reveal around her.
(I'm so long winded. Oh well.)
I have just been a little pouty (which I'm blaming on pregnancy) that nothing seems to be happening on my family's side. Like you said @brittnic86, I could throw something together so easily and have it at her house there in the living room so I can share it with her. If she could I know she would do it but you know, life.
This is why living 2.5 hrs away is hard. The more pregnant I get the more swollen I get riding in the car. It's the only swelling I've experienced. Every time we travel it's an event and I need a day to chill and recover usually. Once Eaton's born, an embargo on travel will exist. Actually, it will probably start mid-November the way DH has been talking. Not sure if we could convince anyone to come to a sip and see at our house, and even if we could my grandmother couldn't come.
/whiny, pout-fest.
*I'm also a little concerned my dad's extended family might get offended at not getting a shower invite and just assume I had one and didn't invite them. Not sure what to do about that if a shower doesn't happen.
But don't panic if no one has assumed the responsibility yet, after I said yes to my friend. My SIL and MIL both were upset because apparently they were planning on throwing me one and were pissed that someone else had offered and I had excepted. I told them both I was sure my friend would love to co-host, and could use the extra help but they declined. Sometimes you just can't win!
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Maybe I'm just too much of a planner? But that gives us like a month to plan and get invites out? I swear my mom would be like the week before she wanted to have it, asking for addresses.
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