@Ssoccerball Congratulations on your twin squishies!!! Rest up mama
Even the though of having sex is enough to make me cringe. I can barely turn over in bed without breaking a sweat, huffing like 3 pack a day smoker, and overall wanting to die. I might change my mind in a few weeks when I'm like "get this baby out now" (although I do want baby to cook for as long as possible, but everyone has their limits). DH is less than thrilled, since we haven't had sex since around 23 weeks when the pelvic restrictions were lifted once my previa resolved. But I figure I'm an awesome wife, because last week I bought him porn and a Costco tri-pack of cookies. The look on his face was totally worth the looks I got in the sex shop buying him porn. But at this point, I just want to keep him happy, but off me, so it's win win.
Yayyyy congrats @Ssoccerball!! Love those little faces!!
Mildly productive weekend over here! Did a bunch of paint touch ups on Saturday, finally started reading Happiest Baby on the Block, and did some general organizing (i.e., just touching all of babies things). Yesterday we went to our first baby class which included a breast feeding portion and an infant care portion-- now at least I feel like I'm about 1% ready.
This morning I'm off to Jury Duty.. Wish me luck and a speedy release!!
@Ssoccerball congrats mama! Ben and Brooke look absolutely perfect! Enjoy time with your babies! Glad to hear there's no NICU time!
@SLou24 we are getting the happiest baby book soon too. Some of our friends highly recommended it. Also, good luck with jury duty! Hopefully you won't get stuck there long.
@Ssoccerball Congratulations!! You made a couple of absolutely beautiful babies!!
About the sex... at this point is anyone enjoying it, or is it really more of a gift? If there is anyone out there enjoying it, what position are you using? I think I either need a pep talk, or to follow @yellowrose314 brilliant lead and just encourage the long shower... Minus the cookies. I will keep those.
Natural M/C 03.26.2012 at 10w2d Charlotte born at 28w3d due to severe IUGR on 12.24.2012 Merry Christmas! Missed M/C discovered 12.22.2014 at 8w1d measuring 6w3d 2015 was a year to test strength of both body and character, but it led us to this... BFP 01.26.2016 EDD 9.30.2016
@Cricket Bug IE the sex. I am only comfortable laying down on my side with him also laying down. If he is up while I am laying down its too deep and uncomfortable. But I still enjoy it. It's definitely hard though. even giving BJs is difficult bc of the belly lol
@Cricket Bug It's not as good as usual, but I still enjoy sex. We cycle through 3 different positions because I never know which one will feel best: me on top, doggie, and me lying on the bed on my back (propped with pillows so I'm not flat) with him standing. Our biggest obstacle is the bump. Me on top hurts my hips the most and doggie sometimes feels like he's stabbing me, which is why it can be weird and awkward for a while before we figure out which works best for the occasion.
@SLou24 Good luck with jury duty! Hopefully they take one look at your belly and let you go! Unless you want to do jury duty... I really was hoping I'd get picked when I got called for it, but it didn't happen. I did get a tiny little check for the time I wasted that morning, and kind of found the process to be interesting.
@Megan324 Me on top was the only way we did it at the end when I was pregnant for McKenna. But it hurts my hips so bad this time that it's not my first choice.
@camichael84 thanks!! I'm actually split on this one.. Part of me feels like this is a huge PITA and bad timing, and then the other (irresponsible) part of me is like "weee! A day off of work!" I'm a child.
@SLou24 good luck! I had jury duty 2 weeks ago, and I actually got picked and put on a trial. I was miserably uncomfortable- but I made $15 and they gave me tons of free water bottles and juice!
@Ssoccerball they're beautiful! What a great surprise!
Re sex: I'm still enjoying it- in fact I just had a random spurt of sexy-time hormones in the past week or so. The only position that still feels good is missionary with my butt propped up high on a bunch of pillows, and he has to be pretty careful about keeping it slow. It's not exactly graceful or sexy to get into, but hey, it works!
I hate that nesting is referred to as this big hormonal thing. It's the practical thing to do! I'm going to have people in and out of my house for a month. I'm literally going to have my hands full most of the time. If I want to clean out the linen closet, it's because it's a mess and there. There will be guests going in it, and it is probably not going to be a better time to do this in the next year. It isn't about being a crazy pregnant lady.
THIS! I do the same thing around Christmas when I organize and clean to make new room for new things and because I host Christmas dinner. When am I going to have time for this with the new baby? I just like having a clean house! All about bring practical.
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
@Ssoccerball they are beautiful!!! Congratulations!!
re: sex. I still enjoy it! I just lay on my back and then worry she's on an artery. Haha it's definitely way, way, way abbreviated though. I'm fine with that!
Sex hasn't happened since start of third tri. Way to uncomfortable for me. I will however hop in the shower with him and try to help the poor guy out but honestly that's happening pretty rarely too with him back harvesting.
Guess what guys? Our favorite girl, Crinkle Cut, got her promotion!! And her boss asked her how much she wants, because he's going to do his best to get it for her! Because she's so deserving!! And selfless! And a great worker!! And really cares about her job!! And wants a career! And doesn't complain every time you give her work, and I mean every time! Yaaaaaaaay.
Morning all! I have a TON of work to do this week and just .. exhausted. Didn't sleep well last night, hips were killing me, bump was achy. I shouldn't complain - I have slept really well this whole time, but things seem to be going downhill fast. Only 3ish more weeks until I'll be sleeping on my belly again.
@Ssoccerball - you rock my world! Love seeing a Tuesday mama have her baby.. adorable munchkins!!
I haven't been on in 3-4 days and there are several new pages of randoms. I quickly skimmed through them but didn't really read any. I did get caught up on the birth announcement thread and it is so awesome seeing baby pictures! Today is exactly 1 month from my due date - I am very excited!
Last night DS fell out of his crib. He was trying to climb out and he basically fell from the top of the rail onto the hard wood floor. I have never seen DH run so quickly across the house! He banged the back of his heaad pretty hard but seems to be fine otherwise. Neither of us want to ever experience that again, so at 2 AM, we were moving the crib out of his room and the toddler bed in. Now we get the fun of trying to get a 21 month old to stay in bed all night. Sleep is for the weak, right??
We've only had sex a couple times this pregnancy.. I think it's time to start up regular sex to A. Help ripen the ol' cervix and see what we can do about that, and B. because 6+ weeks of no sex is on the horizon so might as well get a few times in to hold us over. Will most likely do me on top or on my back.. either of those positions have been fine on the few times we've done it (and during the 40+ week period last time)
@Ssoccerball Congrats!!! They are so cute and I love the combination of names that you chose.
Sex is still enjoyable at the moment with modifications. Me on top is popular, spooning along with side lying, kinda scissors type position. Missionary is out - I feel like I'm going to suffocate!!
At 3x this past weekend, I think I might just be trying to compensate to the dry spell that I know is coming soon!
I think I need to ask @RG1 for some help from her research - weren't you the one that looked up some pregnancy sex to see how it's done? I, at nearly 29 years old, don't even understand how it's feasible to have sex laying side by side. Maybe that should have been a FFFC. I'm no prude by any means, I just don't understand the logistics of some positions and the movement that would be required.
I think I need to ask @RG1 for some help from her research - weren't you the one that looked up some pregnancy sex to see how it's done? I, at nearly 29 years old, don't even understand how it's feasible to have sex laying side by side. Maybe that should have been a FFFC. I'm no prude by any means, I just don't understand the logistics of some positions and the movement that would be required.
Haha yes I looked up "pregnancy porn" to see it in action. I also don't understand that position. H and I were actually talking this morning about spooning and he said he'd never done it, and I said I haven't either. I said I feel like it would just be like him giving me a big hug and humping me. Doesn't sound pleasant. Anyone have success with spooning?
I think I need to ask @RG1 for some help from her research - weren't you the one that looked up some pregnancy sex to see how it's done? I, at nearly 29 years old, don't even understand how it's feasible to have sex laying side by side. Maybe that should have been a FFFC. I'm no prude by any means, I just don't understand the logistics of some positions and the movement that would be required.
As a bachelorette party gift, one of my friends gave me a book with lots of different sex positions. When I was late in pregnancy with DS, my husband started reading it since it had a chapter on pregnancy positions. I will review later today and post some of the recommendations. While some of the positions are interesting, a lot of the positions (pregnancy and nonpregnancy) that the book has seems to require the male to have porn-star status size to make the penetration pleasurable enough for me. Unfortunately, my husband is not a porn star.
@marajay6 Well those recommendations might just work for us, since H IS a porn star!
i know a lot of books recommend standing. Like woman facing the wall for balance. But that never works for us because we are the same height so the angle just doesn't work
@Ssoccerball Congratulations! Ben and Brooke are precious! So happy to hear you are all doing well!
Here's something random - as I was writing Thank-you notes following DD's birthday party last week, I remembered writing them after my showers with her and then again after she was born. I had forgotten how many gifts we received after her birth and didn't have any thank you cards or stamps on hand (because I figured I was "finished" after the shower thank yous!) I was out running errands yesterday and just bought a pack of 50 cute but generic thank-you cards and a book of stamps so I'm ready to just knock those puppies out after this baby is born! Might be something to throw on your shopping lists in the next few weeks.
I think I need to ask @RG1 for some help from her research - weren't you the one that looked up some pregnancy sex to see how it's done? I, at nearly 29 years old, don't even understand how it's feasible to have sex laying side by side. Maybe that should have been a FFFC. I'm no prude by any means, I just don't understand the logistics of some positions and the movement that would be required.
Haha yes I looked up "pregnancy porn" to see it in action. I also don't understand that position. H and I were actually talking this morning about spooning and he said he'd never done it, and I said I haven't either. I said I feel like it would just be like him giving me a big hug and humping me. Doesn't sound pleasant. Anyone have success with spooning?
Yes, we have success with spooning. It's basically like doggy style, but you get to lie down! Usually, I need a pillow under my hip to prop me up to the right height, and DH isn't always right up against me in a traditional "spoon". Sometimes it takes a minute to make sure he's not hitting anywhere sensitive, but that's pretty well true of any position these days. This was definitely part of a double-success weekend for us, though!
re: sex. Still do it, still love it. Occasionally there are times where I'm just not into as much and it's uncomfortable and I feel like a tub of mayo, but I make it work. H's sex drive is off the wall, he will not let a big ass belly get in the way of his nookie
as for positions, the most comfortable for me is on top and the side angle (not sure if that has a technical name for it).
**** okay so I had to google side sex positions to check out the names out of curiosity and the one in referring to is called the Sensual Spoon. How sweet
@JennM205 - that's a great tip! I actually just found 1/2 box of generic Thank yous left over from our wedding 4 years ago, have pink polka dots on them. I got so excited to use them in the future.. not sure why I hadn't yet!
I think I need to ask @RG1 for some help from her research - weren't you the one that looked up some pregnancy sex to see how it's done? I, at nearly 29 years old, don't even understand how it's feasible to have sex laying side by side. Maybe that should have been a FFFC. I'm no prude by any means, I just don't understand the logistics of some positions and the movement that would be required.
Haha yes I looked up "pregnancy porn" to see it in action. I also don't understand that position. H and I were actually talking this morning about spooning and he said he'd never done it, and I said I haven't either. I said I feel like it would just be like him giving me a big hug and humping me. Doesn't sound pleasant. Anyone have success with spooning?
This is what I just wrote about. I guess it's like half spooning half doggie? It isn't the best position to please us ladies but I think, from what I know from H, that it's good for the guys? You never know unless you try!!
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Even the though of having sex is enough to make me cringe. I can barely turn over in bed without breaking a sweat, huffing like 3 pack a day smoker, and overall wanting to die. I might change my mind in a few weeks when I'm like "get this baby out now" (although I do want baby to cook for as long as possible, but everyone has their limits). DH is less than thrilled, since we haven't had sex since around 23 weeks when the pelvic restrictions were lifted once my previa resolved. But I figure I'm an awesome wife, because last week I bought him porn and a Costco tri-pack of cookies. The look on his face was totally worth the looks I got in the sex shop buying him porn. But at this point, I just want to keep him happy, but off me, so it's win win.
Mildly productive weekend over here! Did a bunch of paint touch ups on Saturday, finally started reading Happiest Baby on the Block, and did some general organizing (i.e., just touching all of babies things). Yesterday we went to our first baby class which included a breast feeding portion and an infant care portion-- now at least I feel like I'm about 1% ready.
This morning I'm off to Jury Duty.. Wish me luck and a speedy release!!
@SLou24 we are getting the happiest baby book soon too. Some of our friends highly recommended it. Also, good luck with jury duty! Hopefully you won't get stuck there long.
About the sex... at this point is anyone enjoying it, or is it really more of a gift? If there is anyone out there enjoying it, what position are you using? I think I either need a pep talk, or to follow @yellowrose314 brilliant lead and just encourage the long shower... Minus the cookies. I will keep those.
Charlotte born at 28w3d due to severe IUGR on 12.24.2012 Merry Christmas!
Missed M/C discovered 12.22.2014 at 8w1d measuring 6w3d
2015 was a year to test strength of both body and character, but it led us to this... BFP 01.26.2016 EDD 9.30.2016
But I still enjoy it.
It's definitely hard though.
even giving BJs is difficult bc of the belly lol
You deserve a gold medal lol
I haven't been able to for weeks.
doggie works for us but he gets too into it and it starts to hurt my poor cervix.
@Ssoccerball they're beautiful! What a great surprise!
Re sex: I'm still enjoying it- in fact I just had a random spurt of sexy-time hormones in the past week or so. The only position that still feels good is missionary with my butt propped up high on a bunch of pillows, and he has to be pretty careful about keeping it slow. It's not exactly graceful or sexy to get into, but hey, it works!
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
re: sex. I still enjoy it! I just lay on my back and then worry she's on an artery. Haha it's definitely way, way, way abbreviated though. I'm fine with that!
DS1 -- 9/30/2016
Beyond uncomfortable. I commend you ladies still fighting the good fight.
@Ssoccerball - you rock my world! Love seeing a Tuesday mama have her baby.. adorable munchkins!!
Last night DS fell out of his crib. He was trying to climb out and he basically fell from the top of the rail onto the hard wood floor. I have never seen DH run so quickly across the house! He banged the back of his heaad pretty hard but seems to be fine otherwise. Neither of us want to ever experience that again, so at 2 AM, we were moving the crib out of his room and the toddler bed in. Now we get the fun of trying to get a 21 month old to stay in bed all night. Sleep is for the weak, right??
Sex is still enjoyable at the moment with modifications. Me on top is popular, spooning along with side lying, kinda scissors type position. Missionary is out - I feel like I'm going to suffocate!!
At 3x this past weekend, I think I might just be trying to compensate to the dry spell that I know is coming soon!
i know a lot of books recommend standing. Like woman facing the wall for balance. But that never works for us because we are the same height so the angle just doesn't work
Here's something random - as I was writing Thank-you notes following DD's birthday party last week, I remembered writing them after my showers with her and then again after she was born. I had forgotten how many gifts we received after her birth and didn't have any thank you cards or stamps on hand (because I figured I was "finished" after the shower thank yous!) I was out running errands yesterday and just bought a pack of 50 cute but generic thank-you cards and a book of stamps so I'm ready to just knock those puppies out after this baby is born! Might be something to throw on your shopping lists in the next few weeks.
re: sex. Still do it, still love it. Occasionally there are times where I'm just not into as much and it's uncomfortable and I feel like a tub of mayo, but I make it work. H's sex drive is off the wall, he will not let a big ass belly get in the way of his nookie
as for positions, the most comfortable for me is on top and the side angle (not sure if that has a technical name for it).
**** okay so I had to google side sex positions to check out the names out of curiosity and the one in referring to is called the Sensual Spoon. How sweet
DD #1 3/26/13
Mo/Mo twins MMC 3/31/14
DD #2 3/31/15
DD #3 8/25/16
DD #1 3/26/13
Mo/Mo twins MMC 3/31/14
DD #2 3/31/15
DD #3 8/25/16