Aaaaand just like that I'm on a jury. Wonderful timing with my busiest time at work and weeks away from maternity leave. Gah. I seriously almost started crying when they told me I was selected.. Cue hormones and everyone in there probably thinking I'm a raging lunatic.
How long did they say the trial was? I never would've picked you had I been one of the attorneys. Did they ask if anyone had any hardships? Being 8+ months pregnant is a hardship in my eyes.
Make friends with the courtroom staff. They are generally very accommodating.
@PSUBecky23 I can't believe it either!! I even bumped up my due date to make it seem like I'm even more pregnant than I am! They said it'll likely be 2 weeks. I guess they really wanted an overly emotional train wreck in that jury box.. Maybe I look really sympathetic or something. And based on what they already told us about it, I know I'll be crying, acting like a big ol' fool.
@PSUBecky23 I can't believe it either!! I even bumped up my due date to make it seem like I'm even more pregnant than I am! They said it'll likely be 2 weeks. I guess they really wanted an overly emotional train wreck in that jury box.. Maybe I look really sympathetic or something. And based on what they already told us about it, I know I'll be crying, acting like a big ol' fool.
Wow, that's crazy. I don't know any attorney that would've picked you, or any judge, for that matter, that wouldn't have excused you. Take care of yourself. Seriously, if it starts to affect your health in any way, make it known. Jurors get excused in the middle of trials all the time.
@JennM205 I have orgasms during actual sex, but not without clitoral stimulation. Penatration alone doesn't do it for me, and I don't understand how it could for any woman.
@AnnaS930 Sorry you're feeling that way. I understand needing adult interaction. I love staying home with McKenna, but I'm also so ready when DH gets home from work. I hope the Cap'n Crunch helped you feel a little better.
Prego coworker is managing her Gestational Diabetes.. she has had some high numbers after pizza and ice cream and has determined that what she has a hard time processing is "the carbs" ... no shit, sherlock. At least she now realizes that the diagnosis is legit.
She has also had a rash that she was convinced was PUPPS or Cholestasis. She left work today because the spots got larger and changed in color. OB told her it's a fungal infection common in people who work with cows... she thinks she got it from the family of a wedding she went to a few weeks ago. For all the early stories, she is having the most symptomatic pregnancy I've ever heard of. Almost feel bad for her...
@AnnaS930 I was feeling similarly recently. H and I NeVER do anything together. Like, ever. We literally never leave the house together on the weekend. Yet when his friends want to golf, or there's a race he can go to, he's there. But one dinner out with me, or even me and DD, gets cancelled. Annoying.
@JennM205 never with just sex, my bean always gets a vibe!
@SLou24 I was chosen at the beginning of the year, early pregnant and hella emotional for a case of 9 counts of child molestation. just pretend you're watching a tv show! It really is interesting to see how it all works if you can remove yourself from the situation.
@camichael84 - it semi-helped. Still feel in a bit of a funk but I'm dealing. It's just hard, we see each other for just a couple hours a night. I interact with others at work but not a ton... I miss looking forward to weekends, I still do for spending time with my Emmett-man (who now pounds his chest and says his name is "Hem-ut!"), but never see my husband. Maybe work will keep being crappy for him and I can convince him to be a stay at home dad!
@MrsVoorhees love it only for solidarity. It's tough with my husband working weekends, a lot of the time it's not his choice not to be around.. but when he has an opportunity to be home, I want him to choose us. I have to emphasize that to him but I can be really dramatic so we'll see how it goes.
@SLou24 That is crazy that they picked you to be a juror on a trail expected to last that long! I hope it goes quicker than that or that you can get excused.
@SLou24 - That is insane that they would put an 8 month pregnant lady on the Jury for a 2 week trial! It seems like the lawyers and judge would want to avoid the risk of having a member of the jury go into labor during the trial!
But with all of the sex talk, I'm hearing a lot of "sex and O's" in the same conversation. Those two things do not go hand in hand for me...in fact, I think I can honestly say that I've never O'd during sex. I thought that was fairly common. So either I'm missing something or you women (that have mentioned it) are all the super lucky minority!?
I hardly ever O during sex and right now we can't have unprotected sex since I am a little crazy after DH went to Puerto Rico in March and you know the Zika virus was confirmed there so we have to improvise. It's working out for both of us right now. I am preferring it actually.
@SLou24 I am also shocked that they would pick you for a 2-week trial! Hopefully it goes faster and/or you can be excused at some point, if it comes to that. You and baby come first!
@AnnaS930 Has your DH responded back to your text? I know how you feel - torn between wanting him around and feeling like the uncool wife. DH and I go through that a lot, too. In our situation, DH always backs out of stuff out of guilt, which makes me feel bad and we end up in a funk over it anyway. It's like your damned either way. Hopefully a good chat with him will help...? If not, just know you're not alone!
@AnnaS930 DH worked nights while I worked days while we were engaged. I hated it because we hardly ever saw each other. We lived together, and I still felt like I constantly missed him. And we didn't have a child then, so I can't imagine how much more those feelings must be prevalent for you. I hope you all get some quality time together after baby is here.
Prego coworker is managing her Gestational Diabetes.. she has had some high numbers after pizza and ice cream and has determined that what she has a hard time processing is "the carbs" ... no shit, sherlock. At least she now realizes that the diagnosis is legit.
What the hell did she think gestational diabetes was??? I don't know if she's as clueless as she sounds or if I am just taking for granted knowing things about GD from having it.
@AnnaS930 DH worked nights while I worked days while we were engaged. I hated it because we hardly ever saw each other. We lived together, and I still felt like I constantly missed him. And we didn't have a child then, so I can't imagine how much more those feelings must be prevalent for you. I hope you all get some quality time together after baby is here.
Yes. He will be taking 4 weeks off, it will be a huge adjustment but I'm hoping we can really spend some quality time together. As it is now, luckily we do Emmett's tubby and bedtime together so from 7:30pm on we watch TV and catch up with each other - unless he's working a closing shift, which happens a couple nights a week. And that gives us either a few hours.. or an hour or too depending on when my eyelids get too heavy
@camichael84 I was just as shocked I think my response was like "Yeah... I mean, oh ok. Trouble with carbs, sure" I was really dumbfounded. When I worked retail pharmacy I was really good at simplifying things and talking to patients and not making them feel like idiots... I think I lost some of that over the years, and expected more from her. I don't know.
They might be thinking of a jury member goes out or goes "crazy" they can use it for miss trial. That said I'm super jealous as I want so badly to do jury duty but haven't gotten lucky yet.
you could see if your doc will do a note about the stress increasing risk of you really want off
@JennM205 I don't think anyone really has orgasims from that alone. In my experience they usually don't know what a real O feels like.
Maybe some women really do and I'm hella jealous but for now I'm not convinced lol
Idk what in the world is going on with those quote boxes!
I'm in the minority that does- but it is definitely not like a romance novel! It has to be the exact right angle for a fairly long amount of time. Honestly, it's harder to O from that then from good ol' fashioned clitoral stimulation, so we normally don't even try really
I've been called for jury duty twice in the past four years, but I'm not eligible as I'm not a US Citizen, but rather a permanent resident. I am eligible for citizenship next year though.
@MrsVoorhees love it only for solidarity. It's tough with my husband working weekends, a lot of the time it's not his choice not to be around.. but when he has an opportunity to be home, I want him to choose us. I have to emphasize that to him but I can be really dramatic so we'll see how it goes.
My husband will spend all the time in the world with us, at home. He always gets anxious when we have plans out somewhere. Then once he goes and he's out, he has fun. He's quite a hermit. It makes me insane.
They might be thinking of a jury member goes out or goes "crazy" they can use it for miss trial. That said I'm super jealous as I want so badly to do jury duty but haven't gotten lucky yet.
you could see if your doc will do a note about the stress increasing risk of you really want off
I was the need that was excited to be called for jury duty, and even more excited to be chosen for a trial...until I was actually there, on the jury, deciding someone's fate. Very sobering experience, but honestly, a really, really cool one too! I would totally do it again even though I don't have to for 5 years.
@megan324@jennm205 Also not to AW like @slou24, but I can O from sex (but not during pregnancy). Only way is if I'm on top so there is also clitoral stimulation. In fact, we usually O at the same time! I guess I should consider myself lucky
We occasionally O together, and I actually prefer it when he finishes right after I'm done as opposed to at the same time. It kind of extends my O. I also miss good, non-pregnant sex.
@SLou24--I was summoned for jury duty when I was 8 mo pregnant with LO but didn't have to report. I was summoned again at 8 months pregnant with this baby (only times I have ever been summoned!) I almost took my chances since I figured no one would choose a pregnant lady. Guess I was wrong and it's a good thing I got a letter from my doc to exuse me since I have appointments twice a week due to high risk monitoring. Hope things go swiftly for you!
@izzetoot yay for baby day! It's very hard but take it easy and try not to think about the fluid levels. We're rooting for you ans hoping things go smoothly. Can't wait to see LO!
@AnnaS930 love tit for support. I'm so sorry you're feeling down about this and it is completely justified. I think your text was great and talking is a good idea. I know it can be hard as you said, I get it, I sometimes have issues telling H how I feel about something without getting too emotional or him thinking I'm being dramatic. I would consider what your best outcome would be (I'm guessing that he stays home) and what a good compromise would be (probably that he really understands how you feel so that he's more diligent about spending more of his free time with you guys in the future, even if he does go anyway). I'm guessing he might be thinking too practically, like a lot of men that are not pregnant do, and thinks he should be fine to go since 1. Baby probably won't come this weekend and 2. You'll spend tons of time together in the four weeks he's off. He might not have even thought of staying home to spend more time together.
So behind on catching up with the randoms and other posts! Sunday morning I woke up super early, remembering that I'd volunteered to post the Weekend Ticker Change. No problem! Get on my computer (which had been working FINE the day before) and everything is loading SUPER slow. And it just gets worse and worse. Slower and slower the more I try to make it better.
I realize something big is wrong for sure - but oops, guess what? I didn't back up my work onto an external hard drive for nearly a month (so so so smart) Cue panic. Loosing that much work would put me SO FAR BEHIND that I wouldn't be able to catch up by the time LO is here. Lots and lots of panic later and with teamwork involving DH and my mom, we finally got the most important file off my laptop and onto a flash drive. WHEW!
Computer continued being nuts, and eventually wouldn't even load the desktop. Took it in today and was told I'd have to go without for 3-7 days, which wouldn't be a huge sacrifice if my laptop wasn't the ONLY computer we have that has my work program on it. Without the program I can't open the file on the flash drive. LOL! YAY!
The upside to all of this? This month was apparently my LAST MONTH for my computer to be under warranty. If this would have happened next month I would have had to pay for everything, but now I don't have to worry about cost, just time. Small blessings.
Gonna go back now and read the 300+ posts I've missed since Sat. (Yikes!)
@Sporty1216 I thought there was no way in the world is get chosen, so I didn't even think about it! Now I'm also realizing I have an appt this Friday, so I'm not sure what to do about that. It's just a routine check up, I'm not high risk, but I guess I should call tomorrow and figure out if I can reschedule!
@MrsVoorhees I think that's one thing that's really stressing me out about this is having so much responsibility to decide someone's fate. I am also an empath and super emotional situations, even when they don't involve me in the least, really tend to hit me hard.
@Sporty1216 I thought there was no way in the world is get chosen, so I didn't even think about it! Now I'm also realizing I have an appt this Friday, so I'm not sure what to do about that. It's just a routine check up, I'm not high risk, but I guess I should call tomorrow and figure out if I can reschedule!
@MrsVoorhees I think that's one thing that's really stressing me out about this is having so much responsibility to decide someone's fate. I am also an empath and super emotional situations, even when they don't involve me in the least, really tend to hit me hard.
I had a really hard time. It was a stepdad that molested his stepdaughters, but they didn't tell anyone until they were in trouble for messing around with boys. He was totally, 100% guilty...but his parents were there. And hearing his mama sobbing while they read our verdict...I will never forget that! But still a really cool experience. Just remember that if you find them guilty, THEY were the ones deciding their fate, not you. You just served their justice.
But with all of the sex talk, I'm hearing a lot of "sex and O's" in the same conversation. Those two things do not go hand in hand for me...in fact, I think I can honestly say that I've never O'd during sex. I thought that was fairly common. So either I'm missing something or you women (that have mentioned it) are all the super lucky minority!?
@JennM205 Before DH, I think I had one O with penetration, otherwise I could only do it with oral sex. DH was a little perturbed that I couldn't, until he learnt that most women can't without clit stimulation, and I fall into that category. Lucky for me, he was super open to introducing some toys to help with that. I almost always use a small vibrator during sex, and it's freaking amazing, he loves it, I love it, it's a win win. I highly recommend the WeVibe if you can afford it, but even one of those cheap pocket vibes work wonders for me. I don't care how I O as long as it happens.
@AnnaS930 My DH is the same! I'm finally off of pelvic rest after nearly a month...and we know there's going to be a dry spell of at least six weeks postpartum...so these are our last week(s) to take advantage. But he's pretty uninterested, from what I can tell. I told him yesterday that I'd be interested though I admitted it might be awkward. He immediately responded that the awkwardness isn't what's bothering him, it's the fact that it has a "purpose". So now I feel like he thinks the only reason I want to is to jump-start labor and I feel bad. Though, if I'm being honest with myself...my reasons are probably 25% to please him (he's been amazing through this pregnancy and has picked up so much of my slack, I'd like to thank him), 5% for me...or maybe 1%...and the rest is to get that cervix nice and ripe. Sigh.
For some reason this just made me feel icky. Like bizarre fruit.
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How long did they say the trial was? I never would've picked you had I been one of the attorneys. Did they ask if anyone had any hardships? Being 8+ months pregnant is a hardship in my eyes.
Make friends with the courtroom staff. They are generally very accommodating.
Wow, that's crazy. I don't know any attorney that would've picked you, or any judge, for that matter, that wouldn't have excused you. Take care of yourself. Seriously, if it starts to affect your health in any way, make it known. Jurors get excused in the middle of trials all the time.
@AnnaS930 Sorry you're feeling that way. I understand needing adult interaction. I love staying home with McKenna, but I'm also so ready when DH gets home from work. I hope the Cap'n Crunch helped you feel a little better.
@izzetoot Yay for baby time! Good luck!
She has also had a rash that she was convinced was PUPPS or Cholestasis. She left work today because the spots got larger and changed in color. OB told her it's a fungal infection common in people who work with cows... she thinks she got it from the family of a wedding she went to a few weeks ago. For all the early stories, she is having the most symptomatic pregnancy I've ever heard of. Almost feel bad for her...
@izzetoot OMG baby day!!!! Yay!
@AnnaS930 I was feeling similarly recently. H and I NeVER do anything together. Like, ever. We literally never leave the house together on the weekend. Yet when his friends want to golf, or there's a race he can go
to, he's there. But one dinner out with me, or even me and DD, gets cancelled. Annoying.
@JennM205 never with just sex, my
bean always gets a vibe!
@SLou24 I was chosen at the beginning of the year, early pregnant and hella emotional for a case of 9
counts of child molestation.
tv show! It really is interesting to see how it all works if you can remove yourself from the situation.
@AnnaS930 Has your DH responded back to your text? I know how you feel - torn between wanting him around and feeling like the uncool wife. DH and I go through that a lot, too. In our situation, DH always backs out of stuff out of guilt, which makes me feel bad and we end up in a funk over it anyway. It's like your damned either way. Hopefully a good chat with him will help...? If not, just know you're not alone!
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@SLou24 crazy! I'm so shocked they chose you to be on the jury! Hopefully it won't be that bad or you can be excused.
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you could see if your doc will do a note about the stress increasing risk of you really want off
I'm in the minority that does- but it is definitely not like a romance novel! It has to be the exact right angle for a fairly long amount of time. Honestly, it's harder to O from that then from good ol' fashioned clitoral stimulation, so we normally don't even try really
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@SLou24--I was summoned for jury duty when I was 8 mo pregnant with LO but didn't have to report. I was summoned again at 8 months pregnant with this baby (only times I have ever been summoned!) I almost took my chances since I figured no one would choose a pregnant lady. Guess I was wrong and it's a good thing I got a letter from my doc to exuse me since I have appointments twice a week due to high risk monitoring. Hope things go swiftly for you!
@AnnaS930 love tit for support. I'm so sorry you're feeling down about this and it is completely justified. I think your text was great and talking is a good idea. I know it can be hard as you said, I get it, I sometimes have issues telling H how I feel about something without getting too emotional or him thinking I'm being dramatic. I would consider what your best outcome would be (I'm guessing that he stays home) and what a good compromise would be (probably that he really understands how you feel so that he's more diligent about spending more of his free time with you guys in the future, even if he does go anyway). I'm guessing he might be thinking too practically, like a lot of men that are not pregnant do, and thinks he should be fine to go since 1. Baby probably won't come this weekend and 2. You'll spend tons of time together in the four weeks he's off. He might not have even thought of staying home to spend more time together.
I realize something big is wrong for sure - but oops, guess what? I didn't back up my work onto an external hard drive for nearly a month (so so so smart) Cue panic. Loosing that much work would put me SO FAR BEHIND that I wouldn't be able to catch up by the time LO is here. Lots and lots of panic later and with teamwork involving DH and my mom, we finally got the most important file off my laptop and onto a flash drive. WHEW!
Computer continued being nuts, and eventually wouldn't even load the desktop. Took it in today and was told I'd have to go without for 3-7 days, which wouldn't be a huge sacrifice if my laptop wasn't the ONLY computer we have that has my work program on it. Without the program I can't open the file on the flash drive. LOL! YAY!
The upside to all of this? This month was apparently my LAST MONTH for my computer to be under warranty. If this would have happened next month I would have had to pay for everything, but now I don't have to worry about cost, just time. Small blessings.
Gonna go back now and read the 300+ posts I've missed since Sat. (Yikes!)
@MrsVoorhees I think that's one thing that's really stressing me out about this is having so much responsibility to decide someone's fate. I am also an empath and super emotional situations, even when they don't involve me in the least, really tend to hit me hard.
for messing around with boys. He was totally, 100% guilty...but his parents were there. And hearing his mama sobbing while they read our verdict...I will never forget that! But still a really cool experience. Just remember that if you find them guilty, THEY were the ones deciding their fate, not you. You just served their justice.
Charlotte born at 28w3d due to severe IUGR on 12.24.2012 Merry Christmas!
Missed M/C discovered 12.22.2014 at 8w1d measuring 6w3d
2015 was a year to test strength of both body and character, but it led us to this... BFP 01.26.2016 EDD 9.30.2016