@blondie080300 I'm so sorry for your loss. You are not being selfish at all by wanting to focus on you and your upcoming birth. You have a lot going on in your life as it is, so take the time you need to grieve and focus on your needs too
@blondie080300 I am so so sorry for your loss. My husband had a somewhat similar loss 6 years ago, well before we had a kid. It wasn't easy for me, but was devastating for him. I can't imagine adding the emotional turmoil of becoming a father right after a tragedy like that. Or being 8 months pregnant while supporting H during that time! All the emotions will happen, and you are dealing with it so well already. Big internet hugs. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Thank-you so much, everyone. It really means a lot and I found myself tearing up as I read your messages of care and support. I haven't been able to cry yet so this is just what I needed. THANK-YOU, ALL.
Married: 3/21/15 First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
Sorry so late but congratulations to @UnwritteN12 and @frogdog06!!!! Such beautiful babies and a warm light on my day. I am so happy you are all doing so well!!
Married: 3/21/15 First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
Just seeing a of this. I am so so sorry Blondie, how shocking and devastating....thinking about you all and thankful you are carrying a little blessing that will surely do a lot of good in bringing some joy back to the family....
@mom2adoodle Dec 14 made a pretty big fb group (that I personally didn't care for), and those of us that had done tons of posting in similar threads to this Randoms made a smaller fb group (20-25 of us?) And is at about a dozen really active members about 2 years later. We didn't make a big deal of it and didn't speak of the other group in either one (the small group never carried convos over from the big group, etc) as there was no intention to be mean girls just wanted to keep it super personal and intimate. All this to say I'm semi-interedted in an overall fb group and super interested in one of Dec Randoms regulars.
Sharing this here in case not everybody reads UO...if you've been trying to change your profile pic and weren't sure how...
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@blondie080300--I am so sorry for your loss. Suicide is so tragic and so hard to sort out emotionally. I will definitely be keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
@blondie080300 I'm so sorry for your loss. As others have said, don't forget to take care of yourself while being there for your DH and MIL. Thinking of you.
@blondie080300 what a terrible tragedy. I am so sorry for you, your husband, and family. There is no way to handle this situation, but it sounds like you are dealing with grace and compassion, which is as good as it gets.
I bet your DH would be ok with you telling one close girlfriend so you could maybe get some help putting the house together, dealing with guests, and preparing for baby. You still deserve support.
Lots of long distance internet love headed your way.
@AmMcc12 mine came yesterday! Thankfully it was a quick turnaround. I had been warring with my insurance company over who I could order from and then I got inaccurate information initially.
I had a slice of chocolate cake and it made me so itchy. I'm sensitive to chocolate so I knew it would happen. So worth it though.
@blondie080300 I'm so sorry for your loss. While it's amazing that you are being so supportive to your h and his family, please also remember to take time for yourself.
Oh yes. I have a sensitivity to sulfites so I get itchy/swell from a number of random things which also include wine! And don't get me started on my yeast sensitivity. My entire face swells up - it's so bad. I've been okay since getting pregnant but I'm starting to get flare ups again and it worries me.
@blondie080300 I am so sorry for your loss, and you and your husband are in my thoughts. I know I'm not the first to say it, but please do take time to yourself and don't stress over the small stuff.
@blondie080300 I cannot imagine the pressure you must feel to keep up a strong front for your husband and family during an already incredibly stressful time that should be one of the happiest of your life. I hope you are able to find some space for yourself and some peace, and your husband and his family are able to take great comfort and joy in the last few weeks of pregnancy and birth of your little one, and it will also help get them through this incredibly difficult thing. I am so, so sorry for your loss.
I think @geminigirl16 mentioned this before, but I miss pre-pregnancy sex so much. I feel like it's going to be YEARS before I'm sorta back to my normal self, because that's what it took last time. Hormones are a bitch and I hate lube.
@RedMar I feel like I hardly remember sex for fun already. TTC sex is hard to keep lighthearted after awhile, too... I hope BFing doesn't keep my hormones out of wack forever -_-
@mom2adoodle I think you stand a better chance at keeping regs in FB if we wait a few more months. There terms to be a lot of drop off on the BMBs once babies come. In my A14 group there was a FB group formed around this time, but it's pretty dead now. Another one started up about 6mo after babies and we still have a little over 100 members, the majority are pretty active.
I think @geminigirl16 mentioned this before, but I miss pre-pregnancy sex so much. I feel like it's going to be YEARS before I'm sorta back to my normal self, because that's what it took last time. Hormones are a bitch and I hate lube.
I knowwwww. We didn't have decent sex that didn't hurt until after I stopped breast feeding. And I BF'd Reese for 14 months
@noelani42 don't overthink it... my phrasing of regulars or whatever term I used referred to the waht, maybe 30+ who post in this thread? I instantly recognize your name, you're not giving me stranger danger mama!
@RedMar years?! I'm nervous about how sex will be after.
Try not to worry about it yet. Different women have different postpartum sex experiences. It only took maybe a couple of months, if that, before sex was back to normal for me last time. The only part that stayed awkward for a long time were the way my lactating breasts looked, and I think that bothered me more than DH.
All that said, I'm totally nervous, too, because I get that it won't necessarily be the same for me this time. But it has to be better than 3rd tri sex has been, and that has me looking forward to it.
@PSUBecky23 HA! 90+ degrees and 90% humidity - it's a great time for outdoor exercise! I think I'll have a mocktail! Maybe it's the two hours of sleep or outrageous back pain talking, but I would like very much to punch that author in her face.
And speaking of sex (and TMI) I'm fairly certain I lost my MP after sex last night. It freaks me out even though I know it means nothing regards to when labor will start. With McKenna, I didn't lose it until my water broke, and this baby needs to cook longer!
This woman is either an idiot or unrelentingly optimistic. Some pros are legit, like the RSV one. And for me in the northeast, not having to worry about weather on the way to the hospital is a big burden off my mind. (Which this lady doesn't list, so I'm assuming she comes from somewhere where it doesn't reliably snow for 6 months)
But this is not the best time to get out and exercise. It's been downright dangerous to. Temps are reaching over 100. And sure. Swimming would be nice. Too bad I don't have a pool. And a vacation would be nice too, if it was comfortable or advisable to be traveling long distances.
Hydration isn't seasonal. You can have a mock tail any damn time. It's actual summer alcoholic drinks we're missing out on right now. I'd cut this b*tch for a margarita.
And maternity clothes are cute now. Year round. I guess I didn't have to buy a special winter coat, so that may have saved me a little cash. She also doesn't mention this.
Theres no date on this article, or bio for this lady, but I have to assume that this is her first pregnancy and she wrote this in like, May at the latest.
@PSUBecky23 HA! 90+ degrees and 90% humidity - it's a great time for outdoor exercise! I think I'll have a mocktail! Maybe it's the two hours of sleep or outrageous back pain talking, but I would like very much to punch that author in her face.
I thought she had a point about the fresh fruit, though! Loved my cherries and watermelon this year!
Agree about the outdoor exercise, though. I've been forcing myself to take a walk every day to help with my GD, and I would much rather be doing it during the Spring or Fall. Or, hell, even winter.
I also really enjoy the summer vacation I couldn't take this year because I had to hoard all my PTO for my maternity leave. And yes, the bitch author of this article is a FTM. Being eight months pregnant in 100 degree heat while chasing a three year old has been super magical.
Re: August Randoms!!!
First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
All this to say I'm semi-interedted in an overall fb group and super interested in one of Dec Randoms regulars.
OK so to change your profile pic...you need to click on "my account" at the top right of your page (next to "log out") and then it should show your profile pic in a circle. Click on the circle and it gives you the option to update and upload a new pic. Let me know if you still have issues and I will screenshot pics to help
DS1 -- 9/30/2016
@frogdog06--big congrats on your precious babe!
@blondie080300 I'm so sorry for your loss. As others have said, don't forget to take care of yourself while being there for your DH and MIL. Thinking of you.
I bet your DH would be ok with you telling one close girlfriend so you could maybe get some help putting the house together, dealing with guests, and preparing for baby. You still deserve support.
Lots of long distance internet love headed your way.
Edited because spelling is hard.
I had a slice of chocolate cake and it made me so itchy. I'm sensitive to chocolate so I knew it would happen. So worth it though.
@cassiebmalek how do you survive without chocolate?!?!?!?!
DS1 -- 9/30/2016
Lol I think the last night I had to myself I watched finding Nemo and read about nipple pads
I'm nervous about how sex will be after.
All that said, I'm totally nervous, too, because I get that it won't necessarily be the same for me this time. But it has to be better than 3rd tri sex has been, and that has me looking forward to it.
But this is not the best time to get out and exercise. It's been downright dangerous to. Temps are reaching over 100. And sure. Swimming would be nice. Too bad I don't have a pool. And a vacation would be nice too, if it was comfortable or advisable to be traveling long distances.
Hydration isn't seasonal. You can have a mock tail any damn time. It's actual summer alcoholic drinks we're missing out on right now. I'd cut this b*tch for a margarita.
And maternity clothes are cute now. Year round. I guess I didn't have to buy a special winter coat, so that may have saved me a little cash. She also doesn't mention this.
Theres no date on this article, or bio for this lady, but I have to assume that this is her first pregnancy and she wrote this in like, May at the latest.
Agree about the outdoor exercise, though. I've been forcing myself to take a walk every day to help with my GD, and I would much rather be doing it during the Spring or Fall. Or, hell, even winter.