Yep, that was me @RedMar but your comment about years is frightening. Luckily, I kept reading and saw @camichael84's post which is more reassuring so I'm trying to stay optimistic about my sex life to be.
My gosh, what an entirely life changing adventure we've gotten ourselves into?! I am so happy my fiancé is embracing it all with such confidence.
Nst went great!!! She called him a show off for how much he was moving and grooving. I'm so relieved. I also had 2 contractions and it was nice to know that yes, that's what I am feeling
@megan324 Is it weird that I am slightly jealous that you now know what a contraction is?
I am still so curious to know what a contraction will feel like. All I get is sharp, stabbing pains in my pelvic or vag area which my doc tells me is ligament or nerve pain and that a contraction will be more all over and dull.
I am however in no rush to experience though - this little guy needs to stay out for a few more weeks!
Ugh, that article just reminded me that our babies are going to be less than 6 months old through peak RSV, flu, and all the contagious disease seasons. Right after my 3 yo starts preschool. She is going to be a disease monger. Ugh.
I didn't mean to freak anyone out, but I'm with @PSUBecky23 that factoring in nursing and post-partum hormones, sex was different for a while. People keep telling me "just wait, you'll want to have another baby" and I can't help but think of the invasion/toll it takes on the body that way. I haven't felt connected to DH in a long time (the way it used to be anyway) and I'm anxiously awaiting that again and hope it doesn't take as long as last time!
Post baby sex will never be the same. With two kids in the house it's usually "let's do this quick before the kids come asking for more juice". It's not as carefree as it used to be, but seeing as how this is our 3rd, it is possible.
Having been through RSV it's scary as hell and I don't look forward to that rish again with this little one as her older sister is almost 5 and in a daycare center. There was one company that was working on a treatment for it but not sure anything came of the trial.
Just remembered that my OB yesterday laughed when she pressed on my shins/ankles and said "oh yes, I remember you doing this last time" ... last time my swelling started very early, around 20 weeks or so. This heat/humidity has been miserable, as I swing my legs out of bed I already feel the tops of my feet jiggle. Waah. But she also said "This is definitely where you gain your weight.. water retention" Yes, OB. Now if you can remember that if I ever get pregnant again and keep your mouth shut about my weight gain... I'm fairly confident I'll be sweating off most of the 40 pounds I'll end up gaining by the end over the first few weeks. Yay for wet sheets, hoping early September is significantly cooler than it is right now!
Re: PP sex. Tee hee most sex involves at least one pp.
okay, now that I am past that moment of immaturity, pp sex didn't happen for us until about 3 months after because I had a little 2nd degree tear, not bad, but I was terrified I would tear it again. Then we finally did it and it hurt pretty bad for months. I mentioned something about it to my doctor during this pregnancy and she said, "well, yeah? You were nursing and you had tons of estrogen that will dry you like the Sahara." Lol She recommended some heavy duty lube, like astroglide. We will try that this time. It wasn't unbearable, just not enjoyable. I may be of the UO, but I tend to just do it anyway because I know that our relationship is better when we have sex. Now if it was really painful, I wouldn't do it. It got better around 9 months after when my period came back. I imagine i started making less estrogen or something.
also, Ive mentioned it before, but don't be surprised if you're crazy as hell during your first pp period. I don't know if I'm the only one...but wow. I yelled at a coworker and then freaking bawled, like the ugliest of all the ugly cries in my car. It was only one day of full blown crazy...but that was more than enough.
Re: PP sex. Tee hee most sex involves at least one pp.
okay, now that I am past that moment of immaturity, pp sex didn't happen for us until about 3 months after because I had a little 2nd degree tear, not bad, but I was terrified I would tear it again. Then we finally did it and it hurt pretty bad for months. I mentioned something about it to my doctor during this pregnancy and she said, "well, yeah? You were nursing and you had tons of estrogen that will dry you like the Sahara." Lol She recommended some heavy duty lube, like astroglide. We will try that this time. It wasn't unbearable, just not enjoyable. I may be of the UO, but I tend to just do it anyway because I know that our relationship is better when we have sex. Now if it was really painful, I wouldn't do it. It got better around 9 months after when my period came back. I imagine i started making less estrogen or something.
also, Ive mentioned it before, but don't be surprised if you're crazy as hell during your first pp period. I don't know if I'm the only one...but wow. I yelled at a coworker and then freaking bawled, like the ugliest of all the ugly cries in my car. It was only one day of full blown crazy...but that was more than enough.
Haha! I laughed too hard at this.
I guess I should add that even though sex felt normal again after a couple months that we used a lot of lube up until I stopped BF'ing. It really did dry me out. And even after I stopped breastfeeding, I feel like things were drier than pre-pregnancy. Granted I got pregnant again three months later, so that might have played a part in that.
DH is out of town for the night so what do I do? Watch the Olympics and read car seat/stroller user guides...
@cassiebmalek how do you survive without chocolate?!?!?!?!
stuck in box!! But, this made me laugh, because she doesn't. Girlfriend just itches for the sake of chocolate!
Hahaha yes! I weigh the pros and cons. And sometimes I'm like "it's worth itching for hours." I popped a couple of Benadryl last night too so I didn't get too swollen and seem to be fine today.
Sex has not been bad at all for us after either baby. I'm usually ready to go after 4 weeks. But I don't think I'm the norm. It's just so exciting to be able to move freely and not have a gigantic belly! These days I get a cramp just trying to get in a decent position! Haha.
Married 6-1-13 Sebastian 3-11-14 Simon 5-2-15 Baby #3 Due 9-29-16
On the topic of PP sex, I want to add that if it is painful, don't ignore it. I kept thinking it would get better, and I just needed more time to heal. After 3-4 months, DH finally convinced me to go to the OB, and I had granulation scar tissue that had to be treated with silver nitrate. The treatment was AWFUL but it fixed the problem! I'm so glad, I didn't ignore it longer.
Guys guys guys guys. My baby boy looks AMAZING. He is measuring right on track. They are letting me go to my due date at least! No mandatory induction for this mama! I'm legit over the moon right now.
Also he totally has my lips, saw in the 3-D ultrasound
re: FB. I'm down for a smaller group like some of y'all said. I'm usually an open book but FB scares me. I love my randos so I'm down for that. Whatever we do, keep me in the loop
re: pp sex. I get so insecure bc I think I'm so destroyed down there when really I'm not. Once I get passed that hump, the humping becomes great again but I do feel pretty gross all around especially when breast feeding.
Randoms: I thought my water broke last night but it was just pee. A lot of it. come on Kate, this isn't your first rodeo. Why is my body a big science project?
DH got home yesterday and brought home a "protection bunny" for D. If you followed my toddler advice thread then you know i am having issues with my child sleeping. We explained to her that her bunny, simply named Mr Bunny, will help her sleep at night and she can talk and cuddle him. She tucked him in with her and they slept peacefully all night long .... if you need me I'll just be doing the Carlton dance throughout my house this morning
*now I don't know if it was mr bunny or the fact that daddy was home but i'll take it
On the topic of PP sex, I want to add that if it is painful, don't ignore it. I kept thinking it would get better, and I just needed more time to heal. After 3-4 months, DH finally convinced me to go to the OB, and I had granulation scar tissue that had to be treated with silver nitrate. The treatment was AWFUL but it fixed the problem! I'm so glad, I didn't ignore it longer.
Oh, you too? I had that scar tissue too....the treatment was....man. Freaking hurt like a mother. I really, really don't want that to happen again!!!!!!
On the topic of PP sex, I want to add that if it is painful, don't ignore it. I kept thinking it would get better, and I just needed more time to heal. After 3-4 months, DH finally convinced me to go to the OB, and I had granulation scar tissue that had to be treated with silver nitrate. The treatment was AWFUL but it fixed the problem! I'm so glad, I didn't ignore it longer.
Oh, you too? I had that scar tissue too....the treatment was....man. Freaking hurt like a mother. I really, really don't want that to happen again!!!!!!
It was so bad! That is my worst fear about labor this time!
I found PP sex to be way better than late pregnancy sex. Last pregnancy we had sex the night before DD was born and it was awful. (Just really painful and totally not worth it.) It was 7 weeks pp before we did it again mainly because I was paranoid about my CS scar.
We had sex 2 weeks ago and I told DH that was it until after baby came. Way to uncomfortable for me.
The only thing that sucked was the way my breast seemed. I wasn't nursing but I pumped and it was all in my head but ya was glad when that was finished.
PP sex was uncomfortable for a bit because I also had a tear. It just took a while for things to feel back to "normal" but it did become enjoyable again. Now, with the pressure of baby in there I can feel where I had stitches and it's super uncomfortable. So it pretty much doesn't happen (I'm also paranoid it will induce labor, so until I'm desperate to get this baby out, legs are staying closed!)
I'm a ss. I have liked this pregnancy so much better in the summer than during the winter/spring with my first. A. I can relax at home (teacher perks) more than I did, and B. for some magical special reason I will never understand, I don't have issues with swelling and being hot all the time. With DS1 I had to stop wearing my rings at about 13 weeks...which fell the same week as Thanksgiving. Living in the NE it's definitely not hot at that time. And I was always hot, walking around in a t-shirt and shorts. At least now t-shirts and shorts look normal
In regards to weather, we can absolutely be stuck in a storm in the summer. It's hurricane season. We've had school cancelled before because of a hurricane. In fact, a few years ago I got stranded in Chicago because the east coast had such a bad storm and we couldn't get a flight home, so it could still happen.
But alas, I do miss my delicious alcoholic summer drinks. I can't wait to have a berry sangria! YUM!
Had my growth scan yesterday, is this not a normal thing? My Ob told me to get one (from the hospital) and so I did, while there several people asked me what my doc was concerned about. Anyways the little man looks great, 56th percentile at an estimated 5lbs1oz. All is good but he is breech now, I'm very hopeful there is plenty of time for him to flip. On the paper they gave it said (as I can interpret) that I was 33w2d and measured 34w4d. I thought this would mean his is a big baby, so many questions for my ob. I was a little sad how fast the u/s was, about 5m.
PP sex, ugh I find the current sex very odd. FFFC I haven't initiated and neither has he since the beginning of the second tri. Then for a bit over half a year was the kinda stressful TTC kind, it's been so long since it was normal. Well maybe in another half a year it may be back lol.
Oh and also, DS1 was born today....so far I'm feeling great. No contractions, not on my way to the hospital...I think this one is sticking around longer!!!
Late pregnancy sex was awkward and giggly, but we really stepped up our game that week before DD came because of the impending dry spell (little did I know how accurate that terminology would be!) I have always been a little unhappy with whatever sticky lube we end up with, eventually going to want some recommendations on that if anyone has any!
You take one day off of these boards for your birthday...an hour later i'm finally all caught up! First off...congrats to @UnwritteN12 and @frogdog06 For popping out some adorable babies!
@blondie080300 i'm so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your family during this difficult time.
props to autocorrect for changing "swabbing" to stabbing. Definitely had a bit of a stabby experience yesterday for my GBS. Happy birthday, here's a cotton swab up your vag! Though the one bonus of my appt was that my OB said i "definitely wont be having a 9lb baby." FX he's correct, since at my US the other day he was measuring about 6.8lbs, with 4 weeks to go.
I'm off to go wrestle a bathing suit on and float in the pool for a few hours. Hopefully my fingers wont be too pruny to catch up on here when i waddle back into the house...
ps - what is this sex thing you all speak of? I think i've heard of it, but someone might need to refresh my memory this pregnancy has turned me asexual. Oof.
We didn't have any problem with PP sex except that I had to get over the mental block that things would be "different" down there. Plus my boobs weren't as cute and perky as before so that made me a little self-conscious. Once I was able to relax about the physical changes I would say things were back to normal around 2 months PP.
We still have sex and I still enjoy it, BUT I am really dry down there which is freaking baffling since I leak discharge all damn day. Thanks, body. The only thing besides dryness that I don't enjoy is feeling H's body touch my stomach because there's no avoiding it lol. Kind of a turn off to constantly be reminded that our daughter is literally right there.
Shoutout this morning to all my fellow mommas to a three year old. This meme courtesy of trying to run into Wegmans last night for just a gallon of milk.
The bump app alerted me this morning that I am officially 37 weeks pregnant. I have only 1 more OB appointment and 14 days between now and my c section unless she tries to come out sooner. I already knew all of this of course but for some reason the little pop up from the bump shocked me. Now I keep looking at my 3 year old and want to boohoo because she's fixing to not be my baby anymore. Stupid hormones
@blondie080300 - I am so sorry for your loss! How heartbreaking. And the timing of it is pretty darn stressful to boot. I wish I knew what else to say....it's okay to have all the feelings: grief, sadness, frustration, anger, etc...It is very much ok to be angry about the situation - it doesn't make you a selfish or bad person. Feel free to come to this forum for support when needed. My MIL passed away a few years ago (fatal stroke, totally unexpected), so I have some understanding of how difficult it is to provide support to your spouse while also grieving yourself.
Had my growth scan yesterday, is this not a normal thing? [...]
I guess it depends on the doctor. It's standard for my OB to do one for everyone at 36 weeks, he told me about it at the a/s, so we had ours this week too.
Shoutout this morning to all my fellow mommas to a three year old. This meme courtesy of trying to run into Wegmans last night for just a gallon of milk.
I'm jealous you live close enough to run in for a gallon of milk It's at least a 35 minute drive for me (I wonder if we go to the same one!? You don't have to answer if that comes off creepy hahaha)
There are definitely times I wish I could just leave my kid in the car for a minute to run in somewhere and get something. But alas, not an option.
@blondie080300 Just getting into TB this morning (I try not to check it when I'm not at work). I am so very sorry for your loss. I am really happy that you are able to open up on this board. I am thinking of you and your family. Stay strong!
@diagonalley I live in a Wegmans type holy land. There's one a mile from my house and several more in the area. And yes to wishing I could leave the kid in the car.
@psubecky23 they're all over north and south of me...just not where I live. There's one super close to my parents so I usually try to go when I'm there or when I take DS to a class up north we head to the one down the street from the store his class is at.
Re: August Randoms!!!
My gosh, what an entirely life changing adventure we've gotten ourselves into?! I am so happy my fiancé is embracing it all with such confidence.
I'm so relieved.
I also had 2 contractions and it was nice to know that yes, that's what I am feeling
I am still so curious to know what a contraction will feel like. All I get is sharp, stabbing pains in my pelvic or vag area which my doc tells me is ligament or nerve pain and that a contraction will be more all over and dull.
I am however in no rush to experience though - this little guy needs to stay out for a few more weeks!
okay, now that I am past that moment of immaturity, pp sex didn't happen for us until about 3 months after because I had a little 2nd degree tear, not bad, but I was terrified I would tear it again. Then we finally did it and it hurt pretty bad for months. I mentioned something about it to my doctor during this pregnancy and she said, "well, yeah? You were nursing and you had tons of
estrogen that will dry you like the Sahara." Lol She recommended some heavy duty lube, like astroglide. We will try that this time. It wasn't unbearable, just not enjoyable. I may be of the UO, but I tend to just do it anyway because I know that our relationship is better when we have sex. Now if it was really painful, I wouldn't do it. It got better around 9 months after when my period came back. I imagine i started making less estrogen or something.
also, Ive mentioned it before, but don't be surprised if you're crazy as hell during your first pp period. I don't know if I'm the only one...but wow. I yelled at a coworker and then freaking bawled, like the ugliest of all the ugly cries in my car. It was only one day of full blown crazy...but that was more than enough.
I guess I should add that even though sex felt normal again after a couple months that we used a lot of lube up until I stopped BF'ing. It really did dry me out. And even after I stopped breastfeeding, I feel like things were drier than pre-pregnancy. Granted I got pregnant again three months later, so that might have played a part in that.
Sebastian 3-11-14
Simon 5-2-15
Baby #3 Due 9-29-16
BFP - 01/04/2016; EDD - 09/15/2016 DS #1 - 07/2014
They are letting me go to my due date at least!
No mandatory induction for this mama!
I'm legit over the moon right now.
Also he totally has my lips, saw in the 3-D ultrasound
re: FB. I'm down for a smaller group like some of y'all said. I'm usually an open book but FB scares me. I love my randos so I'm down for that. Whatever we do, keep me in the loop
re: pp sex. I get so insecure bc I think I'm so destroyed down there when really I'm not. Once I get passed that hump, the humping becomes great again
Randoms: I thought my water broke last night but it was just pee. A lot of it. come on Kate, this isn't your first rodeo. Why is my body a big science project?
DH got home yesterday and brought home a "protection bunny" for D. If you followed my toddler advice thread then you know i am having issues with my child sleeping. We explained to her that her bunny, simply named Mr Bunny, will help her sleep at night and she can talk and cuddle him. She tucked him in with her and they slept peacefully all night long .... if you need me I'll just be doing the Carlton dance throughout my house this morning
*now I don't know if it was mr bunny or the fact that daddy was home but i'll take it
DD #1 3/26/13
Mo/Mo twins MMC 3/31/14
DD #2 3/31/15
DD #3 8/25/16
BFP - 01/04/2016; EDD - 09/15/2016 DS #1 - 07/2014
We had sex 2 weeks ago and I told DH that was it until after baby came. Way to uncomfortable for me.
The only thing that sucked was the way my breast seemed. I wasn't nursing but I pumped and it was all in my head but ya was glad when that was finished.
I'm a ss. I have liked this pregnancy so much better in the summer than during the winter/spring with my first. A. I can relax at home (teacher perks) more than I did, and B. for some magical special reason I will never understand, I don't have issues with swelling and being hot all the time. With DS1 I had to stop wearing my rings at about 13 weeks...which fell the same week as Thanksgiving. Living in the NE it's definitely not hot at that time. And I was always hot, walking around in a t-shirt and shorts. At least now t-shirts and shorts look normal
In regards to weather, we can absolutely be stuck in a storm in the summer. It's hurricane season. We've had school cancelled before because of a hurricane. In fact, a few years ago I got stranded in Chicago because the east coast had such a bad storm and we couldn't get a flight home, so it could still happen.
But alas, I do miss my delicious alcoholic summer drinks. I can't wait to have a berry sangria! YUM!
PP sex, ugh I find the current sex very odd. FFFC I haven't initiated and neither has he since the beginning of the second tri. Then for a bit over half a year was the kinda stressful TTC kind, it's been so long since it was normal. Well maybe in another half a year it may be back lol.
@blondie080300 i'm so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your family during this difficult time.
props to autocorrect for changing "swabbing" to stabbing. Definitely had a bit of a stabby experience yesterday for my GBS. Happy birthday, here's a cotton swab up your vag! Though the one bonus of my appt was that my OB said i "definitely wont be having a 9lb baby." FX he's correct, since at my US the other day he was measuring about 6.8lbs, with 4 weeks to go.
I'm off to go wrestle a bathing suit on and float in the pool for a few hours. Hopefully my fingers wont be too pruny to catch up on here when i waddle back into the house...
ps - what is this sex thing you all speak of? I think i've heard of it, but someone might need to refresh my memory
DS1 -- 9/30/2016
There are definitely times I wish I could just leave my kid in the car for a minute to run in somewhere and get something. But alas, not an option.