@mrszoess we thought about a WIFI monitor but couldn't justify the fact that someone could possibly hack it. Too many freaky stories were coming out when we were pregnant with DS.
@krzyriver ... These are to monitor breathing... Supposed to help you prevent SIDS. I wouldn't necessarily think it's worth it or that the inevitable false alarms are worth waking up for except that I knew someone who was able to save their baby bc of one of these. So, it's kind of a must have for me
I brought the breathing monitor up to DH and he said I was being paranoid and I can't "sit up all night watching him breathe" HELLO?! What do you think the monitor is for? So I DON'T stay up all night making sure he's breathing. Boys are silly.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
@krzyriver we didn't use our monitor with DH. We lived in a smaller house then and his room was literally steps from our room. And I'm a super light sleeper. Just left the doors open to each room and never had an issue.
We've moved since, so I'll need to use it for this baby.
@bnsmith85 Oh gotcha. Yeah that would personally cause me too much anxiety. Kind of like using a doppler now.... great in theory but bad for my stress levels. Lol. That's awesome that they have those tho. I'd never even heard of them.
@F47 Yeah our house is the same. Our door opens right to his and you can hear everything going on from one floor to the next if doors are open, which they usually are. If someone gets it for me, I'll use it occasionally, but I won't be heartbroken if I don't get it.
Re monitors-with my first I had wanted the breathing/movement monitors but ended up not getting one and we were fine. I think it would have made me more paranoid to be honest. I love our Samsung video monitor. Not wifi, but a great clear picture. I just gotta figure out how to do the duel monitors for both babes. DH fiddled with it one night and nearly broke it and I almost killed him.
I thought about the hacking aspect @coffee89 but then I realized we don't live close to anyone and we would clearly see someone lurking close enough to our house to hack it. I'm more worried about my mother spying on us LOL
@bnsmith85 Oo! Good to know! Gonna ask DH to pick some up for me! I can't wait for some relief! I've been sleeping on a pile of pillows practically sitting up just to help keep the acid at bay! Thank you for the tip!
I didn't feel like this really deserved it's own thread, but wanted to share. Someone on a FB mom group I'm on asked about storage of breast milk so she could get an idea of how many freezer bags vs storage bottles to register for. Here's a guide that might help others:
https://http//www.momsmakemilk.com/breast-milk-storage-guildlines/
Hey guys! Could totally use everyone's thoughts and prayers and good vibes and positive energy today! We have our first MFM appointment - which includes our first anatomy scan - which includes making sure that *I* am also up to par cervix wise/fluid wise. We have been waiting for what seems like forever for this appointment and have not had a medical ultrasound since we were 10ish weeks along. Needless to say, I'm nervous and so hoping everything is perfect.
I need some advice. I'm trying really hard to get my weight gain under control, but I'm starving all the time. I'm usually fine with being hungry, but now I'm worried about how it's affecting the baby. Between meals, my stomach feels like a pit. It growls loudly and I even get nauseated from being so hungry. Should I be ignoring that to maintain my weight or should I be feeding my body when it wants to be fed?
little guy (our hopeful adopted son) threw a terrible tantrum this afternoon. He wanted to follow me everywhere and when it was time for his age group to go on their evening walk (which is also when I planned to leave) he just cried and cried and wouldn't go. I know the staff is super frustrated by his tantrums and I feel like they are probably going to tell me I am not allowed to visit for a few days and I'm just so heartbroken. I want him home so badly. Every time I've thought about it since I got home I just cry.
@CopperBoom86 If I recall correctly, you said you have recently lost a significant amount of weight, yes? I understand that you have trained yourself and your mind to ignore the ordinary cues of hunger. Like, just drink water when you feel hungry, and control your portions. However, you are now growing another human and you are right to be concerned with that.
Has your doctor said anything about your weight? Do they think you're on track?
I think it all comes down to balance. We may feel hungry and want to eat a huge cheeseburger. But does the baby need that, probably not. If we try to eat our three meals a day and small snack throughout the day, our caloric and dietary needs are being met but we are still craving that cheeseburger or doughnut. Maybe allow yourself one of these "cheat snack or meals" every day or every other day will help satisfy the craving but still keep you from over eating.
i am not a dietician and have never have to follow a super strict diet, so take my "advice" with a grain of salt. I have just found through my life and in general that moderation and balance are key and if you don't have GD and your doctor isn't concerned about weight gain/loss then we shouldn't stress about it either.
@CopperBoom86... I'm in your same boat with being super conscience of my weight gain during pregnancy, so here's my take on things: Yes, listen to your body when it's saying it needs nourishment but choose healthy snacks (veggies, fruits, low fat string cheese.. things like that). I know that's easier said than done, so be sure you allow yourself breaks. If you're craving sweets, maybe allow yourself one Dove dark chocolate Promise after dinner. It'll be tough at first, just like starting your diet originally was (I'm sure), but eventually, if you maintain the healthy eating habits, your body will crave those healthy snacks, not the junk food.
I haven't started yet, but I got the okay from my OB to start the Weight Watchers plan for nursing mothers. So I'm going to do that to try to help me make smart choices. If it's something you're interested in too, happy to do it with you and talk endlessly about how we're using our points, delicious recipes and things like that
Another random thought as I flip through my flipboard app today: women who own dildos/vibrators are considered normal... it's not taboo... but men who own fleshlights are considered weird. Just thought about this because there's a company trying to reinvent the fleshlight and making it look less umm, gross.
So funny (& rare) that there's a sexual double standard where women get the upper hand!
@CopperBoom86 If I recall correctly, you said you have recently lost a significant amount of weight, yes? I understand that you have trained yourself and your mind to ignore the ordinary cues of hunger. Like, just drink water when you feel hungry, and control your portions. However, you are now growing another human and you are right to be concerned with that.
Has your doctor said anything about your weight? Do they think you're on track?
I think it all comes down to balance. We may feel hungry and want to eat a huge cheeseburger. But does the baby need that, probably not. If we try to eat our three meals a day and small snack throughout the day, our caloric and dietary needs are being met but we are still craving that cheeseburger or doughnut. Maybe allow yourself one of these "cheat snack or meals" every day or every other day will help satisfy the craving but still keep you from over eating.
i am not a dietician and have never have to follow a super strict diet, so take my "advice" with a grain of salt. I have just found through my life and in general that moderation and balance are key and if you don't have GD and your doctor isn't concerned about weight gain/loss then we shouldn't stress about it either.
Yes, I lost 112 lbs over the last year. I don't want to sound braggy, but I do have excellent self control because of that. It's not hard for me to ignore the hunger, but I'm scared (because of the intensity of the hunger pains) that my body is trying to tell me something on behalf of the baby.
At my last appointment, my doctor said "I see you've gained a little weight since your last appointment..." That was about it, but I got the point. I started at 189 and I'm currently at 204 (I'm 5'10). That's a gain of 15 pounds in 23 weeks. I think it's more than my doctor wanted me to gain because I was technically overweight to start with.
I'm trying to balance. This may be overshare, but here's what a typical day looks like for me: Breakfast: Banana 10:30: 16 Wheat thins Lunch: Vegetable soup with 5 saltine crackers and 12 Teddy Grahams 2:30: Yogurt with almonds
During that time, I'm satisfied, but by the time I get home from work at 5:30, I'm freaking starving. I tend to plunder the kitchen and eat anything in sight. Then I go to the gym and by the time I get home for dinner between 7 & 8, I'm starving again so I usually overeat at dinner.
@CopperBoom86 I think it's important to listen to your hunger cues, but also realize that if you've been ignoring them for a long time so they may not be fully accurate. I would highly recommend the book Intuitive Eating.
It looks to me like you are not eating nearly enough food, and that's setting you up for overeating later. I know it might sound scary and counterintuitive if you're used to dieting, but eating a lot more during your meals and snacks will help you feel more satiated and stabilize your blood sugar so that you don't overeat later. Also, try to include all macronutrients (carbs, fats, and proteins) in every meal to prevent spikes in blood sugar. From personal experience, I find that (particularly during pregnancy) if I eat too little for a meal or put off eating until I'm super hungry, it's hard for me to feel full again without overeating.
If insurance will cover it, you might consider working with a dietitian to help plan your meals? It sounds like something you're concerned about, so that could be helpful.
@CopperBoom86 - this is coming from a former body building background, looking at your nutrition up until 2:30pm, you are definitely not getting enough protein in. What kind of yogurt are you eating? try greek if your not already eating it. Also, I get plain greek yogurt and put a half scoop of chocolate protein powder to add protein.. Also, I eat regular oatmeal (no sugar or flavor added) and also add a half scoop of chocolate protein powder.. Obviously other protein sources are obviously lean meats.
attached are some of my meals if you're interested-- I got about 140-150g of protein in.
@CopperBoom86 We aren't that much different in size. I have gained 18 as of my last appointment and the doctor hasn't been concerned. I agree with just keeping healthy snacks around so that the other ones aren't an option and only give into the cravings once in a while. Way easier said than done because I know I suck at controlling cravings.
Maybe add some oatmeal or something to your banana for breakfast and you'll stay full longer in the morning and then your afternoon snack can be later to hold you over when you are getting home from work before dinner.
This is definitely a scheduling thing, but can you eat dinner any earlier than 7-8? That may help as well.
Btw, I hate weight. It sucks to worry about, but especially when you're just trying to grow a tiny human!!
Me:33 DH: 34 Married: May 2011 TTC #1: May 2015 DS: 10/20/2016 TTC #2: June 2019 #2 EDD: 2/20/2020
Re-monitiors. We will be getting one of the breathing monitors because my SO has central apnea that he was born with. My OB suggested we do a sleep study on the baby after the baby is born, but then we were refereed to MFM and they said no, they don't feel there's a need to. I haven't directly contacted a Pediatrician yet but I know this will be one of the questions I ask our baby's Dr. but to put my mind at ease we're getting on regardless.
@CopperBoom86 I wouldn't worry about weight gain during pregnancy unless your dr. says you need to slow down. If your body is telling you you need to eat (the hunger pains, light headed, and nausea) then you need to eat, especially during the 2nd trimester you're suppose to get an extra 300cals on top of the daily recommended for your baby. I would recommend asking your dr. how much she/he thinks you should eating.
SO and I have been together: 5 Years+ BFP: 03/10 First Baby: 10/20/2016
@Sprinkels28 - I do rely on dinner for my main sources of protein. I've never been good at incorporating it into my lunch. I'll try and work on that.
@ibabyloveb87 - I do fitness classes most days, so my evening schedule revolves around that. I would love to eat earlier, but once I attend the classes I enjoy and make dinner, it's usually 7:30 at the earliest.
I kinda feel like I'm overthinking this, but I just want to stay in good health for the baby AND myself. I worked way too hard last year to gain a ton of unnecessary weight back during pregnancy.
Thank you all, so much, for your advice. I'm working on revamping my meal plan now to make it heavier during the day and lighter at night.
@CopperBoom86 I don't have much to add other than to say that weight gain isn't really something you can control during pregnancy. I've eaten like crap and haven't gained much, which is not normal for me at all. My friend eats super healthy and know exactly how many servings of everything she should be getting. We tease her at work because she's SO health conscious. And she's packed it on. There's probably ways you could feel fuller, start there. But don't stress about the scale. Baby needs their nutrients and you know you'll be able to get it off afterwards. *Hugs*
@CopperBoom86 Maybe try adding some protein into your snacks and meals, it'll help you stay satiated longer. I have GD so I've had to really change my diet and I've been told to always include a protein with my snacks, so my go-to's are string cheese (or any cheese for that matter), nuts, pb or almond butter. Sometimes I'll even cook up a couple of chicken breasts, cube them up, and keep them in the fridge to heat up for a snack.
I've also been on the weight loss train, but struggled with an eating disorder from when I was a teenager to my early twenties (not in the past few years), so I get the fear of weight gain and still wanting to be healthy. I always go by the thought that if my doctor isn't concerned, I won't be.
ETA: It took me so long to write this post because I'm at work and distracted... by the time I posted all I wanted to say has been said. Sorry for the double and triple advice lol!
ETA: It took me so long to write this post because I'm at work and distracted... by the time I posted all I wanted to say has been said. Sorry for the double and triple advice lol!
@CopperBoom86 I am also 5'10" and you are eating about half of what I eat. And probably getting more exercise. This would explain the hunger. I am a total sugerholic and do not recommend taking up my diet, but as a former athlete I can confirm that what others have written is good advice. Also, if you've just lost a lot of weight your body was probably still not "settled" into your pre-pregnancy weight, and now hormones are confusing it even more. Right now baby is using the fat you eat to build fast neuronal connections, so definitely eat up! (nuts, peanut butter, avocados, etc)
BTDT Moms: We have already been given a bunch of clothes from some family members and friends and I'm wanting to pull tags and start washing all of it and putting it away so it's ready. I realize it's early, but can you think of any reason I shouldn't, other than that I'm just being a crazy person?
@bnsmith85 I'm a FTM but the only reason I'm waiting to pull tags, especially on the newborn size stuff, is I'm worried LO will be too big right out of the womb and I then won't be able to exchange. I'll probably only wash/pull tags on a few newborn onesies and a newborn size going home outfit. For the larger sizes, I'm waiting to wash because I feel like the clothes will just gather dust between now and then and I'll want to wash again.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
Re: Weekly Randoms 6.20.2016
BFP: February 2016 EDD: October 17, 2016
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
We've moved since, so I'll need to use it for this baby.
@F47 Yeah our house is the same. Our door opens right to his and you can hear everything going on from one floor to the next if doors are open, which they usually are. If someone gets it for me, I'll use it occasionally, but I won't be heartbroken if I don't get it.
https://http//www.momsmakemilk.com/breast-milk-storage-guildlines/
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
Has your doctor said anything about your weight? Do they think you're on track?
I think it all comes down to balance. We may feel hungry and want to eat a huge cheeseburger. But does the baby need that, probably not. If we try to eat our three meals a day and small snack throughout the day, our caloric and dietary needs are being met but we are still craving that cheeseburger or doughnut. Maybe allow yourself one of these "cheat snack or meals" every day or every other day will help satisfy the craving but still keep you from over eating.
i am not a dietician and have never have to follow a super strict diet, so take my "advice" with a grain of salt. I have just found through my life and in general that moderation and balance are key and if you don't have GD and your doctor isn't concerned about weight gain/loss then we shouldn't stress about it either.
Dating: 10/3/08 | Married: 12/27/14
TTC #1: August 2015 | BFP: 2/3/16 | EDD: 10/7/16
DD: 10/5/16
TTC #2: September 2017 | BFP: 4/28/18 | EDD: 1/7/19
DS: 1/9/19
Yes, listen to your body when it's saying it needs nourishment but choose healthy snacks (veggies, fruits, low fat string cheese.. things like that). I know that's easier said than done, so be sure you allow yourself breaks. If you're craving sweets, maybe allow yourself one Dove dark chocolate Promise after dinner. It'll be tough at first, just like starting your diet originally was (I'm sure), but eventually, if you maintain the healthy eating habits, your body will crave those healthy snacks, not the junk food.
I haven't started yet, but I got the okay from my OB to start the Weight Watchers plan for nursing mothers. So I'm going to do that to try to help me make smart choices. If it's something you're interested in too, happy to do it with you and talk endlessly about how we're using our points, delicious recipes and things like that
So funny (& rare) that there's a sexual double standard where women get the upper hand!
At my last appointment, my doctor said "I see you've gained a little weight since your last appointment..." That was about it, but I got the point. I started at 189 and I'm currently at 204 (I'm 5'10). That's a gain of 15 pounds in 23 weeks. I think it's more than my doctor wanted me to gain because I was technically overweight to start with.
I'm trying to balance. This may be overshare, but here's what a typical day looks like for me:
Breakfast: Banana
10:30: 16 Wheat thins
Lunch: Vegetable soup with 5 saltine crackers and 12 Teddy Grahams
2:30: Yogurt with almonds
During that time, I'm satisfied, but by the time I get home from work at 5:30, I'm freaking starving. I tend to plunder the kitchen and eat anything in sight. Then I go to the gym and by the time I get home for dinner between 7 & 8, I'm starving again so I usually overeat at dinner.
It looks to me like you are not eating nearly enough food, and that's setting you up for overeating later. I know it might sound scary and counterintuitive if you're used to dieting, but eating a lot more during your meals and snacks will help you feel more satiated and stabilize your blood sugar so that you don't overeat later. Also, try to include all macronutrients (carbs, fats, and proteins) in every meal to prevent spikes in blood sugar. From personal experience, I find that (particularly during pregnancy) if I eat too little for a meal or put off eating until I'm super hungry, it's hard for me to feel full again without overeating.
If insurance will cover it, you might consider working with a dietitian to help plan your meals? It sounds like something you're concerned about, so that could be helpful.
It's a boy!
attached are some of my meals if you're interested-- I got about 140-150g of protein in.
Maybe add some oatmeal or something to your banana for breakfast and you'll stay full longer in the morning and then your afternoon snack can be later to hold you over when you are getting home from work before dinner.
This is definitely a scheduling thing, but can you eat dinner any earlier than 7-8? That may help as well.
Btw, I hate weight. It sucks to worry about, but especially when you're just trying to grow a tiny human!!
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
@CopperBoom86 I wouldn't worry about weight gain during pregnancy unless your dr. says you need to slow down. If your body is telling you you need to eat (the hunger pains, light headed, and nausea) then you need to eat, especially during the 2nd trimester you're suppose to get an extra 300cals on top of the daily recommended for your baby. I would recommend asking your dr. how much she/he thinks you should eating.
SO and I have been together: 5 Years+
BFP: 03/10
First Baby: 10/20/2016
Me: 28 DH: 27
@ibabyloveb87 - I do fitness classes most days, so my evening schedule revolves around that. I would love to eat earlier, but once I attend the classes I enjoy and make dinner, it's usually 7:30 at the earliest.
I kinda feel like I'm overthinking this, but I just want to stay in good health for the baby AND myself. I worked way too hard last year to gain a ton of unnecessary weight back during pregnancy.
Thank you all, so much, for your advice. I'm working on revamping my meal plan now to make it heavier during the day and lighter at night.
I've also been on the weight loss train, but struggled with an eating disorder from when I was a teenager to my early twenties (not in the past few years), so I get the fear of weight gain and still wanting to be healthy. I always go by the thought that if my doctor isn't concerned, I won't be.
ETA: It took me so long to write this post because I'm at work and distracted... by the time I posted all I wanted to say has been said. Sorry for the double and triple advice lol!
BFP #1: 7/15/15, SB: 11/14/15
Rainbow baby DS born 9/29/16!!
BFP #3 3/26/18 | Due 12/3/18
Also, if you've just lost a lot of weight your body was probably still not "settled" into your pre-pregnancy weight, and now hormones are confusing it even more.
Right now baby is using the fat you eat to build fast neuronal connections, so definitely eat up! (nuts, peanut butter, avocados, etc)
Edit because app cut me off
DS#2 due 25 April 2019
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16