How did you deliver (vaginal, c-section, etc)? vaginal
How are you feeling about your delivery? I feel really good about it. I was planning to go med free as long as possible and then add laughing gas. And it that wasn't working I was fully open to an epidural. But because everything went to fast, there wasn't time for anything so I had a med free delivery! However, I did have bilateral periurethral tear. I have read though the posts and didn't see anybody with the same kind of tear. Anybody STMs have experience with this?
How is your recovery going? Pretty well. I am up and moving a lot more now. The first few days it felt like I had bruised my tailbone and was painful to get up. Jacqueline went to her first DR appt and we were sent to the lab immediately after to check her bilirubin levels. They are pretty high so they ordered her some lights that she has to stay under as much as possible and go back everyday to get her levels checked. The lights aren't so bad but it will be the heel prick everyday that sucks so much. Hopefully her jaundice will go away soon.
Any post partum issues or questions for the group? My only concern is my stitches and how they are going to heal.
Laying in bed while Harper is napping in true pnp next to me (!!!)... I have my hands on my stomach and I just realized how soft it feels compared to my pregnancy stomach. Feels weird after all these months. Is it possible I miss the bump a lil?
Wasn't sure where to put this but just looking for some input. MH is usually so so supportive and helpful but since I've given birth and he's gone back to work he just seems to be a bit of a douche. If I ask him to change the baby when he's home or feed her in the morning he doesn't really want to. I usually say "would you like to feed her" and he always responds with something dumb like "does that mean you'd like me to feed her?" I just figure he might want to do some of the stuff. And he often replies back to me when I tell him we've had a tough day taking care of her "well that's your job, you're more than welcome to go to work for me and I'll stay home with her" (we both have the same job)
its the last comment that really pisses me off. I just want to slap him. My job doesn't end 24 hours of the day but according to him, that's what I'm getting paid for! He actually says that crap to me.
I pretty much don't respond when he says that to me because if I did I would explode on him so I bite my tongue to save the argument. He's usually so caring and loving so I don't understand where that attitude is coming from. What do I even say to him??
Wasn't sure where to put this but just looking for some input. MH is usually so so supportive and helpful but since I've given birth and he's gone back to work he just seems to be a bit of a douche. If I ask him to change the baby when he's home or feed her in the morning he doesn't really want to. I usually say "would you like to feed her" and he always responds with something dumb like "does that mean you'd like me to feed her?" I just figure he might want to do some of the stuff. And he often replies back to me when I tell him we've had a tough day taking care of her "well that's your job, you're more than welcome to go to work for me and I'll stay home with her" (we both have the same job)
its the last comment that really pisses me off. I just want to slap him. My job doesn't end 24 hours of the day but according to him, that's what I'm getting paid for! He actually says that crap to me.
I pretty much don't respond when he says that to me because if I did I would explode on him so I bite my tongue to save the argument. He's usually so caring and loving so I don't understand where that attitude is coming from. What do I even say to him??
Easier said than done but be patient with him. Dads can get the baby blues too. He might be stressing about how to connect with LO or stressed about all the added responsibility. We felt our LOs moving around growing for severs months and for dads the realization doesn't happen until birth. That's a lot to take on emotionally at once. Don't want to make excuses for your H. His comments are rude. But just wanted to offer another perspective.
@ayeshaohara how much sleep is he getting? Is he helping throughout the night? I ask because I learned pretty quickly that my H cannot handle sleep deprivation AT ALL. After a couple nights of him trying to help throughout the night I started sending him to bed because the lack of sleep seriously made him useless. I wonder if your H is possibly on edge from lack sleep.
At any rate, I agree with @Charla1224 that approaching him with patience is the right way to go but that isn't to say you should let his shitty behavior slide. I would ask to have a check-in conversation about how you are both feeling, emphasizing the importance of communication during this highly stressful time. Rather than launching in on how unacceptable his behavior has been, give him a chance to speak to whatever it is that is making him act so out of character. Be open and honest about all of your feelings, including that for some reason it feels like he is no longer supporting you in the same way that he always has - at a time when you need him more than ever.
I'm so sorry you're dealing with this, but I definitely think you shouldn't wait too long to address it. It isn't good to carry around hurt feelings. Hugs!
@LadySamLady he's getting minimal sleep, but he doesn't get much sleep anyway. He refuses to help me at all overnight because "he has to go to work in the morning". I've asked multiple times that he sleep on the couch, which he did most of my pregnancy because he needs to get more sleep than he is.
My parents are currently staying with us too for 6 weeks which I'm sure isn't helping the situation. I feel like he is holding me to this unrealistic expectation about how I should be handling everything. It's like he forgot that I carried the baby, pumped her out and now care for her every minute of the day. I'm not allowed to be tired or emotional or accidentally be short with him if I'm feeling overwhelmed. He's expecting me to be in full control all the time which I think is a little insane? Or am I totally wrong with that?
@LadySamLady he's getting minimal sleep, but he doesn't get much sleep anyway. He refuses to help me at all overnight because "he has to go to work in the morning". I've asked multiple times that he sleep on the couch, which he did most of my pregnancy because he needs to get more sleep than he is.
My parents are currently staying with us too for 6 weeks which I'm sure isn't helping the situation. I feel like he is holding me to this unrealistic expectation about how I should be handling everything. It's like he forgot that I carried the baby, pumped her out and now care for her every minute of the day. I'm not allowed to be tired or emotional or accidentally be short with him if I'm feeling overwhelmed. He's expecting me to be in full control all the time which I think is a little insane? Or am I totally wrong with that?
You are totally right! He is being unreasonable and insensitive. Plenty of husbands and partners help to care for their children after they've gone back to work. It is ridiculous for him to assume you will do everything, and with a smile to boot. He's going to have to share the load and be there for you emotionally, end of story. Welcome to fatherhood!
@LadySamLady he's getting minimal sleep, but he doesn't get much sleep anyway. He refuses to help me at all overnight because "he has to go to work in the morning". I've asked multiple times that he sleep on the couch, which he did most of my pregnancy because he needs to get more sleep than he is.
My parents are currently staying with us too for 6 weeks which I'm sure isn't helping the situation. I feel like he is holding me to this unrealistic expectation about how I should be handling everything. It's like he forgot that I carried the baby, pumped her out and now care for her every minute of the day. I'm not allowed to be tired or emotional or accidentally be short with him if I'm feeling overwhelmed. He's expecting me to be in full control all the time which I think is a little insane? Or am I totally wrong with that?
You are totally right! He is being unreasonable and insensitive. Plenty of husbands and partners help to care for their children after they've gone back to work. It is ridiculous for him to assume you will do everything, and with a smile to boot. He's going to have to share the load and be there for you emotionally, end of story. Welcome to fatherhood!
Ugh I'm really annoyed with him for you!
Thank you! Me too!! He needs some sense shaken into him! I appreciate you making me feel like I'm not bring unreasonable. Sometimes it's hard to know
Wasn't sure where to put this but just looking for some input. MH is usually so so supportive and helpful but since I've given birth and he's gone back to work he just seems to be a bit of a douche. If I ask him to change the baby when he's home or feed her in the morning he doesn't really want to. I usually say "would you like to feed her" and he always responds with something dumb like "does that mean you'd like me to feed her?" I just figure he might want to do some of the stuff. And he often replies back to me when I tell him we've had a tough day taking care of her "well that's your job, you're more than welcome to go to work for me and I'll stay home with her" (we both have the same job)
its the last comment that really pisses me off. I just want to slap him. My job doesn't end 24 hours of the day but according to him, that's what I'm getting paid for! He actually says that crap to me.
I pretty much don't respond when he says that to me because if I did I would explode on him so I bite my tongue to save the argument. He's usually so caring and loving so I don't understand where that attitude is coming from. What do I even say to him??
Ok, that deserves a bitch slap!!! WTF?? I'm sure he'd change his tune in no time if he had to care for her by himself for an extended period of time. I would definitely wait until you're feeling calm and then start up a conversation with him about why he's being such a douche. If he's normally not like that, it might just be that he's feeling overwhelmed or having a little trouble adjusting to life with a newborn.
FWIW, a lot of dads find it hard to be involved at this age because baby can't interact. My H doesn't didn't do much for DD when she was a newborn; I pretty much had to tell him to help me feed her/burp her/change her, Etc. But as she got older and could interact with him, he became much more involved. I think sometimes it takes dads longer to get attached.
On the note of dads not being involved... DH is so obsessed with DD but doesn't ever seem to want to hold her or anything. Last night she was awake while we were watching tv and I asked him if he wanted to spend some time with her. He said yes but then procrastinated. Checked his fantasy baseball scores. Got water and put eye drops in. Checked the pics on his phone. Finally I told him "pls interact with your daughter". Partly I think he/they are unsure of their capabilities. I'm already holding her with one hand and multitasking while he is still nervous picking her up. So of course he is comparing his ability. I remind myself of that when I see him not rushing to do things for her.
I'm going on just over two weeks post-partum and as challenging as this is I love every second but I'm curious, when am I required to start looking like a human again and doing my hair? I can't even imagine working that into our 2-3 hour feed/change/snuggle/sleep routine.
@yogahh this! My SO feels like she is too fragile. This week he has been doing much better and when I asked him what changed he said he doesn't feel like she will break if he picks her up now. He even woke up with us this morning and told me not to hesitate to wake him, even though he can't feed her he can hold her whole I go to the bathroom or pump after her feeding. I feel like it's a big step for him and that maybe a lot of other DH's/SO's feel this way. My dad and SO joke that they don't hold her as much now but when she can move around and stay awake longer she will be more fun and they can actually do something with her.
I'm trying so hard not to be bitter toward my husband because he's been pitching in 110%, but since he can't breastfeed, there are some things he can do that I cannot. For example, LO was up at 4:30am for a feeding. She then cried and cried and didn't want to go back to sleep. He tried to soothe her for an hour and let me sleep, but I could hear her crying. Finally, we handed her off to my mom around 7:30am, and I told her to get me in 20 minutes if she didn't stop crying because it was time for her to eat again anyway. She didn't stop, so I got up. Husband then slept until 10:30am with no interruption. Now, he's getting out of the house solo to run a couple of errands. I love people and being social, but im also someone that needs alone time to recharge the batteries. The only time I get alone time between baby, my husband, and mom is when I shower.
I felt so so bad yesterday because it was my husbands birthday, and all I could do was cry and mope around. I'm trying so hard to not be upset about things he can do nothing about, but with my lack of sleep, that bitterness is creeping up, and I'm snapping at him or just acting completely indifferent.
Im thinking the only way to improve the situation is starting to pump. But I've read so many mixed things. I also have been avoiding a pacifier, trying to make it 3 weeks to avoid nipple confusion. I gave her one the other night just to see and she kept trying to hug the air like she does my boob. It made me feel so bad, so I haven't given it to her since then. But with pumping and bottle feeding, won't that just lead to nipple confusion too?
Bleeding post partum does vary quite a bit from person to person. I guess it's best to prepare for the worst and hope for the best. I bled for 6 weeks and a few days but I was on blood thinners. I stopped bleeding a few days after I stopped taking the anticoagulants. 12 days is well within the range of normal. To have stopped bleeding already would have made you very fortunate.
@missnc77 I've had to pump since day 2 due to DD's jaundice and severe weight loss. She got confused initially because she had one day of pure breastfeeding before the hospital was feeding her pumped breast milk with a syringe, then when we got home weve been feeding her with the bottle and the boob. I started by feeding her with breast first, then giving her some of a bottle directly after and slowly have transitioned to some pure bottle feeds and some pure breast feeds and she's done perfectly fine. She's had a pacifier since day 2 and switches back and forth between breast and bottle no problem. Every baby is different obviously, but I'm sure if you were to pump and feed her a bottle or two a day with the rest of her feedings from the breast, she would do just fine.
With my first, I think I bled for about 3 weeks total with only the first week being heavy. This time, I had a heavy first few days and it has been light since, with some small clots or gushes when I over do it...like when I have lifted my toddler. I have a suspicion that if I would just follow the rules to a T and not lift anything or do stairs, I might have stopped bleeding by now. (I'm about 2.5 weeks pp csection.)
With my first, I think I bled for about 3 weeks total with only the first week being heavy. This time, I had a heavy first few days and it has been light since, with some small clots or gushes when I over do it...like when I have lifted my toddler. I have a suspicion that if I would just follow the rules to a T and not lift anything or do stairs, I might have stopped bleeding by now. (I'm about 2.5 weeks pp.)
C-section and I lifted mine too 8 days PP. It is hard to remember not to...
@yogahh this! My SO feels like she is too fragile. This week he has been doing much better and when I asked him what changed he said he doesn't feel like she will break if he picks her up now. He even woke up with us this morning and told me not to hesitate to wake him, even though he can't feed her he can hold her whole I go to the bathroom or pump after her feeding. I feel like it's a big step for him and that maybe a lot of other DH's/SO's feel this way. My dad and SO joke that they don't hold her as much now but when she can move around and stay awake longer she will be more fun and they can actually do something with her.
My boss said this about kids in general. I wonder if most men really DO feel this way.
I'm trying so hard not to be bitter toward my husband because he's been pitching in 110%, but since he can't breastfeed, there are some things he can do that I cannot. For example, LO was up at 4:30am for a feeding. She then cried and cried and didn't want to go back to sleep. He tried to soothe her for an hour and let me sleep, but I could hear her crying. Finally, we handed her off to my mom around 7:30am, and I told her to get me in 20 minutes if she didn't stop crying because it was time for her to eat again anyway. She didn't stop, so I got up. Husband then slept until 10:30am with no interruption. Now, he's getting out of the house solo to run a couple of errands. I love people and being social, but im also someone that needs alone time to recharge the batteries. The only time I get alone time between baby, my husband, and mom is when I shower.
I felt so so bad yesterday because it was my husbands birthday, and all I could do was cry and mope around. I'm trying so hard to not be upset about things he can do nothing about, but with my lack of sleep, that bitterness is creeping up, and I'm snapping at him or just acting completely indifferent.
Im thinking the only way to improve the situation is starting to pump. But I've read so many mixed things. I also have been avoiding a pacifier, trying to make it 3 weeks to avoid nipple confusion. I gave her one the other night just to see and she kept trying to hug the air like she does my boob. It made me feel so bad, so I haven't given it to her since then. But with pumping and bottle feeding, won't that just lead to nipple confusion too?
My baby was a preemie at 32.5 weeks and incapable of the suck/swallow/breath coordination required to breast feed so I've been pumping from day one. As he got older, we transitioned to 50% breast feeding and 50% bottle feeding with slow flow nipples (the nurses fed him at night). He is now 42 weeks gestation (easiest way for me to explain his age) and he is breast fed all day and is given a bottle or two by my SO at night. I also carry a couple of bottles with me ifI take him out in public so that I can quickly feed him without having to worry about flashing everyone (I have not mastered discreet breastfeeding). He also has had a pacifier since day one. My point is that each baby is different and feeding a bottle once a day will not likely hurt your breastfeeding relationship if you are already doing well. To me, it's a sanity saver.
I can't help but feel that modern living isn't really conducive to baby rearing. We don't have a community around us ready to help, our beds are high off the ground and can present a hazard to cosleeping...all this makes for unhappy moms and unhappy babies. So if handing off one feed to your husband will give you some much deserved sleep in this modern world, go for it.
How are people sleeping through feedings without getting engorged? If I were to let my H bottle feed my LO at night I'd still have to wake up to pump, I can't skip feedings without paying for it big time. I'm in pain if my LO sleeps longer than 3 hours!
Any moms using formula: my girl is really gassy and constipated in the recent days of trying a generic formula. She's not sleeping well and is very fussy. Didn't notice it with similac. I'm going to go back to that to see if it helps. My question is, is it possible that she is allergic to something in it or should I just use gas drops and call it a day?
@missnc77 I've been pumping, bottle feeding, given him a paci, and the breast since day 4. He does great with all 3 nipples. I heard/read a ton about nipple confusion too. I feared that he would never feed from the breast again but I had to do it because of jaundice and weight loss. It's really helped me to know how much he eats.
I think it's mearly a suggestion to wait a few weeks but obviously shouldn't be a rule for every baby. I think it's up to you to determine what will work best for your family. If being able to sleep will keep you sane, then pump and bottle feed. It's a gamble so you have to weigh your pros and cons.
I've gone almost exclusively to pump and bottle feed. Feeding from the breast is more of a bonding experience for us now. My milk has come in on full blast and we've started to freeze it for future use and it's worked really great for us and definitely takes less time overall. DH gets to help feed too!
@ladysamlady I feel you, girl! I actually have to do night pumps while he is bottle fed, unless I'm so exhausted I sleep through it. Then I wake up and pump immediately because it hurts! I feel the need to pump like clockwork.
@LadySamLady Thats something else to think about. I nurse from one breast each feeding, and by the next feeding the breast that didn't get nursed is ready to blow.
Any moms using formula: my girl is really gassy and constipated in the recent days of trying a generic formula. She's not sleeping well and is very fussy. Didn't notice it with similac. I'm going to go back to that to see if it helps. My question is, is it possible that she is allergic to something in it or should I just use gas drops and call it a day?
Mine has been very gassy since we cut down the amount of breastfeeding. I've switched formulas a few times and she seems to like the similac the best but I don't think it's any less gassy than any others. She probably isn't allergic to anything, it would be much more severe reaction than gas. Sometimes babies are just gassy! Constipation is also normal for formula fed babies unfortunately
@LadySamLady Thats something else to think about. I nurse from one breast each feeding, and by the next feeding the breast that didn't get nursed is ready to blow.
I would probably let my H handle a night feeding by bottle to get the bonding experience with LO if I could sleep through without needing to pump, but there's no way I can skip a feeding at this point. I plan on introducing a bottle at 6 weeks, unless for some reason I am away from her for some reason and my H or MIL needs to feed her. I'm slowly building a freezer supply, pumping once every few days to have just in case.
@LadySamLady@missnc77 yes... I just woke up from a nap and LO is going on 3 hours herself. My right boob is throbbing so I know I don't even need to look at my app to know I fed her on the left last.
I woke up the other morning to my bed wet (thought the dog was mad again and peed), nope, must've just laid on my boob weird and it leaked all over. When I feed her in the AM I typically manually pump the other side (sometimes will do a little on the same side she fed from if she didn't eat as much as normal) as I'm most engorged in the AM.
How are people sleeping through feedings without getting engorged? If I were to let my H bottle feed my LO at night I'd still have to wake up to pump, I can't skip feedings without paying for it big time. I'm in pain if my LO sleeps longer than 3 hours!
I'm using Avent ice packs and doing small bits of hand expressing into the bathroom sink when I feel engorged. I'm doing block feeding to lower my supply so I end up going about 4-5 hours before I get back to a breast. I'm not sure it's working as I am still constantly full up. I think I need to get some cabbage leaves going or something. Anyone tried that yet?
How are people sleeping through feedings without getting engorged? If I were to let my H bottle feed my LO at night I'd still have to wake up to pump, I can't skip feedings without paying for it big time. I'm in pain if my LO sleeps longer than 3 hours!
I'm using Avent ice packs and doing small bits of hand expressing into the bathroom sink when I feel engorged. I'm doing block feeding to lower my supply so I end up going about 4-5 hours before I get back to a breast. I'm not sure it's working as I am still constantly full up. I think I need to get some cabbage leaves going or something. Anyone tried that yet?
Cabbage leaves saved my life!!! I wasnt planning to continue breastfeeding so I wasn't worried about drying up but they didn't dry me up entirely, just reduced my supply and my goodness did they feel incredible on my boobs! Even if you did it for one day, I totally recommend it. I was pulling my hair out like you...it's not worth it.
Also I read your comment on the other thread about what your husband said about purchasing formula. I'm sorry he's pressuring you into making sure you're breastfeeding. That's tough. Remember baby just needs to be fed...that's all that matters. You may find mixed feedings much more pleasurable for the both of you because you'll be more comfortable and Lucine will be more full! My husband said to me, your mental health is more important than making sure she gets breast milk. And he was totally right. We're all much happier mixed feeding.
Hmm...I'm tempted to hit the market right now and get some cabbage and give it a shot. The hand expressing helps feeling pain a bit but I'm terrified of getting mastitis or a blocked duct due to all this engorgement especially now that we are giving her BM and Formula. I wake up in the middle of the night full up on both sides and have to go express a bit to feel comfortable. It's exhausting!
Hmm...I'm tempted to hit the market right now and get some cabbage and give it a shot. The hand expressing helps feeling pain a bit but I'm terrified of getting mastitis or a blocked duct due to all this engorgement especially now that we are giving her BM and Formula. I wake up in the middle of the night full up on both sides and have to go express a bit to feel comfortable. It's exhausting!
Sure is!!! All the things you're feeling and experiencing are all the reasons I couldn't continue to exclusively BF. Get the cabbage!
@Kurrant@LadySamLady You guys are giving me flashbacks to nursing my son! I would wake up after 3 hours feeling like hot rocks were strapped to my chest. My husband gave him a bottle of pumped milk for a lot of the night feedings the first few weeks because I just had a harder time getting a non-painful latch at night, but I always had to get up and pump because of engorgement while he was bottle feeding and that was super frustrating. It helped for me to just use a hand pump so I could stay in bed and wake up a little less than I would otherwise. After a few months my supply finally regulated down enough that I no longer got engorged, so you'll get there eventually!
Re: Post Partum Thread
How did you deliver (vaginal, c-section, etc)? vaginal
How are you feeling about your delivery? I feel really good about it. I was planning to go med free as long as possible and then add laughing gas. And it that wasn't working I was fully open to an epidural. But because everything went to fast, there wasn't time for anything so I had a med free delivery! However, I did have bilateral periurethral tear. I have read though the posts and didn't see anybody with the same kind of tear. Anybody STMs have experience with this?
How is your recovery going? Pretty well. I am up and moving a lot more now. The first few days it felt like I had bruised my tailbone and was painful to get up. Jacqueline went to her first DR appt and we were sent to the lab immediately after to check her bilirubin levels. They are pretty high so they ordered her some lights that she has to stay under as much as possible and go back everyday to get her levels checked. The lights aren't so bad but it will be the heel prick everyday that sucks so much. Hopefully her jaundice will go away soon.
Any post partum issues or questions for the group? My only concern is my stitches and how they are going to heal.
its the last comment that really pisses me off. I just want to slap him. My job doesn't end 24 hours of the day but according to him, that's what I'm getting paid for! He actually says that crap to me.
I pretty much don't respond when he says that to me because if I did I would explode on him so I bite my tongue to save the argument. He's usually so caring and loving so I don't understand where that attitude is coming from. What do I even say to him??
Don't want to make excuses for your H. His comments are rude. But just wanted to offer another perspective.
DD: 05/14/16
At any rate, I agree with @Charla1224 that approaching him with patience is the right way to go but that isn't to say you should let his shitty behavior slide. I would ask to have a check-in conversation about how you are both feeling, emphasizing the importance of communication during this highly stressful time. Rather than launching in on how unacceptable his behavior has been, give him a chance to speak to whatever it is that is making him act so out of character. Be open and honest about all of your feelings, including that for some reason it feels like he is no longer supporting you in the same way that he always has - at a time when you need him more than ever.
I'm so sorry you're dealing with this, but I definitely think you shouldn't wait too long to address it. It isn't good to carry around hurt feelings. Hugs!
My parents are currently staying with us too for 6 weeks which I'm sure isn't helping the situation. I feel like he is holding me to this unrealistic expectation about how I should be handling everything. It's like he forgot that I carried the baby, pumped her out and now care for her every minute of the day. I'm not allowed to be tired or emotional or accidentally be short with him if I'm feeling overwhelmed. He's expecting me to be in full control all the time which I think is a little insane? Or am I totally wrong with that?
Ugh I'm really annoyed with him for you!
FWIW, a lot of dads find it hard to be involved at this age because baby can't interact. My H doesn't didn't do much for DD when she was a newborn; I pretty much had to tell him to help me feed her/burp her/change her, Etc. But as she got older and could interact with him, he became much more involved. I think sometimes it takes dads longer to get attached.
I felt so so bad yesterday because it was my husbands birthday, and all I could do was cry and mope around. I'm trying so hard to not be upset about things he can do nothing about, but with my lack of sleep, that bitterness is creeping up, and I'm snapping at him or just acting completely indifferent.
Im thinking the only way to improve the situation is starting to pump. But I've read so many mixed things. I also have been avoiding a pacifier, trying to make it 3 weeks to avoid nipple confusion. I gave her one the other night just to see and she kept trying to hug the air like she does my boob. It made me feel so bad, so I haven't given it to her since then. But with pumping and bottle feeding, won't that just lead to nipple confusion too?
I can't help but feel that modern living isn't really conducive to baby rearing. We don't have a community around us ready to help, our beds are high off the ground and can present a hazard to cosleeping...all this makes for unhappy moms and unhappy babies. So if handing off one feed to your husband will give you some much deserved sleep in this modern world, go for it.
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
I think it's mearly a suggestion to wait a few weeks but obviously shouldn't be a rule for every baby. I think it's up to you to determine what will work best for your family. If being able to sleep will keep you sane, then pump and bottle feed. It's a gamble so you have to weigh your pros and cons.
I've gone almost exclusively to pump and bottle feed. Feeding from the breast is more of a bonding experience for us now. My milk has come in on full blast and we've started to freeze it for future use
@ladysamlady I feel you, girl! I actually have to do night pumps while he is bottle fed, unless I'm so exhausted I sleep through it. Then I wake up and pump immediately because it hurts! I feel the need to pump like clockwork.
some reason I am away from her for some reason and my H or MIL needs to feed her. I'm slowly building a freezer supply, pumping once every few days to have just in case.
I woke up the other morning to my bed wet (thought the dog was mad again and peed), nope, must've just laid on my boob weird and it leaked all over. When I feed her in the AM I typically manually pump the other side (sometimes will do a little on the same side she fed from if she didn't eat as much as normal) as I'm most engorged in the AM.
Also I read your comment on the other thread about what your husband said about purchasing formula. I'm sorry he's pressuring you into making sure you're breastfeeding. That's tough. Remember baby just needs to be fed...that's all that matters. You may find mixed feedings much more pleasurable for the both of you because you'll be more comfortable and Lucine will be more full! My husband said to me, your mental health is more important than making sure she gets breast milk. And he was totally right. We're all much happier mixed feeding.