Not to brag or anything, but I only woke up twice to pee last night! I woke up this morning feeling so refreshed and rested for the first time in months.
hahaha...That cracks me up. I'm still not having to get up at night but I know it's coming soon!
You guys, i have a sports bra, a tank top and a pullover longsleeve on....and my nipples are still CLEARLY protruding through my clothes. So embarassing! I have tissue paper stuffed in the sports bra to mask the nipples of steel. OMG.
Last night I slept 4 hours, and not consecutively. This keeps happening. My two-year-old is going thru a really tough time at night and I. am. struggling.
The last time he woke up (before morning) was 3 a.m., and we were up until 5:10. This has been going on for two weeks and functioning at work is becoming a serious challenge.
On on top of that, I just feel awful that he's scared/having nightmares/whatever is going on with him (he won't tell us).
Anyway, I started a whole thread about it last week which was helpful. But, just needed to vent today.
Sitting at the OB office waiting for my doc. She may come in to find me asleep on the table.
It's my husband's birthday today and I was too busy to get anything together yesterday, so now I'm racing over to the grocery store to see if I can get a little ice cream cake personalized by tonight. You'd think the man was 12, he's obsessed with ice cream cakes. The only other thing he wants is....under armor boxer briefs. So I guess tonight I'll be like oh hey! Happy birthday! Here's an ice cream cake and underwear!
Boxer jocks! lol it's the only underwear my H will wear.
It's my husband's birthday today and I was too busy to get anything together yesterday, so now I'm racing over to the grocery store to see if I can get a little ice cream cake personalized by tonight. You'd think the man was 12, he's obsessed with ice cream cakes. The only other thing he wants is....under armor boxer briefs. So I guess tonight I'll be like oh hey! Happy birthday! Here's an ice cream cake and underwear!
Boxer jocks! lol it's the only underwear my H will wear.
@NoraAurora - mine too!! It's gonna suck for him when these kids are old enough to think walking around in underwear is weird. His pants come off the second he walks in the door. Ha.
haha @annabenannaYou are not alone!! I have a thick bra, tank top and tunic type shirt on and they're just poking out, putting on quite the show. They have gotten so long (sounds weird, but I swear that's what has happened) and are ALWAYS on display these days, even when I'm toasty warm, there they are, just popping out to say hi. Plus, sometimes, I can feel them almost tighten and they hurt!! The only good thing is nothing is leaking out of them...yet.
@LMNOBaby , i know what you mean by them getting longer! Mine are getting longer and bigger. LOL. I'm getting so self conscious!
In other news, I just came from my TRX class.... and it's such an amazing feeling at 19 weeks pregnant... being able to out-burpee the dude next to me who is 5 years younger! Do you even lift, bro?
Maternity clothing is expensive and it's pissing me off. I just dropped $65 on a pair of yoga pants and 2 belly bands. I was super excited to get a fatty paycheck Monday but now it's mostly gone between maternity clothes and student loans. FML.
ughhh. I had to go to three different grocery stores today all by stupid overcrowded public transport and it made me realize what in the world am I going to do with an infant?! If I can hardly handle not having my own transport pregnant I don't even know what I'm going to do. Which of course made me over-stress-out which led to getting home and crying. Thanks hormones.
I need some advice on a somewhat pregnancy related topic. Tomorrow is my 30th birthday and to celebrate, DH and I have invited 3 couples (our best friends) out to eat. Yesterday, everyone was texting me asking when and where we were going. I've been really craving hibachi lately and I felt like the "show" and fanciness of it was appropriate for a 30th birthday dinner. I texted everyone separately saying that's what I wanted and everyone was cool with it except my friend (we'll call her Laura) who is also pregnant and due June 3rd. Laura was diagnosed with gestational diabetes and therefore has to closely monitor her diet. She and her husband are also extremely cheap people so when I texted her, I expected her to balk at the price, but I didn't expect her diet to be a problem. Here's how the convo went:
Me: I was thinking hibachi, maybe at 6:30. Laura: There's really not a lot for me there that's not full of carbs. I can only have 60 carbs for dinner and a cup of rice is 80+ carbs. But it's your birthday, so if you want to go there we can. Me: I was actually thinking hibachi would work for your diet because you could sub extra veggies for rice. Laura: It's so expensive, I want to at least be about to enjoy it. We can go there if you want, I guess. Me: Then you pick the place because I don't know the details of your diet and where you can and can't go. Radio Silence.
I think it's incredibly selfish of her to try and dictate where we eat for my 30th birthday. Especially knowing that there is stuff she could eat there, but she wants the "bad stuff," and therefore, wants to avoid going there altogether. This is also not the first time she's done this. Because they're so cheap, they don't go out a lot, so the last time we went out to dinner with them was when we announced to all of our friends that we were pregnant (8 weeks). That night, we wanted to go to a local pasta place, but she said no, even though they have delicious wheat and spinach pasta (not to mention salads) she could eat. We changed our plans for her, which was fine because it wasn't someone's birthday or anything super special.
All of this makes me especially ragey because I, myself, have been on a very restrictive diet for over a year, on which I lost 112 pounds. And I NEVER ONCE restricted where we ate. I always looked at the menu ahead on time and if there was absolutely NOTHING I could eat there (which only happened once in a years time), I ate a small side salad at the restaurant and a snack later when I got home.
Am I in the wrong here? Should I work my plans around her? Sorry for the extremely long post and if you've stuck around this long, you get a cookie.
ETA: I would understand 100% if they chose not to come. I am in no way forcing them to attend or spend money on something she can't have or wouldn't like.
And, I'll also assure you that you aren't in the wrong. I haaaate confrontation, but even I probably wouldn't have told her to choose where to go. I would've just left it at her being able to eat the meat and veggies (which, by the way, is DELICIOUS). I mean, I would miss the rice, for sure, but she has a condition in which the rice isn't an option. And, that's not your fault. And, like you said, this is your birthday dinner. There is no reason to go anywhere else because your friend was rude enough to give her opinion.
Also, if they can't splurge on a Hibatchi meal, what are they going to do with a child...?
@CopperBoom86 - I wouldn't have said the last comment you sent her that ended in radio silence.. that was passive aggressive (I think that's right). I had the sleeve, and couldn't have carbs for a LONG time and hibachi style places were awesome because of all the yummy meat available!! So much protein! She shouldn't be dictating where you go, and you just need to go out with the other two couples and have a great time. It is her choice not to join you all, and don't let her be a deciding factor on your 30th birthday! It was very sweet of you to try to consider her likes/dislikes, but sometimes adults need to suck things up and go to support/celebrate other people than themselves. I hope you still go to the hibachi place and have a great birthday!
@CopperBoom86 , I'm sorry, but your friend is a PITA! It's YOUR BIRTHDAY. I hate that she says "we can go there if you want, i guess." and also "but it's your birthday, so if you want to go there we can." UGH.
You're being so sweet trying to accommodate her, but I think you have done your accommodating in the past for her already... and this time she can accommodate you. This makes me so angry! Can you text her and be like "so everyone is excited about hibachi, and I really am craving it... I hope you guys can come, I'd love to see you."
Then let it be her problem. I hate cheap people!
It reminds me of a friend who during wine get-togethers, she always brings the cheapest bottles, but then demands we open the more expensive ones (that others brought) first.... and when her bottle doesn't get opened (because it's so shitty), she brings it home with her.
@F47 - I wasn't being serious when I suggested she choose the place. I was baffled by her trying to dictate where we go, so I was just being a passive aggressive smart ass lol. In regards to the spending that will come with a baby, they are those people who get everything handed to them. Every Saturday, she has a standing date to go shopping with her grandmother because she buys her anything she wants. They have been "shopping for baby" every weekend since she got KU, which means "Maw Maw" paid for literally everything for that baby and will probably continue to do so after he's born.
@Piperella - Yeah, passive aggression is one of my specialties! I know I shouldn't have said it, but it felt good!
@annabenanna - I like to say she's my "friend by marriage." Meaning that our husbands are BFFs so we have to tolerate each other, haha. I haven't yet decided how I want to proceed. I wanted to make sure I wasn't totally in the wrong before we addressed the situation and I didn't want to talk to my two girl BFFs because I know they already hate her and therefore have super biased opinions. Now that I know she is, in fact, being ridiculous, I'm thinking I might let DH handle it. I HATE confrontation and he kinda loves it, so I'm thinking I'll let him text Laura's husband and say something like what you suggested.
I hate cheap people, too! When it comes down to it, you're basically saying you value money over relationships and experiences. Who lives like that?!?!
ETA: Thank you, all, for reading and giving your input! Also, I just realized I ask for ADVISE instead of ADVICE in the first freaking sentence of my original post. I promise I'm not an idiot, you guys lol.
@CopperBoom86 You are totally totally not in the wrong here. She's being a dummy who can just eat some salad or veggies or veggie sushi or so many other things. If it were me and absolutely nothing was on the menu, I would just eat a meal at home before and get some delicious iced tea or something. Tell her to SUCK IT UP BUTTERCUP. Side note, diet restrictions placed on other people/picky eaters are a pet peeve of mine. It's hard to be nice, but maybe say you would really like to go there and tell her the other options of stuff to eat?
So I bristle a little bit at calling people "cheap." You never know what someone's full financial situation is. For several years I made a salary that was well into the six figures. I was also dealing with student loan bills that were over $2K/month and was trying to pay down even more than that because I knew I wouldn't have that job forever. I never skimped out on friend's birthday dinners or behaved "cheaply" towards people in my social circle, but when I'd comment on something being expensive I'd sometimes get a "what's the big deal? You can afford it" in response. Technically I could, but it still wasn't an appropriate comment. What may be "cheap" to someone else is actually the financially smart decision for the individual, and as a society we'd probably be better off if there were less social pressure to spend, not more. (Note: this does not include filching on financial obligations or skimping on contributions to group events/gifts/whatnot, like the wine example above. That's just tacky and gross).
Birthday dinners can also be especially tricky for people trying to save money. There tends to be a lot of "let's just split the bill evenly (minus the guest of honor)", so you have less control over what you ultimately pay. It's really irritating when you stick to water and an entree while everybody else gets apps and 2-3 drinks a piece and then they want to split the bill evenly -- and I say that as someone who 90%+ of the time is the person getting the apps and drinks.
</endsidenote> </gets off soapbox> All that having been said -- I still think your friend was in the wrong, @copperboom86. If you wanted hibachi for your birthday, then hibachi it is. If your friend didn't want to go, either for financial or taste reasons (I agree that dietarily there would have been plenty of options for her), your friend should either have sucked it up or declined the invitation to dinner. Maybe she felt awkward declining because there was a lot of pressure to go because of the stronger relationship is between your husbands, but in that case, she should have had her husband handle it. Social invitations are not command performances, and if she didn't want to go she should have either sucked it up or backed out, and not have been a brat about it.
ETA: And HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!
DH and I: Early/mid 30s Married 7/15
TTC #1 as of 8/15
BFP 11/21/15 -- MC confirmed 12/1/15 BFP #2 2/18/16
@CopperBoom86 I agree with PPs but as it is YOUR birthday, she could have chosen to go and just suck it up, apologize that she couldn't go, or go and be there to socialize. I am a super picky eater and everyone knows that, but there's been many a time where I just eat before and go just to socialize and celebrate whatever occasion it is! Nobody thinks it's a big deal and we all have a good time without being awkward.
Hope you have a fabulous birthday!! And now I want hibachi!
Edit: having a hard time spelling today.
Me:33 DH: 34 Married: May 2011 TTC #1: May 2015 DS: 10/20/2016 TTC #2: June 2019 #2 EDD: 2/20/2020
@simcal18 , totally understand your point. I guess "cheap" to me equates to someone like the friend I described above... She will buy the cheapest bottle of wine to share, for a Cinco de Mayo gathering, she bought margarita mix from Ross!!!! But she takes full advantage of others: when it's the kind of dinner where you all just split the bill evenly (which I also hate by the way), she orders the filet mignon, etc. She never offers to drive (even though she just bought a really expensive, brand new SUV), but will always ride with someone on trips even if it means she has to squeeze in.
I love being thrifty, I love saving a buck, I love great deals... but I don't consider myself cheap. Cheap to me, is the friend I've just described. Ha. I forgot to mention that at my birthday, when we said "everything will be provided in terms of food, just BYOB, but we will have sangria too...." She brought a single serve bottle of champagne! For herself. Ugh.
@simcal18 - I totally understand why you're bothered by calling people cheap. I could go into great detail, but I'll spare you and just say they have PLENTY of money. I wouldn't call them cheap unless I knew it to be absolute fact. For example, her husband called my husband yesterday to ride with him to pick up a boat they bought off Craigslist... but hibachi for a friend's birthday is "really expensive." Like I said, they value "stuff" and money over friendships, which I just can't understand. Money is important. We're smart with it. We save it. But I would never let my love for money or stuff come before a relationship with a "best friend," which is what she calls me.
@CopperBoom86 That would bother me a lot too. It's your birthday, and the type of restaurant you chose is considerate of her diet and reasonable cost-wise. Although you said you were being passive-aggressive with your comment that she pick where to go, I think that once you have tried to problem solve, turning it over to her could be a good option. Not that she should be able to pick where to go for your birthday, but asking her "what would you do if you were in my shoes? What is a solution that meets both of our needs?" There are obviously plenty of menu options she could choose, or if she would like to save money she could eat at home and just come to celebrate. Or she could make up an excuse not to go. If she is only concerned about cost, she is an adult and she needs to troubleshoot her own solutions. She can choose not to go, she can plan ahead to order cheaper items, and if others try to split the bill, she can use her voice and request that everyone pays separate checks. But to ask you to change your very reasonable birthday plans is way out of line.
@annabenanna last year I got these nipple pads that are primarily intended to soothe but also would probably help the protruding nipple issue. I think I had gotten them at Target, Lansinoh soothing nipple pads. Good luck!
@copperboom86 Uhh your friend can have 3/4 of the freaking cup of rice if she really wants rice, or she could just enjoy the meat and veggies, or just not go. Rice isn't usually even the highlight of hibachi and it sounds like her not enjoying what she can have just is a result of her complaints with making some temporary adjustments to her diet. I've had diabetes for about 20 years now so I might be overly harsh but the reality is that anyone with dietary restrictions needs to choose carefully regardless of where they're going and kinda just get over it, and definitely not make it anyone else's issue or change everyone else's plans. I'm sure she would complain about the menu at any other restaurant because 60g of carbs can go quickly at restaurants. Hope you enjoy all the rice and have a great birthday!
@CopperBoom86First, you have no idea how much I wish that cookie was real... *sigh*
Whether they're cheap or financially struggling, I think she's just plain being rude. It's your birthday, you invited them to participate and she's making it about her! There have been plenty of times I was invited along for a birthday or event to a place that was out of my budget, or didn't fit my current diet, or where I just didn't care for the cuisine...but I'm an adult, and I made the decision to go or not. If I couldn't afford it, I would responsibly bow out, not make it a big deal, and suggest that maybe we do something another day to celebrate or get together. If it was a place that didn't serve my favorites, well, sometimes the friendship outweighs my personal preferences...so if that person was important enough to me, I'd go, celebrate my friend, make the best of it, then eat something on my own later (hello, that's what fast food drive thrus are for!!). If it's that big of a deal for them, then they shouldn't go... I would not reach back out to her, and let your husband ask her husband if they're coming. Either way, don't waste your worrying on her and enjoy your 30th!! It's a special one and you deserve no drama!!
Also, as fond user of passive aggressive-ness myself... she's being WAY worse with her responses of "I can only eat this little amount of food...BUT, we can go there if you want" and "it's so expensive, but if that's what you'd like..." Guilt trip not necessary - just say yes or no!!
Also, your friend is totally being rude and is in the wrong. I agree with all the PPs. If money is an issue, then she could either talk to you about it like an adult, (if the whole splitting the WHOLE bill is an issue) or decline the invite. I have gestational diabetes and when you mentioned hibachi I immediately thought "Oh heyyy! There's another dining option for me because of protein!" We can all understand someone being "cheap", even if it throws a wrench in things, if they truly are having financial troubles, but it sounds like she's just being difficult. I'm sorry. You enjoy your hibachi!
I'm incredibly lucky to have a job with top notch health benefits, great maternity leave and subsidized daycare. With that said, most days I haaaaaaaaaaate my job and now I feel like I'll be stuck here forever because I'll never find a set up this good somewhere else.
@scostel2 I feel the same way. Well, I don't have health benefits or get maternity leave, but I work from home and therefore will be able to be home with the baby. I don't make the greatest salary, but DH and I have discussed that this is the best possible place for me to be right now. Someday, I'll be able to do what I truly love, until then though, I just need to stay the course. Hang in there, the same is true for you too, even if it doesn't seem like it.
Pregnancy hit me like a brick to the face this week. I feel like my stomach popped, I'm transitioning into maternity clothes, I think I'm getting BHs already and I am exhausted. I did 15 minutes of lite cleaning yesterday and suddenly my heart was pounding and I was winded.
I figure this constitutes as random, so I'll just put this here- I am too damn bashful to "dirty talk". I have tried, but end up sounding like an awkward teen in a sex ed class at best, or a medical prefessional at my worst. FI keeps dropping hints that he would enjoy it, and gets upset thinking I'm not comfortable with him or something when it isn't him, it's the act itself. I can NOT shake off the feeling of embarrassment when I try. Anybody on here talented in the ways of dirty talk and have any tips to offer? I'm typically not sexually awkward, at all. But this... I can't seem to grasp.
@TurtleMomma I can text dirty, write dirty notes, but when it comes to phone calls or face to face... NOPE. I can't even practice out loud ALONE without feeling my face get red or choking. Sigh. Performance is not an issue though at least!
I figure this constitutes as random, so I'll just put this here- I am too damn bashful to "dirty talk". I have tried, but end up sounding like an awkward teen in a sex ed class at best, or a medical prefessional at my worst. FI keeps dropping hints that he would enjoy it, and gets upset thinking I'm not comfortable with him or something when it isn't him, it's the act itself. I can NOT shake off the feeling of embarrassment when I try. Anybody on here talented in the ways of dirty talk and have any tips to offer? I'm typically not sexually awkward, at all. But this... I can't seem to grasp.
@AllyTheKidYou have empathy from me too! I feel the exact same way. I think it may have something to do with the fact that I'm a natural introvert & need time to process thoughts before I speak them out loud. Same as you said, I can write all day long...but please don't ask me to vocalize! Anxiety hits me & I freeze up and just end up sounding stupid.
Side note: All the men in my office place today (a lot) have told me I looked tired. I want to let them in on a secret that I'm not wearing face makeup, and I'm actually quite rested.
Re: Weekly Randoms (May 9)
The last time he woke up (before morning) was 3 a.m., and we were up until 5:10. This has been going on for two weeks and functioning at work is becoming a serious challenge.
On on top of that, I just feel awful that he's scared/having nightmares/whatever is going on with him (he won't tell us).
Anyway, I started a whole thread about it last week which was helpful. But, just needed to vent today.
Sitting at the OB office waiting for my doc. She may come in to find me asleep on the table.
In other news, I just came from my TRX class.... and it's such an amazing feeling at 19 weeks pregnant... being able to out-burpee the dude next to me who is 5 years younger! Do you even lift, bro?
Me: I was thinking hibachi, maybe at 6:30.
Laura: There's really not a lot for me there that's not full of carbs. I can only have 60 carbs for dinner and a cup of rice is 80+ carbs. But it's your birthday, so if you want to go there we can.
Me: I was actually thinking hibachi would work for your diet because you could sub extra veggies for rice.
Laura: It's so expensive, I want to at least be about to enjoy it. We can go there if you want, I guess.
Me: Then you pick the place because I don't know the details of your diet and where you can and can't go.
Radio Silence.
I think it's incredibly selfish of her to try and dictate where we eat for my 30th birthday. Especially knowing that there is stuff she could eat there, but she wants the "bad stuff," and therefore, wants to avoid going there altogether. This is also not the first time she's done this. Because they're so cheap, they don't go out a lot, so the last time we went out to dinner with them was when we announced to all of our friends that we were pregnant (8 weeks). That night, we wanted to go to a local pasta place, but she said no, even though they have delicious wheat and spinach pasta (not to mention salads) she could eat. We changed our plans for her, which was fine because it wasn't someone's birthday or anything super special.
All of this makes me especially ragey because I, myself, have been on a very restrictive diet for over a year, on which I lost 112 pounds. And I NEVER ONCE restricted where we ate. I always looked at the menu ahead on time and if there was absolutely NOTHING I could eat there (which only happened once in a years time), I ate a small side salad at the restaurant and a snack later when I got home.
Am I in the wrong here? Should I work my plans around her? Sorry for the extremely long post and if you've stuck around this long, you get a cookie.
ETA: I would understand 100% if they chose not to come. I am in no way forcing them to attend or spend money on something she can't have or wouldn't like.
And, I'll also assure you that you aren't in the wrong. I haaaate confrontation, but even I probably wouldn't have told her to choose where to go. I would've just left it at her being able to eat the meat and veggies (which, by the way, is DELICIOUS). I mean, I would miss the rice, for sure, but she has a condition in which the rice isn't an option. And, that's not your fault. And, like you said, this is your birthday dinner. There is no reason to go anywhere else because your friend was rude enough to give her opinion.
Also, if they can't splurge on a Hibatchi meal, what are they going to do with a child...?
Just my opinion. You have that dinner, lady!
You're being so sweet trying to accommodate her, but I think you have done your accommodating in the past for her already... and this time she can accommodate you. This makes me so angry! Can you text her and be like "so everyone is excited about hibachi, and I really am craving it... I hope you guys can come, I'd love to see you."
Then let it be her problem. I hate cheap people!
It reminds me of a friend who during wine get-togethers, she always brings the cheapest bottles, but then demands we open the more expensive ones (that others brought) first.... and when her bottle doesn't get opened (because it's so shitty), she brings it home with her.
@Piperella - Yeah, passive aggression is one of my specialties! I know I shouldn't have said it, but it felt good!
@annabenanna - I like to say she's my "friend by marriage." Meaning that our husbands are BFFs so we have to tolerate each other, haha. I haven't yet decided how I want to proceed. I wanted to make sure I wasn't totally in the wrong before we addressed the situation and I didn't want to talk to my two girl BFFs because I know they already hate her and therefore have super biased opinions. Now that I know she is, in fact, being ridiculous, I'm thinking I might let DH handle it. I HATE confrontation and he kinda loves it, so I'm thinking I'll let him text Laura's husband and say something like what you suggested.
I hate cheap people, too! When it comes down to it, you're basically saying you value money over relationships and experiences. Who lives like that?!?!
ETA: Thank you, all, for reading and giving your input!
Also, I just realized I ask for ADVISE instead of ADVICE in the first freaking sentence of my original post. I promise I'm not an idiot, you guys lol.
Birthday dinners can also be especially tricky for people trying to save money. There tends to be a lot of "let's just split the bill evenly (minus the guest of honor)", so you have less control over what you ultimately pay. It's really irritating when you stick to water and an entree while everybody else gets apps and 2-3 drinks a piece and then they want to split the bill evenly -- and I say that as someone who 90%+ of the time is the person getting the apps and drinks.
</endsidenote> </gets off soapbox> All that having been said -- I still think your friend was in the wrong, @copperboom86. If you wanted hibachi for your birthday, then hibachi it is. If your friend didn't want to go, either for financial or taste reasons (I agree that dietarily there would have been plenty of options for her), your friend should either have sucked it up or declined the invitation to dinner. Maybe she felt awkward declining because there was a lot of pressure to go because of the stronger relationship is between your husbands, but in that case, she should have had her husband handle it. Social invitations are not command performances, and if she didn't want to go she should have either sucked it up or backed out, and not have been a brat about it.
ETA: And HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!
Married 7/15
BFP #2 2/18/16
Hope you have a fabulous birthday!! And now I want hibachi!
Edit: having a hard time spelling today.
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
I love being thrifty, I love saving a buck, I love great deals... but I don't consider myself cheap. Cheap to me, is the friend I've just described. Ha. I forgot to mention that at my birthday, when we said "everything will be provided in terms of food, just BYOB, but we will have sangria too...." She brought a single serve bottle of champagne! For herself. Ugh.
It's a boy!
@copperboom86 Uhh your friend can have 3/4 of the freaking cup of rice if she really wants rice, or she could just enjoy the meat and veggies, or just not go. Rice isn't usually even the highlight of hibachi and it sounds like her not enjoying what she can have just is a result of her complaints with making some temporary adjustments to her diet. I've had diabetes for about 20 years now so I might be overly harsh but the reality is that anyone with dietary restrictions needs to choose carefully regardless of where they're going and kinda just get over it, and definitely not make it anyone else's issue or change everyone else's plans. I'm sure she would complain about the menu at any other restaurant because 60g of carbs can go quickly at restaurants. Hope you enjoy all the rice and have a great birthday!
Whether they're cheap or financially struggling, I think she's just plain being rude. It's your birthday, you invited them to participate and she's making it about her! There have been plenty of times I was invited along for a birthday or event to a place that was out of my budget, or didn't fit my current diet, or where I just didn't care for the cuisine...but I'm an adult, and I made the decision to go or not. If I couldn't afford it, I would responsibly bow out, not make it a big deal, and suggest that maybe we do something another day to celebrate or get together. If it was a place that didn't serve my favorites, well, sometimes the friendship outweighs my personal preferences...so if that person was important enough to me, I'd go, celebrate my friend, make the best of it, then eat something on my own later (hello, that's what fast food drive thrus are for!!). If it's that big of a deal for them, then they shouldn't go... I would not reach back out to her, and let your husband ask her husband if they're coming. Either way, don't waste your worrying on her and enjoy your 30th!! It's a special one and you deserve no drama!!
Also, as fond user of passive aggressive-ness myself... she's being WAY worse with her responses of "I can only eat this little amount of food...BUT, we can go there if you want" and "it's so expensive, but if that's what you'd like..." Guilt trip not necessary - just say yes or no!!
Finally - Happy Birthday!!
Also, your friend is totally being rude and is in the wrong. I agree with all the PPs. If money is an issue, then she could either talk to you about it like an adult, (if the whole splitting the WHOLE bill is an issue) or decline the invite. I have gestational diabetes and when you mentioned hibachi I immediately thought "Oh heyyy! There's another dining option for me because of protein!" We can all understand someone being "cheap", even if it throws a wrench in things, if they truly are having financial troubles, but it sounds like she's just being difficult. I'm sorry. You enjoy your hibachi!
BFP #1: 7/15/15, SB: 11/14/15
Rainbow baby DS born 9/29/16!!
BFP #3 3/26/18 | Due 12/3/18
BFP #1: 7/15/15, SB: 11/14/15
Rainbow baby DS born 9/29/16!!
BFP #3 3/26/18 | Due 12/3/18
BFP #1: 7/15/15, SB: 11/14/15
Rainbow baby DS born 9/29/16!!
BFP #3 3/26/18 | Due 12/3/18
Happy Birthday @CopperBoom86 and I agree with everyone else about your friend.
Enjoy Hibachi, it sounds delicious!
FI keeps dropping hints that he would enjoy it, and gets upset thinking I'm not comfortable with him or something when it isn't him, it's the act itself. I can NOT shake off the feeling of embarrassment when I try.
Anybody on here talented in the ways of dirty talk and have any tips to offer?
I'm typically not sexually awkward, at all. But this... I can't seem to grasp.
I feel ya! In my fantasies, I'm the queen of dirty talk, but in practice I just can't get the words past my lips. No advice, just solidarity.