how do you get him to sleep in his bassinet if he continues to cry because he wants to be picked up? It kills me having him cry, but I feel like he will never lay down if I pick him up ea h time. I'll put my hand with him, swaddle him, offer a paci, but unless you pick him up, he continues.
This is my life. She has been tolerating being in the bassinet a little longer each night though and stayed in for 30 minutes before she started to cry last night. I'm hoping she will eventually be able to fall asleep in it but for now she just kind of looks around. I'm really hoping the woombie will make things easier, I'll let you know if it helps after tonight!
how do you get him to sleep in his bassinet if he continues to cry because he wants to be picked up? It kills me having him cry, but I feel like he will never lay down if I pick him up ea h time. I'll put my hand with him, swaddle him, offer a paci, but unless you pick him up, he continues.
This is my life. She has been tolerating being in the bassinet a little longer each night though and stayed in for 30 minutes before she started to cry last night. I'm hoping she will eventually be able to fall asleep in it but for now she just kind of looks around. I'm really hoping the woombie will make things easier, I'll let you know if it helps after tonight!
I have no magic to share on this (I hope for you're sake someone does), but some suggestions are in an earlier post that helped me a little with DS (heat up the sleep surface a bit, get your scent in there, skeep close enough to touch). It was one of my major struggles with DS. I just kept trying everyday and he eventually slept slightly longer stretches in the PNP. I'd pick him up when he cried, then put him back down when he stopped. Obce he git old enough fir sleep training, i used the technique of picking him back up for a set number of minutes to soothe, then moving to not picking him up but offering pats or hugs. He was quite a bit older until it worked for us, but it did work in conjunction with other taught skills. As a newborn, there were times I'd pick him up and put him down at least 10 times before he stayed asleep for a bit. When he hit the 4 month sleep regression and other me-going-back-to-work issues, he and I just set up a safe bedshare instead for most nights until he was a little over one and we both got more sleep that way. I would personally be hesitant to bedshare when baby is so little though. Hang in there, mama!
@ladysamlady and @kbrands7 thank you ladies! I was just picking him up and not putting him back down, but going to couch and putting him on my chest. Since my DH and I switch off in the AM so I can get 3 solid hours, I try to ler him rest at night. I think I'm going to set up in guest room so I don't give up as quick until be gets a little better in his bassinet.
@JoMunson Did you see the link in the breastfeeding Q&A thread about the nipple everter? @araecasey posted a pic of a Lansinoh product that is supposed to help with inverted nipples. Mine are flat, not inverted so I'm sure it is much more painful for you, but I think it might work similarly to a shield in terms of popping out the tissue.
@JoMunson Did you see the link in the breastfeeding Q&A thread about the nipple everter? @araecasey posted a pic of a Lansinoh product that is supposed to help with inverted nipples. Mine are flat, not inverted so I'm sure it is much more painful for you, but I think it might work similarly to a shield in terms of popping out the tissue.
My baby can usually pop it out with his suckle, it's just very painful- were talking tears (for me) and having to basically grit the entire 30 minutes.
how do you get him to sleep in his bassinet if he continues to cry because he wants to be picked up? It kills me having him cry, but I feel like he will never lay down if I pick him up ea h time. I'll put my hand with him, swaddle him, offer a paci, but unless you pick him up, he continues.
This is my life. She has been tolerating being in the bassinet a little longer each night though and stayed in for 30 minutes before she started to cry last night. I'm hoping she will eventually be able to fall asleep in it but for now she just kind of looks around. I'm really hoping the woombie will make things easier, I'll let you know if it helps after tonight!
Sometimes I find putting my LO in bed with me until she settles down and then moving her to the bassinet helps when she just won't stop making noises or settle. I don't like her cry it out at all. I let her whine and make her noises but a real cry and I pick her up. They're too little to self soothe right now so I just give her what she wants. I find every night is so different though!
@ladysamlady and @kbrands7 thank you ladies! I was just picking him up and not putting him back down, but going to couch and putting him on my chest. Since my DH and I switch off in the AM so I can get 3 solid hours, I try to ler him rest at night. I think I'm going to set up in guest room so I don't give up as quick until be gets a little better in his bassinet.
I used a random technique with DS1 when he was going through one of the first sleep regressions, but maybe it will help: we would lay down together so my arm was touching him and then I would incrementally move my arm away until we weren't touching any longer, but very slowly so it wasn't a jolting transition from shared body warmth to cold. Once I knew he was definitely asleep I would transfer him to his crib.
Nighttimes. Are. Killing. Me. My son is so chill all day, he sleeps most of the day, doesn't fuss too bad come 9pm he becomes a whole different baby. He fusses so loudly, and doesn't want to sleep. I try everything, feeding him, burping him, changing him. He's litterally fussing just to fuss- all night long. I don't know what to do
Silas is the same way. He just fusses and wants to eat and eat. (I'm sure half of it is just comfort sucking). He will sleep so long as he's on me, usually after a bit of suckling, but as soon as I lay him down he starts wiggling and sucking his fists. It's getting a bit better. But tbh that's because I've been letting him sleep on my chest a lot. My back has been killing me so bad that I really can't keep getting up and down. I really don't even know what else to do. I've been trying so hard to get him to sleep in his own crib at night. He'll sleep for hours in his crib during the day, when I let him. I don't understand
@JoMunson Did you see the link in the breastfeeding Q&A thread about the nipple everter? @araecasey posted a pic of a Lansinoh product that is supposed to help with inverted nipples. Mine are flat, not inverted so I'm sure it is much more painful for you, but I think it might work similarly to a shield in terms of popping out the tissue.
My baby can usually pop it out with his suckle, it's just very painful- were talking tears (for me) and having to basically grit the entire 30 minutes.
Thank you guys for your support and ideas! We just tried a naked (no shield) latch on that side and it didn't hurt at all! I'm honestly a little surprised there was actual milk in there since we hadn't used that boob in two days!
@JoMunson It typically takes longer than two days to dry up, and even then if you're within a monthish of weaning from one or both breasts, you can typically get some level of supply back by resuming nursing. So glad to hear that nursing sans shield went well on that side! Nipples invert because they're attached to ducts that are on the shorter side. Sometimes with inverted nipples it just takes time (and so much patience on mom's part!) for your ducts to slowly stretch out one feeding at a time. Mine are no longer invert at all.
Milk came in. And baby won't settle for anything less than that all the time, especially at night because: night. My other wasn't a paci baby, never took one. But I had lots of time to sleep when baby slept.
Now I have to be up all day constantly due to having a non napping toddler. So sleep when the baby sleeps doesn't work because I have to be awake for my toddler. I cannot be awake 24/7.
LC at the hospital said wait 3 weeks to give one. What does this group say?
Milk came in. And baby won't settle for anything less than that all the time, especially at night because: night. My other wasn't a paci baby, never took one.
I have to be up all day constantly due to having a non napping toddler. So sleep when the baby sleeps doesn't work because I have to be awake for my toddler. I cannot be awake 24/7.
LC at the hospital said wait 3 weeks to give one. What does this group say?
I broke on day 6. My milk had come in, baby was a natural at breast feeding and had no trouble latching even at night, he just was a baby who needed to suckle. We try not to give it during the day since he isn't fussy then but it has really helped us at night. The doctor I talked to (a psychiatrist who works with teens and had done a peds rotation) said the problem is there are so many ways to be a good parent it's hard to give specific advice, so just do what you know as a mom to be right.
I think it's a made up number of weeks based on nothing specific at all. We just got ours to take one last night...she's 19 days today. She doesn't love it but it gave me a little peace and quiet when I was ready to tear my hair out last night. My understanding is if you give it toooo early then they may suckle the pacifier instead of eating...if they're still eating well and gaining, then go for it?
how do you get him to sleep in his bassinet if he continues to cry because he wants to be picked up? It kills me having him cry, but I feel like he will never lay down if I pick him up ea h time. I'll put my hand with him, swaddle him, offer a paci, but unless you pick him up, he continues.
This is my life. She has been tolerating being in the bassinet a little longer each night though and stayed in for 30 minutes before she started to cry last night. I'm hoping she will eventually be able to fall asleep in it but for now she just kind of looks around. I'm really hoping the woombie will make things easier, I'll let you know if it helps after tonight!
I have no magic to share on this (I hope for you're sake someone does), but some suggestions are in an earlier post that helped me a little with DS (heat up the sleep surface a bit, get your scent in there, skeep close enough to touch). It was one of my major struggles with DS. I just kept trying everyday and he eventually slept slightly longer stretches in the PNP. I'd pick him up when he cried, then put him back down when he stopped. Obce he git old enough fir sleep training, i used the technique of picking him back up for a set number of minutes to soothe, then moving to not picking him up but offering pats or hugs. He was quite a bit older until it worked for us, but it did work in conjunction with other taught skills. As a newborn, there were times I'd pick him up and put him down at least 10 times before he stayed asleep for a bit. When he hit the 4 month sleep regression and other me-going-back-to-work issues, he and I just set up a safe bedshare instead for most nights until he was a little over one and we both got more sleep that way. I would personally be hesitant to bedshare when baby is so little though. Hang in there, mama!
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Same here. We started to safe sleep bed share when baby was 5-6 months old. Babies this little worry me for bed sharing. Mine won't easily go down in the bassinet unless it is daytime. Last baby liked the rock n play for bedtime. Well, when baby slept. My new babies have their days and nights all mixed up
Does everyone wake their LO up every 2-3 hours? It kills me to do that sometimes.
I do until they hit their birthweight again. During night I don't have to do any waking, they do all of it. It is the daytime that I do.
I don't. He wakes up pretty regularly every 2-3 hours on his own to feed, except from about 11-3pm when he takes one long nap. I weighed him myself before his two week appointment next week. I'm sort of letting him set his own schedule and keeping track.
Does everyone wake their LO up every 2-3 hours? It kills me to do that sometimes.
I wake every three hours overnight. He was back to birth weight by day 3, but I still do it because I prefer that he doesn't clusterfeed alllllllllll day long and breastfeeding hormones are highest in the early morning that I want to take advantage of while my supply is establishing. Not to mention, I'd leak all over the bed if I went longer than that without feeding.
Once baby is back up to birth weight, it's more of a choice than a necessity.
Does everyone wake their LO up every 2-3 hours? It kills me to do that sometimes.
I don't. My LO was just 2 ounces shy of her birthweight at our first pediatrician appt and was having plenty of poo and pee diapers so the pedi told us to follow her cues with nursing instead of the clock. I'll wake her up if I'm engorged but I try to let her wake up on her own most of the time.
Milk came in. And baby won't settle for anything less than that all the time, especially at night because: night. My other wasn't a paci baby, never took one. But I had lots of time to sleep when baby slept.
Now I have to be up all day constantly due to having a non napping toddler. So sleep when the baby sleeps doesn't work because I have to be awake for my toddler. I cannot be awake 24/7.
LC at the hospital said wait 3 weeks to give one. What does this group say?
We caved yesterday at a week old. He had just eaten, had been changed, wasn't having his swing, and didn't want to be rocked/walked around, etc. It was the only the only thing that would console him. He ended up falling asleep maybe 5-10 mins later. We're trying to avoid using it when possible, but if we know he's eaten and full then we don't really have a problem with it.
I want to try to wait on a paci for at least 4 weeks, maybe longer, but it does feel draining to be used as a human pacifier. However, sometimes it's hard to tell if he is doing that or cluster feeding. I guess if they were really hungry, they wouldn't accept the paci, right?
A nurse gave our LO a pacifier in the nursery and I was a little annoyed at first, but honestly, its had no impact on BFing. LO typically only accepts the pacifier at night and otherwise will push it away. If he pushes at it or closes his mouth then we don't offer again and we actually really like the fact that he's clearly not dependent on it at all. The only people having a difficult time with this are the grandparents and great grandparents who think everything can be solved with a pacifier.
My guy won't take it if he's hungry. We give it two/three tries but if he sucks on it a couple times and then spits it out we know it's cuz he's hungry. It's also helpful to try and offer breast first. That way I know if he's eaten for 20-30 minutes on both sides he's just not sure how to calm himself down for a nap. Paci to the rescue.
Let's talk hiccups!! Anyone else's LO get hiccups a lot? Henry gets them 3-4 times per day, and they last about 7-10 mins each time. I'm trying to have shorter nursing sessions but he's so hungry! We try to keep him upright after feeding, and burp him. Any other suggestions?
Also, I'm having a hell of a time figuring out if he's hot or cold, and dressing him properly. I try the wear what I wear plus one layer and he feels hot to me. I put him in just a onesie and he seems cold. Short sleeved onesie plus swaddle me and his nose is so cold but his chest is good. The temp in the bedroom hovers between 71-75, with a small fan on near the beds (but not blowing into it). I'm so paranoid about SIDS! Argh! Any advice appreciated...
We've offered our LO a paci a few times but she's just not into it. I swear she resists every single thing made to calm or soothe an infant, all she wants is her mama and her mama's boobs. I'll keep offering a paci though and hope she'll take one eventually, we've tried two brands already and MAM is next.
We've offered our LO a paci a few times but she's just not into it. I swear she resists every single thing made to calm or soothe an infant, all she wants is her mama and her mama's boobs. I'll keep offering a paci though and hope she'll take one eventually, we've tried two brands already and MAM is next.
This has happened with both of my boys. We tried a pacifier, tried different brands, and they just haven't really been into them. DS used me to pacify for a while, then eventually started sucking in his sleep on his own. DS2 has already started sucking in his sleep on his own. I wasn't even going to try a pacifier this time originally because we were working on his latch early on, but it turned out that he'll suck on it for a few seconds and then spit it out anyway (and not fuss for it).
I gave in last night and have Nate a pacifier. He was inconsolable. Turns out he had gas and the paci probably didn't make it better. I'm going to try to limit how many times I give it to him though.
Also, @ayeshaohara, my doctor prescribed oxycodone and I just found out it can cause excessive sleepiness in newborns when BF'g. LO has been sleeping a lot more today since I started taking it again. Should I ask for something else?
@artteacher19 Our LO gets hiccups all the time, usually mid-feed. It's so annoying because it then distracts her. We burp and do everything we can to get rid of them, but we've had no luck.
@LadySamLady have you tried Advent soothies pacifiers? We tried chicco and DS didn't like it but he loves soothies.
@lalala2004 DS doesn't take a paci unless he just wants to suckle. When he's hungry, no paci can calm him.
@MsIan we wake DS up every 3 hours during the day time unless he's really fussy to eat. But if he sleeps for 5 hours at a time at night then we let him. He's gotten really good at waking us up instead. My goal is, once he's back to birth weight then we're gonna let him sleep at night for as long as he wants. He's 3 oz shy right now at 7 days old.
@LadySamLady my LO will only take a MAM pacifier. She also loves the MAM bottles too.
@MsIan oxycodone will absolutely cause sleepy baby. You should be timing your feedings around its use...eg take it and feed straight away before it is absorbed into your system. If your pain is tolerable I'd be sticking with Advil or Tylenol personally. Oxy seems like a bit of overkill to me for post partum pain.
@ayeshaohara Okay. I think I'm just going to stop taking it altogether. I feel like I've been hit by a truck when I don't take it, but we were barely able to get Nate to wake up today. It worried me to death!
I can't get over how much my newborn sleeps! We still are waking him up for feedings because he has not regained his birth weight. My son takes a pacifier. He was given it in the nicu. So far he hasn't had any issues with nursing, bottle feeding, and pacifier confusion.
@MsIan This could totally be the sleepy baby issue! If you're feeling terrible though, there's no reason to suffer. Plenty of moms need strong stuff after birthing. When DD was born, I had a vaginal hematoma and a second degree tear that reopened. You bet your buns I took Percocet! How often are you taking it? Maybe spacing it out and rotating Advil and Tylenol between oxy doses would be enough to control your pain?
@Mslan, I agree with the pp. Can your doctor prescribe 800 mg of ibuprofen and you rotate that with the Oxy? I had to do that to wean myself off Norco post csection because LO was always asleep. Once I reduced the Norco, he started waking more readily.
C-section here. Once I stopped all pain meds (even Tylenol) baby was much more alert. I stopped them maybe sooner than I should have (3 days pp) but baby was dropping a lot of weight.
I just nurse my baby through the hiccups if baby is hungry and it is time. Did it the first time around too. Doesn't bother baby at all.
Also, I'm having a hell of a time figuring out if he's hot or cold, and dressing him properly. I try the wear what I wear plus one layer and he feels hot to me. I put him in just a onesie and he seems cold. Short sleeved onesie plus swaddle me and his nose is so cold but his chest is good. The temp in the bedroom hovers between 71-75, with a small fan on near the beds (but not blowing into it). I'm so paranoid about SIDS! Argh! Any advice appreciated...
I am also paranoid about this! Even as a STM it is just scary. I noticed in the hospital they would take their temp under their arm frequently. You could try that and see if you could gauge a pattern.
Right now our temp hovers the same as yours (73-76) and I have our baby in a hat, long sleeves and long pants, and a thin hospital blanket (swaddled).
In the hospital they had baby in the same temp range in a hat, the long sleeves and long pants, and a thick fleece swaddle sleep sack. That was after checking temps many times, baby was having trouble until all those layers. I expressed concern of overheating but they were not concerned at all. Baby seemed overly warm in all of that but the temps checked out good after so I was confused.
I check temp without a thermometer not by nose but by the back of the neck. My first baby was a summer baby and we would have baby in a onesie and then swaddled with 1 blanket. Sometimes a hat.
DS likes to sleep on his side from what I can tell (he laid on his side in utereo and tried coming out sideways too). He sleeps a good 3-5 hours that way, very peacefully. When I put him on his back while he's sleeping, he breathes really heavily and loudly, for about 30 minutes and wakes up. I'm scared of SIDS so I place him on his back but then he makes loud noises that scare me. It's such a catch 22.
Anyone have any experience with this? I'll probably give the pediatrician a call Monday to figure this out too. Just wanted to see other perspectives.
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ler him rest at night. I think I'm going to set up in guest room so I don't give up as quick until be gets a little better in his bassinet.
wish I had advice. But I'm in the same boat.
Now I have to be up all day constantly due to having a non napping toddler.
So sleep when the baby sleeps doesn't work because I have to be awake for my toddler. I cannot be awake 24/7.
LC at the hospital said wait 3 weeks to give one.
What does this group say?
The doctor I talked to (a psychiatrist who works with teens and had done a peds rotation) said the problem is there are so many ways to be a good parent it's hard to give specific advice, so just do what you know as a mom to be right.
Last baby liked the rock n play for bedtime. Well, when baby slept. My new babies have their days and nights all mixed up
During night I don't have to do any waking, they do all of it. It is the daytime that I do.
Once baby is back up to birth weight, it's more of a choice than a necessity.
Also, I'm having a hell of a time figuring out if he's hot or cold, and dressing him properly. I try the wear what I wear plus one layer and he feels hot to me. I put him in just a onesie and he seems cold. Short sleeved onesie plus swaddle me and his nose is so cold but his chest is good. The temp in the bedroom hovers between 71-75, with a small fan on near the beds (but not blowing into it). I'm so paranoid about SIDS! Argh! Any advice appreciated...
Also, @ayeshaohara, my doctor prescribed oxycodone and I just found out it can cause excessive sleepiness in newborns when BF'g. LO has been sleeping a lot more today since I started taking it again. Should I ask for something else?
@lalala2004 DS doesn't take a paci unless he just wants to suckle. When he's hungry, no paci can calm him.
@MsIan we wake DS up every 3 hours during the day time unless he's really fussy to eat. But if he sleeps for 5 hours at a time at night then we let him. He's gotten really good at waking us up instead. My goal is, once he's back to birth weight then we're gonna let him sleep at night for as long as he wants. He's 3 oz shy right now at 7 days old.
@MsIan oxycodone will absolutely cause sleepy baby. You should be timing your feedings around its use...eg take it and feed straight away before it is absorbed into your system. If your pain is tolerable I'd be sticking with Advil or Tylenol personally. Oxy seems like a bit of overkill to me for post partum pain.
I just nurse my baby through the hiccups if baby is hungry and it is time. Did it the first time around too. Doesn't bother baby at all.
Right now our temp hovers the same as yours (73-76) and I have our baby in a hat, long sleeves and long pants, and a thin hospital blanket (swaddled).
In the hospital they had baby in the same temp range in a hat, the long sleeves and long pants, and a thick fleece swaddle sleep sack. That was after checking temps many times, baby was having trouble until all those layers.
I expressed concern of overheating but they were not concerned at all.
Baby seemed overly warm in all of that but the temps checked out good after so I was confused.
I check temp without a thermometer not by nose but by the back of the neck.
My first baby was a summer baby and we would have baby in a onesie and then swaddled with 1 blanket. Sometimes a hat.
Anyone have any experience with this? I'll probably give the pediatrician a call Monday to figure this out too. Just wanted to see other perspectives.