Anyone else have a newborn who only gets constipated at night? Specifically after 4 am feed, my DS will be uncomfortable for a few hours and I'm not sure what to do
@araecasey and @lbachran I do feel horrible. When i don't take the Oxy I feel like I was hit by a car and I can barely move without feeling pain all over. My doctor also prescribed the 800 mg ibuprofen but it barely puts a dent in my pain. I feel best when they're taken together. So I end up taking the ibuprofen and Oxy together 3x a day. I'm really not sure what to do. I'm also thinking he's always been a sleepy baby and that his drowsiness may just be because my milk just came in and it's fattier than the colostrum?
@araecasey and @lbachran I do feel horrible. When i don't take the Oxy I feel like I was hit by a car and I can barely move without feeling pain all over. My doctor also prescribed the 800 mg ibuprofen but it barely puts a dent in my pain. I feel best when they're taken together. So I end up taking the ibuprofen and Oxy together 3x a day. I'm really not sure what to do. I'm also thinking he's always been a sleepy baby and that his drowsiness may just be because my milk just came in and it's fattier than the colostrum?
Ok so it sounds like you're feeling really crummy unfortunately keep in mind that the oxy will give you a feeling of euphoria too so you'll feel extra good when you take it!! So if you want to keep taking it and feeding you need to take my advice about taking it right before you feed. Then you have about 4-6 hours before it wears off again...so you'll either have drowsy baby during that time when you feed next or you can pump and dump your milk. It's a delicate balance. You could also try taking half a tablet and see if that curbs your pain and reduces baby's drowsiness.
youll have to remind me if you had vaginal or CS delivery??? tell me more about your pain and where it's located. I'm concerned that you're feeling pain "all over" as opposed to just pain from delivery. How long ago did you deliver?
Anyone else dealing with HUGE weight drops? DD was 8lb 9oz at birth 10 days ago and dropped 5oz in her first 24 hrs, we had to stay an extra 24 hours in the hospital for her to stay under the lights for 14 hours due to jaundice, and the pediatrician discharged her against the 10% weight loss rule of thumb (she was at 12% weight loss) due to her bilirubin levels being normal and her wet/poop diapers being on track and my milk supply being good at time of discharge. We got disharged a week ago today and have been seeing her pediatrician every day since and monitoring her weight loss and gain. She has yet to be under the 10% weight loss but has gone up and down from 12% to 17%. I'm producing plenty of breast milk and she's still very alert and hydrated, DH and I are so so exhausted and so so over this whole thing. I was severely edemic due to my pre-eclampsia and retained a TON of water so they think DD did as well, and I was induced so I was pumped full of IV fluids during my induction which could have brought DD's birth weight up as well, but she's down 1lb7oz at this point and it's just unrealistic to assume all of that was excess fluid. They want me pumping and feeding a 2oz bottle to her every 2 hours so we know for sure how much milk she's getting and if she's not up tomorrow they're admitting her to the hospital. I'm at a total loss as to what to do. I have a baby who's acting and proving healthy in every way other than her weight and I'm producing tons of milk.
DS likes to sleep on his side from what I can tell (he laid on his side in utereo and tried coming out sideways too). He sleeps a good 3-5 hours that way, very peacefully. When I put him on his back while he's sleeping, he breathes really heavily and loudly, for about 30 minutes and wakes up. I'm scared of SIDS so I place him on his back but then he makes loud noises that scare me. It's such a catch 22.
Anyone have any experience with this? I'll probably give the pediatrician a call Monday to figure this out too. Just wanted to see other perspectives.
DD isn't here yet but my midwife was already reccomending side sleeping. She said to prop a rolled up blanket or towel behind her back and have her swaddled. She said they are very comfortable this way and when you rotate sides it can prevent having a flat head.
However, EVERYTHING I have read says sleeping on the back is best to prevent SIDS. It's already become a bit of an issue with DH because he trusts the midwife and doesn't want DD to have to wear a helmet if her head gets flat. My argument is which is better- being dead or wearing a helmet?
Sorry no real answers here I'm just hoping it isn't too much of an issue when she finally arrives.
@mslan My doctor sent me home with motrin and hydrocodone, and I read the same thing. I asked them for the lowest dose available of hydrocodone, and I didn't really see any major differences between from when I took it vs. when I didn't take it as far as LO is concerned. She was sleepier in the beginning, but they're all sleeping off birth in the beginning. Do you think you can ask the doctor for a lower dose? The main reason I quit taking it is when I got a 102 fever on day 4ish post partum, and my stitches were in that feeling tight phase (peak pain), I actually found the motrin helped me much better. The problem was I could only take it every 8 hours, and by 5-6 hours, it was wearing off. I was using the hydrocodone to tie me over, and then I thought how stupid that whole thought process was. So, since the doctor told me I could add in tylenol for fever, I just scraped it all, and went to every 7 hours with the motrin. That seemed to manage my pain and fever enough to make it over the peak. By day 8 post partum, and now today, I probably go 12 hours between motrin (morning/before bed). I'm still trying to wake LO up while feeding these days. It just puts her right to sleep.
Off topic - is anyone else running their washing machine these days 24/7? I'm terrified of our water bill. We went and bought extra changing pads, and we have plenty of onesies, but it still churns. My husband has been on diaper duty, but now that I'm feeling better and more mobile, I've been doing them as well. I got my first poop blow out mid-change yesterday. That was super fun!
@araecasey and @lbachran I do feel horrible. When i don't take the Oxy I feel like I was hit by a car and I can barely move without feeling pain all over. My doctor also prescribed the 800 mg ibuprofen but it barely puts a dent in my pain. I feel best when they're taken together. So I end up taking the ibuprofen and Oxy together 3x a day. I'm really not sure what to do. I'm also thinking he's always been a sleepy baby and that his drowsiness may just be because my milk just came in and it's fattier than the colostrum?
Could very well be that he's just a snoozy guy. If he's having plenty of wets and poops and is growing, especially if he's back to birth weight, you guys are fine. If you still feel wary about taking narcotics (which again, lots of moms need to do, it's okay as long baby's thriving), I would call the Infant Risk warm line before doing anything drastic like pumping and dumping. It's run by Dr. Thomas Hale, a leading expert in pediatrics and breastfeeding. His organization extensively researches how drugs interact with babies in utero and nursing, and calling is free, quick, and they'll give you information specific to you and your little man. I've called them a couple of times, they are so knowledgeable and kind. One time they even called me to follow up and make sure we were doing okay. Really great service. Hang on a sec, I'll get you their number.
@mslan I was initially given oxycodone at the hospital but I did not like the way it made me feel, it made me even more emotional and tired and so my dr switched me to a non-narcotic pain reliever (@ayeshaohara can fact check this) called Tramadol. It doesn't make me feel emotional or 'high' the way the oxycodone did and my LO doesn't seem affected by it. She wakes up to eat like a champion. Maybe something like that would be better for you as well?
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Anyone else dealing with HUGE weight drops? DD was 8lb 9oz at birth 10 days ago and dropped 5oz in her first 24 hrs, we had to stay an extra 24 hours in the hospital for her to stay under the lights for 14 hours due to jaundice, and the pediatrician discharged her against the 10% weight loss rule of thumb (she was at 12% weight loss) due to her bilirubin levels being normal and her wet/poop diapers being on track and my milk supply being good at time of discharge. We got disharged a week ago today and have been seeing her pediatrician every day since and monitoring her weight loss and gain. She has yet to be under the 10% weight loss but has gone up and down from 12% to 17%. I'm producing plenty of breast milk and she's still very alert and hydrated, DH and I are so so exhausted and so so over this whole thing. I was severely edemic due to my pre-eclampsia and retained a TON of water so they think DD did as well, and I was induced so I was pumped full of IV fluids during my induction which could have brought DD's birth weight up as well, but she's down 1lb7oz at this point and it's just unrealistic to assume all of that was excess fluid. They want me pumping and feeding a 2oz bottle to her every 2 hours so we know for sure how much milk she's getting and if she's not up tomorrow they're admitting her to the hospital. I'm at a total loss as to what to do. I have a baby who's acting and proving healthy in every way other than her weight and I'm producing tons of milk.
I am so very sorry to hear about this. Don't go this alone, there are resources to help. I would contact LLL leaders in your area right away email- fb- phone or all the above, find mom groups that are breastfeeding friendly to help, and also asap get a LC involved.
DS likes to sleep on his side from what I can tell (he laid on his side in utereo and tried coming out sideways too). He sleeps a good 3-5 hours that way, very peacefully. When I put him on his back while he's sleeping, he breathes really heavily and loudly, for about 30 minutes and wakes up. I'm scared of SIDS so I place him on his back but then he makes loud noises that scare me. It's such a catch 22.
Anyone have any experience with this? I'll probably give the pediatrician a call Monday to figure this out too. Just wanted to see other perspectives.
DD isn't here yet but my midwife was already reccomending side sleeping. She said to prop a rolled up blanket or towel behind her back and have her swaddled. She said they are very comfortable this way and when you rotate sides it can prevent having a flat head.
However, EVERYTHING I have read says sleeping on the back is best to prevent SIDS. It's already become a bit of an issue with DH because he trusts the midwife and doesn't want DD to have to wear a helmet if her head gets flat. My argument is which is better- being dead or wearing a helmet?
Sorry no real answers here I'm just hoping it isn't too much of an issue when she finally arrives.
DS will naturally roll his head side to side when on his back when napping. But during long stretches of sleep, he's definitely a side sleeper. He also spits up after feedings. I don't know what to do.
Hope your situation works out when your LO is here!
Any tips to get lo to sleep in their crib/pnp? We noticed in the hospital that she wouldn't sleep in her bassinet and it's the same at home. We can place her in dead sleep and she will wake up within 5 minutes screaming. It's only our second day home and I know it will take her a while to adjust but I need some sleep. They say sleep when the baby is sleeping. But how am I going to do that when she will only sleep on me?
Any tips to get lo to sleep in their crib/pnp? We noticed in the hospital that she wouldn't sleep in her bassinet and it's the same at home. We can place her in dead sleep and she will wake up within 5 minutes screaming. It's only our second day home and I know it will take her a while to adjust but I need some sleep. They say sleep when the baby is sleeping. But how am I going to do that when she will only sleep on me?
Welcome to the club. There are a bunch of us having the same issue. Adeline is 3 weeks tomorrow and she is having her first nap in her crib today (we elevated the head of the mattress so she's not lying flat). She still doesn't like the bassinet at night but it gets a little better every day. I was bed sharing with her for the first week at least because the only place she wanted to be was right next to me. Give it time...the best advice I've gotten so far is the first 6 weeks are survival mode. Do whatever you need to in order to keep baby and you happy. Try and put her down for naps whenever you can. I spend less time holding her during the day now so she's not getting so used to sleeping on me. It sucks but I want her to be able to sleep anywhere! Hang in there, it gets better!!
@mslan I was initially given oxycodone at the hospital but I did not like the way it made me feel, it made me even more emotional and tired and so my dr switched me to a non-narcotic pain reliever (@ayeshaohara can fact check this) called Tramadol. It doesn't make me feel emotional or 'high' the way the oxycodone did and my LO doesn't seem affected by it. She wakes up to eat like a champion. Maybe something like that would be better for you as well?
Tramadol is not strictly a narcotic...it's hard to explain but many people report the same benefits you did when they take it. It can still make you and baby drowsy though. @MsIan you need to talk to your doctor
So baby boy had some serious gas issues last night and this morning, on top of a stuffy nose. We were desperate, so gave him a paci for a minute. It seemed to help him concentrate to get some poo/gas out. He did but sleep well last night, needing to constantly burp and be held on his tummy. We did the nasal mist which seemed to help with his stuffy nose. Maybe drainage was partially to blame on gas? Unless that's it I feel like it's my fault for either letting him cry too long when hungry (we were driving) or over-feeding I just hate seeing him so uncomfy. We tried bicycle legs, tummy massage, holding him on his tummy.... It seems to mostly be over, but we may buy some Tummy Calm to have on hand JIC. Anyone have experience with it? Those gas pain cries are just the worst
@ayeshaohara I've decided to stop and hope my body feels better soon.
I had a vaginal delivery and an epi. Im really stiff and sore pretty much everywhere on my back, my hips, butt and thighs hurt a ton too. It's a lot worse when I've been sitting or laying down. Rolling over is a chore and a pain. It's almost like the bottom half of my body is significantly weighted down. My feet and ankles have been seriously swollen and painful but I actually think that might be getting better.
@mslan I was initially given oxycodone at the hospital but I did not like the way it made me feel, it made me even more emotional and tired and so my dr switched me to a non-narcotic pain reliever (@ayeshaohara can fact check this) called Tramadol. It doesn't make me feel emotional or 'high' the way the oxycodone did and my LO doesn't seem affected by it. She wakes up to eat like a champion. Maybe something like that would be better for you as well?
Tramadol is not strictly a narcotic...it's hard to explain but many people report the same benefits you did when they take it. It can still make you and baby drowsy though. @MsIan you need to talk to your doctor
@mslan - Did they only give you the oxycodone and not a higher dose prescription of motrin or something? You shouldn't have to hope your body feels better soon and go it without something. Call your doctor and ask for something else.
@missnc77 Yes, he also prescribed 800 mg ibuprofen. It's helping a little more as the days go by. The worst of it is about an hour an a half after I nap or sleep. I'll call on Monday.
@MsIan Ah okay! Hang in there! I delivered vaginally on May 6th and had 2nd degree tears. I was really suffering with the tightness of my stitches and turning in bed, etc. as well. But then three days ago, it's like I woke up and everything just felt better overnight. Yesterday, I was even able to sit on the floor and do some of my favorite stretches from before my bump got too big. I hope you'll hit your upswing soon!
Any tips to get lo to sleep in their crib/pnp? We noticed in the hospital that she wouldn't sleep in her bassinet and it's the same at home. We can place her in dead sleep and she will wake up within 5 minutes screaming. It's only our second day home and I know it will take her a while to adjust but I need some sleep. They say sleep when the baby is sleeping. But how am I going to do that when she will only sleep on me?
Welcome to the club. There are a bunch of us having the same issue. Adeline is 3 weeks tomorrow and she is having her first nap in her crib today (we elevated the head of the mattress so she's not lying flat). She still doesn't like the bassinet at night but it gets a little better every day. I was bed sharing with her for the first week at least because the only place she wanted to be was right next to me. Give it time...the best advice I've gotten so far is the first 6 weeks are survival mode. Do whatever you need to in order to keep baby and you happy. Try and put her down for naps whenever you can. I spend less time holding her during the day now so she's not getting so used to sleeping on me. It sucks but I want her to be able to sleep anywhere! Hang in there, it gets better!!
No idea if this is going to post, TB is totally wigging out on me right now. But anyway, this has been our biggest issue since the night Isla was released to stay with us in our room after her stay in the NICU (Tuesday). She will not let us put her down, whether it be to sleep at night or take a nap or change her or whatever. We have made SLIGHT progress in that now with a technique of our noise machine, swaddling, a paci (which she only takes maybe 25% of the time), and a lot of "shhhhh," we can get her to lay in the bassinet for small stretches of time. Sometimes she'll make it 5 minutes, sometimes 10, we've got a couple 30 minutes stretches... but usually she ends up back in our arms. Diaper changes are rough, too, but at least thats temporary. I'm torn because I don't want to get her in the routine of only sleeping in our arms by giving in, but I also need some rest! My husband and I have to take turns with her all day just so the other can get some stuff done, and usually its me holding her because she prefers me at this point. She also nurses for comfort and I have yet to find anything that will console her other than popping my nipple in her mouth. She'll quickly fall asleep. But no matter how deep of a sleep she is in, she wakes up when we attempt the bassinet or even just putting her down on our bed! Really hoping one of you ladies finds the miracle cure for this soon!
So are you all keeping your newborns inside or taking them out and about with you?
I've taken DS and DS2 out several times, but I'm trying to go to places during non-peak hours. For instance, we went to Target and the grocery store on a weekday morning. I haven't taken DS to the playground since DS2 was born yet, but it has been raining anyway.
So are you all keeping your newborns inside or taking them out and about with you?
We've been everywhere. Grocery store, doctors, friends house, restaurant, baby gear stores, my father in laws 60th birthday party was tonight too. I hate being home all day
I can't drive post c-section and we haven't gone anywhere as a family yet (DH and toddler have been very busy though) but we have a doctor's appointment next week and also newborn pictures.
We're staring to sleep train tonight. I've had 13 hours or so of sleep since Monday and I need some rest. Put her in the bassinet drowsy but still slightly awake. She's crying a bit but then settling down. I feel horrible hearing her cry but would rather do this now than in 5 months when it's a routine I can't break. Even if she sleeps for 2 hours and I can get that amount of rest it would be huge!
Edited to to add that hubby already grabbed her after 20 minutes. Guess I'm not sleeping again toniht
So baby boy had some serious gas issues last night and this morning, on top of a stuffy nose. We were desperate, so gave him a paci for a minute. It seemed to help him concentrate to get some poo/gas out. He did but sleep well last night, needing to constantly burp and be held on his tummy. We did the nasal mist which seemed to help with his stuffy nose. Maybe drainage was partially to blame on gas? Unless that's it I feel like it's my fault for either letting him cry too long when hungry (we were driving) or over-feeding I just hate seeing him so uncomfy. We tried bicycle legs, tummy massage, holding him on his tummy.... It seems to mostly be over, but we may buy some Tummy Calm to have on hand JIC. Anyone have experience with it? Those gas pain cries are just the worst
We are going through gas pains with our LO as well. She has had gas for days. We tried gripe water at the suggestion of my midwife but it didn't seem to help much so today we started infacol gas drops. It's making her burps easier so hopefully that nips it in the bud. Midwife said that tummy gas can turn into farty gas if she can't get it out through the top end which seems strange to me but I'm going with it. We also tried bicycle legs and tummy rubs and laying on her tummy and rubbing her back. Nothing is helping. She screams her head off and wakes easily. Heck most nights when she does get to sleep she ends up farting herself awake! DH is getting pretty frustrated with it. Midwife said at the worst nothing works and we wait till her systems adjusts which can take till 8 weeks old. If you find something that works permenantly let me know!
We took the baby to the hospital to get my breast pump and to a local store. I kept the privacy guard on the ergo up while we were in the hospital so people (aka walking germs) didn't come up but I was more relaxed at the store. I'm excited to take him even more places!!
@Mslan, I was given the advice to have DH rub my excessively swollen feet and legs once an hour for about 5 to 10 minutes. It seemed a bit excessive, but it reduced the swelling by about 50% in 24 hrs and it was completely gone by day 2. Maybe this can help you too! By the way, the hotline @araecasey gave you is really helpful. I may need to go on antibiotics after some dental work and my dentist just told me to put the baby on formula for a few days, but the hotline was able to advise him on what was safe to prescribe me so BFing could continue.
So are you all keeping your newborns inside or taking them out and about with you?
We have a few things to do around the house tomorrow (more like DH) but if those get done we may drive down to the beach for the sunset and walk around a little bit. I desperately need to get out and I'm excited to finally use my Baby K'Tan. Other than trips like that I think we're trying to avoid taking him out too much for another week or 2.
We walked (one block) to the library yesterday- I had her 3 days ago so that's about as far as I can go physically, but once I get a little stronger we'll be out every day or I will get stir crazy. My son went to his first Stanford tailgate at one week old because the weather was so nice, it was killing me to be inside every day.
We walked (one block) to the library yesterday- I had her 3 days ago so that's about as far as I can go physically, but once I get a little stronger we'll be out every day or I will get stir crazy. My son went to his first Stanford tailgate at one week old because the weather was so nice, it was killing me to be inside every day.
For those having issues with getting the baby to sleep in a bassinet, we scraped our wicker bassinet within the first hour and brought the graco glider to our bedroom. It's amazing. She still has one point in the night where it takes forever to put her back down, but the gliding motion of the bassinet keeps her asleep. Not sure how transferring her to the crib will work down the road, but the first 6 weeks are survival mode, so we're doing what we can to get some sleep. Even if it is broken 2 hour chunks.
Ugh. My kid is cluster feeding at night (between midnight - 5 AM) and not sleeping at all between then. Maybe a nap here or there. He's not sleeping in his bassinet or his rocker (unless RS daytime--even then he's a restless sleeper in it). Any suggestions? I guess this was more of a 7 AM rant.
RE: Gas. Mommy's Bliss gripe water seems to help. Pretty natural ingredients and no sugar, like some gripe waters have. He seemed to like the taste and ate normally and went to sleep well afterwards (albeit being held) FX it's not a fluke!
My LO is grunting ALL THE TIME and crying. I looked it up, and it says online it's just a phase as he learns to control his movements, but some people said this lasts for months. I want to cry.
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youll have to remind me if you had vaginal or CS delivery??? tell me more about your pain and where it's located. I'm concerned that you're feeling pain "all over" as opposed to just pain from delivery. How long ago did you deliver?
induction which could have brought DD's birth weight up as well, but she's down 1lb7oz at this point and it's just unrealistic to assume all of that was excess fluid. They want me pumping and feeding a 2oz bottle to her every 2 hours so we know for sure how much milk she's getting and if she's not up tomorrow they're admitting her to the hospital. I'm at a total loss as to what to do. I have a baby who's acting and proving healthy in every way other than her weight and I'm producing tons of milk.
However, EVERYTHING I have read says sleeping on the back is best to prevent SIDS. It's already become a bit of an issue with DH because he trusts the midwife and doesn't want DD to have to wear a helmet if her head gets flat. My argument is which is better- being dead or wearing a helmet?
Sorry no real answers here I'm just hoping it isn't too much of an issue when she finally arrives.
Off topic - is anyone else running their washing machine these days 24/7? I'm terrified of our water bill. We went and bought extra changing pads, and we have plenty of onesies, but it still churns. My husband has been on diaper duty, but now that I'm feeling better and more mobile, I've been doing them as well. I got my first poop blow out mid-change yesterday. That was super fun!
feel, it made me even more emotional and tired and so my dr switched me to a non-narcotic pain reliever (@ayeshaohara can fact check this) called Tramadol. It doesn't make me feel emotional or 'high' the way the oxycodone did and my LO doesn't seem affected by it. She wakes up to eat like a champion. Maybe something like that would be better for you as well?
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Don't go this alone, there are resources to help.
I would contact LLL leaders in your area right away email- fb- phone or all the above, find mom groups that are breastfeeding friendly to help, and also asap get a LC involved.
Hope your situation works out when your LO is here!
I had a vaginal delivery and an epi. Im really stiff and sore pretty much everywhere on my back, my hips, butt and thighs hurt a ton too. It's a lot worse when I've been sitting or laying down. Rolling over is a chore and a pain. It's almost like the bottom half of my body is significantly weighted down. My feet and ankles have been seriously swollen and painful but I actually think that might be getting better.
Edited to to add that hubby already grabbed her after 20 minutes. Guess I'm not sleeping again toniht
https://www.gracobaby.com/products/pages/soothing-system-glider-finland.aspx
between then. Maybe a nap here or there. He's not sleeping in his bassinet or his rocker (unless RS daytime--even then he's a restless sleeper in it). Any suggestions? I guess this was more of a 7 AM rant.