so my baby is 9 months. and has this bad habit of crying every time I put him down. it sucks cause there are times when I have to get ready for work, and I cannot attend to him like I normally would. he will literally cry like if somebody is killing him. he is very overdramatic, I'm talking about face turning dark red, and screaming out the top of his lungs.
I feel like part of the problem is that he is so used to getting getting carried (thanks to his dad) that that is all he expects from us now. I feel like every day it gets worse. I need help! is anybody hoing through a similar situation? any advice, ideas, or suggestions on how to minimize this behavior would be highly appreciated
Re: HELP!! Cries when I put him down
I hope things get better for you soon. In those rough moments try to remember it's just because they know you are mom!
DD is so bad about this! She has been in the same phase for a few weeks now, and it's hard to get anything done, whether I'm holding her or she's down, and I'm trying not to get a headache from the screaming. I'm glad to know she's not the only one, but for crying out loud (lol), I hope it ends soon! I used to think I had a pretty well adjusted kid
Some things we do are let him play alone on the floor while we sit in chairs - scatter a bunch of toys around to keep him occupied (he especially loves Play Mobile doll houses or Fisher Price doll houses - they keep him occupied for like 30 minutes). Get him comfortable with someone and then hand him over, facing him out towards us. If he cries, we tell him he's ok, and then take him back, explain who the person is, let him get a little more comfortable then try again (obviously it's not like he understands the words, but he can tell from our tone and attitude what we are expecting). We give people his favorite toys and show them how to engage him, if they need a little help.
We also take him out into public a LOT and encourage him to engage people and don't mind when others engage him (touch him, sometimes hold him, whatever is appropriate for the situation). He seems to know when we are comfortable, which makes him moreso.
I also just let him cry in the playpen sometimes if I really need to get ready. I talk to him and tell him he's ok, etc. Again, not like he understands, but hearing me reassure him at least makes ME feel better!
I am sure you do many or all of these things, and a baby's personality has a lot to do with it. Just offering my experience in case any of it helps. Obviously it's also a developmental stage, too, so hopefully it passes soon. It can be so awkward when the baby doesn't show love to that family member who is so excited to see the baby!!
https://www.parents.com/baby/development/intellectual/the-value-of-solo-play/