FFFC!!

crispy11 · February 2016

Let's hear those confessions!!

*disclaimer: rarely flame free

crispy11 · February 2016

My confessions are brought to you by the recent name post.
1. I'm an internal name judger / name nerd. I bought a name book back in college to read for fun. I'm impressed with this group so far. I would like to join in the fun and share my daughters' names but I'm trying a new privacy kick so we'll see how that pans out.

2. I have zero sympathy for a person who didn't do her name research. Someone recently lamented to me that when she named her daughter Hannah in 2003, she never heard about any Hannahs and now the name
is so popular. Sorry, no sympathy. She wasn't early in the trend at all. If she had done any research she would have seen that Hannah had been in the top 5 for years before her daughter was born. Sure she didn't know Hannahs who were raised with her 30 years ago but it's so easy to keep current with name trends that there is no excuse.

3. I side eye when I see people boast about how their LO's name isn't in the top 100. It's not something that happened by chance! You have access to the popularity data. Anyone could name their daughter Ethel. I mean name her that if you want to but then when someone posts an article in a mom group with the top 50 trendiest or most popular girls names, don't comment and say "wahoo! Ethel is still not in the top 50!" It didn't happen by chance. And for this you may say that some names skyrocket out of no where, and that is likely true in rare cases, but for the most part you can see the rise coming. Take Penelope for example. I knew by the way Penelope was climbing when I named my daughter in 2011 (who is not named Penelope though it's a great name) that it would break the top 50 soon enough. I guess this goes with confession 2: do your research people!

Okay, name nerd rant over.

RedMar · February 2016

Sometimes I wish more dirty lurkers would come to our board. We have formed quite the S16 unity and lack snark, unless a random decides to pop up, give their random opinion after not reading previous posts or threads and then prefaces every post thereafter with "I know lurking is frowned upon here"... yadda yadda. C'mon over anytime, we have a lot of bitching to release.

RedMar · February 2016

@crispy11 Looks like I'm not the only one who's experiencing a bout of insomnia here!

I'd be willing to bet if Rachel from Friends named her baby Ethel, it would have hit the top 100. I side-eye people who name their children strictly after TV shows.

PSUBecky23 · February 2016

I just wish people would think about their children's future job prospects when they name their children. Andplusalso, your child is going to have to learn how to spell his/her name someday. Those extra Is or random Zs aren't helping.

crispy11 · February 2016

RedMar said:

@crispy11 Looks like I'm not the only one who's experiencing a bout of insomnia here!

I'd be willing to bet if Rachel from Friends named her baby Ethel, it would have hit the top 100. I side-eye people who name their children strictly after TV shows.

The insomnia is terrible. My shifts are scattered between nights and days this month and it's not helping!

LakeR2014 · February 2016

RedMar said:

Sometimes I wish more dirty lurkers would come to our board. We have formed quite the S16 unity and lack snark, unless a random decides to pop up, give their random opinion after not reading previous posts or threads and then prefaces every post thereafter with "I know lurking is frowned upon here"... yadda yadda. C'mon over anytime, we have a lot of bitching to release.

My FFFC is that I can't stand when someone prefaces a post with 'I know lurking is frowned upon here...' It's not frowned upon, no one ever said it was. It's frowned upon to come in and post solely to stir sh*t up. Lurk if you want, post helpful antic-dotes to a subject if you know any, see what awesomeness S16 has to offer, we don't care. Just don't do a drive-by to see if something blows-up.

diagonalley · February 2016

I frown upon a certain BMB lurking here

Last night I threw up for the first time in either pregnancy. It won me a night to myself in a bed by myself and I got the best sleep I've had in a while. Silver lining. Maybe getting sick isn't so bad ::sigh::

camichael84 · February 2016

@LakeR2014 took the words out of my mouth. I don't mind lurkers, lurking, and posts from lurkers. You know, if they have something to truly contribute. And honestly, if they aren't dropping by once or twice a week from another BMB to randomly pipe up in a thread. They have their own board with their own close group. There's no need to be that concerned about what is going on with us.

It's even more obnoxious to be prefacing posts with "I know lurking is frowned upon here." Adding to the irony, I think the obnoxiously prefaced posts were the first posts from those two particular "lurkers" in which they were truly adding valuable information and support where needed.

@RedMar I miss snark, too. Particularly for when we get random drive-bys with stupid questions. I'm talking "guess the gender of my baby" and "who's going to become a mom on 9/14" kind of stupid posts. I could be wrong, but I think the overall tone of TB is less snarkier than it was before the exodus.

camichael84 · February 2016

So I don't know how much a big deal this really is, but I (and sometimes DH) still rock DD to sleep for every nap and bedtime. She's almost 1.5, and I want to keep rocking her for as long as she wants. It's a bonding time for us. DH, on the other hand, wants to start training her to fall asleep in her bed by herself before the new LO arrives. I get his concerns, but DD is a good sleeper, and is usually down quick. I think between the two of us, we can manage rocking her twice a day and caring for a newborn. Or maybe I'm setting myself up for failure and rough patch come this fall. I just don't know.

618mom22boys · February 2016

I can see myself become a real b!tch if we end up with thread after thread of US pictures. I mean there is a US thread for a reason, use it!

AnnaS930 · February 2016

@camichael84 - Yeah, I got super excited about the guess the gender from the nub post.. but the response was already positive so I felt like a big bad meanie if I gave attitude

camichael84 · February 2016

@AnnaS930 Me, too! I keep going back to it and barely containing myself from posting something very not nice!

AnnaS930 · February 2016

@camichael84 - agreed! If only I could show this kind of self control when it comes to peanut butter M&Ms and doritos!

PSUBecky23 · February 2016

I'm horrible and really don't care about other people's u/s photos. It just doesn't look like anything yet. (I haven't posted mine either, though.)

TNgoldengirl · February 2016

@camichael84 it's tough, but I totally understand! We don't rock, but lay with our kids until they fall asleep...for naps and bed..and they're 2 and 4! Part of it is we like the quality time, and part of it we don't want to deal with trying to sleep train at this point, especially since they do go to sleep pretty easy and quick now. I fee like they'll eventually go to bed on their own...maybe? And then I'll miss the time they were young.

camichael84 · February 2016

@AnnaS930 Ha! I really need to get some PB M&Ms. Everytime I see them mentioned, I can't stop thinking about them. I have had a daily Cadbury egg most of this week, so I am starting to get a good amount of candy in.

AnnaS930 · February 2016

Not sure if this is a FFFC or not - we put my son in his crib on the first night home in his nursery down the hall from us. I have never once felt guilty or that I missed out. We don't rock him to sleep we don't snuggle with him, nothing (we are very affectionate with him and snuggle at other times during the day). He used to have a bottle and then right down to bed, on his first birthday we dropped all bottles and switched to sippy cups of milk at meals only and he still went to bed just fine without anything. I love my son's independence especially with sleeping, I adore spending the day with him but when 7:30 rolls around, I'm ready for a couple hours of me-time then a peaceful night's sleep (and I realize we are extremely lucky that he is an easy sleeper).

TNgoldengirl · February 2016

Speaking of baby names and TV shows/celebrities.. DH is a culprit! He wants to name our baby Leo after Leonardo DiCaprio and really doesn't like any other name....

unless it's a movie or video game character he likes. And he's making us host an Oscar party Sunday for a couple of his friends..maybe I'm mostly annoyed about that ATM. Lol

AnnaS930 · February 2016

@TNgoldengirl - I like the name Leo though, so cute! I definitely listen to names that I hear in TV/movies and books but don't necessarily try to name my kids after those specific characters. When we named our son Emmett a lot of girls said "oh! Like Twilight!" ... well actually I heard the name mostly on "Switched at Birth" on ABCFamily - again, not naming him after that specific character but I heard the name enough to like it.
My husband is a huge Cowboys fan, so everyone assumes he's named after Emmitt Smith anyways. We liked the name enough that we didn't care where people thought it came from.

lovelylauren86 · February 2016

I can't remember when I last washed my hair. I'm pretty sure it's getting close to two weeks. It's such a long process wash dry straighten takes like 2 hours.

camichael84 · February 2016

@TNgoldengirl I feel the same in that she won't want to do this forever, and I'm going to miss it when she outgrows it. When she moves from a crib to a big girl bed, maybe we can switch to laying with her until she falls asleep instead of rocking. I like that idea, and feel it's a fair compromise and next step to her falling in asleep on her own. I'm going to run it by DH to see what he thinks.

618mom22boys · February 2016

And to make matters worse today's guess my baby posts, that is her 1st time ever posting. And I'll say it, it looks like a witch with that nose!

RedMar · February 2016

You should add that to the predictions @618mom22boys!

@lovelylauren86- I wish I could go that long with no hair wash. It would be such a grease fest for me!

camichael84 · February 2016

@AnnaS930 DD is a great sleeper, and the few times I've attempted to lay her down in her crib without rocking, she doesn't cry. She just plays for 5 minutes then I go in and rock her because it's what I wanted to do anyway. I get needing the me time. She goes down and 8, and as much as I love spending time with her, there are many nights I'm looking forward to 8. Same with her naps, which sadly have been decreasing in length lately.

AnnaS930 · February 2016

@618mom22boys - Agreed, I didn't look at the rest of the U/S, the bird beak was all I could stare at

jhems776 · February 2016

I thought Pinocchio.....

camichael84 · February 2016

On the subject of naming your child after a character... our boy name, Joshua (he'd go by Josh), is for Paul Rudd's character in "Clueless". No joke, I've had that name picked out since I was 11 years old. It kind of makes me think we will have another girl because only I would have had a name picked out for 20 years then not get to use it.

Knottie1456280733 · February 2016

On the other end, I don't miss the snark and nasty comments to the drive bys. I lurked on my previous BMB because they were quick to attack others they disagreed with or people who would post one time to the board. I get it's annoying(and that they should get a feel for the board), but it really turned me off from participating. I don't think it's right to get joy and pleasure from berating others. I'm glad TB is a calmer place and now I feel comfortable posting.

lovelylauren86 · February 2016

@RedMar I've been rocking a bun for like 3 days

Thscary · February 2016

LakeR2014 said:

RedMar said:

Sometimes I wish more dirty lurkers would come to our board. We have formed quite the S16 unity and lack snark, unless a random decides to pop up, give their random opinion after not reading previous posts or threads and then prefaces every post thereafter with "I know lurking is frowned upon here"... yadda yadda. C'mon over anytime, we have a lot of bitching to release.

My FFFC is that I can't stand when someone prefaces a post with 'I know lurking is frowned upon here...' It's not frowned upon, no one ever said it was. It's frowned upon to come in and post solely to stir sh*t up. Lurk if you want, post helpful antic-dotes to a subject if you know any, see what awesomeness S16 has to offer, we don't care. Just don't do a drive-by to see if something blows-up.

Eye rolls for days when I saw the "i know lurking is frowned upon here" posts

AnnaS930 · February 2016

I can't remember a day in the past that I didn't wash my hair. I'm kind of OCD about showering every day - it meant a lot of quick showers when my kiddo was a newborn, with his vibrating chair parked outside of the shower. That little chair was a lifesaver...

Sporty1216 · February 2016

@camichael84 -- I still rock my kiddo who will be 2 in April to sleep for every sleep. Or sometimes we lay in our bed together. I kind of love it. It's nice down time for me too. I do worry a little about what happens when a new baby is here, but we'll cross that bridge when it gets here, I guess! I have a few ideas--most of which involve baby being in a co-sleeper and LO being in the bed until he falls asleep and then moving him, etc.

and, re: insomnia. I had it really badly when I was pregnant with LO. But I secretly loved it because I got to sleep on my own and watch any tv I wanted and eat ice cream with no witnesses! I couldn't sleep the other night and did all of that (well, except I had a Cadbury cream egg instead of ice cream).

lovelylauren86 · February 2016

I love my name, Lauren, it bothers the crud out of me when people use a younique spelling of it.

PSUBecky23 · February 2016

@camichael84 I've been in love with Paul Rudd since that movie.

camichael84 · February 2016

@PSUBecky23 Me, too.

DH knows where the name comes from and is like, "Cool. He's funny."

pinkspartan15 · February 2016

My FFFC is that I really have no desire to breastfeed. Since this is my first I will still try it out once baby is born, but I don't see myself exclusively breastfeeding or doing it long term.

AmMcc12 · February 2016

Wow you go to sleep and miss out on all the fun! I agree with lurkers supporting and not prefacing with "I know lurkers are frowned upon" or whatever. I have more but I have to get up an pack because we have a 5 hour drive ahead of us. Right now my FFFC is that I'm not looking forward to said drive.

618mom22boys · February 2016

S/O names it took me 6 years after we got married to change my last name. I went from a simple, easy to pronounce 5 letter name to a 13 letter everyone botches it last name. That also means that this baby will be the only one to have my married name on their BC.

AnnaS930 · February 2016

@pinkspartan15 - I wish you didn't have to feel like that's a big confession. Feed your baby however you decide is right. I, personally, breastfed for 10 weeks and realized that it was not the best plan going forward for me or the kiddo and switched to formula. I was so much happier and less anxiety-ridden... not that what I did matters, but my point is that I am not sure if I will try to breastfeed this little one or not. Whatever my choice, it will be guilt-free, just like it was last time.

TheTamedShrew · February 2016

I don't mind lurkers at all, but I want to confess that I was really touched by how many of you guys were willing to white knight for me last week. I would never have expected anyone too, and I probably didn't deserve it since I dug my own hole. It really made me get all the feels for S16. This BMB is so much nicer than my first.

Oh, and I like to see U/S in their own posts, but only if it's a regular posting it, and not some random.

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