I find it really strange when people post on the HDBD thread but never contribute to any discussions. I don't know, there's something odd about that to me. I feel like if you can go through all of the steps to take the picture, upload the picture and post, then you should probably contribute sometimes as well.
Mine is a bit serious: I am not good at confrontation. I hate it. I have a graduate student I need to confront as she is not doing the appropriate amount of work. I called her in to talk about it this afternoon. I'm nervous!!
It makes me a little sad all of the people on here who get upset at family members for wanting to hold their baby. I understand there are some extreme situations where family is being very overbearing, but they want to love this little person and I think most people have good intentions. I'm never someone who insists on holding babies, but if they are offered I'm thrilled to cuddle them. When the mom wants the baby back, just ask.
I just feel like most of us would really sad if our families seemed disinterested in the baby. It's probably hard to find the exact happy medium, but in the grand scheme of things I think it's great that they care about the baby --- even if it can be annoying.
My FFFC is that I sometimes feel inadequate because I have no interest in a natural birth. It's probably the hormones talking, but sometimes I wonder why I don't have the desire to tough it out, know what my body can do, experience the full childbirth experience, etc. But I don't. I'm over here like "Drugs, yup, they're part of the plan." I don't know...I guess I feel a little "judged" when people say "this should be fully experienced, you only have this small opportunity to know what your body can do, you know what I mean???" And I'm like...nope. I don't feel it. And then I kinda get that look from the other person, because she did/wants to have a natural birth. I feel like I'm having/will have the total experience, and also, I already know what my body can do...it can grow a human. I also know that my body is pre-programmed to birth that human in some way. I just don't have any desire to feel every moment of it when the last few moments come.
@Charissadeats so jealous! I'll admit I do that sometimes when I'm working from home.
@js8812 Obviously everyone's families/circumstances are different, so I try not to judge individuals, but overall it rubs me the wrong way too. Maybe it's because my family members are all really far away, but I just can't wait to have them visit and ooh and ahh and spoil the little one .
@Aquinna82 please don't feel inadequate! There are lots of us in your shoes! Theoretically, I was interested in natural birth but once I actually got knocked up I thought NO WAY lol! You are still fully experiencing pregnancy and birth, and the end result - the most important thing - is still the same
@Aquinna82I totally relate! I'm open to a drug-free birth but I'm pretty sure I'll get the epidural when it is offered to me. I just don't have any strong feelings against it so why not take the help? We don't gotta be heroes (but we will still be heroes because um hello giving birth).
@Aquinna82 It seems like more people that I know choose a medicated birth. I think you are in the majority! Don't feel inadequate. Maybe those who are going drug-free are just more vocal about it?
I will give drug-free a go, but won't be down on myself whatsoever if I change my mind.
@LadySamLady@PYLWhammy That was my feeling too...the end result is the same and if the ability exists to make it easier I'd like to do that. I don't skip the Novocaine at the dentist so that I can feel the full experience of having a tooth filled. (YES, I am TOTALLY going to get flames for that statement!!! I can feel the heat already!!).
I feel as though there have been things that I inherently knew about myself and my pregnancy and I imagine that most people are the same way. For example I knew I wanted to try BFing, I knew I wanted to know the sex prior to birth...and I knew I wanted pain meds when the time came. I'm sure other people know instinctively that they want no part of BFing, and can't imagine ruining the surprise of the sex prior to birth. So I guess I don't know why all of the sudden I'm feeling like I "should" be open to something that I've known all along isn't for me.
I really dislike getting/giving kisses to children, even my nieces. And they have essentially been trained to give everyone a hug and kiss when saying goodbye. I got the stink eye from my niece once when she was 3 and I tried to duck out with just a hug. I love both of them to pieces, but would really prefer to skip the kisses, at least the ones on the lips!
I spent the first hour of my work day figuring out which breast pump I'm getting and from where vs. actually working. Got confirmation from my insurance company covers it 100% and I can just order it whenever, don't need a doctors note or prescription. Found that one of the suppliers has the one I actually want to get so I call that a pretty successful morning (I was able to check something off my obnoxiously long list so it counts right? )
I really dislike getting/giving kisses to children, even my nieces. And they have essentially been trained to give everyone a hug and kiss when saying goodbye. I got the stink eye from my niece once when she was 3 and I tried to duck out with just a hug. I love both of them to pieces, but would really prefer to skip the kisses, at least the ones on the lips!
I'm like this with other people's kids; DS is very affectionate though, and I love kisses from him. He hugs family and friends pretty readily, but is more reserved with kisses for them which is just fine.
It really irks me when kids have food all over their face after they've been eating and a parent just lets it sit on there. For instance: seeing a kid at the grocery store with something clearly plastered all over his/her cheeks. Mess is cute while they're eating, not afterwards. Wipe that little face!
It really irks me when kids have food all over their face after they've been eating and a parent just lets it sit on there. For instance: seeing a kid at the grocery store with something clearly plastered all over his/her cheeks. Mess is cute while they're eating, not afterwards. Wipe that little face!
I am wearing a black maternity dress and black chuck taylors to work today. It is casual Friday, but I am definitely pushing the envelope here. I brought in a Panera pastry ring to sweeten everyone up so they don't judge me.
I really dislike getting/giving kisses to children, even my nieces. And they have essentially been trained to give everyone a hug and kiss when saying goodbye. I got the stink eye from my niece once when she was 3 and I tried to duck out with just a hug. I love both of them to pieces, but would really prefer to skip the kisses, at least the ones on the lips!
Want to know what's worse than kissing children? Kissing your 95 year old grandfather on the lips. Both of my grandparents still go straight for the lips and try as a might to turn my head, they never miss.
piggybacking on @EErin86's: it creeps me out when parents and kids kiss on the lips. maybe just how I was raised but I never kissed my parents on the lips and I don't plan to kiss my son on the lips either. flame away!
@Aquinna82 Please don't for even one second feel inadequate. Med-free isn't for everyone, including me. I knew from even before getting pregnant the first time that I would say yes to every possible pain management aid that was offered, simply because I was already scared enough, I didn't want to add pain on a scale I wasn't sure I could handle to the mix. And I can tell you, I've never ever regretted my choice. I didn't see why it had to be painful but I knew it wouldn't be painless.
I'm not going to lie to you, even with the epidural you feel pain, but no where on the level I experienced pre-epidural (dialated 6/7 before I got it, but would have gotten it sooner had I been at the hospital earlier).
This is just one of many things people will differ on, and epidural or med-free doesn't make you better or worse. I think the strongest and smartest decision is always to do what your gut tells you is best for you, and it sounds like you know exactly what you want. If anyone tries to make you feel inadequate just know that you're listening to your instincts and this is just the first of many times you'll rely on them as a mom!
@Aquinna82 I understand what you're saying and I might even be a little envious. If I'm 100% honest I must confess that a big reason I'd like to have a natural birth is out of competition. Not against those who choose to use pain meds but in silent competition with my MIL and a friend of mine. It's dumb I know but my MIL brags all the time about how she was able to have two children without pain meds and I know she'll hang it over my head so I feel like I have something to prove. Same with a super granola friend of mine. She had a natural birth, breast fed, and made her own baby food. There's defenitely a part of me that feels like if she can do it, I can do it. I really need to shake this mommy wars pressure.
@Charla1224my dad's gf has told me so many times about how she "pushed out two nine-pounders med free!" My reaction is: good for you, not for me. I'm taking the pain meds and not going to feel bad about it. If she tells me post-birth again about her experience I'm going to tell her I think she's nuts and shut it down.
I really dislike getting/giving kisses to children, even my nieces. And they have essentially been trained to give everyone a hug and kiss when saying goodbye. I got the stink eye from my niece once when she was 3 and I tried to duck out with just a hug. I love both of them to pieces, but would really prefer to skip the kisses, at least the ones on the lips!
Want to know what's worse than kissing children? Kissing your 95 year old grandfather on the lips. Both of my grandparents still go straight for the lips and try as a might to turn my head, they never miss.
I also don't like being kissed by kids - they're so germy, and it grosses me out. But, it makes me even more uncomfortable when adults try to kiss me. MH comes from a huge old-school Italian family where it's the norm to kiss everyone when greeting them or telling them goodbye. I'm very sensitive about my personal space, so it was an adjustment when we first started dating. MH has this uncle that always goes for the lips, and MH didn't warn me the first time. I was ready to kill him! Now, I give the half hug and step back quickly. They may think I'm rude, but I'm okay with that if it means they keep their lips to themselves!
I'm exhausted. It could be the third trimester fatigue sneaking up, but I feel like I do so little yet feel so tired. And I don't know what to do to give myself a break. The snow is getting to me since I'm not used to it, it's too late to plan any vacations, and it's not like we can really afford anything right now with trying to buy furniture for a new house and baby thing.
We just went through a really stressful move (I talk about this all the time, sorry), and it was all for my husband's job. I couldn't take off work, so I went to my mom's to work for a week and a half. Flew in, met the movers, unpacked, and went straight into work. Straight into meeting new people. Straight into buying stuff for the baby's nursery and having painters and contractors come in. And when Valentine's Day showed up, my husband couldn't even get me a flower. I do appreciate that he cooks me dinner most of the time and handles the dog walking with all the snow, but come on. I feel like I'm dealing with so much all while pregnant, and he couldn't even get me a flower? We fought it out then hugged it out, then he left to go on a work trip for a week.
So, I took on the dog walking duties along with medicating an ear infection he has 4 times a day, having all the furniture people come to set up furniture, dealing with dog food drama because my husband waited until we were out of dog food to order more, and our dog has to have hypoallergenic food, so it's not like I can feed him just anything, training my back-up at work that just started last week + other duties, and I woke up at 5:30am 4 times this week to work out. And yes, cooking my own dinners. I can feel it today. My eyes are burning because they don't want to stay open. I am on the brink of tears for no other reason than just being so tired, and now I have an entire workday plus a contractor coming to deal with. My husband doesn't get home until tomorrow. I just want to teleport myself to a beach right now and lay there drinking non-alcoholic cocktails, but even then I'd probably just stress out over sugar because I still haven't had my GD test.
Being pregnant while dealing with normal life is hard.
@missnc77 I'm so sorry. It does sound overwhelming, and you need to give yourself credit for being a rockstar. Since he comes back tomorrow, could you take Sunday to just relax and maybe treat yourself to something that would help you feel calm? Even just locking yourself in your bedroom taking a nap.
Look at your schedule today and see what you can push off to next week. Be kind to yourself, you are doing so much!
I am addicted to jellybeans. More specifically the sweet tart jelly beans are my Easter crack. Technically I'm not supposed to have them right now, but I've already been through a bag and a half. I want to buy a bunch of them and keep them for after the baby is born so I don't have to miss out. But I'm afraid that they won't make it that long. My jelly bean addiction is that serious.
I accidentally canceled my Nerd Block subscription too late and will be getting the February block when all I really wanted was the January block (which was disappointing to say the least). I peeked at an unboxing on YouTube and I'm actually excited about the February block more than the one I had intentionally signed up for in January. I only signed up for the January block b/c it was Harry Potter and Lord of the Rings. Then I was going to cancel. February's is DeadPool and Batman.
Let's see what else. I have not taken any pictures of my bump yet. I have not participated in HDBD with a picture. I have low self esteem in regards to my body image and I don't like looking in the mirror much less sharing a picture of what I see in the mirror. Plus I"m not coordinated enough to take the picture myself. My FB friends and family keep asking me why I have not posted any pictures of my bump........
I had 3 bowls of fruity pebbles for dinner last night, and got into a fight with my husband because he told me I couldn't complain that I was eating too much sugar.
Uhhh - yes I can. This is only the second time the entire pregnancy I felt like I legitimately NEEDED a food (dramatic, I know, but that was the feeling) so I can complain about it later if I want. We didn't talk the rest of the time. Woke up today, and we are fine, but I still want fruity pebbles.
Count me in with the "I post regularly but don't do HDBD" crew! I haven't taken one pic of my bump, and don't plan to- though I'm sure my mom will insist when I see her next month. I feel huge and gross, why would I want that documented?
@missnc77 That would be a lot for anyone, especially someone about 6 months pregnant! No wonder you're so exhausted! Since your husband is coming home tomorrow, maybe the two of you can plan to order in and curl up with Netflix and do nothing all weekend. It sounds like you could use the break!
@LadySamLady I'm also guilty of stalking my registry (I say "my" also because MH wasn't much help putting it together!). Our first shower is out of state this weekend, so people have been shipping the larger gifts to our house, and our nursery closet is overflowing now. But, I'm still excited to peek and see what other smaller items we'll be getting at the shower. The past few days, there's something new every time I log on. I feel like a little kid who found mom and dad's "Santa" stash early!
I have the very strong urge to smack one of my coworkers. I think the only reason I don't is bc he's sick and I don't want the germs. He literally just said I feel like I'm getting the flu while I was in the break room waiting to get some water from the cooler. Then what does he do? Gets water from the water cooler. I shook my head and walked away. Now I get to go buy some water and worry that this guy has touched a bunch of other stuff. Seriously... Why do people feel the need to come in when sick?
Count me in with the "I post regularly but don't do HDBD" crew! I haven't taken one pic of my bump, and don't plan to- though I'm sure my mom will insist when I see her next month. I feel huge and gross, why would I want that documented?
I understand this. I felt the same way at first, but since this will likely be my only child, I was afraid I would later regret not documenting it. I still haven't shared any bump pics on any of my social media platforms, and I don't plan to. I've only shared the pics on here, with MH, and with my sister (who insists on getting at least one a week since I live out of state and she can't see me in person). I didn't start taking any until about 19 weeks when I first started showing, but it's kind of neat to look back on now and see how much my bump grows from week to week (HDBD usually motivates me to take the time to take a pic). If you can get past the feeling "huge and gross" part, you might later appreciate having documented it, even if you never share the pics with anyone else.
Re: FFFC 2/19
DS: Born 5-17-16
I just feel like most of us would really sad if our families seemed disinterested in the baby. It's probably hard to find the exact happy medium, but in the grand scheme of things I think it's great that they care about the baby --- even if it can be annoying.
@js8812 Obviously everyone's families/circumstances are different, so I try not to judge individuals, but overall it rubs me the wrong way too. Maybe it's because my family members are all really far away, but I just can't wait to have them visit and ooh and ahh and spoil the little one .
@Aquinna82 please don't feel inadequate! There are lots of us in your shoes! Theoretically, I was interested in natural birth but once I actually got knocked up I thought NO WAY lol! You are still fully experiencing pregnancy and birth, and the end result - the most important thing - is still the same
I will give drug-free a go, but won't be down on myself whatsoever if I change my mind.
I feel as though there have been things that I inherently knew about myself and my pregnancy and I imagine that most people are the same way. For example I knew I wanted to try BFing, I knew I wanted to know the sex prior to birth...and I knew I wanted pain meds when the time came. I'm sure other people know instinctively that they want no part of BFing, and can't imagine ruining the surprise of the sex prior to birth. So I guess I don't know why all of the sudden I'm feeling like I "should" be open to something that I've known all along isn't for me.
eta: I am such a brat... I should have said "to see who is getting us what" but apparently it's all about me
edited to fix pregnancy-brain wording
I am wearing a black maternity dress and black chuck taylors to work today. It is casual Friday, but I am definitely pushing the envelope here. I brought in a Panera pastry ring to sweeten everyone up so they don't judge me.
I'm not going to lie to you, even with the epidural you feel pain, but no where on the level I experienced pre-epidural (dialated 6/7 before I got it, but would have gotten it sooner had I been at the hospital earlier).
This is just one of many things people will differ on, and epidural or med-free doesn't make you better or worse. I think the strongest and smartest decision is always to do what your gut tells you is best for you, and it sounds like you know exactly what you want. If anyone tries to make you feel inadequate just know that you're listening to your instincts and this is just the first of many times you'll rely on them as a mom!
If I'm 100% honest I must confess that a big reason I'd like to have a natural birth is out of competition. Not against those who choose to use pain meds but in silent competition with my MIL and a friend of mine. It's dumb I know but my MIL brags all the time about how she was able to have two children without pain meds and I know she'll hang it over my head so I feel like I have something to prove. Same with a super granola friend of mine. She had a natural birth, breast fed, and made her own baby food. There's defenitely a part of me that feels like if she can do it, I can do it.
I really need to shake this mommy wars pressure.
DD: 05/14/16
I just wish there was more participation than just HDBD I guess.
We just went through a really stressful move (I talk about this all the time, sorry), and it was all for my husband's job. I couldn't take off work, so I went to my mom's to work for a week and a half. Flew in, met the movers, unpacked, and went straight into work. Straight into meeting new people. Straight into buying stuff for the baby's nursery and having painters and contractors come in. And when Valentine's Day showed up, my husband couldn't even get me a flower. I do appreciate that he cooks me dinner most of the time and handles the dog walking with all the snow, but come on. I feel like I'm dealing with so much all while pregnant, and he couldn't even get me a flower? We fought it out then hugged it out, then he left to go on a work trip for a week.
So, I took on the dog walking duties along with medicating an ear infection he has 4 times a day, having all the furniture people come to set up furniture, dealing with dog food drama because my husband waited until we were out of dog food to order more, and our dog has to have hypoallergenic food, so it's not like I can feed him just anything, training my back-up at work that just started last week + other duties, and I woke up at 5:30am 4 times this week to work out. And yes, cooking my own dinners. I can feel it today. My eyes are burning because they don't want to stay open. I am on the brink of tears for no other reason than just being so tired, and now I have an entire workday plus a contractor coming to deal with. My husband doesn't get home until tomorrow. I just want to teleport myself to a beach right now and lay there drinking non-alcoholic cocktails, but even then I'd probably just stress out over sugar because I still haven't had my GD test.
Being pregnant while dealing with normal life is hard.
Look at your schedule today and see what you can push off to next week. Be kind to yourself, you are doing so much!
I accidentally canceled my Nerd Block subscription too late and will be getting the February block when all I really wanted was the January block (which was disappointing to say the least). I peeked at an unboxing on YouTube and I'm actually excited about the February block more than the one I had intentionally signed up for in January. I only signed up for the January block b/c it was Harry Potter and Lord of the Rings. Then I was going to cancel. February's is DeadPool and Batman.
Let's see what else. I have not taken any pictures of my bump yet. I have not participated in HDBD with a picture. I have low self esteem in regards to my body image and I don't like looking in the mirror much less sharing a picture of what I see in the mirror. Plus I"m not coordinated enough to take the picture myself. My FB friends and family keep asking me why I have not posted any pictures of my bump........
First Pregnancy
Second Pregnancy
- BFP: 09/11/2015
- EDD: 05/25/2016
Baby Born04/15/2016
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Uhhh - yes I can. This is only the second time the entire pregnancy I felt like I legitimately NEEDED a food (dramatic, I know, but that was the feeling) so I can complain about it later if I want. We didn't talk the rest of the time. Woke up today, and we are fine, but I still want fruity pebbles.
@LadySamLady I'm also guilty of stalking my registry (I say "my" also because MH wasn't much help putting it together!). Our first shower is out of state this weekend, so people have been shipping the larger gifts to our house, and our nursery closet is overflowing now. But, I'm still excited to peek and see what other smaller items we'll be getting at the shower. The past few days, there's something new every time I log on. I feel like a little kid who found mom and dad's "Santa" stash early!