May 2016 Moms
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FFFC 2/19
Jenly17
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I'm sitting here (6am) trying to stay awake after drinking my glucose drink and I have an FFFC for once, so let's do this!
Re: FFFC 2/19
DS: Born 5-17-16
I just feel like most of us would really sad if our families seemed disinterested in the baby. It's probably hard to find the exact happy medium, but in the grand scheme of things I think it's great that they care about the baby --- even if it can be annoying.
@js8812 Obviously everyone's families/circumstances are different, so I try not to judge individuals, but overall it rubs me the wrong way too. Maybe it's because my family members are all really far away, but I just can't wait to have them visit and ooh and ahh and spoil the little one
@Aquinna82 please don't feel inadequate! There are lots of us in your shoes! Theoretically, I was interested in natural birth but once I actually got knocked up I thought NO WAY lol! You are still fully experiencing pregnancy and birth, and the end result - the most important thing - is still the same
I will give drug-free a go, but won't be down on myself whatsoever if I change my mind.
I feel as though there have been things that I inherently knew about myself and my pregnancy and I imagine that most people are the same way. For example I knew I wanted to try BFing, I knew I wanted to know the sex prior to birth...and I knew I wanted pain meds when the time came. I'm sure other people know instinctively that they want no part of BFing, and can't imagine ruining the surprise of the sex prior to birth. So I guess I don't know why all of the sudden I'm feeling like I "should" be open to something that I've known all along isn't for me.
eta: I am such a brat... I should have said "to see who is getting us what" but apparently it's all about me
edited to fix pregnancy-brain wording
I am wearing a black maternity dress and black chuck taylors to work today. It is casual Friday, but I am definitely pushing the envelope here. I brought in a Panera pastry ring to sweeten everyone up so they don't judge me.
I'm not going to lie to you, even with the epidural you feel pain, but no where on the level I experienced pre-epidural (dialated 6/7 before I got it, but would have gotten it sooner had I been at the hospital earlier).
This is just one of many things people will differ on, and epidural or med-free doesn't make you better or worse. I think the strongest and smartest decision is always to do what your gut tells you is best for you, and it sounds like you know exactly what you want. If anyone tries to make you feel inadequate just know that you're listening to your instincts and this is just the first of many times you'll rely on them as a mom!
If I'm 100% honest I must confess that a big reason I'd like to have a natural birth is out of competition. Not against those who choose to use pain meds but in silent competition with my MIL and a friend of mine. It's dumb I know but my MIL brags all the time about how she was able to have two children without pain meds and I know she'll hang it over my head so I feel like I have something to prove. Same with a super granola friend of mine. She had a natural birth, breast fed, and made her own baby food. There's defenitely a part of me that feels like if she can do it, I can do it.
I really need to shake this mommy wars pressure.
DD: 05/14/16
I just wish there was more participation than just HDBD I guess.
We just went through a really stressful move (I talk about this all the time, sorry), and it was all for my husband's job. I couldn't take off work, so I went to my mom's to work for a week and a half. Flew in, met the movers, unpacked, and went straight into work. Straight into meeting new people. Straight into buying stuff for the baby's nursery and having painters and contractors come in. And when Valentine's Day showed up, my husband couldn't even get me a flower. I do appreciate that he cooks me dinner most of the time and handles the dog walking with all the snow, but come on. I feel like I'm dealing with so much all while pregnant, and he couldn't even get me a flower? We fought it out then hugged it out, then he left to go on a work trip for a week.
So, I took on the dog walking duties along with medicating an ear infection he has 4 times a day, having all the furniture people come to set up furniture, dealing with dog food drama because my husband waited until we were out of dog food to order more, and our dog has to have hypoallergenic food, so it's not like I can feed him just anything, training my back-up at work that just started last week + other duties, and I woke up at 5:30am 4 times this week to work out. And yes, cooking my own dinners. I can feel it today. My eyes are burning because they don't want to stay open. I am on the brink of tears for no other reason than just being so tired, and now I have an entire workday plus a contractor coming to deal with. My husband doesn't get home until tomorrow. I just want to teleport myself to a beach right now and lay there drinking non-alcoholic cocktails, but even then I'd probably just stress out over sugar because I still haven't had my GD test.
Being pregnant while dealing with normal life is hard.
Look at your schedule today and see what you can push off to next week. Be kind to yourself, you are doing so much!
I accidentally canceled my Nerd Block subscription too late and will be getting the February block when all I really wanted was the January block (which was disappointing to say the least). I peeked at an unboxing on YouTube and I'm actually excited about the February block more than the one I had intentionally signed up for in January. I only signed up for the January block b/c it was Harry Potter and Lord of the Rings. Then I was going to cancel. February's is DeadPool and Batman.
Let's see what else. I have not taken any pictures of my bump yet. I have not participated in HDBD with a picture. I have low self esteem in regards to my body image and I don't like looking in the mirror much less sharing a picture of what I see in the mirror. Plus I"m not coordinated enough to take the picture myself. My FB friends and family keep asking me why I have not posted any pictures of my bump........
First Pregnancy
Second Pregnancy
- BFP: 09/11/2015
- EDD: 05/25/2016
Baby Born04/15/2016
PGAL
Uhhh - yes I can. This is only the second time the entire pregnancy I felt like I legitimately NEEDED a food (dramatic, I know, but that was the feeling) so I can complain about it later if I want. We didn't talk the rest of the time. Woke up today, and we are fine, but I still want fruity pebbles.
@LadySamLady I'm also guilty of stalking my registry (I say "my" also because MH wasn't much help putting it together!). Our first shower is out of state this weekend, so people have been shipping the larger gifts to our house, and our nursery closet is overflowing now. But, I'm still excited to peek and see what other smaller items we'll be getting at the shower. The past few days, there's something new every time I log on. I feel like a little kid who found mom and dad's "Santa" stash early!