The dh hates talking names. I did get him to say he *likes* Matilda and Henry. But nothing is set in stone, of course.
Yea mine doesn't have any suggestions, just vetoes. wth? Is that even allowed? I dunno. We've got baby's first name picked but still working on a middle name. We've half decided to use my sister's name as her mn but it's also the middle name of his ex from his most traumatic relationship, you know, "that" relationship? But I don't really care because it was like 20 years ago and whatever but I think he's a little apprehensive.
And that is the worst. "Sorry, we can't use that name because this one girl in high school liked me and that's her name." I mean, crying me a fucking river. And when you get to the point where you're naming #8, it's just…pointless. Not to mention naming (most likely) girl #6! All the good names we've used and the ones that are left are names of girls that liked him in high school. We don't fight about the process, we've just ignored it thus far. I have a 3D next week and that's our last chance to get a confirmation on what baby is. We've only had guesses so far, but no definite shots. So maybe by next week, we'll feel a little more into figuring out a name. If baby doesn't cooperate, which I'm guessing will be the case (4th try), then we'll just discuss names once baby is born.
The dh hates talking names. I did get him to say he *likes* Matilda and Henry. But nothing is set in stone, of course.
Yea mine doesn't have any suggestions, just vetoes. wth? Is that even allowed? I dunno. We've got baby's first name picked but still working on a middle name. We've half decided to use my sister's name as her mn but it's also the middle name of his ex from his most traumatic relationship, you know, "that" relationship? But I don't really care because it was like 20 years ago and whatever but I think he's a little apprehensive.
And that is the worst. "Sorry, we can't use that name because this one girl in high school liked me and that's her name." I mean, crying me a fucking river. And when you get to the point where you're naming #8, it's just…pointless. Not to mention naming (most likely) girl #6! All the good names we've used and the ones that are left are names of girls that liked him in high school. We don't fight about the process, we've just ignored it thus far. I have a 3D next week and that's our last chance to get a confirmation on what baby is. We've only had guesses so far, but no definite shots. So maybe by next week, we'll feel a little more into figuring out a name. If baby doesn't cooperate, which I'm guessing will be the case (4th try), then we'll just discuss names once baby is born.
Sometimes you just have to suck it up and remind yourself that a lot of people have the same first name. DH loves the name Alexandria, which is also the name of someone he went to school with. I had a few people raise eyebrows at that and said that they would never allow their kid to be the same name as someone their SO is friends with. I don't care. DH likes the name, and that's all I care about. It's our second choice for a girl name, so it's most likely not going to happen anyways.
I vote that you go with a name you like and forget about who you may know with the name. I know in your cases it's your SO's being the babies about it.
The dh hates talking names. I did get him to say he *likes* Matilda and Henry. But nothing is set in stone, of course.
Yea mine doesn't have any suggestions, just vetoes. wth? Is that even allowed? I dunno. We've got baby's first name picked but still working on a middle name. We've half decided to use my sister's name as her mn but it's also the middle name of his ex from his most traumatic relationship, you know, "that" relationship? But I don't really care because it was like 20 years ago and whatever but I think he's a little apprehensive.
And that is the worst. "Sorry, we can't use that name because this one girl in high school liked me and that's her name." I mean, crying me a fucking river. And when you get to the point where you're naming #8, it's just…pointless. Not to mention naming (most likely) girl #6! All the good names we've used and the ones that are left are names of girls that liked him in high school. We don't fight about the process, we've just ignored it thus far. I have a 3D next week and that's our last chance to get a confirmation on what baby is. We've only had guesses so far, but no definite shots. So maybe by next week, we'll feel a little more into figuring out a name. If baby doesn't cooperate, which I'm guessing will be the case (4th try), then we'll just discuss names once baby is born.
Sometimes you just have to suck it up and remind yourself that a lot of people have the same first name. DH loves the name Alexandria, which is also the name of someone he went to school with. I had a few people raise eyebrows at that and said that they would never allow their kid to be the same name as someone their SO is friends with. I don't care. DH likes the name, and that's all I care about. It's our second choice for a girl name, so it's most likely not going to happen anyways.
I vote that you go with a name you like and forget about who you may know with the name. I know in your cases it's your SO's being the babies about it.
Holy crap - ruling out all the names of people who you went to school with / old friends? No wonder people think their kids need Special Snowflake names. I mean I can kinda understand saying it'd be weird if he was naming his daughter after his first kiss or some unrequited teen love, but ruling it out because of someone random he went to HS with in insane.
The name I'm planning on using is the name of a boy that bullied me in elementary school but whatev that was decades ago and I'm not going to let a cool name get spoiled for me.
The dh hates talking names. I did get him to say he *likes* Matilda and Henry. But nothing is set in stone, of course.
Yea mine doesn't have any suggestions, just vetoes. wth? Is that even allowed? I dunno. We've got baby's first name picked but still working on a middle name. We've half decided to use my sister's name as her mn but it's also the middle name of his ex from his most traumatic relationship, you know, "that" relationship? But I don't really care because it was like 20 years ago and whatever but I think he's a little apprehensive.
And that is the worst. "Sorry, we can't use that name because this one girl in high school liked me and that's her name." I mean, crying me a fucking river. And when you get to the point where you're naming #8, it's just…pointless. Not to mention naming (most likely) girl #6! All the good names we've used and the ones that are left are names of girls that liked him in high school. We don't fight about the process, we've just ignored it thus far. I have a 3D next week and that's our last chance to get a confirmation on what baby is. We've only had guesses so far, but no definite shots. So maybe by next week, we'll feel a little more into figuring out a name. If baby doesn't cooperate, which I'm guessing will be the case (4th try), then we'll just discuss names once baby is born.
Sometimes you just have to suck it up and remind yourself that a lot of people have the same first name. DH loves the name Alexandria, which is also the name of someone he went to school with. I had a few people raise eyebrows at that and said that they would never allow their kid to be the same name as someone their SO is friends with. I don't care. DH likes the name, and that's all I care about. It's our second choice for a girl name, so it's most likely not going to happen anyways.
I vote that you go with a name you like and forget about who you may know with the name. I know in your cases it's your SO's being the babies about it.
Holy crap - ruling out all the names of people who you went to school with / old friends? No wonder people think their kids need Special Snowflake names. I mean I can kinda understand saying it'd be weird if he was naming his daughter after his first kiss or some unrequited teen love, but ruling it out because of someone random he went to HS with in insane.
This was someone he went to college with and he really admirers her skill as an artist. It was mostly DH's friends and their GF/wives that were the ones going "ummm... Not a thing." He didn't want to name a kid after that person specifically. He has always just liked the name. LOs middle name is the name of the jerk face who spread a rumor that I was sleeping with him in high school when I was still a virgin, but it's also a common name, so I don't care.
Thomas for my amazing grandfather (who is my father figure) and Wyatt because I want my son to have a strong name. Wyatt means brave and I love that.
And while Wyatt is becoming more popular, it is an older name and I feel that it isn't quite so common. I'm not a fan of made-up or "you-neek" names at all. And the "y" in his name actually belongs there.
So DH has out of the blue decided that he doesn't want Seren as a middle name because he's never heard it before and he thinks people will associate it with sarin gas. So ladies, any ideas for a middle name for Iris?
So DH has out of the blue decided that he doesn't want Seren as a middle name because he's never heard it before and he thinks people will associate it with sarin gas. So ladies, any ideas for a middle name for Iris?
I love Iris and it was top 3 for us if we were having a girl. We were going to go with Iris Elizabeth since that is my mother's and my middle name.
So DH has out of the blue decided that he doesn't want Seren as a middle name because he's never heard it before and he thinks people will associate it with sarin gas. So ladies, any ideas for a middle name for Iris?
I love Iris and it was top 3 for us if we were having a girl. We were going to go with Iris Elizabeth since that is my mother's and my middle name.
Maybe Serena? It's still really close to Seren but more widely known. For what it's worth, I've never heard of Sarin Gas.
DH has had his heart set on a name that I don't really like but I am so over the conversation about it that I finally gave in. Our sons name will be Murphy Scott .... can someone please make me feel better about this name choice
So it's been a while since we first really discussed names so overview - mn has been decided as Robert forever, as it covers pretty much every man in DHs family including his late father and his step dad. We each made top 10-20 lists and had 5 overlaps (Charles, James, Gabriel, Nathaniel, and Theodore) and then DH's number one was Calvin, but I'm just not a fan. We ditched James because having Lily and James was a little too obviously Harry Potter and each had a favorite (Theodore for me and Calvin for DH) with Gabriel as both of our number 2. I completely assumed LO would end up Gabe. Well DH just told me he actually likes Theodore over Gabriel and would be okay naming him that! Nothing will be set in stone or announced to IRL people until he's born, but I'm pretty sure our son just got named Theodore Robert!
Girl options: Philippa (Pippa)-- my favorite and my choice with our first daughter, but my wife took advantage of my blood loss and gratitude at having survived labor with a healthy baby and I agreed to name our daughter Phoebe Eloise, which I love, but it was not the plan. But I'm trying to decide whether it takes Philippa out of the running this time around. I generally don't like matchy but part of me wants to do it anyway. It's been my favorite for years; this will be our last child because I'm geriatric.
Yvette - problem is that I don't like nicknames with Eve. Nickname Etti is fine but it's not like I'll be in control of nicknames.
Solene - sadly its pronunciation is problematic so I think this one is out.
@BostonGayGal I don't see any issue with Phoebe and Phillipa as a sibling pair. It's not TOO matchy-matchy, IMO. Besides, I'd say your wife owes you for the last switcheroo. You are right about not being in control of nicknames, but if you plan on using a shortened version from the get-go, sometimes you can curb alternatives.
Anyone else liking more and more "odd" names the
more pregnant you get (perhaps I should stop now)? I threw out a pretty
unusual one for a girl the other day and DH actually likes it... so if we have
a girl we could be going with "Indie Wilder"... We'll never hear the
end of it from our friends because we're all archaeologists (like Indiana
Jones) but I kind of like the homage to our childhood hero (as those
movies are why we became archaeologists and ultimately met in the first
place). Wilder I love for a girl's middle name and since it's a
middle name I don't think there's too much to "self- prophecy". Of course, we have a list that's several names long for both boy and girl because we want to meet the LO first Boy-- this name game is hard!
@jkffx7 - No judgment on the name, given your reasoning behind it, but I would strongly suggest that if you decide "Indie" is the route you want to go, you go for the full "Indiana." I think Indie is a fine nickname and there's nothing wrong with calling her that from the get-go, but she may want the option of going with something more traditional down the line, depending on her personality/profession, and Indiana offers the possibility of Ann or Anna or even Diana in addition to Indie.
@jkffx7 - No judgment on the name, given your reasoning behind it, but I would strongly suggest that if you decide "Indie" is the route you want to go, you go for the full "Indiana." I think Indie is a fine nickname and there's nothing wrong with calling her that from the get-go, but she may want the option of going with something more traditional down the line, depending on her personality/profession, and Indiana offers the possibility of Ann or Anna or even Diana in addition to Indie.
What's traditional about naming a girl Indiana? I think it's horrible giving a person a state name unless it's Virginia.
@jkffx7 - No judgment on the name, given your reasoning behind it, but I would strongly suggest that if you decide "Indie" is the route you want to go, you go for the full "Indiana." I think Indie is a fine nickname and there's nothing wrong with calling her that from the get-go, but she may want the option of going with something more traditional down the line, depending on her personality/profession, and Indiana offers the possibility of Ann or Anna or even Diana in addition to Indie.
What's traditional about naming a girl Indiana? I think it's horrible giving a person a state name unless it's Virginia.
It's not Indiana that's traditional, just the nickname options. Definitely not my style, but I don't think it's terrible. As long as you're not naming your kid Wyoming or Massachusetts or New Mexico or something, I don't think state names are any more universally terrible than flower names. Virginia, Dakota, Carolina, Georgia... I feel like Indiana is kind of on the border of those in terms of nameliness. The fact that there are valid nickname options (whether your kid wants to be an artist or an accountant) pushes it towards reasonableness for me. Indiana Smith might be a little touch-and-go on the resume test, but Ana Smith passes with flying colors.
@jkffx7 - No judgment on the name, given your reasoning behind it, but I would strongly suggest that if you decide "Indie" is the route you want to go, you go for the full "Indiana." I think Indie is a fine nickname and there's nothing wrong with calling her that from the get-go, but she may want the option of going with something more traditional down the line, depending on her personality/profession, and Indiana offers the possibility of Ann or Anna or even Diana in addition to Indie.
What's traditional about naming a girl Indiana? I think it's horrible giving a person a state name unless it's Virginia.
I think this is one of those names that works better as a pet name or strictly a nickname. Indie is really juvenile, India is problematic as it borders cultural appropriation and the exoticizing of other cultures. Indiana doesn't fair much better as it literally means "land of the Indians". There's Indigo, but then there's the chance you'll get mistaken for being a part of the "indigo child" malarkey. There's Indria, but I wouldn't feel comfortable using a Hindu name unless I had that heritage.
Searching other forums for suggestions brought up suggestions like Melinda, Rosalind and Lucinda, basically any name with "ind" in it. I also saw Ingrid as a suggestion. I think there's some merit to subtlety with name "themes".
So we've pretty much given up on naming our child. Okay, not really, but we've stopped talking about it since we were getting annoyed with one another. Any advice for productively restarting the process? I've thought about printing out the top 1000, having us both pick some number of names we could live with, and look for overlaps.
So we've pretty much given up on naming our child. Okay, not really, but we've stopped talking about it since we were getting annoyed with one another. Any advice for productively restarting the process? I've thought about printing out the top 1000, having us both pick some number of names we could live with, and look for overlaps.
That's what we did. We each took the top 500 and made short lists (20ish) that we liked and compared. That gave us 5 overlaps. we did the same thing with DD. Make sure you also keep your eye out for similar names when you look at your individual lists too - I had Nathan, DH had Nathaniel so we kept both on the overlap list. If he loves Jonas and you love Joseph, you can work from there. Good luck!!
@jkffx7 - No judgment on the name, given your reasoning behind it, but I would strongly suggest that if you decide "Indie" is the route you want to go, you go for the full "Indiana." I think Indie is a fine nickname and there's nothing wrong with calling her that from the get-go, but she may want the option of going with something more traditional down the line, depending on her personality/profession, and Indiana offers the possibility of Ann or Anna or even Diana in addition to Indie.
So we've pretty much given up on naming our child. Okay, not really, but we've stopped talking about it since we were getting annoyed with one another. Any advice for productively restarting the process? I've thought about printing out the top 1000, having us both pick some number of names we could live with, and look for overlaps.
If you find a way that works, let me know! DH and I have done the "everyone picks names and we narrow it down to the overlap" thing, and we still can't make a decision. I have a feeling we're going to go to the hospital with 3-4 names and just choose then. On the plus side, the NP I saw at my last doctor's visit said that it took her almost a week after her last daughter was born to pick a name, so there's still time!
@allisshiney You know, pre-pregnancy I would have side-eyed any names that long. However, now, having been in the position to have to choose just one first/middle name... I can completely understand why people go for several. Congratulations on choosing a name for your little one!
I'm here reading all of the name picking stories and realizing how lucky we were… A few days after learning I was pregnant, I looked at my husband and said: "I like Luca, how about you?". He said "I love it." And we were done. We didn't even think or consider any other names.
I'm here reading all of the name picking stories and realizing how lucky we were… A few days after learning I was pregnant, I looked at my husband and said: "I like Luca, how about you?". He said "I love it." And we were done. We didn't even think or consider any other names.
Both of our kiddos have been about the same in choosing names, really uncomplicated and relaxed thankfully. With this one, I gave him a list of 3 (he had already nixed one of my favorites), and he told me what he liked best and we said okay, that's it!
I'm here reading all of the name picking stories and realizing how lucky we were… A few days after learning I was pregnant, I looked at my husband and said: "I like Luca, how about you?". He said "I love it." And we were done. We didn't even think or consider any other names.
That's how we would've been with a boy; I agreed to his favorite first name as long as we could pass on DH's mn...so of course we're having a girl! One of my sisters has never named a baby on the first day and one of them took over a week after his birth...I don't know how they do it because I would go nuts.
Re: What are you going to name your little one?
I vote that you go with a name you like and forget about who you may know with the name. I know in your cases it's your SO's being the babies about it.
Thomas for my amazing grandfather (who is my father figure) and Wyatt because I want my son to have a strong name. Wyatt means brave and I love that.
And while Wyatt is becoming more popular, it is an older name and I feel that it isn't quite so common. I'm not a fan of made-up or "you-neek" names at all. And the "y" in his name actually belongs there.
I love Iris and it was top 3 for us if we were having a girl. We were going to go with Iris Elizabeth since that is my mother's and my middle name.
Boy: Soren Richard
Girl options:
Philippa (Pippa)-- my favorite and my choice with our first daughter, but my wife took advantage of my blood loss and gratitude at having survived labor with a healthy baby and I agreed to name our daughter Phoebe Eloise, which I love, but it was not the plan. But I'm trying to decide whether it takes Philippa out of the running this time around. I generally don't like matchy but part of me wants to do it anyway. It's been my favorite for years; this will be our last child because I'm geriatric.
Yvette - problem is that I don't like nicknames with Eve. Nickname Etti is fine but it's not like I'll be in control of nicknames.
Solene - sadly its pronunciation is problematic so I think this one is out.
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His big sister is Anaston Claire (Ana) and Cannon Lee
Anyone else liking more and more "odd" names the more pregnant you get (perhaps I should stop now)? I threw out a pretty unusual one for a girl the other day and DH actually likes it... so if we have a girl we could be going with "Indie Wilder"... We'll never hear the end of it from our friends because we're all archaeologists (like Indiana Jones) but I kind of like the homage to our childhood hero (as those movies are why we became archaeologists and ultimately met in the first place). Wilder I love for a girl's middle name and since it's a middle name I don't think there's too much to "self- prophecy". Of course, we have a list that's several names long for both boy and girl because we want to meet the LO first
Boy-- this name game is hard!
Honestly, to me...it sounds like a trailer park name. Not even trying to be snarky.
Searching other forums for suggestions brought up suggestions like Melinda, Rosalind and Lucinda, basically any name with "ind" in it. I also saw Ingrid as a suggestion. I think there's some merit to subtlety with name "themes".
And also, Indiana was the dogs name.
Make sure you also keep your eye out for similar names when you look at your individual lists too - I had Nathan, DH had Nathaniel so we kept both on the overlap list. If he loves Jonas and you love Joseph, you can work from there.