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PugsandKisses · January 2016

dolewhipper said:
Alright, here's mine: I will judge the hell out of you if you think SeaWorld is doing anything in the way of animal cruelty, unless you are anti captivity. And by anti captivity I mean anti zoo, anti circus and anything else that contains animals. If your family will go to the zoo or Disney and won't go to SeaWorld, you are highly, highly misinformed. SeaWorld takes care of their animals amazingly well, and anyone who sees them as doing something wrong should instead look to Lolita at Miami Seaquarium (very sad situation).

@quartz02 I hope you and your family has a great time at SeaWorld! It's one of my favorite places.

My sister is anti captivity. No zoo or anything like that. She refused to go to the GA Aquarium with us. You know, thr words biggest a d new one. It was amazing BTW.

DominiqueU · January 2016

@Puddles03 You made me realize that I never changed mine... I don't have any good pictures so I just went with macaroons.

Now I want macaroons. Thanks a lot.

Taymiller · January 2016

noelietrex said:

Taymiller said:

@noelietrex - why no infant car seat?

We just don't want the infant base and detachable carrier. So we're registered for a convertible infant-to-toddler one that is installed and stays in the car permanently. Basically I want us to wear or hold the baby and not carry around a car seat. I didn't know it was a radical idea until MIL looked at my registry...

Qbf
And that way you don't have to buy two car seats! We already have that infant seat and with two it will be kinda necessary for us. Wear one carry the other

Taymiller · January 2016

@PinkLady2015 - I have a weird pen thing. I can only use one kind and I special order them. They are seriously the most amazing and best pens ever!

PinkLady2015 · January 2016

Taymiller said:

@PinkLady2015 - I have a weird pen thing. I can only use one kind and I special order them. They are seriously the most amazing and best pens ever!

I'm intrigued--- what kind are they?!

thebigoaktree · January 2016

TM14 said:
Confession....today was my last day at work and I made sure to do as little as possible. Especially when this one coworker was watching me. It made me so happy to see her pissed off.

This makes me so excited to give my 5 min notice when I can.

Taymiller · January 2016

PinkLady2015 said:

Taymiller said:

@PinkLady2015 - I have a weird pen thing. I can only use one kind and I special order them. They are seriously the most amazing and best pens ever!

I'm intrigued--- what kind are they?!

I don't know what kind but they are used for advertising. They come in a bunch of different colors but I have them in pink. Ignore my super awesome camo leggings

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jennyleigh16 · January 2016

I'm in a fb group with some women from TK who all got married around the same time and started trying for kids around the same time. There's a woman who is due a couple days after me and she keeps posting stuff with "#4months" and it's driving me batty. The first time she wasn't even close, she was like 12 weeks and a couple days. I'm resisting the urge to correct her using simple math. I think it bugs me so much because I see every month as a milestone and achievement and it irks me to no end that she's celebrating it without achieving it. It's super petty I know but it's driving me crazy!

givemepenguinss · January 2016

It's so hard for me to take posts seriously when they don't have at least SOME punctuation. I don't mean perfect grammar and punctuation, I know we aren't feeling great and most of us are posting via phone, but it's so hard to follow a post when there are, like, 3 thoughts running into each other. At least hit the return button a few times please?

DobbysSock · January 2016

@noelietrex in hindsight I would have saved the money and gotten a convertable carseat as well. Although the infant carseat/stroller travel system was convenient, that carseat was damn heavy and I couldn't carry her far in it anyways. The main benefit for us was our fluctuating weather - a nice warm carseat for the baby when it was -40C was a big bonus (January newborn in northern BC). I'm hoping to babywear a lot more this time around, too. DD was kind of hit and miss with it.

@SparkySunshine I used to want 4, DH wanted 3. We had DD and both dropped our number down to 2.

@mckcak23 People like that are so fucking obnoxious. I'd be tempted to ask her where she went to med school, but even if she was a doctor she'd be obnoxious for assuming to know more about your health than you and your doctors.

@quartz02 I had a definite love-hate with breastfeeding too. So bittersweet to stop as it felt great to have my body back to being my own but sad to end that chapter. Good luck this time around!

SparkySunshine · January 2016

@DobbysSock I don't have much hope convincing him of less then 4. When I first started being really sick (6 weeks) he looked at me, dead serious, and says "Well your already a quarter of the way done!" I asked him how he figured, since the math didnt match up. He points to the toddler and says " She's out, and you only have to do this 3 more times! " I could have punched him

noelietrex · January 2016

Here's a really mean horrible one: when smokers walk indoors surrounded in a cloud of smoke I think I should be allowed to scream at them "THIRD HAND SMOKE IS PROVEN TO DAMAGE LUNGS!" I also hope they die of cancer real fast or set themselves on fire by accident because it's not okay to force everyone everywhere you go to breathe in your horrible cloud of third hand smoke. Especially while pregnant I'm giving OBVIOUS stink eye, sighs, and moving far away because you wreak and I shouldn't have to breathe in that toxic sh*t! Flame away!

TM14 · January 2016

noelietrex said:
Here's a really mean horrible one: when smokers walk indoors surrounded in a cloud of smoke I think I should be allowed to scream at them "THIRD HAND SMOKE IS PROVEN TO DAMAGE LUNGS!" I also hope they die of cancer real fast or set themselves on fire by accident because it's not okay to force everyone everywhere you go to breathe in your horrible cloud of third hand smoke. Especially while pregnant I'm giving OBVIOUS stink eye, sighs, and moving far away because you wreak and I shouldn't have to breathe in that toxic sh*t! Flame away!

When working in fast food I felt the same when people who came through the drive through were smoking. F off assholes!

magzor · January 2016

noelietrex said:
Here's a really mean horrible one: when smokers walk indoors surrounded in a cloud of smoke I think I should be allowed to scream at them "THIRD HAND SMOKE IS PROVEN TO DAMAGE LUNGS!" I also hope they die of cancer real fast or set themselves on fire by accident because it's not okay to force everyone everywhere you go to breathe in your horrible cloud of third hand smoke. Especially while pregnant I'm giving OBVIOUS stink eye, sighs, and moving far away because you wreak and I shouldn't have to breathe in that toxic sh*t! Flame away!

They stinkiest smokers always seem to sit right next to me on the bus/subway. I pull my scarf over my face and don't care how obvious I'm being.

DobbysSock · January 2016

SparkySunshine said:

@DobbysSock I don't have much hope convincing him of less then 4. When I first started being really sick (6 weeks) he looked at me, dead serious, and says "Well your already a quarter of the way done!" I asked him how he figured, since the math didnt match up. He points to the toddler and says " She's out, and you only have to do this 3 more times! " I could have punched him

@SparkySunshine oh my god I probably would have. That's the only thing that has gotten me through (until my diclectin kicked in) - my mantra was: "you never have to do this again".

Weville · January 2016

I am so bagged and just want to go to bed but I have to walk the dogs first. So instead I am sitting on my couch contemplating wearing my robe in public and hoping the dogs magically figure out how to operate an elevator and take themselves out

DobbysSock · January 2016

I'm really scared for this next baby being the opposite of DD. Her pregnancy was rough and her delivery was hell, but as of about a week post-partum she's been a dream to parent for the most part. (I mean, she's still testing me lately but I'm trying to remind myself how much worse the toddler years could be)

So my confession: I remember before I got pregnant I looked at DH and said "What if our next kid is just a dud??" We both laughed and carried on with our day, but now that there's an actual little person involved I've been thinking of that joke and feeling a little guilty about it. Mostly about the whole idea that a kid who acts differently than DD won't be as good as her. So I'm trying to prepare myself for a more high maintenance baby and toddler just in case. Is it normal to worry your next kid won't be as awesome as your first??

quartz02 · January 2016

@DobbysSock I think that's normal. With just 1 kid, they're your whole world and everything they do is amazing.

side note: "the dud" is what I referred to my right breast as since it produced way less milk. LOL!

SparkySunshine · January 2016

@DobbysSock
I'm irrationally worried about the same thing. We will all love our children no matter their personality though! It's just weird to think of a different little person

TattoosandLace · January 2016

quartz02 said:
@DobbysSock I think that's normal. With just 1 kid, they're your whole world and everything they do is amazing.

side note: "the dud" is what I referred to my right breast as since it produced way less milk. LOL!

A literal milk dud

Schmooie730 · January 2016

noelietrex said:
Here's a really mean horrible one: when smokers walk indoors surrounded in a cloud of smoke I think I should be allowed to scream at them "THIRD HAND SMOKE IS PROVEN TO DAMAGE LUNGS!" I also hope they die of cancer real fast or set themselves on fire by accident because it's not okay to force everyone everywhere you go to breathe in your horrible cloud of third hand smoke. Especially while pregnant I'm giving OBVIOUS stink eye, sighs, and moving far away because you wreak and I shouldn't have to breathe in that toxic sh*t! Flame away!

Normally I don't post in this thread, but that was really horrible to say. My father smoked and died of lung cancer last year after only an 8 month battle. And my FIL has lung cancer and he hasn't smoked in over 20 years. Yes, smoking sucks and people should be more considerate and wait outside for a few minutes to air out, but saying you hope they die fast from cancer? I hope you never have to watch a loved one die of such a horrible disease. I understand this is flame free Friday, but that comment physically hurt to read.

elenabrent · January 2016

@DobbysSock my husband and I are good at completely opposite things, so I've been joking that the kid will either be really well rounded or a dullard. Every once in a while I feel guilty about that joke.

jlgriff11 · January 2016

Schmooie730 said:

noelietrex said:
Here's a really mean horrible one: when smokers walk indoors surrounded in a cloud of smoke I think I should be allowed to scream at them "THIRD HAND SMOKE IS PROVEN TO DAMAGE LUNGS!" I also hope they die of cancer real fast or set themselves on fire by accident because it's not okay to force everyone everywhere you go to breathe in your horrible cloud of third hand smoke. Especially while pregnant I'm giving OBVIOUS stink eye, sighs, and moving far away because you wreak and I shouldn't have to breathe in that toxic sh*t! Flame away!
Normally I don't post in this thread, but that was really horrible to say. My father smoked and died of lung cancer last year after only an 8 month battle. And my FIL has lung cancer and he hasn't smoked in over 20 years. Yes, smoking sucks and people should be more considerate and wait outside for a few minutes to air out, but saying you hope they die fast from cancer? I hope you never have to watch a loved one die of such a horrible disease. I understand this is flame free Friday, but that comment physically hurt to read.

I'm going to have to agree. I was my grandfathers hospice nurse while he slowly died from lung cancer. He quit smoking long ago, but came from a generation that didn't know what we know today. As an ex-smoker who hasn't smoked for years, I understand how much it sucks to be around cigarette smoke and people who smoke should be more considerate, but I wouldn't wish lung cancer or any other kind of cancer on my worst enemy.

benten24 · January 2016

While lurking another BMB, I was reading a thread about co-sleeping. SO many women practice bed-sharing and that scares the bejesus out of me. There is not a single ounce of me that finds this okay, am flabbergasted at how many women bed share with infants and ignore all of the recommendations against it. The AAP does not condone bed sharing, though it seems like a lot of people think they do and that it's safe. I'm not saying that once in a blue moon you fall asleep with baby in bed while feeding and the world is going to end, but come on people. If anyone thinks that sharing a bed with a baby is safe and doesn't increase that child's chance of an untimely death, you just make my head and heart hurt for that baby. Place the baby in a pack and play or bassinet next to you, no need to risk your baby's life by letting them sleep in your bed.
Flame away!

Nerdchild · January 2016

@Schmooie730 and @jlgriff11 Agreed. You may wish a horrible cancerous death for that person, but what you are actually wishing for is to punish the family. I've never smoked a day in my life, but I can literally relive my father's last 4 breaths (time from diagnosis to death; 2 and a 1/2 weeks). I hear it, I feel the cold of the room, I smell the antiseptic hospital smell, every awful detail. He is gone and doesn't have to deal with it, I have to live with it.

How offended would you all be if I said I wished anyone who texted or sped or did anything remotely illegal while driving should splatter onto the road in front of their children?! It's just as spiteful, ill-articulated, and inflammatory (and not to mention, extremely mean-spirited).

ETA; Regarding the 'set themselves on fire' comment, next time you say that, make sure it's in either a burn ward or a fire department, because sometimes people who are talking out of their back ends are best dealt with by experts.

elenabrent · January 2016

I lost a good friend to lung cancer last year and like PP he hadn't smoked in years. There's no great way to die (in your sleep when you're old Notebook style maybe), but lung cancer is horrible. And losing a loved one to cancer is excruciating for the family and friends.

maddmama · January 2016

@Nerdchild I lost my father to colon cancer. Wouldn't wish it on anyone. I took care of him while he was in hospice at home, and stood by him while he took his last breaths. Everything you wrote I can understand 100%. I'll never forget any of it. I'm sorry for your loss ❤️

ncm1919 · January 2016

If you're going to wish cancer on someone, at least do it in a grammatically correct fashion. It's reek, not wreak. Ugly word mix up for a truly ugly comment.

TattoosandLace · January 2016

@benten24 I disagree with you there.

elenabrent · January 2016

@benten24 We don't plan on bed sharing because our bed is small and I'm prone to flailing at night, but we are planning on a next to the bed co-sleeper. You're comment DID make me think about a conversation the other day where a friend who is a doula was talking about how accidentally falling asleep in a recliner or a rocker with a baby because you get up in the middle of the night and you don't want to take the baby back to bed with you is way more dangerous than co-sleeping. She made a great point about how things get risky when we're sleep deprived, and it definitely made me feel good about the idea of having the baby next to me and easily accessible in those early months.

AAAG13 · January 2016

I agree with you @benten24. We have friends that co slept initially because of their fear of the infancy stage and the baby stopping breathing. Their kids are now 5 and 7 and all four of them still sleep in one bed. My aunt did the same and slept with her son until he was 13! This is all because once they got the habit of it the kids literally couldn't be put to bed without the parent going to bed with them. I also share this fear at probably an irrational level, however I plan on using a bassinet until the baby is 6 months or so and then transition to the crib. It may happen sooner or later than the 6 month mark but that is up to the baby to decide. I also want to invest in the owlet monitor that measures the baby's oxygen levels. It seems expensive but it will keep my fears at bay. I do have a friend that did fall asleep with her child a couple times while feeding in bed and that is just going to happen. I honestly am such an angry sleeper that our dog sleeps on my husband's side of the bed for safety. Kind of curious to see if anyone else has used or is planning to use this monitor?

Taymiller · January 2016

@benten24 - I agree with you. We are not bedsharers but I also don't judge you if you do. We were lucky enough to have an awesome sleeper. My friends that bed share were desperate and it was the only way they got sleep. Personally I would not be able to sleep with the baby in the bed, I would be to nervous. Also DH is a doctor and yes it is a big no no to bedshare

I think co-sleeper things are a perfect compromise and keep baby safe. We do the pack and play in our room. Hopefully baby number 2 will be a great sleeper.

DobbysSock · January 2016

elenabrent said:

@DobbysSock my husband and I are good at completely opposite things, so I've been joking that the kid will either be really well rounded or a dullard. Every once in a while I feel guilty about that joke.

@elenabrent I'm so relieved I'm not the only one who's made a joke like that haha

Nerdchild · January 2016

Alright no longer Friday, but I have one last confession to add (and this may get me more hate from the admins/mods than anyone else)...

I don't use the report function on here. I know we are supposed to in order to 'keep the bump a safe place' or whatever, but if someone pisses me off enough I just 'block/ignore' their account. I'm glad that others report because there are some women who just gotsta go, but I'm some combination of too lazy/my give a f*** broke.

PugsandKisses · January 2016

My children did not sleep unless in your arms. There are safe ways to bed share.

My kids are 1.5 years and 5 years, and they sleep in their beds every night

afrazer521 · January 2016

@DobbysSock I have a theory about 2nd children and it seems to hold fairly true. I'm the youngest....my sister was a rough delivery, easy child. I was an easy delivery, TERRIBLE child. I have talked with other 2x mom's that experienced the same thing. Ds was a TERRIBLE pregnancy (towards the end), but a great baby. I have a feeling this pregnancy will run a little smoother, but will probably be a little bugger once born (obviously I'm already prepared still will love them Yada yada). So yes. I have joked that this baby will probably be a pain in the booty like I was as a baby lol

DobbysSock · January 2016

.@afrazer521 that's so funny - I actually tell myself all the time that DD is my reward for a really emotionally and physically difficult pregnancy and traumatic delivery. So far my morning sickness is just as bad as it was with DD, so maybe that's a "good" sign haha.

I do feel like a lot of people I know with more than one kid, the second one was almost always the opposite of the first (easy first/hard second or hard first/easy second) BUT I have one friend who had an easy first baby, and then "easy" twins (as easy as twins can be), and my mom says all four of her kids were easy (although I think she might have grandma rose-coloured glasses), so they give me hope.

magzor · January 2016

AAAG13 said:
I agree with you @benten24. We have friends that co slept initially because of their fear of the infancy stage and the baby stopping breathing. Their kids are now 5 and 7 and all four of them still sleep in one bed. My aunt did the same and slept with her son until he was 13! This is all because once they got the habit of it the kids literally couldn't be put to bed without the parent going to bed with them. I also share this fear at probably an irrational level, however I plan on using a bassinet until the baby is 6 months or so and then transition to the crib. It may happen sooner or later than the 6 month mark but that is up to the baby to decide. I also want to invest in the owlet monitor that measures the baby's oxygen levels. It seems expensive but it will keep my fears at bay. I do have a friend that did fall asleep with her child a couple times while feeding in bed and that is just going to happen. I honestly am such an angry sleeper that our dog sleeps on my husband's side of the bed for safety. Kind of curious to see if anyone else has used or is planning to use this monitor?

Some friends of mine beta tested the owlet and LOVE it. The mobile app won't let me paste the link, but if you Google "blissfulinblue.com" and "owlet" you can read her review.

afrazer521 · January 2016

DobbysSock said:
.@afrazer521 that's so funny - I actually tell myself all the time that DD is my reward for a really emotionally and physically difficult pregnancy and traumatic delivery. So far my morning sickness is just as bad as it was with DD, so maybe that's a "good" sign haha.

I do feel like a lot of people I know with more than one kid, the second one was almost always the opposite of the first (easy first/hard second or hard first/easy second) BUT I have one friend who had an easy first baby, and then "easy" twins (as easy as twins can be), and my mom says all four of her kids were easy (although I think she might have grandma rose-coloured glasses), so they give me hope.

I think it's a rule of 2. If you're planning on only 2 that's the pattern. More than that and my theory goes out the window haha. Official theory of me.

AAAG13 · January 2016

@marowan I love her review! I am super obsessed with this monitor and have convinced my hubby that the money is worth the piece of mind. Thank you for the information, it was great to see a real person's story about the owlet!

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