I'm not a big fan of birthday cake. I enjoy the concept, but regular cake is not my thing. Give me cheesecake, carrot cake, peanut butter chocolate torte...something special. I promise I'm not a diva.
I have an ice cream cake every year for this very reason. My birthday is in December and I still regret nothing!
I'm not a big fan of birthday cake. I enjoy the concept, but regular cake is not my thing. Give me cheesecake, carrot cake, peanut butter chocolate torte...something special. I promise I'm not a diva.
I have an ice cream cake every year for this very reason. My birthday is in December and I still regret nothing! ---qbf--- Omg I have an ice cream cake every year too! My birthday is in March so it is also generally cold, but I have no regrets lol I do not like cake...like at all. And neither does my oldest. I made cheesecake for him for his 2nd birthday
I have new years resolutioners at the gym. Who are you trying to fool? We all know in 2-3 months you'll be back on your couch stuffing your face with junk food. I can't stand how they are always using, or just sitting on, the equipment that the regulars need to use!
This used to bother me and so did slow walkers on treadmills, but I've changed my attitude on that. They are making an effort and hopefully they like the environment and they can stick with it. The extra congestion at the gym is an inconvenience when you're not used to it, but everyone started somewhere.
I agree that everyone starts somewhere. When people were making an honest effort, it didn't bother me, but people who would just stand around in the way, or people who would sit and talk on the benches in the free-weight room frustrated me when DH and I belonged to a gym.
I hate the regs in our gym even more. They have NO gym etiquette. For example,they slam weights, leave plates on machines, leave barbells on the floor to trip over. We are changing to a better (ie, more expensive) gym in the spring (that has daycare!!) because of it. The "management" does nothing to improve it, or to tell people to put their weights away. More often than not, I have not been able to use a machine because some douche left 8 45 pound plates on it, and I refuse to strip it for them. Newbies, while annoying, normally at least stick to the cardio machines or have a trainer, so they usually aren't the issue for me.
I, too, hate people like that!! It's not a huge problem at the gym I'm at now because it's only for people who live there but I do see some people do it. It also drives me nuts when people don't clean the equipment off, but most of the regulars at least do that. I HATE it when people slam weights, especially on the machines with cords and wires, that's how you break them!! If you can't put them down lightly then you're lifting too much.
Maybe I just hate everyone else at the gym in general... lol
I have new years resolutioners at the gym. Who are you trying to fool? We all know in 2-3 months you'll be back on your couch stuffing your face with junk food. I can't stand how they are always using, or just sitting on, the equipment that the regulars need to use!
This used to bother me and so did slow walkers on treadmills, but I've changed my attitude on that. They are making an effort and hopefully they like the environment and they can stick with it. The extra congestion at the gym is an inconvenience when you're not used to it, but everyone started somewhere.
I agree that everyone starts somewhere. When people were making an honest effort, it didn't bother me, but people who would just stand around in the way, or people who would sit and talk on the benches in the free-weight room frustrated me when DH and I belonged to a gym.
I hate the regs in our gym even more. They have NO gym etiquette. For example,they slam weights, leave plates on machines, leave barbells on the floor to trip over. We are changing to a better (ie, more expensive) gym in the spring (that has daycare!!) because of it. The "management" does nothing to improve it, or to tell people to put their weights away. More often than not, I have not been able to use a machine because some douche left 8 45 pound plates on it, and I refuse to strip it for them. Newbies, while annoying, normally at least stick to the cardio machines or have a trainer, so they usually aren't the issue for me.
I, too, hate people like that!! It's not a huge problem at the gym I'm at now because it's only for people who live there but I do see some people do it. It also drives me nuts when people don't clean the equipment off, but most of the regulars at least do that. I HATE it when people slam weights, especially on the machines with cords and wires, that's how you break them!! If you can't put them down lightly then you're lifting too much.
Maybe I just hate everyone else at the gym in general... lol
@LemmyRN YES!!! The other day someone came in the gym with a large soda from 7-11. Are you kidding me? Ugh. And the selfies.. so annoying. I walked in the locker room the other day and this rather large woman was taking a selfie. She was in the gym "working out" for literally 15 minutes. Don't get me wrong, 15 minutes is better than nothing but still. I feel like some people only do it to take selfies and post online. lol
Like the people who feel the need to post every time they workout on social media. Arghh! Do these people really think that nobody else exercises?
I kind of think Steve Avery from Making a Murderer is guilty.
OMG can we please talk about this? I agree with you. When I finished the documentary, I waffled back and forth. Since then I've read a few things about the case that the documentary left out and now I'm leaning towards guilty.
Same! After learning some new details (no spoilers ppl don't worry) it just seems so much more likely and obvious that of course he did it. I do think the investigation was shitty and they should have looked into other suspects, but I just really think he's probably guilty. All the petitions on FB annoy me because I feel like no one is actually thinking for themselves. They just take the documentarians perspective at face value with no thoughtful contemplation or analysis of their own. I think Adnan from serial is totally guilty too, no question about that one in my mind.
QBF
I'm actually on the fence after reading new details. Part of me feels like of course he did it, but the other part feels like a lot of evidence was dismissed that presents reasonable doubt. I think the most compelling thing to me is that he was presumed guilty instead of presumed innocent until proven guilty. Clearly both his trials and the local precinct are not sterling examples of the justice system, but some of the details that have come out present more doubt about his innocence than I would have thought initially. I'm sort of feeling like he might be guilty but he at least deserved a new trial with different prosecutors in a neutral location, which is obviously not possible now.
About gyms, true story - at my old gym I once watched a really built guy stack weights, pose for a selfie, and then re-rack to a weight he could actually press.
@kbrands7 Mmm...carrot cake! Now I want carrot cake, damnit!
My UO is that I was so relieved at my AS this morning when the US tech confirmed that we were having a boy. We had already done the Harmony test at 11 weeks that said it was a boy, and that is supposed to be about 99% accurate in determining the sex, but I think I would have been really disappointed had the Harmony test been wrong (which surprised me because I was initially hoping for a girl). I think I'm so used to the idea of it being a boy now that it would have been almost like "losing" a son, even though it would have been the same baby, if that makes sense. Either way, I'm just happy that LO appears to be healthy and growing at all the normal rates.
I'm completely uninterested in this season of Serial which bums me out because I was obsessed with the first season.
Same..I looked forward to each new episode sooo much in the first season! Now I'm listening to other podcasts...for true crime, Sword & Scale is really good.
Maybe not unpopular here but unpopular in my group of mom friends. I don't get the need for kid-free friend time. If I get to be kid-free for a few hours, I'd much rather be alone or with my DH.
I'd rather see my friends without kids so that we can remember who we are when we're not being moms or working. DH will get time, but scheduling friend time is a lot harder and rarer.
@yogahh urg is right. I'm so resistant to things like that, that seem to be done "just because" without a rational reason. Too bizarre for me.
This is not "just because": it's tradition. And you follow tradition because it is meaningful to families, helps maintain continuity between generations, enphasizes familial identity, and honors people you love.
What part of that seems bizarre? Makes much more sense to me than inventing names or discarding names because they're too common.
I kind of think Steve Avery from Making a Murderer is guilty.
OMG can we please talk about this? I agree with you. When I finished the documentary, I waffled back and forth. Since then I've read a few things about the case that the documentary left out and now I'm leaning towards guilty.
Same! After learning some new details (no spoilers ppl don't worry) it just seems so much more likely and obvious that of course he did it. I do think the investigation was shitty and they should have looked into other suspects, but I just really think he's probably guilty. All the petitions on FB annoy me because I feel like no one is actually thinking for themselves. They just take the documentarians perspective at face value with no thoughtful contemplation or analysis of their own. I think Adnan from serial is totally guilty too, no question about that one in my mind.
QBF
I'm actually on the fence after reading new details. Part of me feels like of course he did it, but the other part feels like a lot of evidence was dismissed that presents reasonable doubt. I think the most compelling thing to me is that he was presumed guilty instead of presumed innocent until proven guilty. Clearly both his trials and the local precinct are not sterling examples of the justice system, but some of the details that have come out present more doubt about his innocence than I would have thought initially. I'm sort of feeling like he might be guilty but he at least deserved a new trial with different prosecutors in a neutral location, which is obviously not possible now.
About gyms, true story - at my old gym I once watched a really built guy stack weights, pose for a selfie, and then re-rack to a weight he could actually press.
Eta: quote box fail
I completely agree with you that the trial was about proving him innocent when it should be the other way around. Like, I think he is probably guilty, but am I sure that he was actually PROVEN guilty during his trial? Not so sure about that.
I can't believe people are actually calling for Presidential pardons! I mean, call for a retrial, maybe, but a full on pardon? Come on people. To me, a far more upsetting failure of justice is the trial of Robert Durst (anyone seen The Jinx??)
@yogahh urg is right. I'm so resistant to things like that, that seem to be done "just because" without a rational reason. Too bizarre for me.
This is not "just because": it's tradition. And you follow tradition because it is meaningful to families, helps maintain continuity between generations, enphasizes familial identity, and honors people you love.
What part of that seems bizarre? Makes much more sense to me than inventing names or discarding names because they're too common.
Tbh here...it's your explanation, for me anyway. My 1st son's middle name is Jacob. I freaking hate that name. Like my blood boils knowing MY son carries the name "Jacob" anywhere in his name. But guess what? "Tradition" for my husband's family said "too bad so sad, his middle name is Jacob". So because of "tradition" I HATE my son's name. And that's stupid. He's my son, I should like his name, and the meaning behind why I don't doesn't make me feel any better about the choice. In full disclosure technically ALL of my children needed "jacob" in their name somewhere since they're all boys but I put my foot down. No way in hell people. You got your way once, that's more than enough thanks.
Although I will agree that made up names make no sense to me. But it's your kid. As long as you like it, it's whatever to me.
So I guess my unpopular opinion for the day is that I really hate traditions. All of them. If they don't personally mean something to you, it's a waste of time and energy in order to make someone else happy at your own expense. At least that's my experience with "tradition".
I'm majorly confused by this point but I'm going with, I'm totally ok with naming your child after a family member if you want to, and that feels important to you. But I don't think you should be bullied into it because that's what tradition says. Then it seems like less honoring a loved one and more just doing something out of obligation. I wouldn't want my kids to name their children after me just because I said they had to. I would want them to want to.
I can't stand that my cousin/best friend constantly complains to me about being unhappy with her body, weight, etc. and always wants my advice or help.. so after giving it to her 435987435 millions times I'm finally fed up because every time she posts a picture on instagram no matter what time of day it is she is ALWAYS laying in bed watching TV or on the couch with soda and junk food near by. COME ON! Its 2pm... WHY ARE YOU LAYING IN BED?? And the thing that irks me even more is that half the time its her moms bed. She wakes up and wanders to her moms bed to continue laying and watching TV. She is 23 years old.
I kind of think Steve Avery from Making a Murderer is guilty.
OMG can we please talk about this? I agree with you. When I finished the documentary, I waffled back and forth. Since then I've read a few things about the case that the documentary left out and now I'm leaning towards guilty.
Same! After learning some new details (no spoilers ppl don't worry) it just seems so much more likely and obvious that of course he did it. I do think the investigation was shitty and they should have looked into other suspects, but I just really think he's probably guilty. All the petitions on FB annoy me because I feel like no one is actually thinking for themselves. They just take the documentarians perspective at face value with no thoughtful contemplation or analysis of their own. I think Adnan from serial is totally guilty too, no question about that one in my mind.
QBF
I'm actually on the fence after reading new details. Part of me feels like of course he did it, but the other part feels like a lot of evidence was dismissed that presents reasonable doubt. I think the most compelling thing to me is that he was presumed guilty instead of presumed innocent until proven guilty. Clearly both his trials and the local precinct are not sterling examples of the justice system, but some of the details that have come out present more doubt about his innocence than I would have thought initially. I'm sort of feeling like he might be guilty but he at least deserved a new trial with different prosecutors in a neutral location, which is obviously not possible now.
About gyms, true story - at my old gym I once watched a really built guy stack weights, pose for a selfie, and then re-rack to a weight he could actually press.
Eta: quote box fail
I completely agree with you that the trial was about proving him innocent when it should be the other way around. Like, I think he is probably guilty, but am I sure that he was actually PROVEN guilty during his trial? Not so sure about that.
I can't believe people are actually calling for Presidential pardons! I mean, call for a retrial, maybe, but a full on pardon? Come on people. To me, a far more upsetting failure of justice is the trial of Robert Durst (anyone seen The Jinx??)
I'm with you both about the unfairness of the trial. While I may think he is guilty, I don't think he was treated fairly by the courts. Same with Adnan from serial, his trial was BS. Of course I've seen The Jinx ... and I totally agree. It is really upsetting.
@LemmyRN YES!!! The other day someone came in the gym with a large soda from 7-11. Are you kidding me? Ugh. And the selfies.. so annoying. I walked in the locker room the other day and this rather large woman was taking a selfie. She was in the gym "working out" for literally 15 minutes. Don't get me wrong, 15 minutes is better than nothing but still. I feel like some people only do it to take selfies and post online. lol
Like the people who feel the need to post every time they workout on social media. Arghh! Do these people really think that nobody else exercises?
OMG YES! I go to the gym 5-6 days a week. I never post about it. lol If anyone hears about my workout it's my husband.
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I have new years resolutioners at the gym. Who are you trying to fool? We all know in 2-3 months you'll be back on your couch stuffing your face with junk food. I can't stand how they are always using, or just sitting on, the equipment that the regulars need to use!
This used to bother me and so did slow walkers on treadmills, but I've changed my attitude on that. They are making an effort and hopefully they like the environment and they can stick with it. The extra congestion at the gym is an inconvenience when you're not used to it, but everyone started somewhere.
I agree that everyone starts somewhere. When people were making an honest effort, it didn't bother me, but people who would just stand around in the way, or people who would sit and talk on the benches in the free-weight room frustrated me when DH and I belonged to a gym.
Like the woman who was sitting on the stationary bike I wanted to use yesterday just face-timing with someone for 20 minutes... People who are actually serious about it and trying to make me mad, it's the people who come in and fool around, don't clean stuff, break stuff, etc that make me angry.
QBF I definitely can't stand people like this. In fact when it's ME time, I don't want to talk to anyone. Not a single word. I don't care if you're my hairstylist, the masseuse, the manicurist, whatever. I'm there for silence and relaxation. We don't need to make small talk.
@TXmamatobe Someone on my facebook just announced their first son's birth, and his name gives him the initials PMS. I maybe would have re-thought that one.
My UO is that I hate when bridal parties are gigantic... Why do you need 10 bridesmaids??????
My sister, my four best friends from forever, and DH's four sisters. Only nine, but I can easily see where they add up:)
Maybe not unpopular here but unpopular in my group of mom friends. I don't get the need for kid-free friend time. If I get to be kid-free for a few hours, I'd much rather be alone or with my DH.
I'd rather see my friends without kids so that we can remember who we are when we're not being moms or working. DH will get time, but scheduling friend time is a lot harder and rarer.
@yogahh urg is right. I'm so resistant to things like that, that seem to be done "just because" without a rational reason. Too bizarre for me.
This is not "just because": it's tradition. And you follow tradition because it is meaningful to families, helps maintain continuity between generations, enphasizes familial identity, and honors people you love.
What part of that seems bizarre? Makes much more sense to me than inventing names or discarding names because they're too common.
I guess I just don't understand this. If my friends wanted to do something that's not kid-friendly, then I'd have my mom watch DS and leave him at home, but otherwise, my friends are fine with the idea that he'll come and that they'll bring their kids, or dogs, or whatever along too. I'm not going to put my personality into boxes. Now that I'm a mom, I'm always a mom; once I became a wife, I'm always a wife. It's just an integral part of who I am.
Maybe not unpopular here but unpopular in my group of mom friends. I don't get the need for kid-free friend time. If I get to be kid-free for a few hours, I'd much rather be alone or with my DH.
I'd rather see my friends without kids so that we can remember who we are when we're not being moms or working. DH will get time, but scheduling friend time is a lot harder and rarer.
@yogahh urg is right. I'm so resistant to things like that, that seem to be done "just because" without a rational reason. Too bizarre for me.
This is not "just because": it's tradition. And you follow tradition because it is meaningful to families, helps maintain continuity between generations, enphasizes familial identity, and honors people you love.
What part of that seems bizarre? Makes much more sense to me than inventing names or discarding names because they're too common.
I guess I just don't understand this. If my friends wanted to do something that's not kid-friendly, then I'd have my mom watch DS and leave him at home, but otherwise, my friends are fine with the idea that he'll come and that they'll bring their kids, or dogs, or whatever along too. I'm not going to put my personality into boxes. Now that I'm a mom, I'm always a mom; once I became a wife, I'm always a wife. It's just an integral part of who I am.
Maybe not unpopular here but unpopular in my group of mom friends. I don't get the need for kid-free friend time. If I get to be kid-free for a few hours, I'd much rather be alone or with my DH.
I'd rather see my friends without kids so that we can remember who we are when we're not being moms or working. DH will get time, but scheduling friend time is a lot harder and rarer.
@yogahh urg is right. I'm so resistant to things like that, that seem to be done "just because" without a rational reason. Too bizarre for me.
This is not "just because": it's tradition. And you follow tradition because it is meaningful to families, helps maintain continuity between generations, enphasizes familial identity, and honors people you love.
What part of that seems bizarre? Makes much more sense to me than inventing names or discarding names because they're too common.
I guess I just don't understand this. If my friends wanted to do something that's not kid-friendly, then I'd have my mom watch DS and leave him at home, but otherwise, my friends are fine with the idea that he'll come and that they'll bring their kids, or dogs, or whatever along too. I'm not going to put my personality into boxes. Now that I'm a mom, I'm always a mom; once I became a wife, I'm always a wife. It's just an integral part of who I am.
I don't know that this will be an UO but whatever. Now that we know we are having a girl, I'm even more irritated by the people who keep telling me we need more "girlie" stuff for her. I dislike pink, strongly. I pinked myself out when I was a kid and I don't even know why, I don't know that I liked pink it just was always what people assumed I should have. Also why do things even have to be divided into "girlie" and not. Ugh.
(This is probably just an UO among my family and friends) Also I hate that people assume that because I danced I want my daughter to dance. Actually the opposite it true. If she wants to dance, fine, but I will not pressure her into it and I won't let my family do that either. My Hubby wants her to do martial arts, and honestly, I'd prefer that. Drama will be everywhere, but I stopped dancing because of the stupid shit people were doing to each other.
1. I hate how everyone is focusing on Steve. If anyone is not guilty, it's Brendan. If Brendan did do it, I believe he was bullied into it by Steve. 2. I hate how people keep making jokes at Brendan's expense. I've seen some pretty awful ones. He's below average intelligence and was duped into confessing; just because you think he's not guilty doesn't mean it's okay to make jokes about his intelligence. 3. I hate that everyone is so sure that the police/the boyfriend/Brendan's brother/whoever did it. The whole purpose of the documentary was that people are innocent until proven guilty beyond reasonable doubt. A 30 second video clip where you think someone is acting odd is not evidence (and you're not a professional body language analyst!). 4. Of course the documentary is going to be biased, and I don't think anyone can say for sure he should have been found not guilty without looking at all the objective evidence, not just what was included. And stuff people have posted on Reddit is not objective evidence.
That being said, I really don't have any opinion on if he was guilty or not. I know police corruption exists, and that innocent people are found guilty. It was interesting to watch, but I know I can't make an opinion based on just 10 hours of random footage.
I hate #blessed #motivate #salad #lovemylife #iloveworkingout #inspiration #fierce. . . I get it. You love working out and salad. I eat salad and work out but I really love hot dogs and sleeping. I digress. The ones that really take the cake are the people that hashtag their own names, or the name of their partner and theirs mashed together (#brangelina). That shit cracks me up!
Maybe not unpopular here but unpopular in my group of mom friends. I don't get the need for kid-free friend time. If I get to be kid-free for a few hours, I'd much rather be alone or with my DH.
Agree to disagree! I love alone time with DH, but I go out with my girlfriends once a week sans-kids to keep my sanity. We usually do things that aren't as kid-friendly such as hiking (the more difficult stuff that my kids can't come on), going to see stand-up, or just sitting around drinking margaritas talking about sex/work/life. Sometimes we bring the dudes along or kids along, but it's fun to just catch up with the ladies!
I'm not a big fan of birthday cake. I enjoy the concept, but regular cake is not my thing. Give me cheesecake, carrot cake, peanut butter chocolate torte...something special. I promise I'm not a diva.
I love tradition...because *I* like the sentimentality, etc behind it. I might have an ass backward way of viewing tradition...but I think it should be something that you want to do as a nod to the people who came before you...not something that the older generations force on the younger- it should really be the other way around.
...you can always change his middle name!!
Edit....no idea how that happened...but basically quoted the end part about hating tradition haha
Maybe not unpopular here but unpopular in my group of mom friends. I don't get the need for kid-free friend time. If I get to be kid-free for a few hours, I'd much rather be alone or with my DH.
I'd rather see my friends without kids so that we can remember who we are when we're not being moms or working. DH will get time, but scheduling friend time is a lot harder and rarer.
I just, personally, don't get it. It's just not how I prefer to spend kid-free time. All my mom friends are SAHMs so we can just hang out while the kids are playing in the next room. I rarely get a date with my DH and I seriously love time to myself. I rarely feel the need to be with friends sans kids when it isn't for a specific thing like a wedding or something.
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Maybe not unpopular here but unpopular in my group of mom friends. I don't get the need for kid-free friend time. If I get to be kid-free for a few hours, I'd much rather be alone or with my DH.
I'd rather see my friends without kids so that we can remember who we are when we're not being moms or working. DH will get time, but scheduling friend time is a lot harder and rarer.
I just, personally, don't get it. It's just not how I prefer to spend kid-free time. All my mom friends are SAHMs so we can just hang out while the kids are playing in the next room. I rarely get a date with my DH and I seriously love time to myself. I rarely feel the need to be with friends sans kids when it isn't for a specific thing like a wedding or something.
----QBF---- I normally just bring DS to any get together with friends...but I do get wanting to see your friends without kids just to be able to 100% relax and talk. Let's face it: even if you have a perfect angel who is behaving, etc, you are still *on*. Having time to be able to just relax and catch up is nice....from time to time lol
I totally agree with @kbrands7 that I can never really separate being a mom from who I am. I do have "me time" which is Thursday night choir rehearsal (can't wait!) but I love talking about my son and my little lady-to-be with the other members of the choir. I am also always a nurse, always a wife, always a sister, always a daughter no matter where I am, who I am with, or what I am doing...why should being a mother be different?
This is something that some of my single, child-free friends have brought up so I guess my stance is a bit of a UO (probably not here on TB though!), but I feel that there is no difference between my friends talking about their new promotion at work or their latest beach vacation and me talking about my son and pregnancy. It boils down to life choices and I feel like sometimes my choices to become a wife and mother are too "common" and my super "feminist" friends look down on me a little. One even said at our last get-together, jokingly I think, "I bet you can't go one dinner without talking about your kid!" and I countered "Well, can you go one hour without talking about your job?" That shut her up pretty quick, but another friend jumped in and said "Yeah, but doing 'mommy talk' is different. You know none of us want kids, so why keep talking about it?" Being me, I kept the debate going a bit and said "I don't want to be a doctoral candidate in gender studies, but I still will gladly listen to you talk about it because I know it is important to you. My role as a mother is important to me. What's the difference?"
Long story short, I think sometimes the "feminist" movement gets so caught up in fighting for equality that we end up de-valuing the very things that make being a woman so unique just because they are viewed as "expected" in society. Yeah, I followed almost the exact same path as my mother and her mother as far as getting married right out of school/college, buying a house, having kids...but I still feel like a strong and powerful woman and not some chained-to-the-stove, long-suffering stereotype of a wife and mother. I am woman (and wife, and mother)...hear me roar!
I love tradition...because *I* like the sentimentality, etc behind it. I might have an ass backward way of viewing tradition...but I think it should be something that you want to do as a nod to the people who came before you...not something that the older generations force on the younger- it should really be the other way around.
...you can always change his middle name!!
Edit....no idea how that happened...but basically quoted the end part about hating tradition haha
I agree with that once I put the...idk qbf or whatever happened there together and unconfused myself! Seriously...the "relative" I am referring to in my situation is my husband. Yes everyone...I hate my husband's name so much...so much that I wouldn't even give him a chance at first because of his name. Shallow yes, but thats the degree of hatred I have towards that name...idk why I hate it...I just do lol my husband honestly didn't care if we used his name or not...then tons of people found out that wasn't the plan and his opinion changed of course and we had to use it. Ugh. My son likes his name, so it's fine, but it's still annoying to know that his name exists because "tradition". So for me, it literally exists "just because".
For example it's not tradition, but if we would have had a daughter her middle name would have been "Rose" after my grandmother who raised me until she died of cancer. I wanted to honor her that way. So this baby gets "Joseph" after her husband, my grandfather, who died when I was 5 but I remember being amazing if it's important to you, do it. But it shouldn't be expected...if that makes sense... Edit to add...tradition is expected around here...which may be why I don't like it. It's not really optional...it's do it or else. Which doesn't make it special...in my opinion.
I have another one. Please stop talking in hashtags. Your whole post does not need to be hashtags. For example I saw this one yesterday on instagram "#He #loves #leaving #me #little #cute #notes #lovehim #fiance #mylove " STOP THIS IS EXCESSIVE AND ANNOYING.
Maybe it's just that I don't "crave" kid-free friend time like I do kid-free DH time or alone time. It's just not that important to me. I'm not super social. If it happens, it happens, but it's not something I seek. I'm perfectly content with texting and visiting while the kids play. All my friends around here really crave kid-free friend time and are super social so it is pretty UO in my group.
Married: 1/2008 ~ DD#1: 3/2012 TTC #2: Started 4/2014 BFP 7/30/15 MC 8/3/15 BFP 9/4/2015 EDD 5/16/2016
@jessiedee13 I feel you. I hate my husband's name too. It's Kevin. I never realized how many douchey characters on TV/movies they call Kevin until I started dating him. Thank GOD he didn't want to pass it down!
I don't think you're shallow @jessiedee13- I can relate. I might never have met my husband if it weren't for his name but in my case it's because I love his name. I was signing up for a class and chose him over other teachers because his name was Gavin which has always been my favorite name!
Re: UO Thursday 1/7
I have an ice cream cake every year for this very reason. My birthday is in December and I still regret nothing!
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Omg I have an ice cream cake every year too! My birthday is in March so it is also generally cold, but I have no regrets lol I do not like cake...like at all. And neither does my oldest. I made cheesecake for him for his 2nd birthday
Like the people who feel the need to post every time they workout on social media. Arghh! Do these people really think that nobody else exercises?
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I'm actually on the fence after reading new details. Part of me feels like of course he did it, but the other part feels like a lot of evidence was dismissed that presents reasonable doubt. I think the most compelling thing to me is that he was presumed guilty instead of presumed innocent until proven guilty. Clearly both his trials and the local precinct are not sterling examples of the justice system, but some of the details that have come out present more doubt about his innocence than I would have thought initially. I'm sort of feeling like he might be guilty but he at least deserved a new trial with different prosecutors in a neutral location, which is obviously not possible now.
About gyms, true story - at my old gym I once watched a really built guy stack weights, pose for a selfie, and then re-rack to a weight he could actually press.
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DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
My UO is that I was so relieved at my AS this morning when the US tech confirmed that we were having a boy. We had already done the Harmony test at 11 weeks that said it was a boy, and that is supposed to be about 99% accurate in determining the sex, but I think I would have been really disappointed had the Harmony test been wrong (which surprised me because I was initially hoping for a girl). I think I'm so used to the idea of it being a boy now that it would have been almost like "losing" a son, even though it would have been the same baby, if that makes sense. Either way, I'm just happy that LO appears to be healthy and growing at all the normal rates.
This is not "just because": it's tradition. And you follow tradition because it is meaningful to families, helps maintain continuity between generations, enphasizes familial identity, and honors people you love.
What part of that seems bizarre? Makes much more sense to me than inventing names or discarding names because they're too common.
Although I will agree that made up names make no sense to me. But it's your kid. As long as you like it, it's whatever to me.
So I guess my unpopular opinion for the day is that I really hate traditions. All of them. If they don't personally mean something to you, it's a waste of time and energy in order to make someone else happy at your own expense. At least that's my experience with "tradition".
Mama to Three Girls:
Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor
and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
I'm with you both about the unfairness of the trial. While I may think he is guilty, I don't think he was treated fairly by the courts. Same with Adnan from serial, his trial was BS. Of course I've seen The Jinx
OMG YES! I go to the gym 5-6 days a week. I never post about it. lol If anyone hears about my workout it's my husband.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!Like the woman who was sitting on the stationary bike I wanted to use yesterday just face-timing with someone for 20 minutes... People who are actually serious about it and trying to make me mad, it's the people who come in and fool around, don't clean stuff, break stuff, etc that make me angry.
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I definitely can't stand people like this. In fact when it's ME time, I don't want to talk to anyone. Not a single word. I don't care if you're my hairstylist, the masseuse, the manicurist, whatever. I'm there for silence and relaxation. We don't need to make small talk.
my UO is that I don't have netflix.
Mama to Three Girls:
Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor
and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
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Slow clap of excellence to @kbrands7
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@kbrands7 I couldn't agree more.
(This is probably just an UO among my family and friends) Also I hate that people assume that because I danced I want my daughter to dance. Actually the opposite it true. If she wants to dance, fine, but I will not pressure her into it and I won't let my family do that either. My Hubby wants her to do martial arts, and honestly, I'd prefer that. Drama will be everywhere, but I stopped dancing because of the stupid shit people were doing to each other.
1. I hate how everyone is focusing on Steve. If anyone is not guilty, it's Brendan. If Brendan did do it, I believe he was bullied into it by Steve.
2. I hate how people keep making jokes at Brendan's expense. I've seen some pretty awful ones. He's below average intelligence and was duped into confessing; just because you think he's not guilty doesn't mean it's okay to make jokes about his intelligence.
3. I hate that everyone is so sure that the police/the boyfriend/Brendan's brother/whoever did it. The whole purpose of the documentary was that people are innocent until proven guilty beyond reasonable doubt. A 30 second video clip where you think someone is acting odd is not evidence (and you're not a professional body language analyst!).
4. Of course the documentary is going to be biased, and I don't think anyone can say for sure he should have been found not guilty without looking at all the objective evidence, not just what was included. And stuff people have posted on Reddit is not objective evidence.
That being said, I really don't have any opinion on if he was guilty or not. I know police corruption exists, and that innocent people are found guilty. It was interesting to watch, but I know I can't make an opinion based on just 10 hours of random footage.
I love tradition...because *I* like the sentimentality, etc behind it. I might have an ass backward way of viewing tradition...but I think it should be something that you want to do as a nod to the people who came before you...not something that the older generations force on the younger- it should really be the other way around.
...you can always change his middle name!!
Edit....no idea how that happened...but basically quoted the end part about hating tradition haha
I just, personally, don't get it. It's just not how I prefer to spend kid-free time. All my mom friends are SAHMs so we can just hang out while the kids are playing in the next room. I rarely get a date with my DH and I seriously love time to myself. I rarely feel the need to be with friends sans kids when it isn't for a specific thing like a wedding or something.
Married: 1/2008 ~ DD#1: 3/2012
TTC #2: Started 4/2014 BFP 7/30/15 MC 8/3/15 BFP 9/4/2015 EDD 5/16/2016
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I normally just bring DS to any get together with friends...but I do get wanting to see your friends without kids just to be able to 100% relax and talk. Let's face it: even if you have a perfect angel who is behaving, etc, you are still *on*. Having time to be able to just relax and catch up is nice....from time to time lol
This is something that some of my single, child-free friends have brought up so I guess my stance is a bit of a UO (probably not here on TB though!), but I feel that there is no difference between my friends talking about their new promotion at work or their latest beach vacation and me talking about my son and pregnancy. It boils down to life choices and I feel like sometimes my choices to become a wife and mother are too "common" and my super "feminist" friends look down on me a little. One even said at our last get-together, jokingly I think, "I bet you can't go one dinner without talking about your kid!" and I countered "Well, can you go one hour without talking about your job?" That shut her up pretty quick, but another friend jumped in and said "Yeah, but doing 'mommy talk' is different. You know none of us want kids, so why keep talking about it?" Being me, I kept the debate going a bit and said "I don't want to be a doctoral candidate in gender studies, but I still will gladly listen to you talk about it because I know it is important to you. My role as a mother is important to me. What's the difference?"
Long story short, I think sometimes the "feminist" movement gets so caught up in fighting for equality that we end up de-valuing the very things that make being a woman so unique just because they are viewed as "expected" in society. Yeah, I followed almost the exact same path as my mother and her mother as far as getting married right out of school/college, buying a house, having kids...but I still feel like a strong and powerful woman and not some chained-to-the-stove, long-suffering stereotype of a wife and mother. I am woman (and wife, and mother)...hear me roar!
For example it's not tradition, but if we would have had a daughter her middle name would have been "Rose" after my grandmother who raised me until she died of cancer. I wanted to honor her that way. So this baby gets "Joseph" after her husband, my grandfather, who died when I was 5 but I remember being amazing
Edit to add...tradition is expected around here...which may be why I don't like it. It's not really optional...it's do it or else. Which doesn't make it special...in my opinion.
Married: 1/2008 ~ DD#1: 3/2012
TTC #2: Started 4/2014 BFP 7/30/15 MC 8/3/15 BFP 9/4/2015 EDD 5/16/2016