So my main issue with MIL (I've grown to tolerate and be able to ignore her passive aggressive commentary) is that she doesn't respect boundaries. I tried to be nice and called her to keep her updated. She immediately started crying because I didn't take her with me. I tried to be nice and told her that I appreciate her enthusiasm but I wouldn't be comfortable with that. I like to keep my doc appts just me and DH or solo. She cried about how she hasn't heard the heartbeat and I just reminded her that my own mother hasn't heard it either. I'm just not comfortable asking my doc questions and being in a paper gown around my MIL. Now I regret even talking to her because she won't stop whining about it. She called DH to complain how I was selfish and didn't want her to go. I'm sorry but she had her own pregnancies and she has her own daughter that gave her grandkids and she could've accompanied to doc appts. but she didn't. Why does she have to be at mine? Am I being unreasonable? I feel like every time I give her an inch she wants a mile.
Eta: next appt is my 20 week appt and a/s. I really feel it's something private for me and DH to experience. I don't want her there.
@soxfan9968 jeez how manipulative!! She's trying to make you feel bad about something that you should and do have complete autonomy over. You don't need to explain yourself. It sounds like you're handling it as well as anyone could. Just grit your teeth and keep going. I wonder if she realises that the more she acts like this the less and less you'll want her around. She seems to be achieving the exact opposite of what she wants!
I'd think she knows by now that's she's just pushing me further away. It's happened before, during wedding planning. She just pushes more and cries to DH about how she just cares so much and I won't let her participate. I just end up feeling stressed and guilty every time I try with her. Feels like a lose lose situation. I feel guilty when I don't tell her things, I regret when I do.
DH needs to make it clear that he wants no part in listening to her whine about you. She should be crying about these things to her own husband or her girlfriends (the clear answer is she shouldn't whine about it at all but I digress), not trying to undermine you by going to her son.
What does she think he can force you to bring her? Obviously not - she is just stirring the pot.
On the 2nd trimester board, there is a thread that I enjoyed reading, to bad administration closed it down. But you can still enjoy reading it just a thought
@soxfan9968 Wow. She's being unbelievably unreasonable. She's calling you selfish for not allowing her to come along to your DOCTOR'S APPOINTMENT. This is not a spectator event, sorry. I bet she expects to be in the delivery room too.
Do you know if she asked her own daughter to let her go along to doctors appointments? Why she would expect such access to her son's wife's medical visits is beyond me. I'm sorry you have to deal with so much crazy. Hopefully your husband is setting her straight.
She never went with her daughter because they have a bad relationship. Hmmm wonder why... She doesn't have a good relationship with my FIL either (I don't know why they're still married). She tends to cling on to her baby boy (DH) and of course DH feels guilty being the next one pushing her away. But I think you guys are right and DH needs to re-establish the boundary and not listen to her whine. Just sucks...
I'm going to make a lame attempt at making a Mexican meatball soup... I suck at making actual Mexican food. The whole country may choose to revoke my tan skin tone! Lol!
Sorry you had to deal with that @soxfan9968 - how rude and selfish of her! Not that you should give into her whining, but does your Dr allow you to record the heartbeat on your phone? You could send her that?
In other random news, just got my "you're 37 weeks - pack your hospital bag" email from my WTE app. W.T.F. I even updated my due date on there and those assholes still send me stuff for my previous due date! I'm furious/sad/every upset emotion there is. As if this month wasn't hard enough, I get reminded by them that I should be giving birth soon. Glad I moved onto TB for a more supportive experience! Here come the tears ...
Agree! This time around I've only used WTE for the weekly videos. I check TB daily and love it, especially getting to know all you lovely people! It's like my pregnancy bible. Everything I've learned has been from this app.
So I just need a little vent so bear with me, but long story short I have a new co teacher (my last co teacher and I were together for 4 years before she moved away ) and it is not going great. She is my polar opposite. I am trying so hard to be open to her suggestions and make her feel welcome even when they are very different from what I would normally do. Well today she told me she didn't think we should keep our class rabbit, claiming he is messy and takes up room. Umm excuse me, the rabbit has been in my room for 3 years, you have been here for 2 weeks. I didn't even know what to say, other than it is a non negotiable. I was so upset I just walked out. Who pulls this crap on a pregnant lady?!!?
@soxfan9968 your DH needs to stand with you on this and make the lines very clear. She'll continue this way on anything from now on otherwise. This is not a typical grandmother demand....... This is overstepping boundaries big time.
Sooooooo my son asked how the baby is going to get out of my tummy. It was so much easier when he assumed I had a ripped shirt when I had his brother, he even kept looking for that shirt.
DS1 - 9/21/11
DS2 - 7/4/14
DS3 - 2/21/16 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
@Stormiewinter I hope she knows she's not allowed to mess with the classroom setup or take out the rabbit while you're on maternity leave. Classroom pets are great!!
@labacker I got that email too, and I'm only 15 weeks. I'm sorry that its triggering for you
This makes me feel better, thanks for sharing @kitteh81. I assumed they still had my previous EDD on file (since I'd be 37w next week). October still sucks, but I don't hate WTE anymore.
@soxfan9968 She is being completely unreasonable. I hope your DH steps in soon.
For some reason I can't do ANYTHING on my phone on this site. Commenting, love titting, nothing. It keeps saying there's an error. I'm not using an app either, just the website.
@skruhmin , when I nannied for a family and the mom was pregnant the girls I watched asked me that same question, my answer was " mommy is going to go to the hospital when the baby is ready and the doctor is going to help her" ... Apparently that was enough because they didn't ask too much more than that!
@red3ye I thought she accidentally started two but is she keeping both alive (like the weird bump double post)
@blueeyedrose86 ... I haven't updated my iPad iOS in a year so this is the only way I can "mobile" bump ... My phone Bump was not working this morning
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AFM, OMG my nips are burning today! From what I read it may be the beginning of my milk coming in? And I was super leaky with DD, so I'm just waiting for the embarrassing wet t-shirt to arrive Better go stock up on nursing pads!
I had that burning itching about a week ago and thought the same thing. Luckily no leaking has happened yet and the sensations went away for now. Having burning itching nips that you can't rub or scratch all day at work is so uncomfortable.
Two weeks ago we had to put down one of our dogs and now our boxer seams so lonely. The logical part of me says we really do not need a new dog while expecting a baby. However, I keep scanning the shelter websites looking for a cute doggie that NEEDS me and a boxer brother! Gahh rescue dogs can be such a gamble but can be the best dogs!! My brain and heart cannot get on the same page here!!!
@JLaVO888 so sorry about your pup I know how hard it is looking at all those doggies online. I'm all set with my one dog at the moment but if my DH had his way we'd have no less than 75 dogs and he'd be totally ok with that! Our dog is a rescue and she is so wonderful. They're the best your boxer won't be so lonely with a new little brother or sister in a few months
Two weeks ago we had to put down one of our dogs and now our boxer seams so lonely. The logical part of me says we really do not need a new dog while expecting a baby. However, I keep scanning the shelter websites looking for a cute doggie that NEEDS me and a boxer brother! Gahh rescue dogs can be such a gamble but can be the best dogs!! My brain and heart cannot get on the same page here!!!
You could check with a rescue group that fosters the dogs and find a mellow buddy that's good with kids? As another option.
I keep telling myself the baby will be a good companion for the boxer and there's no need for a dog. I'm just such a sap for rescue dogs and feel like if I have room for one more dog in the house then I could be giving some poor dog a better home. @smushi That is a really good idea. I will have to look into what kind of pet foster programs we have in the area. My dh keeps saying no new dog but that's what he said last time and he is the one that brought home our last rescue pup. He's just as bad as me when it comes to dogs.
@skruhmin , when I nannied for a family and the mom was pregnant the girls I watched asked me that same question, my answer was " mommy is going to go to the hospital when the baby is ready and the doctor is going to help her" ... Apparently that was enough because they didn't ask too much more than that!
@red3ye I thought she accidentally started two but is she keeping both alive (like the weird bump double post)
@blueeyedrose86 ... I haven't updated my iPad iOS in a year so this is the only way I can "mobile" bump ... My phone Bump was not working this morning
Let's just say he asked "what's a gina" after I told him...
DS1 - 9/21/11
DS2 - 7/4/14
DS3 - 2/21/16 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
Please ladies, talk to me about winter coats. I barely fit in mine but don't want to buy a really expensive one that I'll only wear for a few months. In Massachusetts I'll need to stay warm though. Any type of coat that is both maternity and non maternity? What are you all going to wear?? TIA
@ecwk I think I'm going to have to wear hubby's pullover fleece, then wear my winter coat over top of it but leave it unzipped. I really don't want to buy a new coat when I just bought this one brand new last year.
February Siggy Challenge- Post pregnancy indulgences
So yesterday I made DH a cake. His favorite, white cake with marshmallow frosting. Except the eggs I used were... Not good. So today, remade the cake with new eggs. Cake is so good. I love cake.
Ugh my dog is totally up my butt today! I've been lounging around, and he has been laying across my tummy, refusing to let me up! I hope he is finally noticing the hormone changes and trying to protect me and baby
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Eta: next appt is my 20 week appt and a/s. I really feel it's something private for me and DH to experience. I don't want her there.
What does she think he can force you to bring her? Obviously not - she is just stirring the pot.
Me: 29 DH: 31
Married 10/13/12
TTC Since 8/2016
Do you know if she asked her own daughter to let her go along to doctors appointments? Why she would expect such access to her son's wife's medical visits is beyond me. I'm sorry you have to deal with so much crazy. Hopefully your husband is setting her straight.
Tomorrow's breakfast? Chocolate chip pancakes!
In other random news, just got my "you're 37 weeks - pack your hospital bag" email from my WTE app. W.T.F. I even updated my due date on there and those assholes still send me stuff for my previous due date! I'm furious/sad/every upset emotion there is. As if this month wasn't hard enough, I get reminded by them that I should be giving birth soon. Glad I moved onto TB for a more supportive experience! Here come the tears ...
@soxfan9968 yay for healthy heartbeats!
@labacker hang in there!
So I just need a little vent so bear with me, but long story short I have a new co teacher (my last co teacher and I were together for 4 years before she moved away
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Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
Also craving Portillos chocolate cake something fierce.
Me: 29 DH: 31
Married 10/13/12
TTC Since 8/2016
*BFP #1- 11/12/12, m/c 11/16/12 @ 6 weeks
*BFP #2- 1/23/13 EDD 10/4/13
*Emma Rose: 10/8/13
*BFP #3- EDD 03/9/16
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I had that burning itching about a week ago and thought the same thing. Luckily no leaking has happened yet and the sensations went away for now. Having burning itching nips that you can't rub or scratch all day at work is so uncomfortable.
You could check with a rescue group that fosters the dogs and find a mellow buddy that's good with kids? As another option.
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