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October 2015 Moms
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I won't do that with my kids...
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I'm sure ya'll have have had those moments where you see how someone is raising a child and you claim "I will never allow that with my child"
So I am just curious what those things are for YOU!?
Here's a couple of mine.
I was eating out the other night with our friends and their one year old. His supper consisted of Mac n cheese, mashed potatoes from his moms plate and fries from his dad's, and a dinner roll with butter that came before the meal. My thoughts where, " we will never feed our child a meal like that!"
I also saw a little girl sitting at another table, just old enough to have figured out how to use a straw and her dad kept giving her his Mt Dew! MY CHILD will not know what Soda is for as long as possible!!!
I have many more, but I want to hear if you mamma's have moments like this when seeing how others raise their children.
So I am just curious what those things are for YOU!?
Here's a couple of mine.
I was eating out the other night with our friends and their one year old. His supper consisted of Mac n cheese, mashed potatoes from his moms plate and fries from his dad's, and a dinner roll with butter that came before the meal. My thoughts where, " we will never feed our child a meal like that!"
I also saw a little girl sitting at another table, just old enough to have figured out how to use a straw and her dad kept giving her his Mt Dew! MY CHILD will not know what Soda is for as long as possible!!!
I have many more, but I want to hear if you mamma's have moments like this when seeing how others raise their children.
Re: I won't do that with my kids...
As far as the Mt Dew goes, he'll to the no! That stuff is like Crack and if I can help it my kid will never drink that. We're not fans of soda period and don't keep it in the house.
Also, I will be raising my daughter to respect animals. The two little girls I nanny do not have much experience with dogs/cats and they think it's okay to drag them around the house, or kick them.
Last one I can think of right now is children who are raised to think they're entitled. Again, the two girls I watch during the week have a tendency to assume they can have whatever they want, when they want, and that all adults are on THEIR schedule.
"I want a cheese stick."
"No ma'am you were given lunch 10 minutes ago and chose not to eat it. If you're hungry you can eat your lunch."
"Hmm. No, I'll just take the cheese stick."
Yeah, no means no. I'm not wasting more food on you. Should have eaten what was for lunch if you're hungry.
A) Picky eaters. My biggest pet peeve. I am determined that my child will not be that way; he or she will eat what is given to them or not eat. (To a point, obviously. At home I will eventually figure out what they do/don't like, and will make it, but I won't be preparing them separate meals.) And they at least have to TRY whatever is on their plate.
C) Screaming and crying in public. This weekend we were in Ikea and there was a little girl throwing a tantrum, screaming at the top of her lungs in the shopping cart. She was about 5. Her parents were straight up ignoring her, and it went on for at least 30 minutes. I suppose this was a tactic, but no way will I allow continuous screaming and crying in public; the kid will be removed from the situation and punished.
D) Respectfulness/politeness/tolerance. Manners are important. Tolerance of people who are different/not like you is important. Rudeness is unacceptable.
E) I know a woman who still wipes her son's bottom after he goes to the bathroom. He is 8 years old. She also brushes his teeth in the morning. HELL. NO.
I also said they wouldn't watch TV, but I was so sick when I was pregnant with my daughter, I wouldn't have made it through the day without curious George. I still don't let them watch it all the time, but the other day my kids (age 3 & 5) were singing a song about wind power and trajectory( and actually understood the concepts--thank you Blaze and the Monster Machines) so I tell myself as long as it is educational, they can watch in moderation.
On the food issue--I always said I would not be a short order cook and the kids would eat what we eat, and it has mostly worked. But the nights that we know my husband isn't going to be around for dinner, I really don't bother cooking anything special--last night we all had breakfast sausages, pasta salad, green beans and canned chicken noodle soup because that's what the kids wanted--the way I see it, they got a protein, a starch, and a veggie and they both cleaned their plates, so I go with it.
And he still has never had juice, ice cream, candy or cookies.
Wife of 14 years to one amazing Hubby
I had to step in and say, "nothing was intentional ... Also, that's too large of a word for him... He's three... Accidents happen."
There is a difference between misbehavior and mistaken behavior.
My sister runs her house like a drill Sargent.. Her kids fear her and flinch in fear...
I will do my best to teach my children and not be their ruler, but rather their parent.
I don't think I'll be a ruleless hippie but I also won't be a tyrant.
We weren't raised like that both my mother and I have no idea where she got that from but people outside the family have made comments about how 'intense' she is.
I also want to avoid being an over protective mom that won't allow her child to explore and fall in the dirt. Although I might be like that at first since this is my first child. My sister in law won't let her 8 yr old son go outside in the fenced in backyard by himself and when he complains and asks why she says cause you might break an arm or something!! Ridiculous.
I will not allow my children to be those kids who come over and trash someone's home. We clean up our messes here and at other's homes. My parents instilled that in my brother and me and I KNOW our friends' parents really appreciated it.
Oh and no TV in the bedroom. I didn't have a tv in my bedroom growing up and I still don't so I don't see why my child should.
Except for the caffeinated sodas/energy drinks! I will run across a crowded room and throw myself on that drink like it was a grenade before I'll let my child drink it. I HOPE we will avoid soda in general for a very long time and keep juice and kool-aid and all that jazz to a minimum, but no caffeine!!! No! I'll be hating on caffeine like a Capulet hates hell and all Montagues!
I feel like I can say this without worrying about turning into a hypocrite because I did this with my 1st daughter. We barely used the stroller because it was so much simpler to carry her when she was a baby. And when old enough, she walked a lot because she wanted to.
We have not but DD is only about to be 2.
This! I do think they have their place, just like TV, in moderation because (again) the girls I watch during the week each have a tablet. They don't sit on it all day, it has games we play together to supplement their learning of colors/letters/numbers. Then once "school" is over, they can watch a movie or whatever they would like. BUT I hate seeing parents take their child places, like a museum or a park and PAY to get in, just to have the kid on the tablet the whole time.
However, I do want my kids to have structure and a bedtime. I know some nights will be a battle... maybe even months at a time... but I will not let my kid stay up until their so exhausted they just pass out because I'm too lazy to make them go to bed at a decent time.
I also will not expect my toddler to go to an adult restaurant and behave. We will go to kid friendly restaurants, eat at home, or get a babysitter.
Posts like this are literally eye roll worthy. Until you have a kid and an unhealthy food choice is the first thing they have ate in two days more than a bite of you you can't judge. Until your kid has an epic meltdown over something like waffles in a store you can't judge and if fact you will feel for every parent out there. Until you have a kid and a tablet or TV allows you 5 minutes to regroup and not jump into traffic you can't judge. Until your kid bolts into a crowd and you don't see him or her for a minute you can't judge leashes. Until you have your second kid and realize you can't be as overprotective and anal as you were with your first you can't judge. Basically until you actually become a parent you can't judge any other parent or else you look like a major asshole. Parenting is one of the hardest things to do and everyone is trying to do the best they can as well as basically survive with all their marbles still. Mark my words you will do 99.9% of the things you swear you won't at some point and it doesn't make you a bad parent just a human. Then when someone who is obviously childless or pregnant side eye judges you, you will remember what it was like prekids and feel bad you judged as well as want to scream "just you wait."