I'm 13 weeks. ANY time I say I think it's a girl, i get told "you need to mentally prepare yourself in case its a boy." Which i find annoying and rude! When i have said "i think its a boy" not once was i told to mentally prepare myself.
@cassamarie maybe they say that because they're thinking you're wishing for a girl? I think commenting on gender is usually a rude remark anyways though.
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When we told my parents (after several hours had past): Mom: "did you conceive at our house?" Me: "what?! No! Have you been sitting there the whole time trying to calculate!" Mom: "yes, I just wanted to make sure."
When I told my sister: Sister: "What are you going to do with it at my wedding?" (She's getting married in June) Me: "Uh, bring it?" Sister: "No you're not. It's a kidless wedding." Me: "Too bad, it's coming. It's going to be like 3 months old" Sister: "Get a babysitter."
Or my lovely co-worker the other day: "You're belly sticks out past your boobs! Haha" (Geeee, thanks. Everyone wants to hear how fat they are!)
I get the ceremony, because I would want crying, but I would not be okay personally with a sitter at that young. Especially if you are breast feeding. I would tell my sister my husband will watch the baby during the ceremony and i will be there for the ceremony but if baby can't come to the reception I won't be able to stay the whole night because I am breast feeding or if you are not then its that you don't feel comfortable leaving lo for that long. You are more the welcome to have the day of your dreams with no children there but just know I have to make the decisions that are best for my family. You don't understand now but when you are pregnant and have a baby you will understand. My baby comes first. Disclaimer: Everyone is different and just because some of you are okay with a sitter at that young doesn't mean I am putting you down as a mom. Everyone has their own preferences and things they are comfortable with.
I found out that I was pregnant around 6 weeks. I'm 13 weeks today. I've been so excited because I never thought that I'd ever get pregnant/have a baby. Now that I'm sharing the news with everyone...I keep getting the comments... I want a baby! Why not me?? Oh, I'm gonna try now..oh, I found out I was pregnant, and I'm due around the same time as you. Gah, I've been waiting for this forever! Why can't u just be happy for me and not think about yourselves for once!! People are so inconsiderate.
I've had a friend say so many things that rubbed me the wrong way.. From "its too early for you to be showing" (at 10 weeks); "are you gunna wear anything extra under the dress?" (In regards to a bridesmaids dress for a wedding) & constantly comparing me to 2 others she knows that are pregnant & further along. I wish everyone understood everyone is different & that something's are better left unsaid!
I found out that I was pregnant around 6 weeks. I'm 13 weeks today. I've been so excited because I never thought that I'd ever get pregnant/have a baby. Now that I'm sharing the news with everyone...I keep getting the comments... I want a baby! Why not me?? Oh, I'm gonna try now..oh, I found out I was pregnant, and I'm due around the same time as you. Gah, I've been waiting for this forever! Why can't u just be happy for me and not think about yourselves for once!! People are so inconsiderate.
So I guess I'll share the stories I have since we don't have very many because we aren't telling people yet.
Let me start by saying I had a MMC in April.
My father's response (which he later apologized for) was I'll believe it when I see it. Meaning if I have a baby in March he will believe that I had a successful pregnancy, to which I responded that normal people just say congratulations.
My mother in law's response was even worse, she said thank you for telling us, then proceeded to ask us how many U/Ss we were planning on having and that it could hurt the baby so don't over do it. She then told me about husband's cousin whose son came out jaundice and was that was for like 3 weeks which isn't normal, and that his mom brought him back to the hospital for the jaundice and they realized she had a raging infection from the delivery and if she had waited any long she would have died, at that point my husband said okay mom that's enough we are going to go now. I thoroughly think she was just shocked and didn't know what to say but I can think of about a billion other things to say than what she said to me. Geez!!. She too called and apologized and said she was really happy for us and wished us the best.
BFP 2/11/15 (EDD 10/13/15). MMC 3/30/15 D&C 4/3/15 "We will always love you"
DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16). "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18). "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21). "Round 3 FIGHT!"
So I guess I'll share the stories I have since we don't have very many because we aren't telling people yet.
Let me start by saying I had a MMC in April.
My father's response (which he later apologized for) was I'll believe it when I see it. Meaning if I have a baby in March he will believe that I had a successful pregnancy, to which I responded that normal people just say congratulations.
My mother in law's response was even worse, she said thank you for telling us, then proceeded to ask us how many U/Ss we were planning on having and that it could hurt the baby so don't over do it. She then told me about husband's cousin whose son came out jaundice and was that was for like 3 weeks which isn't normal, and that his mom brought him back to the hospital for the jaundice and they realized she had a raging infection from the delivery and if she had waited any long she would have died, at that point my husband said okay mom that's enough we are going to go now. I thoroughly think she was just shocked and didn't know what to say but I can think of about a billion other things to say than what she said to me. Geez!!. She too called and apologized and said she was really happy for us and wished us the best.
My MIL is a bit like that. When she gets uncomfortable or nervous, it's like verbal diarrhea! I just have to tune her out when she gets going
I was in Rarotonga for my dads 60th at 8 weeks pregnant and posted a photo on Facebook of this amazing sandwich we found, and my friend whose had 3 kids noticed the diet coke can in the picture... So she gives me a lecture on drinking diet soda when she SMOKED through all of her pregnancies! I do have to say I have limited my diet soda intake a lot but still...... I just had to laugh
I was in Rarotonga for my dads 60th at 8 weeks pregnant and posted a photo on Facebook of this amazing sandwich we found, and my friend whose had 3 kids noticed the diet coke can in the picture... So she gives me a lecture on drinking diet soda when she SMOKED through all of her pregnancies! I do have to say I have limited my diet soda intake a lot but still...... I just had to laugh
I had a family member tell me all about her miscarriages the moment we shared our news. Sad as it is, I've suffered a miscarriage before too and am already paranoid about it. Didn't need her negative energy at a should-be positive moment
So this happened tonight while checking out at the grocery store. I bought my husband a 6 pack of beer, he's only home a few days every month and leaving tomorrow again. The 2 snobby ladies behind me were making just rude comments about everyone the saw, like the cashier's hair looking way fake and cheap. Anyway as I load my stuff on the conveyer belt I hear one say to the other "Omg, look at that, she's pregnant and drinking beer... That's just terrible." I paused for a second and looked around to make certain she was referring to ME! Mind you I am at Walmart, not a freaking bar ordering a drink. I turned to them both and said "actually no, I am not pregnant I just happen to carry my FAT in my stomach!!" The look on their faces was priceless. I mean really, it's a holiday weekend and I am of Legal age, it's not uncommon for spouses to pick up things for eachother since we are already out. I thought for a split second on explaining to them it was not for me but then I thought it is extremely rude to assume someone is pregnant. I have a friend who still looks 7 months pregnant and her baby is 5 months old, I can't imagine someone saying that to her. Hopefully that will teach them not to assume next time. I will say afterwards while driving home I was kind of excited that random strangers could tell I am pregnant. So I got to giggle to myself twice in under 10 minutes. Lol.
@lindscnn1 you're my hero. I hope I can act like that if someone says something stupid to me!
I can imagine their conversation in their car afterwards, lol. Knowing that I embarrassed them was fabulous. They probably joked about my "fat" after but only I, and this board, knows that yes it is a baby bump. Tee- hee
1) A student's mom with whom I'm friends on FB said to her daughter, in front of my new student and her family, "Can you see, Caroline? She's got a baby in there! You can see her tummy is getting bigger already! Right there! Right there! Helloooooo!" (She bends down, pointing to my bloated belly, saying the hello part to the baby...) So that was a fun way of meeting my new piano student and her family...
2) My dad when everyone was saying they think it's a girl: "Well, he (my DH) shot you up with two boys before. Chances are it's another boy!" Ew, dad.
3) Showing our reveal video to my in-laws, my m.i.l.'s only reaction was "I look fat and old!" (Her, not me.) It was so disappointing because we'd worked so hard on the video. We found some different photos to put in of her, but I don't think she was ever happy. Something I had to let go. Positive reactions from everyone else.
Someone I work with gave me some words of wisdom recently.
"Listen to me, people are going to tell you what to eat, what not to do, bla bla bla. Forget all of that! I ate cold cuts and smoked my whole pregnancy and my daughter turned out fine!"
Just about everyone in my life says, "it has got to be a girl this time! If not what will you do try again?". As if I am having more children for the sole purpose of having that girl. This is the second pregnancy I have had to hear this nonsense. Even my mother says things like this. The last time my friend/co-worker said "what will you do if it's a boy" I said put it up for adoption and try again. Then I walked away laughing.
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When my dad found out I was pregnant, he said "bout damn time". He's been on my case for months, and I will say that it pisses me off slightly because I had a miscarriage in March and I was going to take my own sweet time until I was ready again. He means well, but when he asked how I was feeling and I told him that I was having really horrible all-day morning sickness, he proceeded to tell me I was having a boy and that "we only want boys". I might have a girl just to spite him. (I'm kidding of course, it will be whatever it will be, but my husband and I both believe this one is a girl).
Ugh... Yes. It's like think before you speak please societal rules don't change when speaking to someone who is pregnant. Right now people are asking if we have our names picked out.. We do, and like a dummy we told people and we've gotten laughs, and are you sure??? Or I'm sure you'll change your minds. No we like the names and this is our family not yours.
It's awkward when my employees ask me if I was trying to get pregnant. How do you reply to that?? "Yes we were constantly having tons of sex" I'm 25 not 45!
I recently had a co-worker say, "you better get your tubes tied after this one, you don't need anymore babies" #1 I take care of my 2 kids that I have #2 this bitch has 2 kids, but only has custody of one of them, she relinquished her rights to her oldest because he has aspergers and couldn't handle him
My mother in law made this comment, "so does everyone in town know about your condition?" Yes we live in a small town and word travels fast but we haven't told anyone yet. For some odd reason I found this comment to be offensive, am I just overreacting a little? The use of the word condition made it seem as if I have AIDS or something!
Let me preface this with explaining my brother is 21 and extremely immature with a twisted sense of humor.
We were watching the Dark Knight movie and he kept making director like commentary. We've both watched the movie plenty of times and I got annoyed and jokingly told him to cut it out that if I wanted to hear comments I'd watch the version with them. He got annoyed and responded with "I hope you're barren." I'd had a miscarriage in May and my brother knew I wanted to be pregnant. I got up and walked away visibly upset. DH saw me upset and confronted my brother about how inappropriate the comment was. Brother came to apologize a minute later and tried making a light of the situation by saying I would have laughed at that a few years ago. No, I didn't want to be pregnant a few years ago and was annoyed with my family asking when I would "try." That never meant I ever would have found it funny to be called barren.
Anyway, now that I am again expecting I happily told my brother and my sister. My sister was overjoyed and understanding. His response was, "how long are you planning on keeping this one before you decide to reject it like the last one?"
This made me cry. Let me know if you would like me to come over there and give him a piece of my mind.....
So I have it easy compared to your ladies, but with my hormones I want to complain anyways.
When I told my best friend he reached out and grabbed my stomach. Why do people think this is okay? Plus I'm 11 weeks, I'm not showing yet!
Also, I was a 32F to start with and now I'm a 34G. I have had multiple people ask if I feel like I'm "about to fall over". Yes, please make my giant breasts your topic of conversation!
With my first I found out I was pregnant and my little sister (1 year younger) called me two weeks later and said she was pregnant. We aren't very close lol ( she's a real bit**) if you knew her you'd understand! But anyways my parents and other brothers and sister kept telling everyone she vindictfully did it to steal my joy. I did have to stick up for her I'm mean we were a week and a half apart! I wasn't trying she couldn't have known I was going to be pregnant.
This pregnancy I've been sick all day everyday I can't keep anything down. I've lost 30 lbs since finding out and my boobs hurt so bad!
Coworker: flicked my boob and when I grabbed it and told her never to touch me again that it hurts. Her response was stop being a big baby you're barely pregnant and probably making your symptoms up. Um excuse me you bit** you're 18 and have never been pregnant yes lecture me on what you know about pregnancy!
Boss: after throwing up 4 times in 1 hour. Including in front of customers. I don't feel sorry for you need to suck it up you did this to yourself so nobody cares that you are sick.
Um I didn't ask for you to care I asked for a little break so I could go brush my teeth!!!
With my first I found out I was pregnant and my little sister (1 year younger) called me two weeks later and said she was pregnant. We aren't very close lol ( she's a real bit**) if you knew her you'd understand! But anyways my parents and other brothers and sister kept telling everyone she vindictfully did it to steal my joy. I did have to stick up for her I'm mean we were a week and a half apart! I wasn't trying she couldn't have known I was going to be pregnant.
This pregnancy I've been sick all day everyday I can't keep anything down. I've lost 30 lbs since finding out and my boobs hurt so bad!
Coworker: flicked my boob and when I grabbed it and told her never to touch me again that it hurts. Her response was stop being a big baby you're barely pregnant and probably making your symptoms up. Um excuse me you bit** you're 18 and have never been pregnant yes lecture me on what you know about pregnancy!
Boss: after throwing up 4 times in 1 hour. Including in front of customers. I don't feel sorry for you need to suck it up you did this to yourself so nobody cares that you are sick.
Um I didn't ask for you to care I asked for a little break so I could go brush my teeth!!!
A call to HR is in order. 1) No one has the right to touch your breasts without your permission. As mean as I've been feeling, I might have file assault charges. 2) Your boss needs some sensitivity training. Call HR.
Coworker: flicked my boob and when I grabbed it and told her never to touch me again that it hurts. Her response was stop being a big baby you're barely pregnant and probably making your symptoms up. Um excuse me you bit** you're 18 and have never been pregnant yes lecture me on what you know about pregnancy!
where do you work, Forever 21? (I'm sorry, I really couldn't resist)
No but in all seriousness, HR. HR on her ass so fast.
^^^ drillsargeantcat said it better.
Thanks ladies but I'm not worried about it! I work at a high end restaurant but my hubby wants me as a stay at home mom I do to so I won't be there come the new year I'm just stayin until after holiday season so we can have extra money to buy baby things and our daughter a good Christmas without hurting any. No biggie I'll deal with their crap for just a couple more months then I'm out of there
Thanks ladies but I'm not worried about it! I work at a high end restaurant but my hubby wants me as a stay at home mom I do to so I won't be there come the new year I'm just stayin until after holiday season so we can have extra money to buy baby things and our daughter a good Christmas without hurting any. No biggie I'll deal with their crap for just a couple more months then I'm out of there
You shouldn't have to, though. I swear if one of my coworkers touched my breast, I'd have HR on the phone before they took their hand away.
Thanks ladies but I'm not worried about it! I work at a high end restaurant but my hubby wants me as a stay at home mom I do to so I won't be there come the new year I'm just stayin until after holiday season so we can have extra money to buy baby things and our daughter a good Christmas without hurting any. No biggie I'll deal with their crap for just a couple more months then I'm out of there
You shouldn't have to, though. I swear if one of my coworkers touched my breast, I'd have HR on the phone before they took their hand away.
If it helps, picture it as though a male colleague did it. Either way I'd be reporting it but I think women tend to get away with a lot more than they should. Teach this chick a lesson!
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At our job we were told that for sexual harassment they have to have 3 different cases on them before anything will be done about it. A man groped a coworker behind. And next day came up behind another worker and grabbed her in an embrace and touched her boobs. Both filed complaints my husband witnessed both cases and on the second told him to never touch any of our work staff like that again. He then tried to fight my husband and my hubby was pulled in the office for overstepping his boundaries. Believe me the two women were very grateful regardless that someone had stuck up for them. Hr said they couldn't/wouldn't do anything until another separate case was brought against him even with witnesses.
So far, "have you lost weight, you look thinner than I remember" my reply, "no I am actually bloated/pregnant can't fit in my clothes any more". Her reply "well I remember you looking heavier". Geez thanks
Ugh... Yes. It's like think before you speak please societal rules don't change when speaking to someone who is pregnant. Right now people are asking if we have our names picked out.. We do, and like a dummy we told people and we've gotten laughs, and are you sure??? Or I'm sure you'll change your minds. No we like the names and this is our family not yours.
We are going to try our hardest not to share names this time!! We have a boys' name we absolutely love, and if anyone were to boo-hoo that name...grrr!
Two quick stories: 1) My friend named her DD Ursula. Her mother-in-law said, AFTER SHE WAS BORN, mind you, "Ursula? What am I supposed to tell people??" Um, you're supposed to tell people your granddaughter's name is Ursula!
2) When we told my S.I.L. our second son's name, again, after he was born, she actually called me back in the hospital and said, "Have you put it on the birth certificate yet? I really think you should reconsider." It was because his initials would be BJPC, and she thought "BJ" was inappropriate. We have never called him BJ, never will, and his initials in school will probably only ever be seen as "BC"! Come on, people! Grow up!
At our job we were told that for sexual harassment they have to have 3 different cases on them before anything will be done about it. A man groped a coworker behind. And next day came up behind another worker and grabbed her in an embrace and touched her boobs. Both filed complaints my husband witnessed both cases and on the second told him to never touch any of our work staff like that again. He then tried to fight my husband and my hubby was pulled in the office for overstepping his boundaries. Believe me the two women were very grateful regardless that someone had stuck up for them. Hr said they couldn't/wouldn't do anything until another separate case was brought against him even with witnesses.
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Which i find annoying and rude! When i have said "i think its a boy" not once was i told to mentally prepare myself.
Disclaimer: Everyone is different and just because some of you are okay with a sitter at that young doesn't mean I am putting you down as a mom. Everyone has their own preferences and things they are comfortable with.
I've had a friend say so many things that rubbed me the wrong way.. From "its too early for you to be showing" (at 10 weeks); "are you gunna wear anything extra under the dress?" (In regards to a bridesmaids dress for a wedding) & constantly comparing me to 2 others she knows that are pregnant & further along. I wish everyone understood everyone is different & that something's are better left unsaid!
Let me start by saying I had a MMC in April.
My father's response (which he later apologized for) was I'll believe it when I see it. Meaning if I have a baby in March he will believe that I had a successful pregnancy, to which I responded that normal people just say congratulations.
My mother in law's response was even worse, she said thank you for telling us, then proceeded to ask us how many U/Ss we were planning on having and that it could hurt the baby so don't over do it. She then told me about husband's cousin whose son came out jaundice and was that was for like 3 weeks which isn't normal, and that his mom brought him back to the hospital for the jaundice and they realized she had a raging infection from the delivery and if she had waited any long she would have died, at that point my husband said okay mom that's enough we are going to go now. I thoroughly think she was just shocked and didn't know what to say but I can think of about a billion other things to say than what she said to me. Geez!!. She too called and apologized and said she was really happy for us and wished us the best.
DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16). "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18). "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21). "Round 3 FIGHT!"
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Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
I will say afterwards while driving home I was kind of excited that random strangers could tell I am pregnant. So I got to giggle to myself twice in under 10 minutes. Lol.
2) My dad when everyone was saying they think it's a girl: "Well, he (my DH) shot you up with two boys before. Chances are it's another boy!" Ew, dad.
3) Showing our reveal video to my in-laws, my m.i.l.'s only reaction was "I look fat and old!" (Her, not me.) It was so disappointing because we'd worked so hard on the video. We found some different photos to put in of her, but I don't think she was ever happy. Something I had to let go. Positive reactions from everyone else.
"Listen to me, people are going to tell you what to eat, what not to do, bla bla bla. Forget all of that! I ate cold cuts and smoked my whole pregnancy and my daughter turned out fine!"
Wth
#1 I take care of my 2 kids that I have
#2 this bitch has 2 kids, but only has custody of one of them, she relinquished her rights to her oldest because he has aspergers and couldn't handle him
Yes we live in a small town and word travels fast but we haven't told anyone yet. For some odd reason I found this comment to be offensive, am I just overreacting a little? The use of the word condition made it seem as if I have AIDS or something!
When I told my best friend he reached out and grabbed my stomach. Why do people think this is okay? Plus I'm 11 weeks, I'm not showing yet!
Also, I was a 32F to start with and now I'm a 34G. I have had multiple people ask if I feel like I'm "about to fall over". Yes, please make my giant breasts your topic of conversation!
This pregnancy I've been sick all day everyday I can't keep anything down. I've lost 30 lbs since finding out and my boobs hurt so bad!
Coworker: flicked my boob and when I grabbed it and told her never to touch me again that it hurts. Her response was stop being a big baby you're barely pregnant and probably making your symptoms up. Um excuse me you bit** you're 18 and have never been pregnant yes lecture me on what you know about pregnancy!
Boss: after throwing up 4 times in 1 hour. Including in front of customers. I don't feel sorry for you need to suck it up you did this to yourself so nobody cares that you are sick.
Um I didn't ask for you to care I asked for a little break so I could go brush my teeth!!!
where do you work, Forever 21? (I'm sorry, I really couldn't resist) No but in all seriousness, HR. HR on her ass so fast. ^^^ drillsargeantcat said it better.
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Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
If it helps, picture it as though a male colleague did it. Either way I'd be reporting it but I think women tend to get away with a lot more than they should. Teach this chick a lesson!
Two quick stories:
1) My friend named her DD Ursula. Her mother-in-law said, AFTER SHE WAS BORN, mind you, "Ursula? What am I supposed to tell people??" Um, you're supposed to tell people your granddaughter's name is Ursula!
2) When we told my S.I.L. our second son's name, again, after he was born, she actually called me back in the hospital and said, "Have you put it on the birth certificate yet? I really think you should reconsider." It was because his initials would be BJPC, and she thought "BJ" was inappropriate. We have never called him BJ, never will, and his initials in school will probably only ever be seen as "BC"! Come on, people! Grow up!