My confession is that I'm just a straight up pig all the time. This morning I ate a bowl of cereal for breakfast. Then, I went by Starbucks for some coffee to get me through my 10 hour day of babysitting and also got me a breakfast sandwich. I ate the whole thing before I even got to the kids' house.
This weekend I have a bachelorette party to attend out of town. I'm so excited to have a weekend away from my kids & husband. Like...more excited than I should be. It feels like a vacation!
Our son is going to stay with my husband's dad and step-mom this weekend, he's 2 1/2 and has never stayed the night away from us before - I am nervous but really, really excited to sleep in a little longer and have a date night out at a nice restaurant without a toddler!
I really do hope it works out - we've had 2 date nights in 2 years but like I said, he's never spent the night away from us before, should be interesting to see how it goes.
*disclaimer: I love my husband, yes he annoys me to no end but I do love him. I love my daughter as well, She is my rainbow baby and wouldn't trade her for the world*
I often find myself asking WHY I got married, WHY I had a child. My wonderful toddler (shes 2) has decided that she no longer wants to sleep, she is boycotting naps and bedtime. Last night I got no more than 5 hours of broken sleep. She kept waking up and asking for things. She started screaming for her sandals. WTF. We've always had a rule about waking up with her. The first time, we both get up and see whats wrong, the second and third time we alternate. Last night I got up 3 times with her before I asked my husband to help, which was like pulling teeth. At one point she told me she didn't want to sleep and we sat in the living room with no lights and no tv. She finally said she was ready and went down just after 2:30AM. So when she woke up around 6:45/7am I asked my husband to grab her so I could use the washroom before doing anything. He was like she just wants the TV on and sat there. DUDE I DON'T CARE IF SHE JUST WANTED A COOKIE, I asked you to grab her GET YOUR BUTT OUT OF BED AND GRAB YOUR CHILD.
I guess my confession is, sometimes I wish I could walk away and have it just be ME, no one else. But I would never and could never do that. I'm just lonely and feeling over whelmed. How can I love 2 children and not lose my mind.
I guess thanks for listening me to vent.
Another confession, I'm going to mcdonalds for breakfast, and I don't give a fudge that I had it yesterday as well..
Toddlers are creatures from a different planet ladies. I kid you not! @ashcody2 I have no idea how you've survived so long without an overnight date. We went to Jamaica for 5 days when my twins were almost 2 and it was the best 5 days ever....I almost didn't want to come home
Toddlers are creatures from a different planet ladies. I kid you not! @ashcody2 I have no idea how you've survived so long without an overnight date. We went to Jamaica for 5 days when my twins were almost 2 and it was the best 5 days ever....I almost didn't want to come home
Yes, it's hard when all of your family who lives in town (we aren't from here originally, but some of my family has moved here) can't watch our child during the day due to either working FT or health issues, that's the main one - my family who would keep him overnight can't physically watch him. My parents live almost 3 hrs. away and my mom straight up told me she'd keep him when he's out of diapers, lol I figured diapers would be easier than dealing with a potty-training toddler but I guess not.
We have my best friend's wedding reception in a few weeks so my husband's mom is coming to watch our son but we won't be staying overnight seeing as I can't drink and I don't think it's going to be much fun since my husband will probably be drinking quite a bit...I'd love to go on a baby moon somewhere but we really want to save up as much as possible before the baby comes since I have unpaid leave + our daycare expense is going to be quite a big difference compared to now.
I wish I didn't have to work. I am jealous of SAHMs, even though after every weekend, I look forward to going back to the office just to get a break from my 2 yr old. I think I am just one of those "grass is greener on the other side" type of person on this issue.
I also feel annoyed but I am also jealous when my mom complains to me that she had such a busy, long day because she worked out in the am, made lunch, then reorganized her purses in the afternoon, as I am rushing home after a full day of work worrying about getting dinner on the table before my child loses his sh*t. My mom has never worked a day in her life except when my dad was forced to hire her in his office, and then had to fire her bc she kept leaving for lunch and not coming back bc she got sidetracked shopping. I am proud of what I have accomplished in my career, but I do sometimes wonder if I made wrong choices in life, and if I would be happier with a lifestyle like hers.
We're not raising our children to be religious. My mom keeps asking when we are getting our daughter baptised. She doesn't understand never. If she wants to do it when she's older, she can decide that!
I about to head to my OB appointment. All I can think about is all the unhealthy, bad for me drive thrus that are right around that area. Trying to decide which one I want for lunch when I'm leaving.
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I about to head to my OB appointment. All I can think about is all the unhealthy, bad for me drive thrus that are right around that area. Trying to decide which one I want for lunch when I'm leaving.
Do they have Wendy's? Wendy's spicy chicken sandwich-- mmm
I wish I lived in a suburb so I had a drive-thru
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I about to head to my OB appointment. All I can think about is all the unhealthy, bad for me drive thrus that are right around that area. Trying to decide which one I want for lunch when I'm leaving.
Do they have Wendy's? Wendy's spicy chicken sandwich-- mmm
I wish I lived in a suburb so I had a drive-thru
Aw man I could tear up a spicy chicken sandwich right now!
I sometimes wonder if I am raising a total brat. My son is about to turn 2.5 and I just feel like every day is an uphill battle that I can't win. I look at other kids playing happily at the park and then there is my son running around like a crazy person who can't keep his hands to himself. I can feel all those mommy eyes judging me and I can't help but feel like I am totally failing at this parenting thing. It really makes me question my ability to have a second.
Side Note Confession: It only took me three days to finish off an entire carton of Ben and Jerry's by myself. Yikes!
I sometimes wonder if I am raising a total brat. My son is about to turn 2.5 and I just feel like every day is an uphill battle that I can't win. I look at other kids playing happily at the park and then there is my son running around like a crazy person who can't keep his hands to himself. I can feel all those mommy eyes judging me and I can't help but feel like I am totally failing at this parenting thing. It really makes me question my ability to have a second.
Side Note Confession: It only took me three days to finish off an entire carton of Ben and Jerry's by myself. Yikes!
I am a FTM so no comment on the toddler thing but I'm sorry you feel that way. I'm sure you're doing just fine
But, I will comment on the Ben& Jerry's because I'm a long term ice cream eater... there are 4 servings in there! So 3 days to finish is perfectly acceptable in my opinion. It's not like you ate it all in one sitting which I can imagine some people do!
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I sometimes wonder if I am raising a total brat. My son is about to turn 2.5 and I just feel like every day is an uphill battle that I can't win. I look at other kids playing happily at the park and then there is my son running around like a crazy person who can't keep his hands to himself. I can feel all those mommy eyes judging me and I can't help but feel like I am totally failing at this parenting thing. It really makes me question my ability to have a second.
Side Note Confession: It only took me three days to finish off an entire carton of Ben and Jerry's by myself. Yikes!
Umm....3 days is nothin'. And it may be 4 servings but who can really stop at 1/4 of a Ben & Jerry's pint?! Not me!
We're not raising our children to be religious. My mom keeps asking when we are getting our daughter baptised. She doesn't understand never. If she wants to do it when she's older, she can decide that!
I sometimes wonder if I am raising a total brat. My son is about to turn 2.5 and I just feel like every day is an uphill battle that I can't win. I look at other kids playing happily at the park and then there is my son running around like a crazy person who can't keep his hands to himself. I can feel all those mommy eyes judging me and I can't help but feel like I am totally failing at this parenting thing. It really makes me question my ability to have a second.
Side Note Confession: It only took me three days to finish off an entire carton of Ben and Jerry's by myself. Yikes!
I feel like that about my kids too. They have so much energy and honestly act like animals sometimes. I have anxiety about going out in public with them. I think it might be normal toddler behavior? You are not alone and you are not failing.
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We're not raising our children to be religious. My mom keeps asking when we are getting our daughter baptised. She doesn't understand never. If she wants to do it when she's older, she can decide that!
We're not raising our children to be religious. My mom keeps asking when we are getting our daughter baptised. She doesn't understand never. If she wants to do it when she's older, she can decide that!
MIL was hounding us forever about this. She doesn't even go to church, like not even on holidays, so I don't know why she cares so much. The thing is our kids aren't being raised Catholic like her so we wouldn't baptize them anyway. We did a baby dedication but baptism is a choice they make on their own when they are older.
We're not raising our children to be religious. My mom keeps asking when we are getting our daughter baptised. She doesn't understand never. If she wants to do it when she's older, she can decide that!
My husband and I were torn on this issue for awhile. I was raised Catholic and he, Presbyterian/ Catholic. His family was a little less religious than mine, but I went to church every sunday growing up, went to sunday schools, went through communion, etc. In our adult lives, we were pretty much atheists because we didn't really agree with the teachings on some of the issues. When we had our first, we debated joining a church because we both agreed that the basic teachings of the church (the stuff that we learned when we were growing up - like being good to others and such) helped shape our childhood and our morals. However, after some deep soul searching we decided to raise our kids without religion. After we made the decision, we came across something similar to this article (can't locate the one I actually read), which made me feel better about the decision ( I had a lot of catholic guilt even though I thought my decision was the right one for our family).
Our grocery store had Ben & Jerries on sale for $2! I totally stocked up. I even thought about having it for breakfast today and probably would have if I knew I wouldn't end up sick after
Our grocery store had Ben & Jerries on sale for $2! I totally stocked up. I even thought about having it for breakfast today and probably would have if I knew I wouldn't end up sick after
Wow that's a good deal!!! How I wish I could devour all 4 servings of chunky monkey Right now
We're not raising our children to be religious. My mom keeps asking when we are getting our daughter baptised. She doesn't understand never. If she wants to do it when she's older, she can decide that!
My husband and I were torn on this issue for awhile. I was raised Catholic and he, Presbyterian/ Catholic. His family was a little less religious than mine, but I went to church every sunday growing up, went to sunday schools, went through communion, etc. In our adult lives, we were pretty much atheists because we didn't really agree with the teachings on some of the issues. When we had our first, we debated joining a church because we both agreed that the basic teachings of the church (the stuff that we learned when we were growing up - like being good to others and such) helped shape our childhood and our morals. However, after some deep soul searching we decided to raise our kids without religion. After we made the decision, we came across something similar to this article (can't locate the one I actually read), which made me feel better about the decision ( I had a lot of catholic guilt even though I thought my decision was the right one for our family).
I had a similar situation. I was raised catholic (but also celebrated Jewish holidays because I'm a halfie lol) and my husband was raised some sort of christian (episcopalian I believe). My husband is now atheist and harbors a lot of resentment towards religion. Both of our parents are not religious whatsoever but my husband was religious (on his own) in high school. He went to a Christian private school and I think he feels like he was duped or something now.
Both of us obviously went to college (not together) but we were big into our respective philosophy courses and stuff and it became clear to both of us, in our later teens, that religion doesn't really make sense to us.
But, the difference is-- I'm not resentful for having the experience of being raised catholic at all. It's nice for a kid to believe, it's comforting - especially when they don't have the ability to really understand the deeper stuff.
I want to baptize my baby because my husband and I re both baptized and IF any higher being happens to exist (I'm not a full on atheist like he is), then the baby has the same "protections" we do.
Does that sound crazy? Hope that makes sense.
If they follow the same journey we did, and my parents did and his parents did--- they may decide later that religion isn't for them later- and I'd imagine that will be the case... but it's nice to have that comfort as a kid and to learn about the bible, etc. because it is a part of our history (may not be REAL history but part of history because of the importance people place on it).
My husband came around and agreed on the baptism but there's a point of contention about making the other sacraments going forward-- going to ccd, making communion, confirmation, etc.
We'll take it one step at a time though...
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We're not raising our children to be religious. My mom keeps asking when we are getting our daughter baptised. She doesn't understand never. If she wants to do it when she's older, she can decide that!
My husband and I were torn on this issue for awhile. I was raised Catholic and he, Presbyterian/ Catholic. His family was a little less religious than mine, but I went to church every sunday growing up, went to sunday schools, went through communion, etc. In our adult lives, we were pretty much atheists because we didn't really agree with the teachings on some of the issues. When we had our first, we debated joining a church because we both agreed that the basic teachings of the church (the stuff that we learned when we were growing up - like being good to others and such) helped shape our childhood and our morals. However, after some deep soul searching we decided to raise our kids without religion. After we made the decision, we came across something similar to this article (can't locate the one I actually read), which made me feel better about the decision ( I had a lot of catholic guilt even though I thought my decision was the right one for our family).
I had a similar situation. I was raised catholic (but also celebrated Jewish holidays because I'm a halfie lol) and my husband was raised some sort of christian (episcopalian I believe). My husband is now atheist and harbors a lot of resentment towards religion. Both of our parents are not religious whatsoever but my husband was religious (on his own) in high school. He went to a Christian private school and I think he feels like he was duped or something now.
Both of us obviously went to college (not together) but we were big into our respective philosophy courses and stuff and it became clear to both of us, in our later teens, that religion doesn't really make sense to us.
But, the difference is-- I'm not resentful for having the experience of being raised catholic at all. It's nice for a kid to believe, it's comforting - especially when they don't have the ability to really understand the deeper stuff.
I want to baptize my baby because my husband and I re both baptized and IF any higher being happens to exist (I'm not a full on atheist like he is), then the baby has the same "protections" we do.
Does that sound crazy? Hope that makes sense.
If they follow the same journey we did, and my parents did and his parents did--- they may decide later that religion isn't for them later- and I'd imagine that will be the case... but it's nice to have that comfort as a kid and to learn about the bible, etc. because it is a part of our history (may not be REAL history but part of history because of the importance people place on it).
My husband came around and agreed on the baptism but there's a point of contention about making the other sacraments going forward-- going to ccd, making communion, confirmation, etc.
We'll take it one step at a time though...
If you don't believe in God, then baptism protects you or saves you from nothing. You get into heaven because you believe, not because you were baptized as a baby.
My confession today is that I suck at all this housewife stuff. I should have a cleaner house, I'm home during the day as a sahm. And I love that job, I love that my potty training naked toddler is currently laughing at his reflection in the fireplace. But even before I was pregant and had no energy my house wasn't as clean as I would like.
I sometimes wonder if I am raising a total brat. My son is about to turn 2.5 and I just feel like every day is an uphill battle that I can't win. I look at other kids playing happily at the park and then there is my son running around like a crazy person who can't keep his hands to himself. I can feel all those mommy eyes judging me and I can't help but feel like I am totally failing at this parenting thing. It really makes me question my ability to have a second.
Side Note Confession: It only took me three days to finish off an entire carton of Ben and Jerry's by myself. Yikes!
3 days is nothing! I polished off a pint of B&Js in one night the other day, lol. Usually it takes me 2 sittings, but it was so good! Nope, I don't feel bad about that at all, totally worth it.
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I will check that out when I'm at my computer. I'm very interested in what it has to say. I was torn when I was pregnant with my first as my story is similar to yours. After reading Richard Dawkins God Dellusion, I made up my mind we were making the right decision. I think you would like the book, and I highly recommend it to anyone facing similar questions.
Dawkins has a very thorough discussion on where are morals come from and it's not religion. Quite the contrary. This could get long if I went deeper so I will just leave it at that. It's a great book and available on audible.
@inomniaparatus I'd recommend Dawkins book to you as well. While you may have felt religion was a comfort to you, Dawkins had some very interesting points to the contrary that had never occurred to me prior.
We're not raising our children to be religious. My mom keeps asking when we are getting our daughter baptised. She doesn't understand never. If she wants to do it when she's older, she can decide that!
My husband and I were torn on this issue for awhile. I was raised Catholic and he, Presbyterian/ Catholic. His family was a little less religious than mine, but I went to church every sunday growing up, went to sunday schools, went through communion, etc. In our adult lives, we were pretty much atheists because we didn't really agree with the teachings on some of the issues. When we had our first, we debated joining a church because we both agreed that the basic teachings of the church (the stuff that we learned when we were growing up - like being good to others and such) helped shape our childhood and our morals. However, after some deep soul searching we decided to raise our kids without religion. After we made the decision, we came across something similar to this article (can't locate the one I actually read), which made me feel better about the decision ( I had a lot of catholic guilt even though I thought my decision was the right one for our family).
I had a similar situation. I was raised catholic (but also celebrated Jewish holidays because I'm a halfie lol) and my husband was raised some sort of christian (episcopalian I believe). My husband is now atheist and harbors a lot of resentment towards religion. Both of our parents are not religious whatsoever but my husband was religious (on his own) in high school. He went to a Christian private school and I think he feels like he was duped or something now.
Both of us obviously went to college (not together) but we were big into our respective philosophy courses and stuff and it became clear to both of us, in our later teens, that religion doesn't really make sense to us.
But, the difference is-- I'm not resentful for having the experience of being raised catholic at all. It's nice for a kid to believe, it's comforting - especially when they don't have the ability to really understand the deeper stuff.
I want to baptize my baby because my husband and I re both baptized and IF any higher being happens to exist (I'm not a full on atheist like he is), then the baby has the same "protections" we do.
Does that sound crazy? Hope that makes sense.
If they follow the same journey we did, and my parents did and his parents did--- they may decide later that religion isn't for them later- and I'd imagine that will be the case... but it's nice to have that comfort as a kid and to learn about the bible, etc. because it is a part of our history (may not be REAL history but part of history because of the importance people place on it).
My husband came around and agreed on the baptism but there's a point of contention about making the other sacraments going forward-- going to ccd, making communion, confirmation, etc.
We'll take it one step at a time though...
If you don't believe in God, then baptism protects you or saves you from nothing. You get into heaven because you believe, not because you were baptized as a baby.
No I know-- but I mean the protection as a baby. If we had that "protection" as babies, I feel like our baby should have it too.
For the small, tiny part of me that would like to believe, I feel like my baby deserves to be baptized. For the most part, I don't believe in any of that stuff, but it's hard to adopt any idea fully. I'm sometimes guilty of playing Pascal's wager but so be it...
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@lauren0571 You're not alone! I'm sure those kids at the playground have their moments, too. My parenting class teacher said she'd be more worried about a child who didn't act out, than one who did. Some kids are more spirited than others, too. My husband and I are reading, "Raising your Spirited Child" and it's been really helpful so far. Toddlers are rough sometimes. My son is almost 3 1/2 and I can totally relate to what you're going through with the daily struggles and being nervous about a second one. You're not failing, though! You're doing a great job. Hang in there, mama.
@MaybeMab I totally know what you're saying. I love my husband and son so much. Sometimes I envy my single friends or people who don't have kids. I miss that freedom. There are times I fantasize about getting a hotel room at the beach for a weekend all by myself. Do you consider yourself an introvert? I'm definitely one so I wonder if that has anything to do with it. I also don't have the best support system where I live which makes hard to have date nights with my husband, etc.
I want to get away from my toddler for a weekend...hell...a night would be fine. I feel so guilty because I'm a stay at home mom and I know I'm so blessed we are able to do that. I love being a SAHM but I'm never away from my kid ever. Toddlers are hard. I just want to feel like a woman again for a little while. I need adult interaction. I need to spend time with my husband that doesn't involve us both preoccupied and exhausted.
@inomniaparatus
your (and others but yours stand out, sorry) quote trees = huge. Can you trim them? Tia
Fffc: almost noon... Dd are still in our pjs and haven't done anything except sit on the couch!
yes sorry
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I wonder about my toddler too. He has insane energy and he's a really physical kid. We go to library storytime and every other kid, no matter their age, is sitting and listening to the stories and singing along with the songs- my kid just wants to climb up and down the risers and spin around and jump and stuff. He can't sit still and listen, he has to be moving! But NO other kid is like this. How is that possible? He's not being naughty or disruptive, just busy. It makes me wonder.
@AdventureMama mine's the same way! He doesn't want anything to do with story time. He's always on the move! Definitely more spirited than other children.
I'm kind of worried about how hyper my future child will be. My husband had adhd as a kid. Luckily, his parents managed it pretty well later on and he did well in school and everything but he was a pretty crazy toddler from what I hear-- he got kicked out of pre-school for peeing on another kid (how gross is that!?).
I was the opposite-- very quiet, shy, preferred playing alone
I hope my kid ends up somewhere in between!
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Re: FFFC- Friday, July 31
I often find myself asking WHY I got married, WHY I had a child. My wonderful toddler (shes 2) has decided that she no longer wants to sleep, she is boycotting naps and bedtime. Last night I got no more than 5 hours of broken sleep. She kept waking up and asking for things. She started screaming for her sandals. WTF. We've always had a rule about waking up with her. The first time, we both get up and see whats wrong, the second and third time we alternate. Last night I got up 3 times with her before I asked my husband to help, which was like pulling teeth. At one point she told me she didn't want to sleep and we sat in the living room with no lights and no tv. She finally said she was ready and went down just after 2:30AM. So when she woke up around 6:45/7am I asked my husband to grab her so I could use the washroom before doing anything. He was like she just wants the TV on and sat there. DUDE I DON'T CARE IF SHE JUST WANTED A COOKIE, I asked you to grab her GET YOUR BUTT OUT OF BED AND GRAB YOUR CHILD.
I guess my confession is, sometimes I wish I could walk away and have it just be ME, no one else. But I would never and could never do that. I'm just lonely and feeling over whelmed. How can I love 2 children and not lose my mind.
I guess thanks for listening me to vent.
Another confession, I'm going to mcdonalds for breakfast, and I don't give a fudge that I had it yesterday as well..
You are not alone and you are not failing.
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DS2 July 2013
DS3 February 2016
If you don't believe in God, then baptism protects you or saves you from nothing. You get into heaven because you believe, not because you were baptized as a baby.
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I will check that out when I'm at my computer. I'm very interested in what it has to say. I was torn when I was pregnant with my first as my story is similar to yours. After reading Richard Dawkins God Dellusion, I made up my mind we were making the right decision. I think you would like the book, and I highly recommend it to anyone facing similar questions.
Dawkins has a very thorough discussion on where are morals come from and it's not religion. Quite the contrary. This could get long if I went deeper so I will just leave it at that. It's a great book and available on audible.
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your (and others but yours stand out, sorry) quote trees = huge. Can you trim them? Tia
Fffc: almost noon... Dd are still in our pjs and haven't done anything except sit on the couch!