I'm just saying that I didn't even get a chance to brush my teeth yet today,..... Screw it. Not wasting 3 min of sleep time. May the spirit be with you all tonight.... (Little catholic humor)
I'm just saying that I didn't even get a chance to brush my teeth yet today,..... Screw it. Not wasting 3 min of sleep time. May the spirit be with you all tonight.... (Little catholic humor)
Same here... And I still have the same crazy ponytail I went to bed with last night.
Got the little dude down for the night and I can't sleep cause I'm thinking about something DH said the other day. As I ponder it further, I get madder about it, and obsessively think about it more.
btw @klkonwi@rrcameron21 since I have to give a formula supplement bottle before bed once I'm done I wrap him and soothe him, put him in the pack n play and turn on my white noise app. Now, since I have to go and rinse the bottle regardless, once I come back upstairs I brush my teeth. By the time I'm done LO is almost out. Bright side to having to supplement - I get to brush my teeth
@mellymar i supplemented tonight and managed to get some real sleep out of him! I think we might be having latch issues because he was on the boob ALL DAY. One 2oz bottle and he's down for the count... I guess it's just that easy sometimes.
Ugh we are at almost 8 weeks and LO was up to 4/5 hour stretches, but we had to switch to a sensitive formula that is so broken down that it is quicker to digest ... Which means we are back to 3 hour stretches before she's hungry. So to recap: less fussiness and reflux, but somehow shorter sleep cycles. FML.
Of course I'm awake while LO is still sleeping. That's the worst kind of not sleeping because there's no good reason.
Also I am feverishly researching lip ties and places to go get a consult. It's going to be like $1000 but I don't even care -- if it saves us doing it when she's older and aware I'm in.
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
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We caught LO at the beginning of the overtired cycle tonight and got her to go down at 8:30 instead of 10-11 like usual. Success! She got up to eat at 12:30 and I briefly fell asleep in the nursery but am pumping now and about to go back to bed...FX for another 4 hour increment.
When will it end?! LO screams bloody murder for hours between 4-8 every night. She goes in spurts. Will be fine one minute then screaming the next. I work nights until 9 or so, so poor hubby has to deal with it. But it's heartbreaking. Once she's sleeping for good she's great for the rest of the night. It's just always those hours. And my mom is convinced something is wrong but I've heard about so many babies doing it. Or do you think we should be worried!!?
LO had woke up at 2am. Feeding and changing carried us thru to 3am. He took an hour and 15 min to settle enough / sleep so I could stop paying attention to him and lay down around 415. My random pains that I've been having (the potential out of alignment rib or nursing mystery pain in my back area) are especially fierce tonight, I spent that hour + soothing LO grimacing and breathing deeply thru it, and once he was quiet / asleep I was really uncomfortable trying to lay down and stretch myself / find a position that relieved the discomfort. I found something that worked, I dunno, cause I fell into a fitful doze and had a dream that DH came home with some people he works with and wanted to hang out with them and I wigged out and left the house and left baby there. I woke up from that dream at 445am to LO crying for a new diaper which I changed and now have to nurse him again, which has me sitting here with pain in my side and back again. And last feeding he spit up in my hair so I have crusty spit up hair on one side.
I'm really struggling tonight. Good news is the night is almost over and DH will be home in a few hours to take a turn and I can de-stress. Bad news, I found myself irrationally angry and frustrated with LO, begging him to please stop crying and making angry, dismayed faces as he was looking at me. Had he been an adult I probably would've slammed a door in his face and left in a huff.
He just passed out while nursing. I love the little guy and feel bad that I didn't respond to his diaper change with patience and a soothing voice, and that while he was looking at me he saw angry mommy.
Ah, gods, I'm just so tired and hurt so much right now, is all.
@mellymar Don't worry momma! We have all had our moments. And I'm positive your baby doesn't remember or care. He just wants you. I know it's really REALLY hard sometimes to wake up and be patient and loving when all you want is sleep. I am so sorry that you have to deal with the nights solo! My DH works second shift so he gets home in the middle of the night. I can't imagine how hard it would be to have him gone all night. Is there any way he could watch your DS for a few hours before he leaves for work and you can get a little nap? It might not be at nighttime but maybe sleeping for 2-3 hours sometime during a 24 (or longer...) period would help you stay calm during those long nights. Sending some T&Ps your way for a break, no more pain, and forgiveness for angry mommy! (And that your dream about DH never comes true!!)
@katyertl my DS does this when I am gone and he is with dad too. I think some of it is while my DH loves his son and wants to be a good dad, he is still a little nervous and unsure of himself and DS can sense it. Babies are very in tune to the feelings of people because if the person they are with is comfortable and at ease, they are safe. But when the person they are with is uncertain, the baby feels uncertain of its own safety and well being. I'm not saying that your DH is unfit by any means, but I know for my DH the crying makes him feel even more unsure because he thinks he is doing something wrong. I keep telling him that it's just a matter of feeling okay and confident in himself. I am trying to compliment him more when I see him doing things well too which seems to be helping. Is there a friend or family member who might be able to help him out for part of your shift at work? Maybe even having another adult around would help him feel more relaxed. Good luck and let us know how it's going!
@mellymar don't worry! He does not remember your angry face. He went to sleep dreaming of milk and boobs. You're doing awesome. And I feel you on the spit up! These days my outfit isn't complete without spit up on it somewhere.
@katyertl our LO was doing that a few weeks ago but it was from like 8-11. He was just overly tired and fighting sleep. Not sure what your DH does, but I talked to the pedi about it, and going to a quiet place, white noise, and rocking helped immensely! Now we take him to the nursery by 8, put his pjs on, and rock him. Once he falls asleep we put him down immediately. He's usually down for the night. It's annoying because sometimes it takes 30 minutes and sometimes it still takes awhile. I also agree that your LO might just want you. This is the case with us sometimes, but you're at work and it's great bonding time for your DH and LO! Definitely don't think anything is wrong! Hang in there!
We went from 4 hour stretches back to every two hours last night. I guess it's that 6 week growth spurt, but I'd like 4 hours back!
And my mom is convinced something is wrong but I've heard about so many babies doing it. Or do you think we should be worried!!?
This. I ask DH this so many times a week. Is something wrong or just babies be babies?
My doctor said late afternoon - early evening is a really common "witching hours" period for babies. The theory is that they've had so much stimulation all day that they're just over it by then. We try to calm her as much as possible and start the bedtime routine as close to 7 as possible...by that time she's so overtired we can usually get her sleeping around 8-8:30.
Push through it...this generally ends around the 3 month mark, and is worst between 4 and 8 weeks. I like to tell myself when she's screaming at 6pm that it means she's worn out and will sleep well that night...may not be true, but it keeps me sane.
LO slept from 9:45p-4am then 5-9! But guess who was up dealing with a painful wisdom tooth? Ugh!! Thankfully I have surgery scheduled next Tuesday to get this sucker out! Totally sucks I wasn't able to take advantage of this. :-S
The last three nights, we had a 4 hour, 5 hour, and 6 hour stretch of sleep. This started on the exact night that he was 2 months. FX that this continues. It makes up for the fact that he absolutely hates napping!
So, my LO has given us 4,5, & almost 6 hour stretches this week. The problem is I feed off of 1 side/feeding. So I wake up & pump a little so she isn't choking, feed her, then have to pump to relieve engorgement on the there side, but only a little, bc then I'd be asking for more milk & then my body is like "heck yeah, 5 hours! It's 4am! Let's do this day, you got some sleep!" & it takes me forever to go back to sleep. Not a horrible problem to have, just weird adjustments.
@mellymar I've been there, lady. The guilt sucks, but I promise it's needless. You're a good mother. Every mother has lost patience at some point, and middle of the night angry face ain't no thang. You met all that kid's needs, and I bet he even gets extra kisses today.
Do get that rib pain taken care of, though, lady. That sounds horrible. Especially since it's affecting your abilities to comfortably nurse and help LO. If you can't justify taking care of it for yourself, do it for him.
(If you are like me, I find it easier to do things for other people than myself - that's all I mean with the "do it for him." I don't mean it in that way where people tell me not to drink coffee because "think of LO." I hate those condescending types.)
My 6 week old eats every 2 hours at least during the day but he's starting to stretch out a bit at night. He'll typically do one 3-4 hour sleep and then another 2 hour sleep, with 1 hour of feeding in between.
I must be blessed with a unique kid... He is breastfed and the last 3 nights he went 5 hours, 5.5 hours, then 6 last night. Followed by a 2-3 hour stretch. I'm probably jinxing myself for tonight by typing this. During the day he eats nonstop. And cluster feeds before bed.
my LO sleeps for 4 hours at night sometimes, i honestly have more issues with him during the day time.
and @mellymar i totally feel you. during the day LO was fussy and hungry after eating the full boob and whatever was in the other one, i had to keep switching boobs and he just wouldnt close his mouth and latch and when he did he kept pulling and pushing trying to tear my poor nipples off and i was just getting so frustrated. i almost broke down crying. he was on the boobs for over an hour.
@itzdianababy@amy4516 hate to be the bearer of bad news but...she eats clockwork 2 hours during the day and then gives me a 5 and 3 hour stretch at night so basically I have 1 night feeding. Sorry! She's done that since early on though.
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
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@itzdianababy@amy4516 hate to be the bearer of bad news but...she eats clockwork 2 hours during the day and then gives me a 5 and 3 hour stretch at night so basically I have 1 night feeding. Sorry! She's done that since early on though.
Lucky! I'm still not the only one tho @amy4516 . Lol Hopefully our LO will start doing that for us soon. (Really hopeful)
@itzdianababy@dancegurl1118 My guy started out sleeping in 4-5 hour stretches but then went back to not sleeping at all for awhile. Literally. Like awake from 1 am - 7 am. Or 3:30 am - 12 pm. I then got mastitis so I decided to exclusively pump until healed (hurts way too bad for him to be on the boob!). Now he's sleeping 3-4 hour stretches the last 2 nights. I almost didn't even want to type this in fear that I will jinx myself! Maybe he just wasn't digging the bf'ing?!
My LO is EBF and usually does 3 4-hour stretches (which means I only get about 2-3 hours of sleep at a time because it takes about an hour to feed him, change him, and get him back down) from about 7pm on. He then eats every 2 hours like clock work during the day to make up for it. I'll take it though! Has only made it 5 hours once or twice and my boobs huuuurt after that. I thought my LO was eating very frequently but it sounds like there are a lot of babes eating way more often! I stick with the EASY method during the day (Eat, Awake, Sleep, You) so that he sleeps more at night.
Re: Nighttime sucks. That is all.
May the spirit be with you all tonight.... (Little catholic humor)
ETA: I hope to God that made sense to anyone else besides me
ETA (pt 2): oh wait, that's not even what you asked. Nevermind.
btw @klkonwi @rrcameron21 since I have to give a formula supplement bottle before bed once I'm done I wrap him and soothe him, put him in the pack n play and turn on my white noise app. Now, since I have to go and rinse the bottle regardless, once I come back upstairs I brush my teeth. By the time I'm done LO is almost out. Bright side to having to supplement - I get to brush my teeth
Also I am feverishly researching lip ties and places to go get a consult. It's going to be like $1000 but I don't even care -- if it saves us doing it when she's older and aware I'm in.
Success! She got up to eat at 12:30 and I briefly fell asleep in the nursery but am pumping now and about to go back to bed...FX for another 4 hour increment.
:!!
Go to sleep!
LO had woke up at 2am. Feeding and changing carried us thru to 3am. He took an hour and 15 min to settle enough / sleep so I could stop paying attention to him and lay down around 415. My random pains that I've been having (the potential out of alignment rib or nursing mystery pain in my back area) are especially fierce tonight, I spent that hour + soothing LO grimacing and breathing deeply thru it, and once he was quiet / asleep I was really uncomfortable trying to lay down and stretch myself / find a position that relieved the discomfort. I found something that worked, I dunno, cause I fell into a fitful doze and had a dream that DH came home with some people he works with and wanted to hang out with them and I wigged out and left the house and left baby there. I woke up from that dream at 445am to LO crying for a new diaper which I changed and now have to nurse him again, which has me sitting here with pain in my side and back again. And last feeding he spit up in my hair so I have crusty spit up hair on one side.
I'm really struggling tonight. Good news is the night is almost over and DH will be home in a few hours to take a turn and I can de-stress. Bad news, I found myself irrationally angry and frustrated with LO, begging him to please stop crying and making angry, dismayed faces as he was looking at me. Had he been an adult I probably would've slammed a door in his face and left in a huff.
He just passed out while nursing. I love the little guy and feel bad that I didn't respond to his diaper change with patience and a soothing voice, and that while he was looking at me he saw angry mommy.
Ah, gods, I'm just so tired and hurt so much right now, is all.
Whiny woe is me post over and out
Edited, cause I suck at life right now
@lovethatcolosun Happy Birthday!!
@katyertl our LO was doing that a few weeks ago but it was from like 8-11. He was just overly tired and fighting sleep. Not sure what your DH does, but I talked to the pedi about it, and going to a quiet place, white noise, and rocking helped immensely! Now we take him to the nursery by 8, put his pjs on, and rock him. Once he falls asleep we put him down immediately. He's usually down for the night. It's annoying because sometimes it takes 30 minutes and sometimes it still takes awhile. I also agree that your LO might just want you. This is the case with us sometimes, but you're at work and it's great bonding time for your DH and LO! Definitely don't think anything is wrong! Hang in there!
We went from 4 hour stretches back to every two hours last night. I guess it's that 6 week growth spurt, but I'd like 4 hours back!
Hope your birthday was great @lovethatcolosun
Push through it...this generally ends around the 3 month mark, and is worst between 4 and 8 weeks. I like to tell myself when she's screaming at 6pm that it means she's worn out and will sleep well that night...may not be true, but it keeps me sane.
Someone teach my baby to sleep! I'm going insane.
Do get that rib pain taken care of, though, lady. That sounds horrible. Especially since it's affecting your abilities to comfortably nurse and help LO. If you can't justify taking care of it for yourself, do it for him.
(If you are like me, I find it easier to do things for other people than myself - that's all I mean with the "do it for him." I don't mean it in that way where people tell me not to drink coffee because "think of LO." I hate those condescending types.)
My amazing mom is sleeping over tonight though so I just have to feed and hand LO over to her and go back to sleep. I CANNOT WAIT!!!
Eta he is 5 weeks 4 days today
and @mellymar i totally feel you.
during the day LO was fussy and hungry after eating the full boob and whatever was in the other one, i had to keep switching boobs and he just wouldnt close his mouth and latch and when he did he kept pulling and pushing trying to tear my poor nipples off and i was just getting so frustrated. i almost broke down crying.
he was on the boobs for over an hour.