I think being ok with your husband going to a strip club and getting lap dances is so odd. No, it has nothing to do with "trusting" him it has to do with respect. Likely, you wouldn't be alright with some woman climbing all over him at pool or restaurant but because he pays her and it's at strip club makes it ok? like, what?!
Oh this can't be unpopular!!! Or is it? We need to take a poll on this one!
You would think right? this is from an old convo I had with a previous board. and yes, it was an uo. it's mind boggling to me.
I've skipped a lot of posts but I wanted to respond to this
I agree that if your husband is going to strip clubs all the time, that is not ok! But, if he goes to a strip club for one of his friend's bachelor parties, etc, I'm ok with that. Now, my husband really dislikes strip clubs. He actually called me complaining that he was at a strip club for his friend's bachelor party. I laughed at him if I had a husband who loved it, I might feel different about even "occasionally".
I think the more uo is not wanting your guy to watch porn. I have no problem with porn (which may be why I think it is the more unpopular opinion, because it's not my opinion )
We sold almost everything before we moved. And if we don't have room for something, we don't buy it.
I've always been a suburban girl, so it was a shock when we moved. But I've grown to like the coziness.
However, we're going to move somewhere bigger when our lease is up. But I'm so not ready to drop $1600 a month on a two bedroom apartment. #CaliLife
Girl, $1600 would get you a studio in SF area! I'd diiiieee for a 2 bedroom at $1600 right now but we pay that for our 1 bed. When we moved here we had to throw out our dining room furniture and TONS of other stuff and then we had to buy things to accommodate this space. It was awful and I cant wait to move again. In New Orleans we paid hundreds less for a huge 2 bed with extra rooms.
We live in a 3 bed 2 bath apartment and pay $1000. That's insane how much housing costs for some! If it were up to me I'd live in a little shack in the country. Unfortunately, it's not up to me lol.
We sold almost everything before we moved. And if we don't have room for something, we don't buy it.
I've always been a suburban girl, so it was a shock when we moved. But I've grown to like the coziness.
However, we're going to move somewhere bigger when our lease is up. But I'm so not ready to drop $1600 a month on a two bedroom apartment. #CaliLife
Girl, $1600 would get you a studio in SF area! I'd diiiieee for a 2 bedroom at $1600 right now but we pay that for our 1 bed. When we moved here we had to throw out our dining room furniture and TONS of other stuff and then we had to buy things to accommodate this space. It was awful and I cant wait to move again. In New Orleans we paid hundreds less for a huge 2 bed with extra rooms.
Definitely San Fran, NYC and Boston are the worst!
So thinking about porn and strip clubs made me think of something else that may be unpopular... But in a board full of women who are mostly in relationships, I'm not sure how unpopular it will be.... I do not believe in sex addiction. I hate that now people can be completely gross, and sleep with prostitutes and give their wives stds, and then say, I have a disease- I'm a sex addict. No, you're effing disgusting.
So thinking about porn and strip clubs made me think of something else that may be unpopular... But in a board full of women who are mostly in relationships, I'm not sure how unpopular it will be.... I do not believe in sex addiction. I hate that now people can be completely gross, and sleep with prostitutes and give their wives stds, and then say, I have a disease- I'm a sex addict. No, you're effing disgusting.
Edit to take out my swear word
You are on a roll today! I'm agreeing with everything that you're saying.
Girl, $1600 would get you a studio in SF area! I'd diiiieee for a 2 bedroom at $1600 right now but we pay that for our 1 bed. When we moved here we had to throw out our dining room furniture and TONS of other stuff and then we had to buy things to accommodate this space. It was awful and I cant wait to move again. In New Orleans we paid hundreds less for a huge 2 bed with extra rooms.
And this is why my dream of living in San Fran will NEVER happen. We pay $1700 for a 2300 sq ft house - 3bed, 2.5 bath on a greenbelt. I could never imagine trading it for a tiny little apartment for the same price! I have no problem with tiny little apartments - I've lived in them all my life ... but not for that price! Ouchie!!
I think sex addiction is a real thing, and not all sex addictions are created equal. Apparently, sexual addiction is not limited to the act of having sex, but can include sexual thoughts, masturbation, etc.
Considering there is a chemical reaction in our brains during orgasm, I can see its plausibility as an addiction, and would not be so quick to rule it out. I think the taboo nature of sex is what makes many unwilling to acknowledge this as an actual addiction.
I also had the experience of losing everything tangible very early in life in a tremendous fire.
Right now I'm feeling as though I need to clean out my closet, literally! There is no doubt that I have too much crap, but I want to donate it to the right places so that's why I keep it. Note to self, as soon as I can get out of bed please clean out closets.
My UO is that I can NOT stand when I see a 1 or 2 year old with a cell phone or an iPad/tablet playing a game. Especially when they can comprehend how to unlock the device and find a specific app. I'm all for educational apps when they get a little older. An example: seeing a 2 year old playing "fruit ninja" on an iPad while the mother is on her cell phone on social media. I see too many people use those game apps as a distraction and way to keep their child from 'bothering' them.
My UO plays off of this... A little background...4 years ago i bought tvs for my kids room...ds for each kid a play station and xbox with a kinect...i went all out. Why not? Everyone else was doing it! Man my kids went from being well behaved, kind children to these monsters!!!! A year later i took everything and sold it all. We no longer have cable, tv's or any game systems in this house. And NOW people are telling me i am a horroble mom. Well screw you. My kids now play together outside...build forts...play in the water...read books to each other and are back to being the grateful, sweet kids i remember. Technology is a privelege. It should not be bestowed on children. At all. They do learn computers and such in school and that is fine. But at home...noooo. And no one plays on my phone but me. Technology makes adults dumb as well. Everywhere i go i see people just submerged in their phones, completely oblivious to their surroundings.i read on my phone and play a game on my phone. But my face doesn't stay in it. That just bugs me to no end. We are losing ourselves here. It's sad.
Here you go guys. A pic of my backyard on a normal morning or afternoon We love space out in the country. This was from February, and now it's even better because the mamas are having babies so you get to see all the little spotted fawns. So cute!
Argh I sorta hate you all with your 2000 and 3000 and 5000 square feet places. We live in a 1000 sq feet 2 bedroom condo, no outside space, no balcony and pay nearly $3k in mortgage every month. And prices in my area (just outside NYC) keep going higher. And we plan on staying with the second kid here and have them share a room because a) we can't afford to buy anything bigger in the area and b) i like my 15 min commute into NYC. So yeah, forgive me for not being very understanding to anyone complaining for space right now. And yes i know it depends where you live bla bla bla. I'm cranky today.
Knottie15445834 I felt the same way about ipads and technology before i had a kid. And honestly, sometimes, you need the Sesame street video for a bit of a distraction. Especially on planes. Or when you work from home and you need just bit of time to make a conference call. So I used to feel guilty about it, but now i don't. We monitor her use, she's 21 months old, and yep she knows how to swipe and find her own apps. But hey, we just spent 2 weeks on vacation, and she didn't once ask for it because we spent the entire time out and about and being active. So really, I am fine with it when used in moderation.
@enigmaanjel how old are your kids? Obviously you don't have to answer, I just ask out of curiosity. I remember you said that you live in Florida so it makes sense that they would play outside, but I was wondering how it is that you manage to have the older ones participating with the younger ones?
@redfallon so beautiful! DH and I really need to make a trip to the Austin area to visit my SIL. Hopefully I can see your backyard for myself one day! It is gorgeous!
Knottie15445834 I felt the same way about ipads and technology before i had a kid. And honestly, sometimes, you need the Sesame street video for a bit of a distraction. Especially on planes. Or when you work from home and you need just bit of time to make a conference call. So I used to feel guilty about it, but now i don't. We monitor her use, she's 21 months old, and yep she knows how to swipe and find her own apps. But hey, we just spent 2 weeks on vacation, and she didn't once ask for it because we spent the entire time out and about and being active. So really, I am fine with it when used in moderation.
Same here. We do not plan on DD having a TV in her room as a toddler or little kid - maybe when she's a teenager, but when you're on a 6 hour road trip and your baby is screaming her head off and does not want a bottle or a book or Cheerios, is not dirty/wet, and the only thing that calms her down is watching Blue's Clues on your phone, better believe that's what's gonna happen.
I don't let her use my phone normally, but she does have a couple of apps that I let her look at sometimes. There is an Elmo Calls and Cookie Monster Calls that is like Elmo or Cookie having a Facetime with her. I can put the phone on a lock where she cannot get out of the app she's in, so I don't have to worry about her going elsewhere on my phone.
Let me get some clarification - UO= unpopular opinion, not necessarily stuff I don't like. Correct? Some of these are reading like normal opinions that are widely accepted on this board and in life.
If someone doesn't like something it's unpopular to someone. So I think it's a flexible term. If we are around for
9+ months, you aren't going to be able to think of 1000 different "unpopular" opinions.
Eta- if I were to say "I don't like pizza" I'm sure that would be unpopular because pizza is amazing. But to me it's just that I don't like it.
Mmmm pizza
Annnnnnnd this would be the end of me talking to you ever again.
@redfallon how do you put your phone on lock so they can't exit the app? Everyte we FaceTime daddy, my DS manages to exit FaceTime at least 10 times per call. Is there an iPhone app that you use?
I think being ok with your husband going to a strip club and getting lap dances is so odd. No, it has nothing to do with "trusting" him it has to do with respect. Likely, you wouldn't be alright with some woman climbing all over him at pool or restaurant but because he pays her and it's at strip club makes it ok? like, what?!
Eh. Would I beg my husband to run out to a strip club? No. Would I go nuts if he went with a guy friend once in a while? Nah. Strippers get paid to do what they do. A random girl out at a bar doesn't have any reason to be all over my husband. The stripper is just trying to make a living. Of the strippers I have known, they don't develop physical attachments to their customers. It's just a job.
All feminists probably hate me, but it is what it is.
@redfallon - I am also interested in the lock I thought i found a feature that did it, but she still keeps pressing that center button and getting out of it.
PS: I love your yard.
PPS: I'm downloading the Elmo calling app. DD is obsessed with Elmo.
@redfallon how do you put your phone on lock so they can't exit the app? Everyte we FaceTime daddy, my DS manages to exit FaceTime at least 10 times per call. Is there an iPhone app that you use?
One of the ladies in my other BMB showed a bunch of us how to do it. It is under:
Settings> General> Accessibility> LEARNING Guided Access> Guided Access <-- turn that on.
Then when you are in the app you want them to stay on, triple-click the home button. When you want to get out of it, triple-click again and you'll be asked to put in your passcode.
@enigmaanjel how old are your kids? Obviously you don't have to answer, I just ask out of curiosity. I remember you said that you live in Florida so it makes sense that they would play outside, but I was wondering how it is that you manage to have the older ones participating with the younger ones?
@redfallon so beautiful! DH and I really need to make a trip to the Austin area to visit my SIL. Hopefully I can see your backyard for myself one day! It is gorgeous!
My kids (at home) are 20, 13,10,9,8,6 and 4. I have an 18 year old who moved out. Now my 20 year old has his own phone...he pays for. And my 18 year old has her own things in her place. But my younger ones use their time to be creative. Two play with art stuff daily. We have a goat farm across the way here the guy that owns it lets the kids play tennis almost everyday that weather allows. We stay busy here.
@redfallon - I am also interested in the lock I thought i found a feature that did it, but she still keeps pressing that center button and getting out of it.
PS: I love your yard.
PPS: I'm downloading the Elmo calling app. DD is obsessed with Elmo.
The lock is great! They can still click all around the app that they're in, but they cannot do anything with the volume or get out of the app.
The Elmo and Cookie Call apps are probably one of the few that I've paid for. If she likes Cookie, get that one, too! They have various calls, and a voicemail thing, too. One of the ones that Cookie does is he's in China talking about some food that he's eating, and during the call he gets excited and says, "Wait a minute, lemme text you a picture" and then you see the photo he took. It's pretty neat hehe.
We love our yard, too! I put banana peels and old fruit out for the deer in the yard and they'll come up and eat it. We've also had some bunnies come up in the yard, and a couple of them came up on the back porch one day. I've seen a few jackrabbits and we have a couple roadrunners that hang out, too.
@redfallon how do you put your phone on lock so they can't exit the app? Everyte we FaceTime daddy, my DS manages to exit FaceTime at least 10 times per call. Is there an iPhone app that you use?
One of the ladies in my other BMB showed a bunch of us how to do it. It is under:
Settings> General> Accessibility> LEARNING Guided Access> Guided Access <-- turn that on.
Then when you are in the app you want them to stay on, triple-click the home button. When you want to get out of it, triple-click again and you'll be asked to put in your passcode.
Aha!! You're an angel! Thank you so much for sharing this..I can't help but to lose my patience with the FaceTime call and just hang up! This makes me so happy!! Thanks again!
Argh I sorta hate you all with your 2000 and 3000 and 5000 square feet places. We live in a 1000 sq feet 2 bedroom condo, no outside space, no balcony and pay nearly $3k in mortgage every month. And prices in my area (just outside NYC) keep going higher. And we plan on staying with the second kid here and have them share a room because a) we can't afford to buy anything bigger in the area and b) i like my 15 min commute into NYC. So yeah, forgive me for not being very understanding to anyone complaining for space right now. And yes i know it depends where you live bla bla bla. I'm cranky today.
Knottie15445834 I felt the same way about ipads and technology before i had a kid. And honestly, sometimes, you need the Sesame street video for a bit of a distraction. Especially on planes. Or when you work from home and you need just bit of time to make a conference call. So I used to feel guilty about it, but now i don't. We monitor her use, she's 21 months old, and yep she knows how to swipe and find her own apps. But hey, we just spent 2 weeks on vacation, and she didn't once ask for it because we spent the entire time out and about and being active. So really, I am fine with it when used in moderation.
As far as space goes - another reason for you to move to Cyprus, maybe?
And I also agree on the phone/tablet issue. I don't give it to DD all the time, but you better believe we have her "favorite" youtube videos on standby if needed. Giggle Bellies to the rescue.
Anytime we take care of my Godson, we always take away the iPad. His parents give him their phones and iPad and have him watch TV constantly. I have him color, play with our dog or with toys. He needs that balance.
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I think being ok with your husband going to a strip club and getting lap dances is so odd. No, it has nothing to do with "trusting" him it has to do with respect. Likely, you wouldn't be alright with some woman climbing all over him at pool or restaurant but because he pays her and it's at strip club makes it ok? like, what?!
Eh. Would I beg my husband to run out to a strip club? No. Would I go nuts if he went with a guy friend once in a while? Nah. Strippers get paid to do what they do. A random girl out at a bar doesn't have any reason to be all over my husband. The stripper is just trying to make a living. Of the strippers I have known, they don't develop physical attachments to their customers. It's just a job.
All feminists probably hate me, but it is what it is.
this is my point. it's acceptable because she's paid? so money has to be exchanged or it's across the line. lol. i'm not talking the morals or ethics of strippers, I'm speaking of it in marriage. it's not my husbands job to fund the strippers. fwiw, i'm not "begging" my husband not to go because he doesn't understand why a dude would pay to have blue balls anyway and besides the fact that it's unacceptable to have a woman other than your wife grinding all over you. it's one of those socially acceptable things that just doesn't make sense to me.
We sold almost everything before we moved. And if we don't have room for something, we don't buy it.
I've always been a suburban girl, so it was a shock when we moved. But I've grown to like the coziness.
However, we're going to move somewhere bigger when our lease is up. But I'm so not ready to drop $1600 a month on a two bedroom apartment. #CaliLife
Girl, $1600 would get you a studio in SF area! I'd diiiieee for a 2 bedroom at $1600 right now but we pay that for our 1 bed. When we moved here we had to throw out our dining room furniture and TONS of other stuff and then we had to buy things to accommodate this space. It was awful and I cant wait to move again. In New Orleans we paid hundreds less for a huge 2 bed with extra rooms.
I was offered a job in the Bay Area and when I really dug into the cost of living, I couldn't do it! I love SF, though, so I'm still a little jealous of you.
It really is fascinating what's important to some people and not others. My parents loves their huge house in Ohio, but I love nice weather, so it's a sacrifice I'm willing to make.
Although, being from Louisiana originally, I'm bummed that my children won't be able to experience a little bit of the country lifestyle and big backyards I was accustomed to.
My UO: people are too sensitive. Wear your big girl panties and 90% of the "drama" on this board wouldn't even be drama.
This! Please ladies. Let's stop being so sensitive to everything. We would have almost no drama if we all just let other people have their opinion too. And not take offense to what people say on the Internet.
Unfair! I can't have my alcohol. I can't have my marijuana. Now I can't have my emotions! Wenches!
I thought I had found one of Jason Statham saying it, but it was Sylvester Stallone saying it to him So I found the J. Renner one. But here is J. Statham anyway and YWIA :x
I think being ok with your husband going to a strip club and getting lap dances is so odd. No, it has nothing to do with "trusting" him it has to do with respect. Likely, you wouldn't be alright with some woman climbing all over him at pool or restaurant but because he pays her and it's at strip club makes it ok? like, what?!
Eh. Would I beg my husband to run out to a strip club? No. Would I go nuts if he went with a guy friend once in a while? Nah. Strippers get paid to do what they do. A random girl out at a bar doesn't have any reason to be all over my husband. The stripper is just trying to make a living. Of the strippers I have known, they don't develop physical attachments to their customers. It's just a job.
All feminists probably hate me, but it is what it is.
this is my point. it's acceptable because she's paid? so money has to be exchanged or it's across the line. lol. i'm not talking the morals or ethics of strippers, I'm speaking of it in marriage. it's not my husbands job to fund the strippers. fwiw, i'm not "begging" my husband not to go because he doesn't understand why a dude would pay to have blue balls anyway and besides the fact that it's unacceptable to have a woman other than your wife grinding all over you. it's one of those socially acceptable things that just doesn't make sense to me.
It has nothing to do with her being paid. It has to do with it being her job. Maybe you see that as the same thing, I don't. It's just a personal preference. If my husband wants to go once in a while, it's just NBD to me. He actually doesn't go, but that's his choice. I wasn't speaking of the morals or ethics either. I didn't say you were begging either, it was my phrasing of saying I don't push him to go but don't care if he does. I'm not sure twisting my words or throwing in "lol" was the best debate on this, but I'll give you the benefit of the doubt that you didn't read what I said correctly.
Re: UO (June 4th)
I agree that if your husband is going to strip clubs all the time, that is not ok! But, if he goes to a strip club for one of his friend's bachelor parties, etc, I'm ok with that. Now, my husband really dislikes strip clubs. He actually called me complaining that he was at a strip club for his friend's bachelor party. I laughed at him
I think the more uo is not wanting your guy to watch porn. I have no problem with porn (which may be why I think it is the more unpopular opinion, because it's not my opinion
Yes to this all!!!
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Definitely San Fran, NYC and Boston are the worst!
Edit to take out my swear word
Considering there is a chemical reaction in our brains during orgasm, I can see its plausibility as an addiction, and would not be so quick to rule it out. I think the taboo nature of sex is what makes many unwilling to acknowledge this as an actual addiction.
Right now I'm feeling as though I need to clean out my closet, literally! There is no doubt that I have too much crap, but I want to donate it to the right places so that's why I keep it. Note to self, as soon as I can get out of bed please clean out closets.
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@redfallon so beautiful! DH and I really need to make a trip to the Austin area to visit my SIL. Hopefully I can see your backyard for myself one day! It is gorgeous!
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Aha!! You're an angel! Thank you so much for sharing this..I can't help but to lose my patience with the FaceTime call and just hang up! This makes me so happy!! Thanks again!
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I was offered a job in the Bay Area and when I really dug into the cost of living, I couldn't do it! I love SF, though, so I'm still a little jealous of you.
It really is fascinating what's important to some people and not others. My parents loves their huge house in Ohio, but I love nice weather, so it's a sacrifice I'm willing to make.
Although, being from Louisiana originally, I'm bummed that my children won't be able to experience a little bit of the country lifestyle and big backyards I was accustomed to.
oh and another just because...
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How could anybody hate gifs?! Don't get it.
RDJ is my "he is so cute and funny and doesnt hurt that he's gorgeous!"
Jason Statham is "O.M.G. Please don't ever wear shirts, even though you look pretty good in a suit, too."
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