Update on the visit from the in laws. Of course it thunderstormed as soon as they arrived so we couldn't even eat lunch on the deck. All squished into the living room/kitchen eating with plates on laps. Waited in tiny apartment for it to stop raining then went walking into town. It was so hazy and disgusting out you couldn't even see the water from the boardwalk. FI insisted on giving them the full length walking tour of the next town over despite it starting to rain so we had a miserable 2 mile walk in the freezing wind and rain..... Finally made it back to the apartment, damp, and the sun comes out. -_- hung around in tiny apartment awkwardly with one person standing at all times until dinner reservation at 5. Which was about the only nice part of the day. I felt so bad they came all the way here and couldn't even SEE the beach. But hey I did my part as Suzie Lunchmaker so I wash my hands of all blame.
I am currently frustrated with the fact that my husband doesn't cook...... Grew up on a farm and his mom made whatever they wanted whenever they wanted it. Now I'm really stressed out trying to get freezer meals made and get cleaning done before this baby comes and it would take a lot of pressure off if HE would just cook!!!!!! Ugh.
@klkonwi That stinks. I definitely do the laundry and cleaning but DH has been great about cooking and grocery shopping. It's been a huge relief. But he worked as a sous chef while in school, so it's something he enjoys. Want me to send a few meals your way?
I am currently frustrated with the fact that my husband doesn't cook...... Grew up on a farm and his mom made whatever they wanted whenever they wanted it. Now I'm really stressed out trying to get freezer meals made and get cleaning done before this baby comes and it would take a lot of pressure off if HE would just cook!!!!!! Ugh.
My DH can barely cook and has only recently started trying. I still have to help him and usually wind up cleaning up after. His mom does everything for his dad and sister. He asks every day when I'm leaving work, what's for supper? His sister is 21 and mom still does the laundry and cooks for her. She's getting married in September and I'm curious to see what she is able to do. MIL thinks she's doing some great service, but really she's just enabling them. I mentioned freezing meals and DH made some stupid comment about not wanting casseroles.
So my DH has been wanting to go fishing for the past few weeks, which I am completely fine with. I'm not fine with the fact he won't go if I don't go with him. Like I am 39 weeks pregnant why on earth would I want to sit on the dock along the river? So my c section is tomorrow morning, and he mentions to our DDs' that he wants to go fishing. I told him to drop me off and go with the girls. Do you know where I am sitting right now? In my damn car why they are sitting on the dock fishing! As if I don't have anything else to do, considering I will be in the hospital for 4 days starting tomorrow!
I am currently frustrated with the fact that my husband doesn't cook...... Grew up on a farm and his mom made whatever they wanted whenever they wanted it. Now I'm really stressed out trying to get freezer meals made and get cleaning done before this baby comes and it would take a lot of pressure off if HE would just cook!!!!!! Ugh.
my DH will only cook if i ask him to. he never offers. and whenever i ask what he wants for dinner he is the most unhelpful pain in the ass. "food" is always his answer. maybe ill just give him a plate of cat food. and a side of mushrooms. if he cooks? i clean up after it. if i cook? i still clean up after it..
and guess who still doesnt rinse his dishes even after telling him how many damn times.
I am currently frustrated with the fact that my husband doesn't cook...... Grew up on a farm and his mom made whatever they wanted whenever they wanted it. Now I'm really stressed out trying to get freezer meals made and get cleaning done before this baby comes and it would take a lot of pressure off if HE would just cook!!!!!! Ugh.
my DH will only cook if i ask him to. he never offers. and whenever i ask what he wants for dinner he is the most unhelpful pain in the ass. "food" is always his answer. maybe ill just give him a plate of cat food. and a side of mushrooms. if he cooks? i clean up after it. if i cook? i still clean up after it..
and guess who still doesnt rinse his dishes even after telling him how many damn times.
Mine is the same. I'm now on bed rest and so he is suppose to do stuff. He blew up about me using more than 1 cup a day that he would have to wash, because putting the cup straight in the dishwasher is so hard. I get lectured when I cook if I use more than one pan, which he ends up not cleaning anyway so why should I listen to the nagging? I also do the laundry but refuse to put his away so he gets baskets of clean clothes that he needs to put away it takes him weeks to do this. Takes 5 minutes but there is always 2-4 baskets of his clothes needing to be put away by him. I swear men are such babies, he also whines that the house is too cold. I'm growing a human which is twice the body heat put on some socks and a sweater and suck it up buttercup.
just laughed for 5 minutes over a meme. I wanted to share on here, so asked DH to screenshot it and send it to me.
DH: I told you, I can't take photos! My phone's full! me: You told me that last week! You're seriously about to have a newborn, and you can't take photos right now?! DH: I'll take care of it tomorrow, geez. me: Yeah! You will!! GEEZ!!
Idiot. Too bad he's pretty great, and I'm the one in our relationship who resembles most of the rants on here... oops. Post-partum goal: get DH a push present and be a better partner! ;-)
ETA: after the Push Present thread, I feel the need to add that I was most definitely just joking about buying my DH a push present.
I'm not one to normally post a gushy post but I have a major rave for DH-today after I got home from work I complained to DH that he never massaged my feet (they're not even swollen today) and he ended up massaging my feet, legs, and bump for over 20 minutes he even got out lotion to make my skin feel super smooth- then after all of this I found out that he did the mountain of dishes in the sink AND cleaned up after DD AND took the trash out! Normally I have to bug him to do these things and thence just keeps putting it off so I get annoyed and just end up doing it myself. I don't know what changed today but I'm glad it did and I hope it stays around for a while especially since my EDD is in 5 days!
DH cleaned our bathroom yesterday from toilet to floor to shower to mirror! I did have to ask first but he did it without complaining! I feel so much better having a clean space to pee in every 5 minutes \:D/
I am currently frustrated with the fact that my husband doesn't cook...... Grew up on a farm and his mom made whatever they wanted whenever they wanted it. Now I'm really stressed out trying to get freezer meals made and get cleaning done before this baby comes and it would take a lot of pressure off if HE would just cook!!!!!! Ugh.
My DH can barely cook and has only recently started trying. I still have to help him and usually wind up cleaning up after. His mom does everything for his dad and sister. He asks every day when I'm leaving work, what's for supper? His sister is 21 and mom still does the laundry and cooks for her. She's getting married in September and I'm curious to see what she is able to do. MIL thinks she's doing some great service, but really she's just enabling them. I mentioned freezing meals and DH made some stupid comment about not wanting casseroles.
Mines idea of cooking is pouring cereal and milk in a bowl. We will be living in takeout when LO comes.
So my DH has been wanting to go fishing for the past few weeks, which I am completely fine with. I'm not fine with the fact he won't go if I don't go with him. Like I am 39 weeks pregnant why on earth would I want to sit on the dock along the river? So my c section is tomorrow morning, and he mentions to our DDs' that he wants to go fishing. I told him to drop me off and go with the girls. Do you know where I am sitting right now? In my damn car why they are sitting on the dock fishing! As if I don't have anything else to do, considering I will be in the hospital for 4 days starting tomorrow!
That is truly bizarre behavior on your husband's part. Why would he want you to sit there doing nothing? Sorry for you!
I am currently frustrated with the fact that my husband doesn't cook...... Grew up on a farm and his mom made whatever they wanted whenever they wanted it. Now I'm really stressed out trying to get freezer meals made and get cleaning done before this baby comes and it would take a lot of pressure off if HE would just cook!!!!!! Ugh.
My DH can barely cook and has only recently started trying. I still have to help him and usually wind up cleaning up after. His mom does everything for his dad and sister. He asks every day when I'm leaving work, what's for supper? His sister is 21 and mom still does the laundry and cooks for her. She's getting married in September and I'm curious to see what she is able to do. MIL thinks she's doing some great service, but really she's just enabling them. I mentioned freezing meals and DH made some stupid comment about not wanting casseroles.
Sorry, but that is absurd. Casseroles are the most delicious foods all mixed up, which multiplies their deliciousness. If DH said he didn't want to eat the casseroles that I was making and freezing in advance, I would say, "good, because you clearly wouldn't even appreciate them. I will be eating them all myself, and you can make whatever you want for yourself!" But actually, my husband will be cooking after baby's born if I need him to. He's quite competent, just not very creative. He'll generally cook what I suggest, though, so it works out well.
I do have a rave. Even though he's worthless at cooking and most cleaning.... He did take out all the screens and wash them and washed all the windows inside and out of the house! Grubby job.
So yesterday, DH kept complaining about how tired he was. Totally legitimate, because he didn't get to sleep until around 4AM and we were both up by 730 so he got like 3.5 hours of sleep and we didn't go to bed last night until 9PM. HOWEVER, I didn't go to sleep until 530AM, also woke up at 730 and didn't get to sleep again until 9 because all my attempts to were interrupted by nurses, baby, or visitors, AND I had just pushed out a baby that morning. So I wanted to slap him every time he whined about his exhaustion.
He's lucky he's so darn adorable with our baby. He's absolutely obsessed with her
I am currently frustrated with the fact that my husband doesn't cook...... Grew up on a farm and his mom made whatever they wanted whenever they wanted it. Now I'm really stressed out trying to get freezer meals made and get cleaning done before this baby comes and it would take a lot of pressure off if HE would just cook!!!!!! Ugh.
My DH can barely cook and has only recently started trying. I still have to help him and usually wind up cleaning up after. His mom does everything for his dad and sister. He asks every day when I'm leaving work, what's for supper? His sister is 21 and mom still does the laundry and cooks for her. She's getting married in September and I'm curious to see what she is able to do. MIL thinks she's doing some great service, but really she's just enabling them. I mentioned freezing meals and DH made some stupid comment about not wanting casseroles.
Sorry, but that is absurd. Casseroles are the most delicious foods all mixed up, which multiplies their deliciousness. If DH said he didn't want to eat the casseroles that I was making and freezing in advance, I would say, "good, because you clearly wouldn't even appreciate them. I will be eating them all myself, and you can make whatever you want for yourself!" But actually, my husband will be cooking after baby's born if I need him to. He's quite competent, just not very creative. He'll generally cook what I suggest, though, so it works out well.
Right? What kind of weirdo doesn't like casserole? He's been really great about picking stuff up from the store, but he's not very creative. Last night he got us frozen pizza and is making breakfast tonight. I'm tired of planning all the meals
DH put the window AC unit in our bedroom so we all (including the dog who panted most of the night before) could sleep better last night. He also ordered a vape pin so he can start his transition into quitting smoking for good. It's going to be so nice not to have to smell the smoke on him anymore.
DH made several comments to his mom about the size of my butt being much bigger now. Didn't need to hear it since I already feel huge so my pregnancy hormones got the best of me and I went silent. Later than night he spent 30 min giving my feet and legs a rub down though so maybe it's even...
I snapped at DH for eating my Jolly Rancher bites last night. "Our store doesn't regularly stock them, and they help when I can't eat anything else!!" I think I actually hissed at him.
@Westypet a couple of days ago I noticed my DH left the carton of eggs out overnight. I saw them still out when I went downstairs in the am. I'm tired of cleaning up after him so I left them there. I showered and was getting my lunch ready when I see them in the fridge. I lectured him about how you can't do that and that can make you sick and told him he had to throw them out. When he was late from work that night I called to see where he was. He said at the store buying eggs. He thought I was upset that he ruined the eggs so he was making sure to get more ( he must have felt bad by he never does this). I thought it was a very sweet gesture but had to reinforced that I was just concerned about all of us getting sick from eating bad eggs and how when something sits out overnight you cannot just put it back.
DH is totally on my shit list today. Im irritated but don't want to bash him so I will say nothing negative at all. On a brighter note he has managed to make my last few appointments and is excited for lo to make her grand arrival!
Rave- when I came home from my chiropractor appointment this morning FI had a sly smile on his face and said do you notice anything different? So I looked around and realized he had gotten rid of his xbox!!! Playing was like an every morning and night thing for him and I never even asked him to get rid of it but I think he could tell it annoyed me sometimes. He said it was a distraction he didn't need and he'd rather spend that time with me and baby. Dawwwwww :x
Rave- when I came home from my chiropractor appointment this morning FI had a sly smile on his face and said do you notice anything different? So I looked around and realized he had gotten rid of his xbox!!! Playing was like an every morning and night thing for him and I never even asked him to get rid of it but I think he could tell it annoyed me sometimes. He said it was a distraction he didn't need and he'd rather spend that time with me and baby. Dawwwwww :x
Sounds like what my husband would say word for word!! He does that for week long trips...here's my underwear socks and t shirts. .. I'm just gonna throw a pair of swim shorts of his in my trunk and call him set for the birth center.
Oh goodness... husband nearly had a breakdown today begging me to get an epidural during labor. I'm not necessarily opposed to one, but I've been saying all along that I'd just like to see if I can labor unmedicated and not jump to any interventions unless there's a reason. (Exhaustion from a super long labor, back labor, inability to cope with the pain, etc. Also, currently I feel more afraid of a large needle in my spine than I am of labor pains. I fully expect that may change in the midst of it!)
He really is wonderful in so many ways, but I'm seriously concerned about him having to watch me be in pain. Kind of wishing we were back a few decades when it was the norm for dads to wait to outside the delivery room until the baby arrived! I think he'll muster up the courage and support for my decision (whatever that may be) when the moment comes, but if not... I may have to kick him out of the room for a bit.
I got some tennis balls for massage during labor. Last night my back was sore, so I stretched into child's pose and asked DH to use a tennis ball. "Please just go up and down, on the right side of my spine, lower back."
Every relationship, no matter how good, has its classic struggles. Ours is power. DH decides circular movement around my whole back is better. So we sit there arguing, when really I just need him to move a little ball up and down a six-inch section of my back. How would he think he knows better than I do what would feel good?!
My hospital has rooms off the labor rooms, with a couch and TV. DH keeps joking about "going into my chill out room" while I labor. He finds it hilarious, and I do NOT. But now I am thinking Plan B may be to banish him to the room so I can be the one to chill out!
DH has been great! He is nesting for sure in his own way. He built a fence, patched our roof, reseeded the yard, planted a garden (one day he came home and said "I bought myself a present - 48 bulbs!"), built shelving in our closets, fixed a drainage problem in our driveway and solved the squirrel infestation in our attic in a humane way (yeah that was happening - he got them all out alive "because they were babies!")! The best thing: he tells me I'm a beautiful pregnant lady every day. I'm in love
DH had finally had enough of being under paid and overused at work. He let his boss have it...all of it, yesterday and came out feeling validated and scheduled for a review on Friday. He has multiple job offers as a back up in case things don't go well on Friday. So proud of him for standing up for himself and showing his value. ❤️
DH is being so amazing. I could not ask for better! But he is taking his duties very seriously and thinks he knows best .... If I hear "you need to get some sleep while baby sleeps" or "don't pressure yourself if breastfeeding isn't working" one more time.... Is it wrong that his being so nice/attentive is driving me bonkers? Let momma play on the Internet for 5 minutes so I feel NORMAL for once this week!
Lastly, and this is kinda funny, but when my water broke and I was instructed to hang out at home for 6 hours, he took a nap. A goddamn nap. Like,I know there wasn't anything we could do about labor showing up, but I certainly could not sleep!
I told DH that sex is supposed to trigger labor, so we stopped last week to wait for insurance to switchover Monday. On Monday I mentioned it again, saying semen is supposedly helpful for triggering labor. Suddenly he wouldn't touch me.
We tried having sex yesterday, but he was clearly freaked and couldn't finish. It came out he thought my water would break on him the moment semen met my virginia. LOL
So today he woke up determined, and we did it twice in a row before getting out of bed. (Woot woot!) Then he brought me coffee and said, "Yeah. The semen thing is a lie."
Me: It's been 5 minutes, I don't think it works that way. DH: I don't think it works at all. It's one of those wives things.
@virginiaunicorn11 my DH wants the little guy to come out so he's been staying up until I get home from work (he works night shift so we're on different schedules) so we can have sex. Every time after we're done he asks if I can feel baby moving do I feel any contractions etc. I told him it's not instantaneous and every time he comes home in the morning he seems disappointed when I tell him that no I didn't experience any contractions over night. I have my dr appt this afternoon so I'll see if I'm any more dilated than last week but damn he really had his hopes up haha
We were watching TV last night and that commercial came on - I forget the company but it aired during the Superbowl originally. The commercial is the guy and it shows him going thru life with his daughter, she's small and crying, then later she's like 15 and waiting out in the rain and upset and he's picking her up (it looks a bit like a date gone wrong) and then later they are in the car together and she is a young woman and he is dropping her at the airport and it looks like she is joining the army cause she meets some guys in fatigues. That commercial? Well, it comes on, and hubs gets all teary eyed, gives a sniffle, and sneaks a look at me. I pretended I didn't notice cause I was reading. I honestly didn't know what I would have said. It was real sweet, tho
Cried today. Yesterday was my anniversary and DH said "bad news there will be no push present or birthday present for you (June is a very busy month for us). I was so confused and then he pulled out a VERY nice watch. It is so beautiful and I so don't deserve it and I cried some more. I'm a lucky girl! No if only I could get this baby out!
DH rave I really wanted pancakes this morning and my DH does not cook as I've said before. He went to the store, bought mix to make me some! After his 5th very burnt pancake and hearing his frustration I jumped in and showed him how to make a pancake. Now he's all learned up...... (Totally correct sentence?!) I love that he made me pancakes! Very sweet
My DH has been great, especially since we got home from the hospital. He's made me dinner both nights and cleaned up from them and today he took DD and dropped my pain med prescriptions off and did grocery shopping so I could stay at home and take a nap. The biggest thing that really made me heart swell was today when I had a major meltdown. When I woke up from aforementioned nap, I randomly realized that I had forgotten to grab the card from the end of the bassinet at the hospital that has baby name, birth time, weight, etc. I saw it and was going to grab it but then in the craziness of getting discharged I totally forgot to grab it. When I realized this I started crying and was basically inconsolable. DH encouraged me to call L&D to see if they still had it or could write out another one. When I calmed down enough I called the hospital and they said I could come tomorrow to pick up another one. So tomorrow DH is driving me 30 mins to the hospital so I can pick up another card. He calmed me down and was so supportive even though I was freaking out. Things like this remind me why I married him :x
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So my c section is tomorrow morning, and he mentions to our DDs' that he wants to go fishing. I told him to drop me off and go with the girls. Do you know where I am sitting right now? In my damn car why they are sitting on the dock fishing! As if I don't have anything else to do, considering I will be in the hospital for 4 days starting tomorrow!
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if he cooks? i clean up after it. if i cook? i still clean up after it..
and guess who still doesnt rinse his dishes even after telling him how many damn times.
i should have gone for girls :-w
DH: I told you, I can't take photos! My phone's full!
me: You told me that last week! You're seriously about to have a newborn, and you can't take photos right now?!
DH: I'll take care of it tomorrow, geez.
me: Yeah! You will!! GEEZ!!
Idiot. Too bad he's pretty great, and I'm the one in our relationship who resembles most of the rants on here... oops. Post-partum goal: get DH a push present and be a better partner! ;-)
ETA: after the Push Present thread, I feel the need to add that I was most definitely just joking about buying my DH a push present.
He's lucky he's so darn adorable with our baby. He's absolutely obsessed with her
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He really is wonderful in so many ways, but I'm seriously concerned about him having to watch me be in pain. Kind of wishing we were back a few decades when it was the norm for dads to wait to outside the delivery room until the baby arrived! I think he'll muster up the courage and support for my decision (whatever that may be) when the moment comes, but if not... I may have to kick him out of the room for a bit.
Every relationship, no matter how good, has its classic struggles. Ours is power. DH decides circular movement around my whole back is better. So we sit there arguing, when really I just need him to move a little ball up and down a six-inch section of my back. How would he think he knows better than I do what would feel good?!
My hospital has rooms off the labor rooms, with a couch and TV. DH keeps joking about "going into my chill out room" while I labor. He finds it hilarious, and I do NOT. But now I am thinking Plan B may be to banish him to the room so I can be the one to chill out!
@virginiaunicorn11 - Put the tennis ball in quadrant 4, please! THANK YOU, good sir.
Lastly, and this is kinda funny, but when my water broke and I was instructed to hang out at home for 6 hours, he took a nap. A goddamn nap. Like,I know there wasn't anything we could do about labor showing up, but I certainly could not sleep!
I told DH that sex is supposed to trigger labor, so we stopped last week to wait for insurance to switchover Monday. On Monday I mentioned it again, saying semen is supposedly helpful for triggering labor. Suddenly he wouldn't touch me.
We tried having sex yesterday, but he was clearly freaked and couldn't finish. It came out he thought my water would break on him the moment semen met my virginia. LOL
So today he woke up determined, and we did it twice in a row before getting out of bed. (Woot woot!) Then he brought me coffee and said, "Yeah. The semen thing is a lie."
Me: It's been 5 minutes, I don't think it works that way.
DH: I don't think it works at all. It's one of those wives things.
I really wanted pancakes this morning and my DH does not cook as I've said before.
He went to the store, bought mix to make me some!
After his 5th very burnt pancake and hearing his frustration I jumped in and showed him how to make a pancake. Now he's all learned up...... (Totally correct sentence?!)
I love that he made me pancakes!
Very sweet