Please Use The Search Function

Ken122014 · May 2015

Or validation? You're right, searching is hard!

I searched "gif hard" and that came up... Not what I was looking for... By I'll take it! Lol!

Ken122014 · May 2015

I was looking for this

BostonBaby1 · May 2015

BabyCarlbaugh said:
This is becoming dumb...I don't think I will use the board/community very much...and sometimes the search tool doesn't really work...see yah!

BabyCarlbaugh · May 2015

Well the point was the app is for a bunch of hormonal house wives with nothing better to do than put down others and say use the search function. Too much drama.

CMDD · May 2015

Wait what?! Where is this rudeness coming from?

BabyOnBoard1215 · May 2015

CMDD · May 2015

marisatolisano · May 2015

My only problem is.....I don't know how to make gifs... Someone teach me Please!!!

CMDD · May 2015

@marisatolisano someone made a post for it that explains really well. I think it's ok the first page right now called "how to make gifs"

BostonBaby1 · May 2015

marisatolisano said:
My only problem is.....I don't know how to make gifs... Someone teach me Please!!!

Try the search button... JUST KIDDING SWEETHEART! Definitely learn how to gif. I'm not sure who posted it but @RedFallon posted the formula for doing it on the How To Gif post. I had no idea until then. Are you mobile? Because if so, you need to put in "s on each side of the links.

mmichhelle1215 · May 2015

yl1m32015 · May 2015

BostonBaby1 · May 2015

BabyCarlbaugh said:
Well the point was the app is for a bunch of hormonal house wives with nothing better to do than put down others and say use the search function. Too much drama.

Yep... We are all just a bunch of hormonal housewives with nothing else to do but answer the same questions again and again and again…

kmac103 · May 2015

BabyCarlbaugh said:
Well the point was the app is for a bunch of hormonal house wives with nothing better to do than put down others and say use the search function. Too much drama.

Omg that hostility came out of nowhere!

I read an entire discussion on VACCINATIONS where no one put down anyone.. If that doesn't disprove the "houswives" statement then I don't know what will!

Ken122014 · May 2015

BabyCarlbaugh said:
Well the point was the app is for a bunch of hormonal house wives with nothing better to do than put down others and say use the search function. Too much drama.

I don't think many of us, especially on this thread, are housewives anyways. And for those who are- more power to ya! I can't imagine running after a toddler with how awful I feel right now! Haha

marisatolisano · May 2015

Hahahaha @BostonBaby1 I can even find a tutorial on gifs in search ?! Should have thought of that loolol. I'll Figure this out!!

marisatolisano · May 2015

Fail . Lol I'll try tomorrow

BostonBaby1 · May 2015

marisatolisano said:
Fail . Lol I'll try tomorrow

You need to find a file that ends in .gif but I think that may be your only problem… You can try the website giphy.com and they are all.gif ... When you pick hidden image that you like, press and hold on it and then click the copy button. And you insert the link as you did and I think it will work :-)

BostonBaby1 · May 2015

marisatolisano said:
Hahahaha @BostonBaby1 I can even find a tutorial on gifs in search ?! Should have thought of that loolol. I'll Figure this out!!

I just bumped up the thread to the front page… Hopefully that will help.

nik6499 · May 2015

BabyCarlbaugh said:
Well the point was the app is for a bunch of hormonal house wives with nothing better to do than put down others and say use the search function. Too much drama.

Housewives? Um dude seriously. I have 4 degrees, work full time, run a non profit and am working on another graduate degree, I'm not sure I'm the one who is dumb in this equation nor have I ever put anyone down. Just because we like to chat with other women doesn't make us bored, and those that are housewives are not freaking bored. We are all here having a good time enjoying each other's intelligence and humor. Evidently you think you are better than we are. I beg to differ. But ok, wow me with your prowess.......

enigmaanjel · May 2015

nik6499 said:

BabyCarlbaugh said:
Well the point was the app is for a bunch of hormonal house wives with nothing better to do than put down others and say use the search function. Too much drama.
Housewives? Um dude seriously. I have 4 degrees, work full time, run a non profit and am working on another graduate degree, I'm not sure I'm the one who is dumb in this equation nor have I ever put anyone down. Just because we like to chat with other women doesn't make us bored, and those that are housewives are not freaking bored. We are all here having a good time enjoying each other's intelligence and humor. Evidently you think you are better than we are. I beg to differ. But ok, wow me with your prowess.......

I heart you.

BlueWaffleSpeshul · May 2015

nik6499 said:

BabyCarlbaugh said:
This is becoming dumb...I don't think I will use the board/community very much...and sometimes the search tool doesn't really work...see yah!
And the point of this post was to what?

ETA: Not a gif, but still appropriate.

dschmalz · May 2015

It's easier to post something when it comes to mind. It's a support group and if you have a question, post it. If you've seen it a lot and spend a lot of time on here, not all of us do, and are tired of the same questions then move on. There is no rule and it's silly to scroll back so many pages. I posted something the other day, since this is my first pregnancy, and I was told not to post something that's already been asked. That made me less likely to post again. If you have a question, ask it. If you have an answer, answer it. If you're tired of seeing it, ignore it. Simple as that

nik6499 · May 2015

BlueWaffleSpeshul · May 2015

dschmalz said:
It's easier to post something when it comes to mind. It's a support group and if you have a question, post it. If you've seen it a lot and spend a lot of time on here, not all of us do, and are tired of the same questions then move on. There is no rule and it's silly to scroll back so many pages. I posted something the other day, since this is my first pregnancy, and I was told not to post something that's already been asked. That made me less likely to post again. If you have a question, ask it. If you have an answer, answer it. If you're tired of seeing it, ignore it. Simple as that

*sigh*

No. No it isn't. It's a community forum where any and all comments, whether supportive or not, can be posted. It is a website designed to gain revenue for the XO Group. It's not Google, and that is why it is suggested that you do some research before posting a question. TOU even encourages you to use the search function. You can certainly receive support here, but only by becoming part of a community and not using people as an internet search engine. I still talk to many of the women from my BMB long after we had our babies, but we didn't develop those relationships by asking each other if we were showing, each in a separate post.

You said yourself it's silly to scroll back pages, so what happens when there are umpteen am I showing threads on the first page and someone looking for support for their loss gets pushed? That person never gets the answers or support they needed because everyone thought it was silly to go past page one.

BostonBaby1 · May 2015

dschmalz said:
It's easier to post something when it comes to mind. It's a support group and if you have a question, post it. If you've seen it a lot and spend a lot of time on here, not all of us do, and are tired of the same questions then move on. There is no rule and it's silly to scroll back so many pages. I posted something the other day, since this is my first pregnancy, and I was told not to post something that's already been asked. That made me less likely to post again. If you have a question, ask it. If you have an answer, answer it. If you're tired of seeing it, ignore it. Simple as that

I completely understand what your point is, and I see where you're coming from. But what you said actually is the crux of what the point of this post was. Which is that you have to scroll so far back to find something you are looking for. When people post repeat threads, it pushes other ones back so far that they get no attention. This makes it difficult and frustrating for everybody. In terms of making a post in order to get support, nobody here has said that that should not be done. But if somebody is posting asking if something like cramping or spotting or nausea is normal, there are 1000 other threads that explain in detail that it is. if you want to know remedies for morning sickness, there is no need to have 50 threads on it. It will be more helpful to everybody if it was one or two and we could look through them and see the answers.

Apparently, contrary to popular belief, this is not a support group. This is an online community for women that are either trying to conceive, pregnant, raising children or a combination of the above. Despite that, it is a wonderful place to get support. If you look through the posts for losses and introductions you will see that most of the women that believe in using the search function are amongst the first to offer support. Many have answered the same questions again and again and again. They have continued to do so, and I don't think that is rude to suggest that one uses the search function in order to get a much broader spectrum of answers for the question that the poster is asking. It is simply trying to direct the poster to further information than what can possibly be posted by one member.

I would hope that everybody on here wants this to be a better community and hopefully we can all agree on a way to do that. It just makes it a much more effective and streamlined resource if the same posts are not being repeated time and again.

yl1m32015 · May 2015

I really can't believe we still have to explain and defend ourselves....like read the freaking thread. We've explained 20 times WHY it's respectful and important to search the board.

BostonBaby1 · May 2015

Embuzz247 said:
I really can't believe we still have to explain and defend ourselves....like read the freaking thread. We've explained 20 times WHY it's respectful and important to search the board.

BostonBaby1 · May 2015

I feel like perhaps my sarcasm does not come off well enough in the last post… So I will try again

Posting repeat threads please!!!

BabyOnBoard1215 · May 2015

dschmalz · May 2015

So disrespectful and rude. I think Yall have too much time on your hands.

yl1m32015 · May 2015

VesperLove · May 2015

dschmalz said:
It's easier to post something when it comes to mind. It's a support group and if you have a question, post it. If you've seen it a lot and spend a lot of time on here, not all of us do, and are tired of the same questions then move on. There is no rule and it's silly to scroll back so many pages. I posted something the other day, since this is my first pregnancy, and I was told not to post something that's already been asked. That made me less likely to post again. If you have a question, ask it. If you have an answer, answer it. If you're tired of seeing it, ignore it. Simple as that

That's a cool idea ... except not ... and here's why.

It's rude.

Plain and simple.

This board is a two way street ... it isn't a bunch of ladies sitting here waiting to give answers to any person who feels like driving by and dropping a thread. It's a community built on receiving AND GIVING support. For people who stick around long enough to read through a few threads, provide support, get to know people, they'll soon realize how the community works and how incredibly obnoxious repeat threads can be. They'll use the search function out of respect for the mass of people on here. They'll recognize that the time and effort has been put in to answer this question previously and it's rude to repost it and expect everything to answer it again.

But then there are those who jump on at random to post their drive by question, who really want it answered RIGHT NOW but without any snark or sarcasm and only with the responses they're truly hoping for, who don't feel the need to spend ANY time here to see how things work ... those people, in my humble opinion are being rude. You cannot expect to get effort from everyone else if you're not willing to put the same effort in first.

THAT is why we all would like the search function to be used. We all obviously recognize that there is no getting away from double posts completely. But if everyone would take a quick second to search, see if something else has been posted, and then post if they feel their question is still warranted, that at least shows some respect for the community being built here instead of making it all about them and their single question.

And, your logic is flawed ... we already are starting to just ignore double posts. They're dropping down the page super quickly because no one wants to answer them again and again. But then we get irritated people who don't get their question answered which opens a whole new can of worms. If people would just use the search function so much of the irritation would be gone. Simple as that. It's not a group of people on here trying to be all high and mighty. It's a group of people on here trying to be respectful and create a board that works for everyone ... which takes effort ... from everyone.

BostonBaby1 · May 2015

dschmalz said:
So disrespectful and rude. I think Yall have too much time on your hands.

You've got to be kidding me! Did you not read anything that was written to you? I don't have the extra time to be wasting trying to explain things to people that can't understand that people that have gone through a loss deserve to have their posts be on the top page. You are right though, that is extraordinarily disrespectful and rude!

yl1m32015 · May 2015

dschmalz said:
So disrespectful and rude. I think Yall have too much time on your hands.

No, I disagree. I think you're the one being rude and disrespectful. You clearly didn't care enough to read through our threads, posts and reasoning. If you had, you'd understand what repeat posts do to the board and how we've already had several members important posts get passed by because of it. I don't need to explain myself any more, I've already done that 20 times. If you'd like to understand the reasoning, feel free to try the search function.

VesperLove · May 2015

Embuzz247 said:
I really can't believe we still have to explain and defend ourselves....like read the freaking thread. We've explained 20 times WHY it's respectful and important to search the board.

I love me some Fat Amy.

BlueWaffleSpeshul · May 2015

dschmalz said:
So disrespectful and rude. I think Yall have too much time on your hands.

Show me where? I think my response was pretty tame compared to what I could have said.

BostonBaby1 · May 2015

BostonBaby1 · May 2015

@BlueWaffleSpeshul your response was very well written, extraordinarily clear and most of all written with the upmost respect.

Elisemenchies · May 2015

Man, people get so creative with those animated meme things... Just had to say..

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