Please Use The Search Function

yl1m32015

Hello December Birth Month Members!

Just a friendly reminder,

Before you post a question, please look around the board, even 2-3 pages back to see if your question has recently been answered.
If you haven't found your answer, please try using the search function, located at the bottom of your screen. Here you can enter keywords and search past threads in which you may find the information you are looking for.

Many of us are going through the same emotions, worries, and symptoms and have created several discussions about such. When we start several threads about the same topic, it busies up the board and makes it difficult for those who have a unique or new question to have it answered.

We are all excited to be here, to be pregnant and we all want to give the best possible advice and support that we can. Best of luck to everyone throughout your pregnancy journey         

 

revlaurawittman

Thank you

313Meg

Have I told you I may have a girl crush on you?

yl1m32015

313Meg said:

Have I told you I may have a girl crush on you?

Its mutual

revlaurawittman

Embuzz247 said:

313Meg said:

Have I told you I may have a girl crush on you?

Its mutual

Well now I'm jealous. I want to be in the girl crush club too

yl1m32015

You definitely are @revlaurawittman! No worries!

313Meg

@revlaurawittman you know I loooooove you deeply!

newmanmini

Omg!!!! How did you get this to be sticky?!?!?!?

Good job!! Bumpie of the year!!

AnnH74

Awesome job! Do you think this will work? :-/

fiorip

I totally understand your point but I think too much thought is being put on whether a question is being asked a few times, it honestly doesn't bother me.

This is supposed to be a support group, if I'm feeling aggravated and concern with something is somewhat of a hassle to have to go through the search when is much easier to simply ask, it's part of being on an active forum, even if it's the exact same problem someone else posted I want someone to answer me personally; if I wanted to read through someone else's answer I would just type it in on google and find old answers because most pregnant women usually have the same general issues.

revlaurawittman

fiorip said:

I totally understand your point but I think too much thought is being put on whether a question is being asked a few times, it honestly doesn't bother me.

This is supposed to be a support group, if I'm feeling aggravated and concern with something is somewhat of a hassle to have to go through the search when is much easier to simply ask, it's part of being on an active forum, even if it's the exact same problem someone else posted I want someone to answer me personally; if I wanted to read through someone else's answer I would just type it in on google and find old answers because most pregnant women usually have the same general issues.

That's the point. Why should someone answer the same question over and over when you can search and find your answer? This is not a support group, it's on online community for pregnant moms. We're here helping each other constantly. It's just a simple act of courtesy to read previous posts before you ask a question.

fiorip

@revlaurawittman I'm not trying to pick up a fight here I was just giving my honest opinion. It really doesn't bother me personally. If someone else's bother by it, just don't answer a question you previously answered.

A community is for support. As I said before, it's not the same experience to read a post with someone else's question and answers, you want a personal answer, you wanna feel people are talking to you, praying for you if something's wrong and spreading happy thoughts directly to you.

revlaurawittman

fiorip said:

@revlaurawittman I'm not trying to pick up a fight here I was just giving my honest opinion. It really doesn't bother me personally. If someone else's bother by it, just don't answer a question you previously answered.

A community is for support. As I said before, it's not the same experience to read a post with someone else's question and answers, you want a personal answer, you wanna feel people are talking to you, praying for you if something's wrong and spreading happy thoughts directly to you.

I'm all for someone posting and asking for prayers. That's kind of what I do for a living. That's an individual thing and I totally get that. We just don't need to have 15 posts asking if cramps are normal or when morning sickness happens.

My bigger problem with the multiple posts is that it implies people aren't really here to be a part of the community. They just post, get answers and then leave I think if you ask questions you should stick around and help too.

fiorip

@revlaurawittman totally agree, some people do just post and leave, which is not nice.

nik6499

I just want to chime in because evidently I have lost my know when to keep your trap shut filter today. I am not reading those repeated threads because I am tired of answering those questions. I know I'm not alone because I'm seeing them drop back pages with zero or minimal responses. How do I know this? Because I actually look back 3-4 pages to make sure I didn't miss posts that I want to reply to, make sure I didn't miss someone sharing a story they need support for or a loss. We all have cramps, many of us are spotting and yes it's totally normal after sex to spot, your cervix is highly vascularized and bumping it can cause spotting. I'm sorry you are not having symptoms and I bet LOTS of people would trade spaces with you, and some that are not would gladly take their symptoms. I'm sorry you don't feel pregnant and I'm super excited you are having twins. BUT there are several posts that have been responded to and by responding to them the people in those posts can share in your experience and perhaps you can support one another through the experience and engage all the others going through the same thing. When you repeat over and over just so you can be the only person being responded to I think you are missing the point of the group. We are here for so much more than those googleable questions, we are here to support each other through the excruciatingly slow progression of the first trimester and hopefully we will all be lucky enough to support each other for another 6 months after. I am not a doctor, damn near but beyond the point. I'm not here to offer you medical advice I want to engage the amazingly smart and funny women in here who fart as often as I do, feel ashamed when they consume half a pizza by themselves but enjoy every bite and who while they are terrified of not ending this journey with a baby, realize that there is so much more we can gain from one another than simply asking a question and never participating again. The search function allows you to find answers, find kindred pregnancy partners and prevents you from being one of those posters that all the regulars not so secretly avoid answering due to the fact that your interaction with the forum can be a little one sided. Rant over

yl1m32015

@nik6499 you are awesome

revlaurawittman

@nik6499 I can't say this enough today.

redfallon

@nik6499 said:

we are here to support each other through the excruciatingly slow progression of the first trimester and hopefully we will all be lucky enough to support each other for another 6 months after. 

I've known @313Meg and @revlaurawittman since we were pregnant with the S13 BMB. Now we are still friends, have kept in touch daily throughout all this time, and have become very, very close friends, and our S13 babies are close to 2 years old. I hope that some of us here on this D15 board will be lucky enough to have the same experience!

revlaurawittman

redfallon said:

@nik6499 said:

we are here to support each other through the excruciatingly slow progression of the first trimester and hopefully we will all be lucky enough to support each other for another 6 months after. 

I've known @313Meg and @revlaurawittman since we were pregnant with the S13 BMB. Now we are still friends, have kept in touch daily throughout all this time, and have become very, very close friends, and our S13 babies are close to 2 years old. I hope that some of us here on this D15 board will be lucky enough to have the same experience!

My goodness I love you. Xoxoxoxox

nik6499

alexandratb

Can I also just add that as a FTM and new bumpie, all these repeat posts are part of the reason I haven't posted much yet? I mean, yay you're having twins, I've never done this either so I have no idea what is normal but I DO know how to use google for symptom issues, and there are only so many times I can share my due date over and over.

I want to engage in interesting conversations with some like minded (baby minded?) ladies, but a lot of these posts just don't offer that. Just my 2 cents post THANKING for this sticky.

nik6499

@alexandratb can we be friends?

yl1m32015

alexandratb said:

Can I also just add that as a FTM and new bumpie, all these repeat posts are part of the reason I haven't posted much yet? I mean, yay you're having twins, I've never done this either so I have no idea what is normal but I DO know how to use google for symptom issues, and there are only so many times I can share my due date over and over.

I want to engage in interesting conversations with some like minded (baby minded?) ladies, but a lot of these posts just don't offer that. Just my 2 cents post THANKING for this sticky.

Yes!!!! I've had some ideas for fun conversations, even tried a few. But after an hour or two, they were already pushed back 4 pages to make room for the 100 "cramps" and "morning sickness" posts. So I kinda gave up. I'm hoping once it settles down and we get regulars we can have more getting to know each other posts and real discussions.

313Meg

alexandratb said:

Can I also just add that as a FTM and new bumpie, all these repeat posts are part of the reason I haven't posted much yet? I mean, yay you're having twins, I've never done this either so I have no idea what is normal but I DO know how to use google for symptom issues, and there are only so many times I can share my due date over and over.

I want to engage in interesting conversations with some like minded (baby minded?) ladies, but a lot of these posts just don't offer that. Just my 2 cents post THANKING for this sticky.

Hi yay! Like this 10x! stick around! We are fun!

alexandratb

nik6499 said:

@alexandratb can we be friends?

I escalated that quickly haha.

nik6499

Hehe

redfallon

I had to...

LauraSmarterSpam

please don't leave me behind!!!!!!!!

GalLaura

Yay!!! It's an announcement!!! Woohoo!!

Praying41

When I read a post like this when I first joined I was kinda offended but now after a few weeks on here I completely agree and understand the frustration of reading the same posts over and over again and not being able to find a post I'm interested in because it's 5 pages back an hour after I first read it.

amw2133

I'm totally new here first pregnancy and first time bumpie. I really appreciate this post. While I know every one has their issues and worries I'm getting kinda over the same repeated posts. Hopefully this will start a new trend.

Knottie88988989

I'm gonna go outside. Ya'll have fun here.

nik6499

@Embuzz247 I think we should run away together today filter is cracking

BostonBaby1

@Embuzz247 please "Bump" up your fun threads??? I'd love to play too!

I just love you guys!

CMDD

I believe this will work itself out as we get past the first few weeks and people get a little more comfortable with their pregnancies (if that makes any sense).

cards10

Sticky FTW!!!
(I wish there was a happy dance emoji)

Razberii

This post and these comments made me throw up in my mouth

redfallon

BTW using the search to look through posts is part of TOU as being considerate.

chiboo9

Using the search button takes too long. I can assure you my post is super duper special and different. I want answers now!

redfallon

My ramble:

One thing is that if there are a couple of the same topic on the first page, I overlook that. People can be writing the same thing at the same time and it posts that way, so there may not have been a previous post until they both posted. Or if it's something that's down on page 4, 5, 6, then maybe not, either. But if it's on page 2 or 3 and posted the same day, then maybe should have looked around a bit first. In reality, I don't like the Search function. I don't think it works that well. But I don't think it's that difficult or time-consuming to look through a couple of pages of posts to see if there is something that's already been posted that is what you are asking about. Going to Google and typing in your question and "thebump" works a little better, even if you get results from 2012.

The ones saying that they want to repost so they can get a personalized message instead of looking for someone's post who may have a very similar issue to yours, who do you think is answering your posts? There are a LOT of women here. Most are in the same boat, especially right now. It isn't really fair to expect to get a personalized response to fit only you when there are several others with the same concern. You may not think it's fair to have to look at another's post that is similar to yours, but I don't think it's fair to not do that. And you may learn something that you didn't know, and be able to provide support to someone else that is having a similar issue. If it's support you are looking for, then you also have to give some.

And if you can't find something after looking around a page or two, that's ok. At least try. Mention in your post that you looked around, but didn't see what you were looking for, and maybe a "Hey, I looked around, but didn't see anything that really fit the question I have. Sorry if this has already been answered, and if so, please direct me to where I can find that. In the meantime, here's my question:"

Also, the "I can post whatever I want, however I want, you don't have to read it" posts come off a little childish to me. Yes, you can post whatever you want and however you want, and so can everyone else. But it's not always/usually going to make you friends. There have always been those posts and always will be those posts, but no one has to like them, either. 

I just hope that we can all have a little courtesy. For the most part, this board is very courteous. It's worlds different from some of the stuff that happened on my previous BMB (and that one was tame compared to some others!), and I'm thankful for that. And expecting courtesy for yourself also includes providing courtesy to others.

nik6499

@redfallon I think you are wonderful and I really want to gif you, but I'm sure I will offend sensibilities if I do