@devyns2nd Once I'm done with my DH, I'll be over with my bat to take care if yours. And then, I'll be hitting up all those wonderful husbands bc they are getting on my nerves with their wonderfulness. Bitter, party of 1 right here.
This made me laugh! I love my DH (obviously I married him). Do I think he's great? Absolutely. Is he perfect? Hell no. Does he help me? Absolutely. Does he help as much as he could? Ummmm...no. There have been days I couldn't be more in love and days that I've wanted to move out. All the wonderful states of bliss were too much...can we get more rants going?!? LOL
ETA: I just read some rants. Feeling much better now
apparently my DH doesnt know what is upsetting me lately, despite constantly saying how ugly and bad about myself i feel.. thanks dear. glad to see you listen.
apparently my DH doesnt know what is upsetting me lately, despite constantly saying how ugly and bad about myself i feel.. thanks dear. glad to see you listen.
My husband is the same way! I agree with @klkonwi they think we are beautiful and they think what we are doing is an amazing thing! I try to keep that in mind.
My hubby had a bit of an upset tummy yesterday and (seriously) told me last night that he doesn't mind because now he understands what my contractions will feel like. Seriously, this is what I'm dealing with ladies!
There is a great video in Pop Sugar Moms that has a man volunteering to simulate labor as a present to his wife for Mother's Day. I highly suggest you have him watch it so he can have a better perspective.
Ugh my DH is soooo irritating.... I sm attempting to install the carseat and he come out and gets upset with me for not resting. I walk back into the house and less than a minute later he comes in and goes back to the room. The laziness is killing me! That's why I prefer to do things on my own!!!!
@BabyHarris15 I totally agree with you-DH is being super lazy right now. We had a really busy weekend looking at houses so I didn't get the normal stuff done over the weekend. I came home from work yesterday hoping he might have done a load of laundry or the mountain of dishes in the sink but I found that nothing had been done and the house was even more of a mess than when I had left in the morning. He works overnight so I don't begrudge him sleeping during the day but he was texting me almost all day while I was at work so I know he wasn't sleeping so why the hell couldn't he do the dishes or at least pick up a little?? I let him have it when I got home and he did end up apologizing eventually but guess who ended up doing all the work? >:P
Our changing table/dresser arrived yesterday while hubs was out at a meeting. I managed to slide it into the apartment and got started sorting the parts and unpacking it, but the plan was to wait until he got home to assemble. He was supposed to be home at 3, which came and went, and then he decides he's going to stay and hit balls at the driving range with one of his friends. So I slowly start the easy assembly thinking I'll just do what I can until he gets home. He took so long I ended up putting the thing together completely by myself and rearranging the nursery twice over before he got home. Then he was mad that I did all that by myself..... Hello, dear, if I waited for you to do it it would never get done and you would be grumpy!!! I think he felt bad because he ended up vacuuming for me last night.
I'm so happy with DH today. He always has issues telling his dad no when he wants to hang out or do something, but last night I overheard him on the phone with him telling him he was busy all weekend doing things around the house getting ready for baby and running errands. I asked him if his dad had asked him to do something and he told me his dad wanted him to go shooting and he told him he had too much to do. I'm so proud of him! He's been so helpful and sweet lately.
DH tries to help.... if I nag him enough, but just about every night he falls asleep and I am left exhausted taking care of our 2yr old. Even though I think I have told him every night for the past 2 months I work a full time job like him plus have a person growing inside of me. He still thinks he needs more sleep than me obviously...
Anybody else have an insanely picky DH? I'm so sick of dealing with picky eating! I make a menu every week and I always ask for input and I get nothing. Then when dinner is made I get "it's okay". Honestly, I'm so sick of this! I told DH that he needs to come up with the menu, and if it's empty than its eating out or fend for yourself. I know that I am a SAHM but it really makes me feel so unappreciated. I try to keep the house clean, our 4.5 twin boys happy and I'm also 8 months pregnant dealing with being antigen E positive and gestational diabetes...on top of being on a restrictive gluten free diet (celiac). I'm just tiredAnd need to vent!
apparently my DH doesnt know what is upsetting me lately, despite constantly saying how ugly and bad about myself i feel.. thanks dear. glad to see you listen.
Dh has been acting the same way.
-he asked me to dress nice to pick up DD s kindergarten packet. -he said I needed to paint my nails, or something -the worst was last night when I pointed out I had been growing hair on my belly and that I had shaved it. He felt it and said "eww don't shave your stomach"
umm excuse me I'm growing your baby and therefore it's your fault. He was mad that I was offeneded so I told him not to touch me and I rolled over. Ugh. Like they don't know we are emotional and self conscious about our changing bodies.
Anybody else have an insanely picky DH? I'm so sick of dealing with picky eating! I make a menu every week and I always ask for input and I get nothing. Then when dinner is made I get "it's okay". Honestly, I'm so sick of this! I told DH that he needs to come up with the menu, and if it's empty than its eating out or fend for yourself. I know that I am a SAHM but it really makes me feel so unappreciated. I try to keep the house clean, our 4.5 twin boys happy and I'm also 8 months pregnant dealing with being antigen E positive and gestational diabetes...on top of being on a restrictive gluten free diet (celiac). I'm just tiredAnd need to vent!
Just don't ask him any more! Make what you and the boys like, and don't worry about him. It sounds like he eats it, so he must at least think it's fine. It sounds like you really want him to care, and he just doesn't! It's hard to not get passive-aggressive about it, but maybe just try it that way for a week or two and see what happens .
DH just came up to me while i was standing up, put his hands on my belly and said "see compared to this your boobs look tiny!" uhh.. i dont think my 36F breasts look tiny compared to my stomach that sticks out maybe an inch farther than they do. he realized right away that that was a really stupid thing to say and then proceeded to lay down on the floor and pout like a child while i was just laughing.
I seriously want to Kill my fiancé right now. I had a doctors appointment this morning then had to go straight to work and I just got home. It's a little after midnight here. He got home at 430 and immediately got on his xbox. He also decided it was a good night to drink because I worked late. So I get home and he decides to get on me about chores around the house when he's literally been playing video games for 8 HOURS! All I want to do is go to sleep and he's telling me he's hungry and attempting to clean the kitchen angrily. Then when I tell him to just leave it and I'll do it tomorrow he storms into our bedroom and slams the door. Ahhhhhhhhh. He's a child when he drinks!
Let me start by saying that my husband is amazing. He works so hard and usually tries hard too. He give me an occasional foot rub when we're watching TV and when he is home (he works like 80 hours a week), he almost always will get up to get something for me if I need it.
That being said, I'm a FTM at 33 weeks and feel like I've been really good throughout pregnancy. No morning sickness (lucky me!), no mood swings, haven't cried about anything or had any breakdowns. I continue to clean the house by myself, do the dishes and all the house chores etc. He gets upset every time I lift anything (ex: laundry), yet when I ask him to do it he says he'll get it later and then never does... He just leaves laundry baskets all over the kitchen and doesn't take them up! This happens with evvvvvverything.
He wanted a list of things to get done on his days off every week. So I give him one every weeks and maybe 1 thing gets done off of it. There's a ladder, paint and brushes in the baby's room that I've been asking him to take to the basement for weeks. He took the ladder down yesterday but none of the other things. I don't know if he's just forgetful or if he just doesn't care but it's getting on my last nerve. I'll ask him 2 or 3 times to get things done (anymore than that and I feel like I'm wasting my breath) and then I just do them myself and he gets mad. Whatever, it needs to get done.
He was dead set on taking all these classes at the hospital and I didn't want to because his work usually gets in the way of everything. So I figured that we would sign up and pay, then all of a sudden I'd be going by myself because he'd get called in. I told him this and he said it would be fine, so I agreed to take them. He's already missed 2. The first was a 4 hour session with only 4 other couples and mine was the only spouse not there. I felt awkward because there was supposed to be spousal interaction.
Maybe because I've had such a good pregnancy, I'm getting that moodiness now lol. But I'm so over him not taking this seriously and half assing things.
***WARNING!!! This is disgusting!*** OMG! This morning when my DH was rushing down the stairs to leave for work (he has been sleeping in lately so he's always in a rush to get ready and leave on time arg) he said I'm so sorry but I have to leave now or I'll be late!! I asked why he was sorry. As he was grabbing the breakfast, coffee, and lunch I made for him he said I'm sorry because I clogged the toilet and when I tried to fix it it overflowed and now there's disgusting poop water all over the bathroom floor. He said sorry, but I have to leave now or I'll get stuck in traffic. So he just left the bathroom a gigantic poopy mess for me to clean up... REALLY!!??!? I just deep cleaned the bathroom yesterday!!! OMG I can't deal with this!!!
Omg my husband would be in soooo much trouble! Yours better be ready to spoil you tonight after that!
Ummm... I would probably kill my husband. He would be dead when he got home if he didn't have flowers and give me massages and do everything I wanted all night. Lol
@devyns2nd Once I'm done with my DH, I'll be over with my bat to take care if yours. And then, I'll be hitting up all those wonderful husbands bc they are getting on my nerves with their wonderfulness. Bitter, party of 1 right here.
This made me laugh! I love my DH (obviously I married him). Do I think he's great? Absolutely. Is he perfect? Hell no. Does he help me? Absolutely. Does he help as much as he could? Ummmm...no. There have been days I couldn't be more in love and days that I've wanted to move out. All the wonderful states of bliss were too much...can we get more rants going?!? LOL
ETA: I just read some rants. Feeling much better now
My D/H is so supportive and excited for our L/O to arrive, but still thinks it's weird I'm growing another human. Lol He likes to feel the kicks and such, but is so creeped out at the same time. It makes me laugh so hard :P
I was talking to DH on the phone (while chasing after my 3 y/o) and he was talking about how tired he is... I just stayed quiet... I mean I know he is a person too and he can be tired too but come on!
The bigger I get, the kinder he gets, which I think is a blessing, although he's super protective which can either be cute or notsocute.
I'm annoyed because he's in AFRICA until Wednesday. I'm camped out at my in-laws because he didn't want me by myself in a townhouse of stairs. He's right but, ugh, his work travel sucks!
Beware of the high potential for (read: inevitable) increased costs, complexity, and time to completion of this project. Recognize how delays and cost overruns on your bathroom project can (read: will) contribute to regular stress of daily life and increasing stress of impending birth. Consider that if something doesn't go exactly according to plan on your project (or, for the sake of expedience, you compromise on some aspect of it), that you might not have the use of all or part of that bathroom for a while, that you may need to shut off the water to your home for a while, that you hate all or part of the end result. And consider how any of these occurrences might affect your stress levels. Your baby is coming one way or the other, but you get to decide when you take on your bathroom project.
Sorry, I did not quite it, but this comment was intended as response to Frogger5's post
DH let me know last night when I got home that we had a hose leak behind our washer. It's no longer leaking but he's so irrationally scared of mold that he decided he "had" to tear out the drywall and replace it immediately. I.. Am not sure if most people would have done that. He's definitely an overprotective guy, which is good but like, do we really have time for this right now? To his credit, he said the same thing "I have so much else to do!" I think he's entering pre-baby panic mode. Poor DH!
Just saw the note that the raves are too much, and more rants are needed. I raved before, so will say that while my DH is pretty damn awesome, he's not perfect.
We discussed a lot before we got married that I am a person who enjoys living out of a suitcase, and my main goal in life is to travel and expose my kids to the world through travel. He is the fifth generation from our small Midwest hometown (I always wanted a second citizenship from marriage, but you can't help who you fall in love with!) DH tries hard, but he's terrible with change and anything outside normal routine.
This creates an almost constant state of natural tension in our relationship. That sounds way worse than it really is (seriously!), but it can easily boil over if we let it. We solve this by overly communicating our needs (usually) and by being overly positive and optimistic to keep ourselves in a good mental state.
All this said, DH was a total butt at the beginning of our trip this week. When he goes into meltdown mode and I try to be positive, he claims I am "dictating how he's allowed to feel." I find this incredibly unfair, and feel he just chooses to be mad.
Marriage is hard, but in the words of one of my favorite movies, "It's supposed to be hard. If it weren't hard, everyone would do it. It is the hard that makes it great."
What is it about men that when they 'clean the kitchen for you' after they are done you still have a sink full of dishes and useless crap all over the counters? Then, they (of course) don't empty the dishwasher, so you go to do it, and it takes 2 minutes (literally. I was waiting for my water in the microwave for tea, and I set it for two minutes, and I was pretty much done as the water was done). It takes 2 minutes cause its maybe half full, and had YOU done the dishes last, you probably could have fit 2/3 of the stuff still in the sink in the dishwasher along with what your man has put in the dishwasher. Master of dishwasher tetris, my man is NOT.
@mellymar I JUST bitched to my husband about this the other night. He said the dishwasher was full so he ran it...... Ummmm there's 5 items in here. No !
My husband is awesome but he is not perfect. I don't think anyone's husband is. My fav thing my husband does is hold my hand in church. My least favorite thing he does is make himself so busy and not pay attention to the fact that we haven't gone on a date in forever!
What is it about men that when they 'clean the kitchen for you' after they are done you still have a sink full of dishes and useless crap all over the counters? Then, they (of course) don't empty the dishwasher, so you go to do it, and it takes 2 minutes (literally. I was waiting for my water in the microwave for tea, and I set it for two minutes, and I was pretty much done as the water was done). It takes 2 minutes cause its maybe half full, and had YOU done the dishes last, you probably could have fit 2/3 of the stuff still in the sink in the dishwasher along with what your man has put in the dishwasher. Master of dishwasher tetris, my man is NOT.
Mine does this too. And last night he actually had the nerve to tell me I should be happy that he was "trying to be nice " because he cooked hamburger helper Thursday night and did his own laundry yesterday on his day off. Really? Nobody says it's nice when I cook, clean, or do laundry. That's called being an adult. He didn't clean up after he cooked and when I started doing it he said "I was going to do that". Yeah right. He was also supposed to cut the grass yesterday so that we could spend today running errands and working on the nursery, now we'll have to rush so he can get that done. Did I mention he's been saying he was going to cut the grass the past 2 weekends. He has Fridays off so I don't know why he can't seem to find the time
So I know this is petty, but I wish DH would tell me I look nice. I know I don't look as good as I usually do, but every day I put on nice clothes for work, hair, makeup, etc,and even still wear heels. Even on our last date night, I thought I looked pretty good but nothing. Even if it's a lie, just tell me I look good once in a while! I hate how I look and feel and getting dressed can bring me to tears. When I obviously put in effort, a little compliment would go along way.
I swear to everything holy I'm going to disconnect our satellite dish. On the day we have a million things to do he's camped out on the couch watching tv. Every time I ask a question or try to tell him something we need to do he either turns up the volume or rewinds the dvr to whatever "important" thing he missed
@Sammy K I bring up that I like to be told I look nice when I dress up and my DH always says," I did say you looked beautiful" ummmmm I didn't hear you...... Maybe they say it in their head and think it comes out of their mouth?
I worked 82 hours last week, so basically when I'm home all I've had time to do is sleep and I've actually made dinner most nights-which I consider a huge accomplishment. My husband must have been suicidal because he said to me while loading the dishwasher "You know you're allowed to do this too." I think he just had a brain fart because I work while he's asleep and at work too so he doesn't realize how much I'm actually not home...but I could've strangled him!
@Sammy K I bring up that I like to be told I look nice when I dress up and my DH always says," I did say you looked beautiful" ummmmm I didn't hear you...... Maybe they say it in their head and think it comes out of their mouth?
I worked 82 hours last week, so basically when I'm home all I've had time to do is sleep and I've actually made dinner most nights-which I consider a huge accomplishment. My husband must have been suicidal because he said to me while loading the dishwasher "You know you're allowed to do this too." I think he just had a brain fart because I work while he's asleep and at work too so he doesn't realize how much I'm actually not home...but I could've strangled him!
I would have shoved him in the dishwasher or possibly thrown dishes at him. Not cool at all.
Ok I asked for more rants but I'm going to rave. My husband got me the sweetest card for Mother's Day and a picture frame and picture album for the LO. I wasn't expecting anything.
Then today I was telling him about my work shower and almost cried because most people's moms come. My mom passed away 4 years ago this August and we were very close. I was saying how I regretted not inviting a family member because no one would be there for me (dumb and hormonal, I know). Anyway, he is going to come towards the end now to say hi and help us load up. Feeling lucky today!
After 2 rants, I need to give DH credit. He is sleeping in the guest room on a blowup mattress so I have the whole bed since between heartburn and my hips, I toss and turn all night. He also gave me a very nice Mother's day gift from DS and a separate one from the LO, which really meant a lot. I almost started crying, which even with the hormones is uncharacteristic of me.
I have another rant.... For Mother's Day my DH made me a nice big breakfast. But then after he decided it was fine to sit on the couch and leave a huge mess in the kitchen. I always make something for lunches for the week on Sunday. So I had to clean the kitchen before I could do so. Then he made lasagna for dinner plus an extra one for the freezer, which is awesome! However, he left the kitchen in an even bigger mess than he did at breakfast! I told him I expected him to do all of the dishes before he left for work on Monday morning. Guess what? The sink is still full of dishes from Sunday. I told him this morning that I never want him to cook for me on Mother's Day ever again. What's the point if I still have to clean?
I'm going to preface this by saying that I've been going back and forth about the epidural thing this whole pregnancy, and I'll probably continue to do so up until baby comes. But after this conversation with my husband, this morning I am bound and determined to try to go without one!
Last night at our prenatal class, the nurse was talking to us about epidurals and what's involved with them. DH leans over and whispers to me, "You'll be getting one of those. You're too fragile and delicate not to have one!" EXCUSE ME?! He realized pretty fast that this wasn't an ok thing to say and quickly added, "and beautiful!" But oh man. All I could do at the time was give him the dirtiest look I could and hiss, "Don't call me fragile and delicate!"
After the class he kept insisting that I'm fragile and delicate (men.are.so.stupid!!!!) and I'm now more determined than ever not to get one, only because I want to prove my lovely husband wrong. I still can't believe he thought that saying that was a good idea...
Re: DH/SO rants or raves? Put them here!
ETA: I just read some rants. Feeling much better now
https://www.popsugar.com/moms/Dad-Experiences-Labor-Pains-37420369
>:P
-he asked me to dress nice to pick up DD s kindergarten packet.
-he said I needed to paint my nails, or something
-the worst was last night when I pointed out I had been growing hair on my belly and that I had shaved it. He felt it and said "eww don't shave your stomach"
umm excuse me I'm growing your baby and therefore it's your fault. He was mad that I was offeneded so I told him not to touch me and I rolled over. Ugh. Like they don't know we are emotional and self conscious about our changing bodies.
And I can dress myself sir!
he realized right away that that was a really stupid thing to say and then proceeded to lay down on the floor and pout like a child while i was just laughing.
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CateOfChicago, I'm with you...
Let me start by saying that my husband is amazing. He works so hard and usually tries hard too. He give me an occasional foot rub when we're watching TV and when he is home (he works like 80 hours a week), he almost always will get up to get something for me if I need it.
That being said, I'm a FTM at 33 weeks and feel like I've been really good throughout pregnancy. No morning sickness (lucky me!), no mood swings, haven't cried about anything or had any breakdowns. I continue to clean the house by myself, do the dishes and all the house chores etc. He gets upset every time I lift anything (ex: laundry), yet when I ask him to do it he says he'll get it later and then never does... He just leaves laundry baskets all over the kitchen and doesn't take them up! This happens with evvvvvverything.
He wanted a list of things to get done on his days off every week. So I give him one every weeks and maybe 1 thing gets done off of it. There's a ladder, paint and brushes in the baby's room that I've been asking him to take to the basement for weeks. He took the ladder down yesterday but none of the other things. I don't know if he's just forgetful or if he just doesn't care but it's getting on my last nerve. I'll ask him 2 or 3 times to get things done (anymore than that and I feel like I'm wasting my breath) and then I just do them myself and he gets mad. Whatever, it needs to get done.
He was dead set on taking all these classes at the hospital and I didn't want to because his work usually gets in the way of everything. So I figured that we would sign up and pay, then all of a sudden I'd be going by myself because he'd get called in. I told him this and he said it would be fine, so I agreed to take them. He's already missed 2. The first was a 4 hour session with only 4 other couples and mine was the only spouse not there. I felt awkward because there was supposed to be spousal interaction.
Maybe because I've had such a good pregnancy, I'm getting that moodiness now lol. But I'm so over him not taking this seriously and half assing things.
I'm annoyed because he's in AFRICA until Wednesday. I'm camped out at my in-laws because he didn't want me by myself in a townhouse of stairs. He's right but, ugh, his work travel sucks!
Consider that if something doesn't go exactly according to plan on your project (or, for the sake of expedience, you compromise on some aspect of it), that you might not have the use of all or part of that bathroom for a while, that you may need to shut off the water to your home for a while, that you hate all or part of the end result. And consider how any of these occurrences might affect your stress levels. Your baby is coming one way or the other, but you get to decide when you take on your bathroom project.
Sorry, I did not quite it, but this comment was intended as response to Frogger5's post
We discussed a lot before we got married that I am a person who enjoys living out of a suitcase, and my main goal in life is to travel and expose my kids to the world through travel. He is the fifth generation from our small Midwest hometown (I always wanted a second citizenship from marriage, but you can't help who you fall in love with!) DH tries hard, but he's terrible with change and anything outside normal routine.
This creates an almost constant state of natural tension in our relationship. That sounds way worse than it really is (seriously!), but it can easily boil over if we let it. We solve this by overly communicating our needs (usually) and by being overly positive and optimistic to keep ourselves in a good mental state.
All this said, DH was a total butt at the beginning of our trip this week. When he goes into meltdown mode and I try to be positive, he claims I am "dictating how he's allowed to feel." I find this incredibly unfair, and feel he just chooses to be mad.
Marriage is hard, but in the words of one of my favorite movies, "It's supposed to be hard. If it weren't hard, everyone would do it. It is the hard that makes it great."
My husband is awesome but he is not perfect. I don't think anyone's husband is. My fav thing my husband does is hold my hand in church.
My least favorite thing he does is make himself so busy and not pay attention to the fact that we haven't gone on a date in forever!
Then today I was telling him about my work shower and almost cried because most people's moms come. My mom passed away 4 years ago this August and we were very close. I was saying how I regretted not inviting a family member because no one would be there for me (dumb and hormonal, I know). Anyway, he is going to come towards the end now to say hi and help us load up. Feeling lucky today!
Last night at our prenatal class, the nurse was talking to us about epidurals and what's involved with them. DH leans over and whispers to me, "You'll be getting one of those. You're too fragile and delicate not to have one!" EXCUSE ME?! He realized pretty fast that this wasn't an ok thing to say and quickly added, "and beautiful!" But oh man. All I could do at the time was give him the dirtiest look I could and hiss, "Don't call me fragile and delicate!"
After the class he kept insisting that I'm fragile and delicate (men.are.so.stupid!!!!) and I'm now more determined than ever not to get one, only because I want to prove my lovely husband wrong. I still can't believe he thought that saying that was a good idea...