UOs and Randoms

tinyhumantoe · December 2014

I wish I lived close to someone on here. We could do a ladies night

Too bad we are so far apart @redneckmomma25!

All I do lately is dream about the dry red wine and dark beer I'm going to have every night after the kids go to bed. 8-}

ETA I also dream about maternity leave, and what it would be like to get zero work phone calls for a month or so. I am slowly starting to realize that it will not happen that way.

tinyhumantoe · December 2014

I go to work sick. We all kind of have to at work. I think if you have a job where you can take off, you should, but sometimes I wonder how I'd even take a day off given how many I have to take off for one kid.

tinyhumantoe · December 2014

redneckmomma25 said:

Thanks guys. I know it's normal and something I need to go through. Just feel yucky.

How close are you to Oswego? I can't remember if it is you or @bper that is kind of in that area.

tyrannasaurusjess · December 2014

I will eat all of the peas... and the raisins! I am a vegetable hoarder-- I'm pretty sure it was the only way I made it through childhood. My dad was a 'you'll sit there until your plate is clean' kind of guy, but my mom was a bit softer so we generally made an agreement that if I ate a metric fuckton of vegetables, that would suffice.

I have never purposely sent Jasper to bed without anything, but it's happened. When he doesn't want dinner, I don't push the issue, and usually later on he says he's hungry. I either heat up his plate from dinner or he asks for cereal and I comply. There have been a few times though where he hasn't asked for anything, and at like 10 I'm thinking 'oh shit. He hasn't eaten since lunch, he is going to wake up starving!'. kids......

Briar is normally the biggest ball on sunshine, but lately she's been a real card. I'm hoping it's because of teething and not a general personality shift. I cannot handle more than one moody child.

redneckmomma25 · December 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

redneckmomma25 said:

Thanks guys. I know it's normal and something I need to go through. Just feel yucky.

How close are you to Oswego? I can't remember if it is you or @bper that is kind of in that area.

Bper would be a little closer but Oswego is probably 6 hours from.me?

I had such a vivid dream about a cold glass of white wine.

I just had a whole weekend to myself without G which was nice. Other than dinner and shopping I didn't do much.

MRoxy0628 · December 2014

MarisaKathleen said:

When you come to work and you're sick, I think you're an inconsiderate jerk.

The chick across the hall from me has the plague and finally got antibiotics yesterday. They're treating her for bronchitis/upper respiratory infection.

The broad who does our processing is on campus sitting in the lab near me and her and husband both have walking pnemonia and were put on antibiotics this morning.

WTF?! We work in education. We're not teachers. STAY HOME. Your job isn't that important.

I'm someone who will come to work sick. Not seriously sick, but with a cold or other mild illness. When I filled out my application for this district, they asked how many sick days you had taken in your past job. I've been very aware since starting my career that attendance is something that others pay attention to. All this to say, maybe she's on of those people who worries what people think if she's sick too often? I'm probably biased as I have a coworker (that I've now mentioned a zillion times) who is gone a lot.

melody921 · December 2014

hmp1 said:

Do you really think any of us are putting out a plate of liver and saying eat this or go to bed? While I am sure there are parents out there like that, and maybe you came from a family like that. I get the feeling everyone here that stated they don't make a second meal is giving options during the initial dinner and not swaying from those usually likable options.

I started this cluster of a topic, so I'll weigh in. Our meals always consist of multiple foods on the plate, and at least one thing is something they've seen/eaten before. My kids are generally good eaters, but what they love one day, they refuse the next, so I'm not about to play games every night. I make one meal. If it involves something I know they can't/won't eat, I do what @redneckmomma25 said and turn it into something similar, like a quesadilla. But if DD says "all done" after zero bites and DS starts asking for a cookie, the answer is "This is what's for dinner. You don't have to eat it all, but we don't complain."

Flamingemu · December 2014

jenndub said:

Does anyone actually like peas? I hate them. I also really hate raisins, which is very upsetting to some people.

My DD. She pops peas like normal people pop M&Ms. Weirdo.

melody921 · December 2014

MarisaKathleen said:

@tinyhumantoe, my DH suggested Stephanie, Jessica & Rachel when I was pregnant with Nancy. Apparently the 8 Stephanies we're friends with (not just aquaintences, actual friends) and the Jessica and Rachel who are close cousins of mine went right out of his mind. He only suggested names popular in 1981/82/83. It was ridiculous.

I love Florence.

Old people in my family were:
Zora, Audrey, Irene, Rita, Zandra, Helen

My Aunts are Rosalie (Rosie) and Geraldine (Geri) on my Dad's side and my Grandma's name was Coralyn. And yes, her Mother made that up, back in 1933. :-)

Here are some of my/DH's old relatives, as well as some much older women I know:

Geraldine

Louise

Frances

Irma (who actually began life as Ida, lol)

Patricia

Jeanne

Marie

Anabele

Harriet

Marguerite

Eleanor

Barbara

Esther

Renee

Stasi · December 2014

redneckmomma25 said:

I also feel like I'm losing my identity. Nothing makes me stand out anymore. My boss is a 33lb dictator. I do nothing fun anymore because everything I enjoyed doesn't involve kids. I feel like nothing about me is who I was. Nothing about me is fun anymore. Everything I was is no longer. I'm just a mom/wife/homemaker now. And non of those things are bad. I love that and that's what I want to be but I feel like I'm losing myself.

I know this is 50% hormones talking and 50% reality. This is my reality.

Sorry I'm so needy today!

Hugs. I feel the same way most days...all of that and plus the fact that I don't feel like I always do the best job at being a mom, wife, friend, etc...

I expressed these concerns to my DH because I felt like I was getting swept up in post-partum anxiety and he basically told me that regardless of our busy sechdule that we WILL find a way to carve out time every week for me to do something...anything...on my own. So whether that be a cooking class, an exercise class, or just going to Starbucks for 2 hours on Saturday afternoon to read a book. I'm back at work, so I feel like I'm gaining my identity back a bit (only to be replaced by other struggles and stresses).

I think it's important to speak up and demand time for yourself, or at least try to exhaust all your resources at hand to make it happen.

I hope it's gets better for you

Flamingemu · December 2014

IndigoVader said:

I'm shocked at how many people would send their child to bed without dinner instead of making a something else the kid will eat. I think they have either never had to go to bed without dinner or have forgotten how it feels. I understand the 'we don't negotiate dinner' and the 'I make something they will like with the meal', but what if they absolutely do not like anything you have made?
ETA: This may just be about being an older kid remembering how it was in my family.

I am one of the nothing else club. I have never sent her to bed without at least one item on her plate that she likes. I well remember going to bed hungry as a kid. It sucked. But you know what, I was always allowed to get up and eat the rest of the dinner I didn't eat. Same for L. I usually just cover it up and put it in the fridge. It is normally just a battle of wills and has nothing to do with the actual food.

melody921 · December 2014

MarisaKathleen said:

When you come to work and you're sick, I think you're an inconsiderate jerk.

The chick across the hall from me has the plague and finally got antibiotics yesterday. They're treating her for bronchitis/upper respiratory infection.

The broad who does our processing is on campus sitting in the lab near me and her and husband both have walking pnemonia and were put on antibiotics this morning.

WTF?! We work in education. We're not teachers. STAY HOME. Your job isn't that important.

I say this all the time. Around here, we either have people who come in with the plague, like the woman in a meeting this morning who shuffled her chair back from the table a bit like that would keep her germs at bay. Or we have people who call out if their eye twitches. So annoying on both ends of the spectrum.

tinyhumantoe · December 2014

I'm snickering a bit after peeking at my BMB's UO thread. I don't think anyone who already has kids can say *anything* to a first time expecting mom without them taking offense.

Oh, just wait until -
Oh, you think you'll do that, but -
I wish you luck with the lack of sleep
You'll never do __ again!

The UOs are that the parents are know-it-alls.......LOL...... having a kid did not make me a know it all, it made me realize I know nothing. And I think any of those comments are out of commiseration, or personal reflection of 'how the fuck did we make it through that, it was awful.' Or maybe just conversational awkwardness.

LOL @ the 'we planned for this baby and know exactly what to expect, we don't need your advice' - It's like looking at myself 2.5 years ago.

and now here I am with #2 on the way and I don't remember anything...I need ALL THE ADVICE

melody921 · December 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

I wish I lived close to someone on here. We could do a ladies night Too bad we are so far apart @redneckmomma25!

All I do lately is dream about the dry red wine and dark beer I'm going to have every night after the kids go to bed. 8-}

ETA I also dream about maternity leave, and what it would be like to get zero work phone calls for a month or so. I am slowly starting to realize that it will not happen that way.

@tinyhumantoe, they need to leave you the hell alone while you're on leave. It's illegal to bug you, and you owe them nothing during those weeks. STAND YOUR GROUND.

melody921 · December 2014

IndigoVader said:

melody921 said:
I started this cluster of a topic, so I'll weigh in. Our meals always consist of multiple foods on the plate, and at least one thing is something they've seen/eaten before. My kids are generally good eaters, but what they love one day, they refuse the next, so I'm not about to play games every night. I make one meal. If it involves something I know they can't/won't eat, I do what @redneckmomma25 said and turn it into something similar, like a quesadilla. But if DD says "all done" after zero bites and DS starts asking for a cookie, the answer is "This is what's for dinner. You don't have to eat it all, but we don't complain."

This is what I was confused about. Do you offer any thing later on if they say they are hungry? Like reheat the meal, or a banana?

They could definitely have the reheated meal, but they honestly never ask. DS will want to skip part of dinner and have a sweet right away. It's a ploy.

BPer · December 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

redneckmomma25 said:

Thanks guys. I know it's normal and something I need to go through. Just feel yucky.

How close are you to Oswego? I can't remember if it is you or @bper that is kind of in that area.

It's me!

hmp1 · December 2014

IndigoVader said:

melody921 said:
I started this cluster of a topic, so I'll weigh in. Our meals always consist of multiple foods on the plate, and at least one thing is something they've seen/eaten before. My kids are generally good eaters, but what they love one day, they refuse the next, so I'm not about to play games every night. I make one meal. If it involves something I know they can't/won't eat, I do what @redneckmomma25 said and turn it into something similar, like a quesadilla. But if DD says "all done" after zero bites and DS starts asking for a cookie, the answer is "This is what's for dinner. You don't have to eat it all, but we don't complain."

This is what I was confused about. Do you offer any thing later on if they say they are hungry? Like reheat the meal, or a banana?

I will jump in with my answer

I can't think of a time either kid has complained of being hungry after refusing to eat dinner. We eat fairly late and do bath and bed right after dinner. Perhaps being upstairs, out of sight out of mind? James is always trying to wheel and deal for a treat but that is not the same as him telling me he is hungry.

redneckmomma25 · December 2014

If dinner is at 5:30 and she doesn't eat, G may ask later for food. Most of the time she will eat what was offered earlier if she refused it before.

tinyhumantoe · December 2014

Cracker barrel gravy is not that great

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MRoxy0628 · December 2014

IndigoVader said:

tinyhumantoe said:

Cracker barrel gravy is not that great

Cracker Barrel cheesy potatoes, though.

I can't remember ever going to a Cracker Barrel before, but I think we're going there for my husband's birthday in a few weeks (his choice). We live by one now and I guess he always wanted to go there growing up and his parents never took him.

Flamingemu · December 2014

IndigoVader said:

Flamingemu said:
I am one of the nothing else club. I have never sent her to bed without at least one item on her plate that she likes. I well remember going to bed hungry as a kid. It sucked. But you know what, I was always allowed to get up and eat the rest of the dinner I didn't eat. Same for L. I usually just cover it up and put it in the fridge. It is normally just a battle of wills and has nothing to do with the actual food.

Yeah, I clarified later on what I meant. As in, if you know the child doesn't like anything on the plate or has developed a dislike recently-do you try to force them to bend to your will like my parents did.

________
I saw that, I was answering as I was reading. I am almost caught up...

hmp1 · December 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

Cracker barrel gravy is not that great

It's terrible

Flamingemu · December 2014

loislayn said:

Tessa will eat her entire dinner and then say she's hungry an hour later.

Lilly will too.

redneckmomma25 · December 2014

There have been times that G has refused her dinner a second time after she asked for food. I still didn't make her something else fully knowing that she will eat what I offered she just didn't want it that night.

hmp1 · December 2014

MRoxy0628 said:

IndigoVader said:

tinyhumantoe said:

Cracker barrel gravy is not that great

Cracker Barrel cheesy potatoes, though.

I can't remember ever going to a Cracker Barrel before, but I think we're going there for my husband's birthday in a few weeks (his choice). We live by one now and I guess he always wanted to go there growing up and his parents never took him.

It's our road trip place. The kids can roam around the toy section for a while. The food is usually quick and you can get breakfast all day! DH and I usually split the Momma's French Toast breakfast.

Flamingemu · December 2014

DH is out of town until tomorrow and I am really looking forward to his next trip. Seriously, this week has been so much easier without his crap.

I figured out why nothing gets done when he is home. I expect him to do a,b,&c. He expects to play on his phone all night. We have a discussion about his laziness. He gets pissed and goes on a cleaning bunge that very moment and for the next 3 or 4 days, and then goes back to doing the dishes twice a week and nothing else. Repeat cycle. It is so ridiculous.

Plus, L has been in a good mood all week and I know that as soon as DH comes home her mood will change. He picks the wrong (IMO) things to battle her over which involves a lot of shreiking on her end and me rolling my eyes and walking out of the room. Then he lets her get away with murder on something else that is actually important (safety issues). Blah.

pharmer78 · December 2014

Random: when I was putting up my ornaments this year, I got sooo excited when I saw my S12 exchange ornament! I love our group!!!

Flamingemu · December 2014

So much crap has been going down in the office lately, that I am sick of doing anything. I am so in the place of, 'ehh...I can do it tomorrow.' It is really going to suck when tomorrow finally catches up to me.

BeebopandBuddy · December 2014

Late, but I'll chime in. My kids rarely ask for anything else to eat after refusing dinner. If they do, I offer to reheat their meal. We ask them to try a bite of things. Literally, one bite. If I didn't, Maya would eat cheese or PB&J every single night. I did bend at the beginning, thinking it was a phase. She is nearly four years old and we still struggle with her eating daily. I don't see it changing anytime soon.

tinyhumantoe · December 2014

IndigoVader said:

hmp1 said:
I will jump in with my answer I can't think of a time either kid has complained of being hungry after refusing to eat dinner. We eat fairly late and do bath and bed right after dinner. Perhaps being upstairs, out of sight out of mind? James is always trying to wheel and deal for a treat but that is not the same as him telling me he is hungry.

Thank you! That was what I was looking for. If they AREN'T telling you they are hungry, ok, I get it. If they ARE telling you they are hungry that's what upsets me.

I may be missing something, but I didn't think anyone on here was saying they have a strict - if you don't eat it at the table, you starve for the night- policy. I think that was common for my generation and older growing up, but not really the style of anyone who hangs out on TB.

Flamingemu · December 2014

Another random: I found these girls botique dresses that are sometimes adorable, sometimes hideous. I am not a huge fan of the ruffle legged arms or legs on girls clothes, yet I keep finding these cute tunics that sell with the pants. (tangent) Anyway..

The woman who sells them has like 50K+ followers and only releases like 200 - 300 dresses a week. She can't make more without hiring more people. These suckers sell out in under a minute. I have tried for the last 2, just to see if I could get them and did.

Now I need to find an occasion for L to wear them or sell them. I could also sell them for a boatload more than I paid, but I don't want to be one of those people, though clearly the demand is there.

tinyhumantoe · December 2014

IndigoVader said:

I also know parents that send their kids to bed without dinner as a punishment, that upsets me beyond belief. There has to be a better punishment than that.

My parents did this. I guess there would still be parents these days that do this if that's what they were taught. I couldn't be friends with people who thought that way because I just wouldn't be able to relate to them.

MRoxy0628 · December 2014

This probably isn't an UO, but I think you're an idiot and uneducated (and I'm usually right) if you post articles about white people being shot/killed by police with no rioting as a reason why people shouldn't get upset about the Michael Brown or Eric Garner situations.

Flamingemu · December 2014

loislayn said:

IndigoVader said:

loislayn said:

Tessa will eat her entire dinner and then say she's hungry an hour later.

My guys too. I usually give them a light snack.

I can't believe how much she eats sometimes. Granted, she never stops moving so she probably burns a lot of calories, but still. Last night she had an entire grilled hamburger, a pear, a lettuce salad, and then 45 minutes later said she was hungry for salsa. So I gave her salsa, but damn girl!

I logged all of L's food into MFP a few weeks ago when we were having the sugar discussion. The girl ate nearly 1600 calories that day. I would guess she is normally closer to 1000 - 1200 range, but she can eat what a normal adult does.

She also outeats me at breakfast all the time.

tinyhumantoe · December 2014

IndigoVader said:

loislayn said:
I can't believe how much she eats sometimes. Granted, she never stops moving so she probably burns a lot of calories, but still. Last night she had an entire grilled hamburger, a pear, a lettuce salad, and then 45 minutes later said she was hungry for salsa. So I gave her salsa, but damn girl!

It is insane how much these guys eat.I wish I could eat like them and still be considered 'normal' for my weight. LOL

Winn eats 3 bites for dinner. If I did send her to bed without dinner, it would be business as usual LOL. Once in a great while she gorges. Pedi says it's normal to only get 2 meals a day out of her at this stage.

smb+jab · December 2014

as one who stands strong on not making separate meals for different people I will say that there is enough offered that either my husband or child will eat. Typically we eat things that they both like, maybe throwing in a new recipe every now and then.

MRoxy0628 · December 2014

IndigoVader said:

MRoxy0628 said:

This probably isn't an UO, but I think you're an idiot and uneducated (and I'm usually right) if you post articles about white people being shot/killed by police with no rioting as a reason why people shouldn't get upset about the Michael Brown or Eric Garner situations.

I don't think destruction and violence is ever the right path to take.

I'm not advocating destruction or violence AT ALL. I'm saying that there is a lot more behind why people are so upset about these deaths. The people who are posting these articles come across as saying white people are killed by police too, so why are you upset and I don't think it's comparable. Yes, police brutality against anyone is terrible, but African Americans are disproportionately the victims of police brutality.

MarisaKathleen · December 2014

I just had a meeting with a new person at work who's working on a grant with my manufacturing students.

We covered nothing of topic but instead talked all about blended families, how much cancer sucks, how kids that are assholes will grow up to be adult assholes, and how our commutes are terrible.

It's the most productive meeting I've had all week...

pharmer78 · December 2014

IndigoVader said:

MRoxy0628 said:

This probably isn't an UO, but I think you're an idiot and uneducated (and I'm usually right) if you post articles about white people being shot/killed by police with no rioting as a reason why people shouldn't get upset about the Michael Brown or Eric Garner situations.
I don't think destruction and violence is ever the right path to take.

Agreed, and I understand that there must be tremendous frustration and injustice felt, but I cannot come up with a valid reason to loot. I would genuinely love to hear one.

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