Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parentsβ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my bossβs most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, βOh, then Iβm totally at ease.β I was constantly named βEmployee of the Year,β with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorableβbig eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I canβt help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldnβt heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivationβ¦ And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, feversβ¦ I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this βdarkβ path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household choresβ¦
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration Iβve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change herβ¦
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And itβs not until evening that I remember, βOh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!β
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesnβt negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because Iβve walked this path myself, I wonβt just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a βcompanionβ here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What youβre going through, Iβve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing controlβIβve had them all. You donβt need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiencesβnot just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls Iβve stumbled into, the tears Iβve shed, and the βsurvival wisdomβ Iβve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Momβs Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a βmomβs toolkit,β filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those βgame-changerβ parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, Iβm applying all those skills to this new βpositionβ of Mom. I want to prove that a momβs value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightlyβperhaps even brighterβin this more complex, long-term βprojectβ of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, βSo itβs not just me.β Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Letβs walk it together.
Re: Hodor is dead :(
I am definitely starting to feel more urgency around getting things bought, ready, and organized. I have long shopping and to-do lists.Β
My baby is breech still at 34 weeks. My doctor asked me this past week if I wanted a c-section to look into my ovary and adhesion situation but it had nothing to do with the breech. I know a lot of babies flip like the day before they're born so I'm not worried yet. I still said no, I do not want a c-section unless it is medically necessary to save my or my child's life!
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Threesome involving 2 men- shit who HASN'T dated 2 guys at the same time?!?
Um... Christmas? What is that? Something I should be doing? Does the gift of a baby not count? Crap...
I'm guessing I should just Amazon some stuff together now along with my baby stuff and at least get free shipping.
Jk. Kinda.
We have a bit of our Christmas shopping done. DH's family decided to only get gifts for the kids this year and we have a couple things purchased for our nieces. We have a secret Santa for my family and I so far have knit a scarf for my sister (pattern for the scarf Luna Lovegood wore). We are mostly done for DD. Just want to pick up a couple couple more small things for her.
And while I was playing with dd I swear swear she said Hodor. I almost peed my pants laughing.
DS: birthday 12/17/14
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Thanks for the reassurance @riansmommie.
@leosmom25, I totally support every woman doing her own research and trying for the birth experience of her preference! For me, I'm not super opposed to RCS. I know that I would have to switch OBs if I wanted one that would consider a VBAC after 40 weeks or with a breech baby, and honestly, I really love my OB and would rather just stick with her even if she is more conservative and that might mean a RCS at 40 weeks or with a breech baby.Β
With a breech baby, one of my big concerns in hip dysplasia. My sister had a female breech baby who had to be in a harness and be closely observed for several months as an infant due to hip dysplasia. I know it's not a life-threatening condition so of course we'd just handle it as best we could, but it would also certainly be my preference not to have to deal with it at all if possible. KWIM?Β
Now to AW, I still have quite a bit to do but the boy's room is starting to look like a room!
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Also- I'm just going to leave this concern riiiight here because no one wants another weight post.
Umm I've only gained 10lbs this pregnancy. Sliiiiightly underweight to start with and baby is growing fine. My doctor says I just hit the genetic jackpot of pregnancy bc I'm growing a normal sized baby without gaining weight. (Please don't hate me). But I can't help being scared that she will be unhealthy or have an issue due to my lack of weight gain! Not complaining by any means. Just seems abnormal and a touch worrisome.
Pretty sure I never said I I was leaving or said a bad thing about this board ?
You didn't have to. You liked a post/thread of someone basically call us all horrible/mean/bitchy pregnant ladies.... Love titting something like that means you agree....
Just been overdoing it lately. BH have been crazy anytime I try to do anything. I have been resting today and just stressing about logistics if I do end up/need to go to L&D.
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