@celticlullaby Sorry, I didn't mean to imply that you were calling me selfish. That was a question I was basically asking myself. There was a week that I tried making her go to bed at 8, and I realized that just wasn't what she wanted or needed. Since she's gotten older and started staying awake longer periods of the day, she's always gone to bed late (so probably since she was 3 months or so). She's gotten to where she's sleepy around 8:45-9:30, so that's been her bedtime. I don't start a bedtime routine, but when I see her sleepy cues, I start changing her into pjs, changing her last diaper of the day, etc. This is the earliest she's naturally wanted to go to sleep since she was a newborn. I don't really have a routine; I mostly follow her lead. The only thing that is stressing me out is that I can't physically put her down [while she's sleeping] and have her stay asleep if I haven't held her for at least an hour, in our dark bedroom, by myself.
She has been on a self-structured (?) nap schedule of every 2 hours for as long as I can remember now. I can't wait for the day she stays awake longer during the day. It seems like my life revolves around her sleeping schedule. She's a total grump if she's awake longer than 4 hours, but that's when we're out and about and she's too distracted to go to sleep. At home, she's a grump if she's awake longer than 2.5.
I appreciate your trying to help. I know no one can really answer my tough questions or give me a magic solution, but it's nice when people listen to my vents and offer encouraging words.
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@luckysquare oooh Im going to make blt's for dinner. I am in tomato hell.
I made broccoli cheese soup a few days ago . soo good.
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So the random FB Group ( April 2014 Babies!) i requested to join added me . Not too shabby. Its april 2014 mamas worldwide. Quick moving so I like it for now.
Ok I don't even go here really, but I need some opinions and don't feel like starting a new thread. So my 5 year old DD just came back from school with a birthday party invite. It's a Halloween themed dance party for two siblings aged 2 and 5 - my DD being invited by her classmate. However, the invite says they don't want gifts. I'll just verbatim the whole thing so you guys can tell me if I'm weird for being a little iffy about the whole thing: "Instead of gifts we are asking for $15 per family at the door (we will have a bucket for the girls and one for the charity at a table by the entrance) $5 goes to Kid1, $5 goes to Kid2 and $5 goes to charity. Last year we were able to raise $75 for charity. We take the girls on a mini shopping spree and last year the girls had a blast!"
Ok here's my issue: I appreciate their thoughtfulness in wanting to donate to charity, but isn't it a little weird to ask people for money so you can take your kids shopping? I mean I guess this way you avoid getting a billion gifts that maybe your kids are not interested in or whatever, but we try to teach our DD that it's the intention behind the gift that really matters and it just seems a bit gift grabby to me. Also what charity are they donating to? I know it's just $5 and it's probably not a weirdo charity or anything but I kinda wonder why they leave that part out. Finally, it's kinda strange to me to give $5 for the little sister that we don't know?! Granted I would spend much more if I took DD to the store to pick a present for her friend, but the way they're going about it doesn't sit right with me.
I'd love everyone's opinions on this cause right now I'm not too sure if DD will actually go. Thanks in advance ladies! Please don't hesitate to tell me if I'm the weirdo, I've just never seen this done before.
@Cfvonfam That does seem pretty weird. I can see maybe asking for a gift card to a specific store, but asking for money is strange, especially when it's to someone like you - the mother of their daughter's classmate who I'm assuming don't know that well. Also strange that they didn't list the charity. That being said, I would probably do it anyway since, like you said, you'd probably be spending more on that anyway if you were to buy a gift. I also like giving people the benefit of the doubt.
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@Cfvonfam that's tacky ten ways til Sunday. If dd would have fun I would go and just pay the $15 and try to keep my eyes from rolling out of my head.
Yeah, thanks for confirming my initial thought! Seriously just let the damn kids buy my little ponies for each other! Some parents really take themselves much too seriously. I almost want to send my DD to school with a gift and card that says "sorry we couldn't make it, but I hope you enjoy the present that I thoughtfully picked out for you." Just because. Lol
I don't know why so many people seem to have missed the day where everyone learned that to ask for gifts is tacky as fuck .
Right?? Like obviously you're going to bring a gift if you bother showing up to the party but... They shouldn't ask for it! And even less specify what they want to get.. It's just strange!
I don't know why so many people seem to have missed the day where everyone learned that to ask for gifts is tacky as fuck .
Not only just asking for gifts, but specifically asking for cash. I'm amazed.
Yeah I'm pretty shocked by the whole situation. I'm glad to see it's not just me. Also to make it even tackier they want us to put 5$ in the other kid's bucket too (I guess to make sure they get the same amount?!) I can't even.
Oh btw I've been lurking this thread for a while now I hope it's ok if I stick around I like how we can just jump from a topic to the next. As a welcome present (hehe see what I did there) here's a baby.
I need teething remedies. Carter won't sleep for longer than 20 minutes but fusses constantly. I've given him food to naw on, my finger, teethers, his Sophie, a baby spoon, the cold wash cloth, all natural orajel, and I resorted to tylenol two hours ago and it's done nothing. The tooth has popped through but it coming through seems to be the worst of it. I'm at a loss.
Guys I just have to share the cuteness that happened this morning. I had DS2 in his bouncer while DS1 was playing. I was sitting on the couch supervising (aka still trying to wake up). DS1 picks up his brother's favorite toy and proceeds to take it over and give it to him. Melted my heart!
Re: party and gifts, I've heard of parties where parents specifically request no gifts, but if you don't want gifts, then you don't want gifts! Don't tell someone to bring $15 instead! That's pretty much saying "I don't trust you to pick out an appropriate gift for my child"
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I have heard of parties requesting no gifts, or parties asking for a charitable donation in lieu of a gift (with the name of the charity mentioned), but asking for money for a shopping spree, and for a charitable donation is extremely tacky!
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i ve heard of no gifts but i've never heard of someone basically saying , you will spend this much money and this much of it will go towards this and this much towards this etc.
Its ridiculous and very fucking bold in my opinion .
No one would ever say on an invite ,For Gifts I would like twenty dollars to be spent at The Gap , forty at Club Monaco and ten I would just like in cash to use at my discretion.
Ok I don't even go here really, but I need some opinions and don't feel like starting a new thread. So my 5 year old DD just came back from school with a birthday party invite. It's a Halloween themed dance party for two siblings aged 2 and 5 - my DD being invited by her classmate. However, the invite says they don't want gifts. I'll just verbatim the whole thing so you guys can tell me if I'm weird for being a little iffy about the whole thing: "Instead of gifts we are asking for $15 per family at the door (we will have a bucket for the girls and one for the charity at a table by the entrance) $5 goes to Kid1, $5 goes to Kid2 and $5 goes to charity. Last year we were able to raise $75 for charity. We take the girls on a mini shopping spree and last year the girls had a blast!"
Ok here's my issue: I appreciate their thoughtfulness in wanting to donate to charity, but isn't it a little weird to ask people for money so you can take your kids shopping? I mean I guess this way you avoid getting a billion gifts that maybe your kids are not interested in or whatever, but we try to teach our DD that it's the intention behind the gift that really matters and it just seems a bit gift grabby to me. Also what charity are they donating to? I know it's just $5 and it's probably not a weirdo charity or anything but I kinda wonder why they leave that part out. Finally, it's kinda strange to me to give $5 for the little sister that we don't know?! Granted I would spend much more if I took DD to the store to pick a present for her friend, but the way they're going about it doesn't sit right with me.
I'd love everyone's opinions on this cause right now I'm not too sure if DD will actually go. Thanks in advance ladies! Please don't hesitate to tell me if I'm the weirdo, I've just never seen this done before.
Super tacky but it honestly doesn't surprise me anymore. I had a cousin who threw her own bridal shower and printed "money shower" on the invitations. Guess who brought a nice gift instead.
This reminds me of a party someone I know threw for her one year old. She stated on the invitation that monetary gifts were preferred. I thought that was VERY tacky for a child's party. I think asking for monetary gifts is tacky period but it's to the 25th power when it's a children's party.
A coworker of mine got married recently and on the invite for her bridal shower she had this stupid little rhyme about how after many years together her fiance and her had loads of household items and would prefer cash .
She was pretty tacky though. She invited three girls from our office to the shower. All attended and then she only invited two of them to her wedding.
All my stuff is coming tomorrow!! I haven't had all my household stuff since May 4! I'm over living out of a suitcase. I can't wait to see the rest of my clothes, shoes, my pictures...
I'm not sure how I feel about sleep training. DS falls asleep fine (we nurse to sleep) but he wakes a few times a night. Sometimes it's only twice and other times it's four/five times. I don't know if this warrants any kind of sleep training just yet. I mean, on the rare occasion he'll babble himself back to sleep so I know he is capable of falling asleep without assistance which is why I don't know if it's worth it to train.
@edoliesmom I'm right there with you on the nurse/rock for an hour or more while DH relaxes. Lots of resentment brewing in the nursery! I started putting DS down earlier than I used to and that worked for a few days. Then that stopped working, so I've been tweaking it. I guess I don't really have any advice but know you're not alone in your frustration.
@snowbound I agree. Pretty much the same. When DS cries at night, I always wait 5-10 mins before going to him. Sometimes he goes back to sleep and sometimes he doesn't but I know he can do it.
Sooo I was creeping pb again, and a few people mentioned that their bump mod sources are saying that angry mods are not logging in from sat-mon so that angry bumpers can have at it over the weekend to show the bump gods that "the boards dont run themselves."
So is the bump going to be a hot mess of sass all weekend? :-/
I'm not sure how I feel about sleep training. DS falls asleep fine (we nurse to sleep) but he wakes a few times a night. Sometimes it's only twice and other times it's four/five times. I don't know if this warrants any kind of sleep training just yet. I mean, on the rare occasion he'll babble himself back to sleep so I know he is capable of falling asleep without assistance which is why I don't know if it's worth it to train.
Same thing is happening with my DS. For what it's worth, my DD was much worse than him and I never even attempted sleep training, she eventually learned how to sleep through the night on her own. I think it happened consistently around 8 months, when her solids intake was pretty good. So for now I'm just letting it go, but I'm on maternity leave for DS's first year so I have the luxury of being able to be sleep deprived since I'm staying home lol
Yeah, the money at a kids party is pretty tacky... I think the "we have household essentials, but if you really want to give us a gift you can donate to our honeymoon fund" thing can be done well enough though. At least they aren't giving a list of expensive china and kitchen toys for me to feel funny about not buying.
I really don't want dd to get shy presents for her bday simply because I hate writing thank you's and between birth announcements, thank yous for random presents, christening invites, christening thank yous, etc all I do is address envelopes and I'm sick of it.
Ps you shouldn't write no gifts on an invite ever.
why no gifts? I always write no gifts because I genuinely want no gifts. My son already has more crap than he can handle. So the day of his birthday he gets something from us and his grandparents (and great grandparents) but there is no gifts at his party.
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In other news, Shea figured out how to roll front to back today and he's pretty sure he's the shit :P Buddy, you're late to the party...
"Instead of gifts we are asking for $15 per family at the door (we will have a bucket for the girls and one for the charity at a table by the entrance) $5 goes to Kid1, $5 goes to Kid2 and $5 goes to charity. Last year we were able to raise $75 for charity. We take the girls on a mini shopping spree and last year the girls had a blast!"
Ok here's my issue: I appreciate their thoughtfulness in wanting to donate to charity, but isn't it a little weird to ask people for money so you can take your kids shopping? I mean I guess this way you avoid getting a billion gifts that maybe your kids are not interested in or whatever, but we try to teach our DD that it's the intention behind the gift that really matters and it just seems a bit gift grabby to me. Also what charity are they donating to? I know it's just $5 and it's probably not a weirdo charity or anything but I kinda wonder why they leave that part out. Finally, it's kinda strange to me to give $5 for the little sister that we don't know?! Granted I would spend much more if I took DD to the store to pick a present for her friend, but the way they're going about it doesn't sit right with me.
I'd love everyone's opinions on this cause right now I'm not too sure if DD will actually go. Thanks in advance ladies! Please don't hesitate to tell me if I'm the weirdo, I've just never seen this done before.
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Yay for you @Tferr02 living with our your stuff is the worst, feels like measured up camping.
@snowbound I agree. Pretty much the same. When DS cries at night, I always wait 5-10 mins before going to him. Sometimes he goes back to sleep and sometimes he doesn't but I know he can do it.
Sooo I was creeping pb again, and a few people mentioned that their bump mod sources are saying that angry mods are not logging in from sat-mon so that angry bumpers can have at it over the weekend to show the bump gods that "the boards dont run themselves."
So is the bump going to be a hot mess of sass all weekend? :-/
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