I don't like naps. They make me feel so tired and groggy afterwards, that it takes me like 2 hours to feel normal after I wake up. I only take naps when I'm pregnant because I'm utterly exhausted, but still hate doing it.
I've been reading S14 birth stories, and it bugs me that they all end with "we are so in love"/"we are head over heels for our baby!"
(I am pretty sure this stems from my fear that I won't bond with baby when he comes, because every time I see it I think, "WHY ARE YOU SAYING I WON'T LOVE MY SON" and that makes no sense.)
Me: 30 | DH: 4/12/85 - 6/16/14 | Quinn Patrick born 9/28/14
Not so much an opinion but.. I haven't bought any clothes for this baby yet. I've been given things from friends, but I haven't purchased anything other than nursery decor and some cloth diapers. I'm about to flip out with excitement to meet him, but I'm really meh about all the "stuff."
5 cycles of "TTC" - 3 intentional, 2 not so intentional. 5 BFPs. My rainbow arrived 10/15/14. TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
windwithfingers said:
I've been reading S14 birth stories, and it bugs me that they all end with "we are so in love"/"we are head over heels for our baby!" (I am pretty sure this stems from my fear that I won't bond with baby when he comes, because every time I see it I think, "WHY ARE YOU SAYING I WON'T LOVE MY SON" and that makes no sense.)
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And I'm just over here annoyed by how many of them say they are "head over heals."
Not sure if this is an UO with this crowd (at least, not at this stage in the game) but pants are overrated.Cotton granny panties are my preferred around-the-house garment and DH has gotten so used to it that he doesn't even blink an eye. I'm bringing sexy back!
I probably have the real UO - I can't imagine not wearing pants. Give me all the pants.
5 cycles of "TTC" - 3 intentional, 2 not so intentional. 5 BFPs. My rainbow arrived 10/15/14. TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
My UO is definitely a UO on this board. I am a dog person. Give me all the puppies! Nothing against cats. Other than they drive my allergies nuts. But nope nope nope, I LOVE dogs!
I guess my UO is that I'm not a fan of dogs. I LOVE Boston Terriers because I grew up with one. And I love pugs because seriously, their faces. Other than that, dogs are cute when they're someone else's. We have a large Shepard mix that DH had before I came along and I'm just not a fan of her. She's huge. And filthy because she goes outside and tracks in dirt. And sheds like a maniac (getting her shaved tomorrow). And drools incessantly when she sleeps and eats. And just in general makes me say "ick". She's a big sweetheart though, and DH loves her. I just think the cat lyfe is more for me.
If we're going to spend another UO thread talking about pumpkin spice and pie again, then my UO is that we've exhausted all of our opinions. And a lot of these are phrased as confessions!
Maybe I should go fold more baby clothes. They smell so good.
I can't go without a bra during the day. Even walking around the house, i MUST have a bra on or I feel floppy and uncomfortable. Bedtime however is another story.
I've been reading S14 birth stories, and it bugs me that they all end with "we are so in love"/"we are head over heels for our baby!"
(I am pretty sure this stems from my fear that I won't bond with baby when he comes, because every time I see it I think, "WHY ARE YOU SAYING I WON'T LOVE MY SON" and that makes no sense.)
@windwithfingers - pretty sure that at least some people say that because they feel that they are obligated to say something along those lines. I remember really struggling with this when I had DS1. Of course I loved him but it wasn't all puppies and rainbows - the first week was super hard and it took me a little while to bond with him.
I've been reading S14 birth stories, and it bugs me that they all end with "we are so in love"/"we are head over heels for our baby!"
(I am pretty sure this stems from my fear that I won't bond with baby when he comes, because every time I see it I think, "WHY ARE YOU SAYING I WON'T LOVE MY SON" and that makes no sense.)
@windwithfingers - pretty sure that at least some people say that because they feel that they are obligated to say something along those lines. I remember really struggling with this when I had DS1. Of course I loved him but it wasn't all puppies and rainbows - the first week was super hard and it took me a little while to bond with him.
Oh, I'm sure you're right. I've considered that too. I'm just in a crazy frame of mind and none of my thoughts make sense. Maybe I should have waited to post this in FFFC tomorrow.
Me: 30 | DH: 4/12/85 - 6/16/14 | Quinn Patrick born 9/28/14
I'm a member of a couple baby wearing and mom-type groups on facebook. Even though I'm a FTM, I wanted to start learning about baby stuff, acclimate, etc. These lady's are always posting mom music video parodies, comics, buzzfeed articles, and other such nonsense and just LOLing and thinking its the FUNNIEST thing ever. NO, just no. It's not even clever FFS!
Please shoot me if I ever think that a parody about all mundane mom stuff is funny. I will have other interests as a mother and won't let my role as a SAHM define or limit me.
I can't go without a bra during the day. Even walking around the house, i MUST have a bra on or I feel floppy and uncomfortable. Bedtime however is another story.
Ditto! It feels weird and sweaty...always wearing a bra unless I'm getting into bed to sleep.
I don't like naps. They make me feel so tired and groggy afterwards, that it takes me like 2 hours to feel normal after I wake up. I only take naps when I'm pregnant because I'm utterly exhausted, but still hate doing it.
Me too! My husband thinks I'm weird, but I rarely nap. I have to feel pretty shitty before I'll even try. I mean, when it takes like 40 minutes just to fall asleep for what I want to be a 20 minute nap, it just doesn't seem worth it to me.
I guess my UO is that I love naps. DH and I frequently nap for an hour or so on the weekends at the same time that DS1 is taking his nap. I also usually get 8 hours of sleep every night during the week as well - what can I say, I love my sleep. Luckily DS1 takes after me.
I was really worried about sleep deprivation when I had DS1 and now with expecting DS2 but my body got used to it luckily. Needless to say, we will be more proactive in trying to get DS2 to sleep through the night than we were with DS1.
My UO is that I don't think there are really any excuses to be late to work. I've always thought that your work ethic is important, and showing up late to work unexpected is unacceptable. I've always felt like traffic, weather, etc., aren't excuses because you should have planned better. I know shit happens, but half of the time when people come late to work I think they are lazy.
Because of this, I allot 90+ minutes for a 30-40 minute drive in to work every day. I start watching the news at 5 and check the traffic report again before I even leave. Most days, I either start work 45 minutes to an hour early, or I take a nap in my car in the parking lot and show up to work on time.
Of course, all that said and it TOTALLY didn't work out for me today. I also know this theory/thought process will completely blow up in my face when I have kids.
I can't go without a bra during the day. Even walking around the house, i MUST have a bra on or I feel floppy and uncomfortable. Bedtime however is another story.
I'm always braless unless I'm going somewhere or expecting company.
Me too! I hate wearing a bra! There are definitely some advantages to having small ta-tas!
Me: 37, DH: 42 Married March 22, 2003 TTC since early 2006, Fertility treatments since 02/2013 First Pregnancy with Twins EDD 10.24.2014
UO: Schools need to go back to teaching vocational ed. The push for everyone to go to college is failing students and thereby failing society. Not everyone needs or wants to go to college. Certainly expressing that everyone should go to college *if they desire* is helpful, but I think it's doing schools and kids a great disservice to make the entire high school curriculum college preparatory in nature. Then you end up with kids who either drop out of high school because they're truly not interested in anything they're learning, or ones who sort of follow along with the plan, go to college and take out student loans, and then realize that all along they wanted to do something else that didn't require a degree at all and then they have needless debt.
I also prefer dogs to cats. My UO though is that I prefer small dogs to big dogs. Big dogs are a lot more work, dirtier, and smell worse. Plus, little dogs are just so cuuuuute!
I should add that I do not dislike big dogs at ALL. I love them too. I just love dogs in general! They are amazing animals. I often don't think humans are worthy of their unconditional love and loyalty. :o3
I don't like naps. They make me feel so tired and groggy afterwards, that it takes me like 2 hours to feel normal after I wake up. I only take naps when I'm pregnant because I'm utterly exhausted, but still hate doing it.
I can't go without a bra during the day. Even walking around the house, i MUST have a bra on or I feel floppy and uncomfortable. Bedtime however is another story.
I'm always braless unless I'm going somewhere or expecting company.
Me too! I hate wearing a bra! There are definitely some advantages to having small ta-tas!
^This!!! Well before this pregnancy. Now they hurt so bad if I don't have some support. But as soon as I come home I take my real bra off and put my comfy sports bra on. Oh and the jeans come off as soon as I walk in the door too... Pregnant or not.
I've been reading S14 birth stories, and it bugs me that they all end with "we are so in love"/"we are head over heels for our baby!"
(I am pretty sure this stems from my fear that I won't bond with baby when he comes, because every time I see it I think, "WHY ARE YOU SAYING I WON'T LOVE MY SON" and that makes no sense.)
Try not to worry about that! People assume it's easy and always happens that way. But it's perfectly normal to take a while. With DS1 It took me a few days to actually associate this outside baby with the bump. I missed him at first. It doesn't mean you don't love them. You also have a lot to deal with.
but ill bet you won't even worry once you see your LO who is a part of you and your husband.
Also remember, some women won't admit right away if they are taking a bit of time to adjust.
Kind of along these lines but a little different at the same time - I just learned very recently that my husband didn't feel like a father until our little guy was about 6 months old despite loving him and being a wonderful father. I'm not saying this is normal for women, but it is normal for the bond to not be this magical thing the movies make it out to be. Yes, you could have that moment, but you might not and that's also normal. You're going to love your baby regardless.
I agree with the nap thing. I took a daily nap 1st tri and it didn't bother me. Usually though if I take a nap I sleep way longer than I intended, I am a complete groggy notch after, and I can't sleep at night (which to me is more important). All of this being said...just woke up from an 1 1/2 nap ">
My UO is that I don't think there are really any excuses to be late to work. I've always thought that your work ethic is important, and showing up late to work unexpected is unacceptable. I've always felt like traffic, weather, etc., aren't excuses because you should have planned better. I know shit happens, but half of the time when people come late to work I think they are lazy.
Because of this, I allot 90+ minutes for a 30-40 minute drive in to work every day. I start watching the news at 5 and check the traffic report again before I even leave. Most days, I either start work 45 minutes to an hour early, or I take a nap in my car in the parking lot and show up to work on time.
Of course, all that said and it TOTALLY didn't work out for me today. I also know this theory/thought process will completely blow up in my face when I have kids.
I used to have a coworker who came in late ALL the time! He said he didn't get paid enough to be on time. He was an assistant teacher and being late put so much stress on the lead teacher, (being out of ratio, trying to deal with morning drop offs and relaying messages to parents alone), she ended up leaving before the end of the school year.
I love naps and cats and most pies. I wear bras all the time, even to sleep.
I'm super boring and don't have an UO. I'll work on that.
I'm a member of a couple baby wearing and mom-type groups on facebook. Even though I'm a FTM, I wanted to start learning about baby stuff, acclimate, etc. These lady's are always posting mom music video parodies, comics, buzzfeed articles, and other such nonsense and just LOLing and thinking its the FUNNIEST thing ever. NO, just no. It's not even clever FFS!
Please shoot me if I ever think that a parody about all mundane mom stuff is funny. I will have other interests as a mother and won't let my role as a SAHM define or limit me.
I do find some of those to be funny and a good reminder from time to time that I've let myself get sucked into being only a mom. It's kind of hard to explain because I usually find most of them annoying as well.
UO: Schools need to go back to teaching vocational ed. The push for everyone to go to college is failing students and thereby failing society. Not everyone needs or wants to go to college. Certainly expressing that everyone should go to college *if they desire* is helpful, but I think it's doing schools and kids a great disservice to make the entire high school curriculum college preparatory in nature. Then you end up with kids who either drop out of high school because they're truly not interested in anything they're learning, or ones who sort of follow along with the plan, go to college and take out student loans, and then realize that all along they wanted to do something else that didn't require a degree at all and then they have needless debt.
I could not agree more and you said it far better than I ever could.
UO: Schools need to go back to teaching vocational ed. The push for everyone to go to college is failing students and thereby failing society. Not everyone needs or wants to go to college. Certainly expressing that everyone should go to college *if they desire* is helpful, but I think it's doing schools and kids a great disservice to make the entire high school curriculum college preparatory in nature. Then you end up with kids who either drop out of high school because they're truly not interested in anything they're learning, or ones who sort of follow along with the plan, go to college and take out student loans, and then realize that all along they wanted to do something else that didn't require a degree at all and then they have needless debt.
I could not agree more and you said it far better than I ever could.
Agree! My high school had curriculums. It had music & arts, business, technology, agriculture and college prep. I was in the business curriculum and loved it. Each curriculum required different specific classes each year catering. Now Ive heard all they have is college prep. College prep is important but if you are more interested in a certain subject, why not take as many classes as possible on it. I believe kids excel more when they are in a class that actually excited them.
I've been reading S14 birth stories, and it bugs me that they all end with "we are so in love"/"we are head over heels for our baby!"
(I am pretty sure this stems from my fear that I won't bond with baby when he comes, because every time I see it I think, "WHY ARE YOU SAYING I WON'T LOVE MY SON" and that makes no sense.)
Try not to worry about that! People assume it's easy and always happens that way. But it's perfectly normal to take a while. With DS1 It took me a few days to actually associate this outside baby with the bump. I missed him at first. It doesn't mean you don't love them. You also have a lot to deal with.
but ill bet you won't even worry once you see your LO who is a part of you and your husband.
Also remember, some women won't admit right away if they are taking a bit of time to adjust.
Kind of along these lines but a little different at the same time - I just learned very recently that my husband didn't feel like a father until our little guy was about 6 months old despite loving him and being a wonderful father. I'm not saying this is normal for women, but it is normal for the bond to not be this magical thing the movies make it out to be. Yes, you could have that moment, but you might not and that's also normal. You're going to love your baby regardless.
I think this is especially true for dads. For those first few weeks/months, especially if mom is nursing, being a dad would have to be hard. Babies don't really show any affection, they can't talk or give hugs or anything like that, and they're relying on mom for their nutrition and everything, so I can see where it could be tough for a dad to bond with an infant. For a first time dad, the whole baby thing has been purely theoretical for the whole pregnancy - they're not carrying the baby or feeling the movements and responses or any of that, and then one day - BAM! - there's a tiny, needy stranger living in your house and you have to take care of them, despite having no actual experience or knowledge in this regard. But ITA that the mother bond thing isn't always instant or instinctual, either, because that tiny, needy stranger is still a stranger, even after being in your womb for 9 months. And because they can't communicate, it's HARD sometimes to take care of them, so I can completely understand feeling some sense of distance.
But it comes with time, for sure. Watching a tiny person learn how to do even the most basic things, like use their hands to grasp something, is unbelievable and amazing to watch. And learn to communicate and talk, and manipulate objects - watching kids learn is amazing, and watching your own kid figure stuff out is breathtaking.
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Weirdo.
TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
(I am pretty sure this stems from my fear that I won't bond with baby when he comes, because every time I see it I think, "WHY ARE YOU SAYING I WON'T LOVE MY SON" and that makes no sense.)
TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
Please shoot me if I ever think that a parody about all mundane mom stuff is funny. I will have other interests as a mother and won't let my role as a SAHM define or limit me.
It's a BOY! Est. Due Date - October 17th
I used to have a thing for Hugh Jackman when he was Wolverine the first time a while ago, but not so much any more.
I should add that I do not dislike big dogs at ALL. I love them too. I just love dogs in general! They are amazing animals. I often don't think humans are worthy of their unconditional love and loyalty. :o3
Agree! My high school had curriculums. It had music & arts, business, technology, agriculture and college prep. I was in the business curriculum and loved it. Each curriculum required different specific classes each year catering. Now Ive heard all they have is college prep. College prep is important but if you are more interested in a certain subject, why not take as many classes as possible on it. I believe kids excel more when they are in a class that actually excited them.
But it comes with time, for sure. Watching a tiny person learn how to do even the most basic things, like use their hands to grasp something, is unbelievable and amazing to watch. And learn to communicate and talk, and manipulate objects - watching kids learn is amazing, and watching your own kid figure stuff out is breathtaking.
....it's 48 degrees here by me.
*runs and hides*