Longest Thread EVER! (aka Random Thoughts Thread )

ambarnett1 · September 2014

RedDawnsRevenge said:
Can you link for those of us on mobile?

Meh. I'm on mobile too so Idk if I can link it. I just went to the bottom of our main page and typed in FFFC to the search board bar. The past FFFCs popped up and I was able to read through and find what I was looking for, page 4 or 5 of that thread (I think). Wish I could be more helpful, but I'm tired.
Http://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12418288/fffc

Bluebird2318 · September 2014

BiggerinRealLife said:

I just want to know when #kendracalledit happened, so I can reference back lol
It was a few FFFCs ago. 3 weeks maybe?
I'll have to go back and find it. Cheers to no sleep! I feel bad though. I was totally Camp Poppy and tried to refuse the weird feeling. I don't want to believe anything until I know the truth, but this isn't real life, so we probably won't get the truth. I am naive and think that there is still good in people and someone wouldn't lie about something like this. Why must I try to be so nice?
@ambarnett1 are you reding my journal? Because that's exactly how I feel. But all the comments on here point to one thing: lots of internet strangers across the board senses that something was up. I figure that can't be coincidence.

Same... And I think the problem is that this is the internet and you never know, so all you can do is go with logic or your gut. I don't want to believe. Nor do I want to call someone a liar. All I have is Occam's razor and the option to settle on either a dozen complex assumptions or one simple one. There is nothing better without an explanation and I wouldn't feel good about asking for one.

MamaFantastic · September 2014

Twirple said:
I found it too..

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12418288/fffc/p2

"I wipe my ass with hundos"

STILL FUNNY.

ambarnett1 · September 2014

I linked it, but it was too late. There goes that excitement.

ambarnett1 · September 2014

celticlullaby said:
FWIW I like Poppy. I think sometimes out of anxiety or insecurity or whatever people exaggerate or make up stories because they think they need to do that to be liked or supported. She's asked us for a lot of support for mental illness, and the way I see it, this is just a symptom, not necessarily a bad person.

Or I'm a sucker, but hey, assuming positive intentions is one of those habits that contribute to happiness, right?

Anyway it feels good to get it all out in the open.

Now you're in my diary. :-h

Eta - grammar is hard

BiggerinRealLife · September 2014

celticlullaby said:
FWIW I like Poppy. I think sometimes out of anxiety or insecurity or whatever people exaggerate or make up stories because they think they need to do that to be liked or supported. She's asked us for a lot of support for mental illness, and the way I see it, this is just a symptom, not necessarily a bad person.

Or I'm a sucker, but hey, assuming positive intentions is one of those habits that contribute to happiness, right?

Anyway it feels good to get it all out in the open.

Agreed 100%. I don't get AE or troll, or even bad intentions - she's been with us too long for all that - just a sweet person who's gotten a little lost along the way. I'd still totally be willing to give support, but would rather it not be for fantastic stories full of holes. Just be straight with us. We're good with that.

RedDawnsRevenge · September 2014

We'll know I'm full of doubt and wonder. Am I on Kendra's list? Am I one of MF "medium lengths" people? Those of you on IG and FB know I'm boring as s*** and all I do is knit.

Bluebird2318 · September 2014

RedDawnsRevenge said:

We'll know I'm full of doubt and wonder. Am I on Kendra's list? Am I one of MF "medium lengths" people? Those of you on IG and FB know I'm boring as s*** and all I do is knit.

@RedDawnsRevenge I'm boring as shit and I don't even have the time or skill to knit.

RedDawnsRevenge · September 2014

I'm not boring!!! I'm thinking that's the first time I've heard that in a long time...

Yay for not bring boring!

Teresa1896 · September 2014

I agree with BIRL. I'm not one to kick someone when they're down or to gang up on someone, but I have had a few doubts about Poppy. Definitely a very sweet person but if everything she says is true, she has the most implausible and frankly unlucky life in the universe.
In the 5 months since our LOs were born, her DH has had a mental breakdown and walked out, she's had 2 mental breakdowns and been checked into a psych hospital (it's not a hotel!), and now a miscarriage. If it's all true, you absolutely need some mental health support, poppy. That's a lot of burden to carry.
And if it's not true, you still need some mental health support, because why would you make all that up?
FWIW, my DH rang the "BULLSHIT!" Bell after I told him about the End of the World video.....

Tferr02 · September 2014

There is nothing worse than waking up hoping that DS2 slept most the night to realize it is only 2:20an. And now he's singing to me again.
In other news, I have an earache and it sucks. I've only had one ear infection in my life, lucky I know. Is there anything I can do to try and stop this before it becomes an infection?

BiggerinRealLife · September 2014

@Teresa1896‌ I'd add, Teresa, (mainly because I'm looking for a bit of reassurance myself) that we've had a LOT of moms face unlucky circumstances on our board, both before and after birth. Crappy life events I wouldn't wish on anyone. None of those other moms made us do a collective group huh???

Bluebird2318 · September 2014

Teresa1896 said:

I agree with BIRL. I'm not one to kick someone when they're down or to gang up on someone, but I have had a few doubts about Poppy. Definitely a very sweet person but if everything she says is true, she has the most implausible and frankly unlucky life in the universe. In the 5 months since our LOs were born, her DH has had a mental breakdown and walked out, she's had 2 mental breakdowns and been checked into a psych hospital (it's not a hotel!), and now a miscarriage. If it's all true, you absolutely need some mental health support, poppy. That's a lot of burden to carry. And if it's not true, you still need some mental health support, because why would you make all that up? FWIW, my DH rang the "BULLSHIT!" Bell after I told him about the End of the World video.....

The End of the World thing is true. I think that out of everything she's ever said, most of it was the truth. She's a real person, with a real life, and real difficulties. She's spoken of depression and I believe her. She's spoken of needing stronger support than what she was getting and I believe that too. I have sympathy for that.

I think the things people are questioning are just symptoms of the truth (like @celticlullaby said), and that she just gets so deep in it that she needs to know people will have her back. Maybe part of that is exaggeration for the sake of survival. But like @Biggerinreallife said, we would have been here for support without needing any extra drama to draw us in. The truth is enough.

I definitely agree with what you're saying about not wanting to kick someone when they're down though, especially not under those kind of circumstances.

SoulTermination · September 2014

Bluebird2318 said:

fireflygirl12 said:

poru said:

In other news, my DS wore undies the whole day at school today Proud Fucking mama right here. He had one accident, but only after 2 days of wearing undies, I am pretty impressed.

PSA: wait till they are ready, don't push it early.

Someone asked me if Wesley was PT'd yet. I had him bare butt in the living room for 10 minutes the other day and he peed all over his toys and walked right through it without ever stopping to look like something was strange about the situation. Uh no, not ready.

My DD pulled a handful of poop out of her diaper the other day. I sure as shit hope she's ready, because I don't want to handle that mess for the next few months!

___________

(Edit: quote tree borked.)

Catching up a bit. My niece did this, but then flung the handful at the dog, who reflexively catches anything thrown at him because it's usually treats or food...

(I wish I knew how to type out the barf face, it's offscreen on my phone. #-o )

Twirple · September 2014

Joys of Bumping while nursing a distractible baby, my laptop screen is splattered with dried on milk. I should probably clean that off sometime.

SoulTermination · September 2014

Also... WTF did I miss? Everybody's upset with Poppy for some reason? O.o If I didn't have to get up early tomorrow I'd read back to try and figure out why...

avidkeo · September 2014

SoulTermination said:

Also... WTF did I miss? Everybody's upset with Poppy for some reason? O.o If I didn't have to get up early tomorrow I'd read back to try and figure out why...

Cliff notes - not sure how much you missed...

Poppy posted that she MC, and a few people called her out saying BS, and pointed out a few inconsistencies in her stories recently.

then we talked about poop some more.

fireflygirl12 · September 2014

I just spent 30 minutes driving my toddler around in the middle of the night so he would fall asleep. Opened his car door when we got home and his eyes popped wide open. Eff you molars and double ear infection.

SoulTermination · September 2014

@avidkeo‌ YGPM.

JessieAlbin · September 2014

Apparently I am not a very good super sleuth? Or it just didn't even occur to me that someone would make that up. I am too tired and absorbed in working mom life to catch inconsistencies.. Or maybe the dramz at work lately have been juicy enough (Jerry Springer quality everyone all up in your dirty laundry shit! All uninvolved parties have been on the sidelines with popcorn for weeks). Whoops.

Speaking of suspected insane people whose stories you can't trust, my mom is coming to visit next week. I spent twenty minutes venting to DH about being a terrible person and wishing she wouldn't and God no she isn't staying at the house with us because I just effing can't even.

Also, my lower back hurts like a bitch. I need to take my own advice and put the dr. Google down and just go see the damn doctor but I am an idiot and dragging my feet.

sprightlysparrow7 · September 2014

I'm mostly a lurker/lovetitter, and even I have been scratching my head. I really, truly hope she gets the help and support she needs IRL because I can't stomach another descriptive post like that wondering if it's even real. In her efforts to assuage her own pain, she caused it in others who have experienced loss themselves. Having to revisit those mental images of my own loss after reading her post and simultaneously suspecting it wasn't true was a complete and utter mindscrew.

Poop is definitely less painful to discuss. Unless of course you are constipated and have anal fissures or something... :-??

Edited x2 bc I'm tired.

deidremaria · September 2014

BiggerinRealLife said:
Okay, enough beating around the bush. I'll say it: @Poppyseedwindsor, I don't believe you.

I HATE to say this. I've been on your side from the beginning. But along the way, things started to not add up. I thought it was just me, but from reading the board here, apparently not. When you announced your BFP I was already skeptical and hoped it wouldn't come to this, and that you'd show us a beautiful US in a few weeks. But something kept nagging me: what if...? And now a loss story with details and language that make little sense. I'm gonna feel like the biggest jerk in the world if this is all real, and I apologize if it is. But it's taken me a few hours and a few glasses of wine to say what I think a lot of us are thinking: your stories just don't add up. Across the board.

I think you need help. And as a person who wants to see the best in people, I really hope you seek it out. Either for amplifying or manufacturing the details of your life, or, if it's real, because you've been through a lot. Either way, I think help is needed.

Go ahead, A14! Flame me. I expect some pitchforks, as Poppy is one of our beloved, but I have a LOT of respect for PGAL moms, and all this just hurts too much to read without saying something.

And thus the RTT was broken. Camp Poppy vs. the rest of us."

I liked your response not because of the accusation, but because you were honest and just clearly said what you feel regarding this. Since I've been gone for a while I can't join either 'camp'. While of course I would hate to know anyone is going through such a loss I would hate even more to know that said loss was made up; so because of my absence I won't defend poppy nor flame you all for having your doubts.

allyandmike24 · September 2014

Oh my.

I don't bump for one day and this happens. I can't leave you guys alone for a damn minute, can I?

In other news, babies CAN sense weakness after all. I went back to work yesterday and my normally sweet, sttn-ing little lady woke up twice to nurse and refused naps. Obviously.

I totally perpetrated a great scam at school- volunteering to generously hold off on pumping until recess (the exact time I need to pump anyway). I hate recess duty, so it's amazing. I get to pump n bump in sweet silence in an air conditioned/heated building while my co teacher and assistant teacher get to deal with deviant 5 year olds outside. I'm a bad, bad person.

Smooches, tp's, glasses of wine and high fives to those who need em. Back when the school bell tolls.

deidremaria · September 2014

AprilMay9 said:
I am so confused. I am so dense or maybe I don't pay enough attn to rtt? It never would occur to me that poppy was lying. She's had some drama but it didn't phase me. I am confused. I guess my bullshit meter is broken because I never suspected it was a lie.

Exactly what I said when people started airing their doubts

deidremaria · September 2014

AprilMay9 said:
@mamrotu73‌ and @deidremaria come sit by me on the slow bench

I'm there. I'll even bring a picnic basket

Teresa1896 · September 2014

Out of desperation, I tried to give LO solids last night in hopes of better sleep. This happened instead.

Tferr02 · September 2014

Sooo confrontations make me uncomfortable. I use to hide under my bed crying if my parents had to discipline my sisters, even if it was because they were being cruel to me.
Therefore I'm on the slow bench too because I tend to believe what people tell me

deidremaria · September 2014

AprilMay9 said:
This has led to many questions.

Is my husband having an affair under my nose?

Are these my real parents?

Is my BFF really pregnant or has she been wearing a prosthetic bump for 9 mos?

IS EVERYONE LYING TO ME?!?! I'm taking this personally.

I fucking love you. Since i love you so much let me be the one to tell you that your lying ass friend is totally wearing a fake bump womp womp womp

Serenla · September 2014

Well I was just going to hide on PAL all day but I guess not. The drama of last night hit too close to home so I couldn't comment on it without being a heinous bitch. If true it's insulting, that is all.

deidremaria · September 2014

Serenla said:
Well I was just going to hide on PAL all day but I guess not. The drama of last night hit too close to home so I couldn't comment on it without being a heinous bitch. If true it's insulting, that is all.

I'm sorry.

Serenla · September 2014

Quick q, when should we be concerned about green poo in a BFing baby? It wasn't frothy just green.

Also someone asked me about Korra a while back I meant to answer you I promise! It's so great! I wouldn't say as great as avatar but still pretty funny. Seeing adult Toph is so weird though!

janellemj928 · September 2014

I'm on the slow bench, too...

thomas930 · September 2014

AprilMay9 said:

@mamrotu73‌ and @deidremaria come sit by me on the slow bench

Can I join?

I've always been a Poppy fan even with all her stuff going on and haven't doubted that she was going through a lot even if it wasn't quite what she was saying. Having gone through a MC myself, if it really is made up, I'm am truly hurt. My heart hurts in so many ways right now. I know this is the internet but I feel like I've really build a friendship with you girls....and now I feel betrayed.

BiggerinRealLife · September 2014

Love in sympathy @thomas930. And Serenla, and all our loss moms.

eireyes · September 2014

mamrotu73 said:

I am so confused. I am so dense or maybe I don't pay enough attn to rtt? It never would occur to me that poppy was lying. She's had some drama but it didn't phase me. I am confused. I guess my bullshit meter is broken because I never suspected it was a lie.
Yep. Me too.

Same here. I'm joining the slow bench crowd as well. Can we just wear our optomist glasses together @honeyzoo?

deidremaria · September 2014

I really don't like this mess. People need to remember that there are billions of other people in the world and while our decisions don't affect all those people, they do affect a good amount of the people around us whether we know it or not. I'm so sorry to all the loss mommas.

ambarnett1 · September 2014

This is not real life

pineconey · September 2014

My loss was at 10 1/2 weeks, while visiting family out of town. The pregnancy was unexpected but very much wanted.
Definitely too close to home.

mrscrcalli · September 2014

Hot dizam!

DTD for our anniversary last night.. (We used to everyday now special occasions?? Lol)
Had a nice sleep cause P was a good little dude, and I come back to #kendracalledit

I gotta say.. I love my bitches, y'all just handle binnis (business)

Anyway Popps, I've been the shoulder to many loved ones that have experienced MCs, and (holy shit balls fuck stick) wasn't the reaction.
I hope you find relief for whatever it is you're facing. I truly do. Xo.

BiggerinRealLife · September 2014

aronie82 said:
Kendra planted the seed of doubt for me when #kendracalledit. Otherwise I was in the slow camp too. I'm also in the I hope you get the help you need, we are here to support you camp too.

^^although I'm less in the support camp seeing her last active status jump every few minutes and she hasn't said anything to defend or deny anything. That's just confusing. Poppy! Come tell me if I'm wrong, please!

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