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thomas930 · August 2014

Its so stinkin hot!!

Bluebird2318 · August 2014

I'm starting to think A14 has way too solid a grip on my mind! I was looking at a magazine and saw a picture of Joe Manganiello and my first thought was "Oh, that's Dani's guy!"

Emily041285 · August 2014

Hi RTT, I've been dirty lurking because I have nothing positive to contribute and I don't want to be a downer. The only thing that sucks more than my job right now is my marriage.

Just wanted to say hi and apologize for being a crappy internet friend.

moonsparkles · August 2014

:-B

This is what I look like on a normal day.

It's funnier if you actually know me, but I thought you ought to know.

ambarnett1 · August 2014

@Emily041285‌ I hope things get better! You can contribute whatever you want here positive or negative. We are here to support each other.

Bluebird2318 · August 2014

Emily041285 said:

Hi RTT, I've been dirty lurking because I have nothing positive to contribute and I don't want to be a downer. The only thing that sucks more than my job right now is my marriage. Just wanted to say hi and apologize for being a crappy internet friend.

@Emily041285 You're not being a crappy internet friend. There are times in our lives where we need to take more than we can give in order to get by, and that's okay. There's nothing that says give and take has to happen simultaneously. Vent if you need to!

pineconey · August 2014

Officially extended our lease another 6 months. After that I'm hell-bent on getting us moved to michigan. No more summers here. No. More.

knotty-girl · August 2014

I'm having another never-say-never, eating my words parenting moment. I would totally kill for a mini van right now.

Bluebird2318 · August 2014

Am I the only one who mentally responds to threads before opening them? (Responses may or may not be relevant to the actual thread itself.) Like so: "WWYD with this milk" -- "Drink it!". "Is it just me?!" -- "YES!" I swear it's like my brain is bored with just reading the title like a normal person.

thomas930 · August 2014

@Emily041285 hugs girl. Vent if you need/want, we're here for you.

ambarnett1 · August 2014

DS laughed a real laugh for the first time today. :x

Bailey'sbride · August 2014

pineconey said:
Officially extended our lease another 6 months. After that I'm hell-bent on getting us moved to michigan. No more summers here. No. More.

Where in Michigan? I think you're from here, but don't remember what area.

Xxlilies · August 2014

I'm pretty OCD about cleaning and my house . We have too much house for us and also 2 large dogs so it's like a battle I can never conquer . I feel like I can stay on top of everything to my liking easily but then I feel guilty that I shouldn't be cleaning or doing other stuff while my son is awake . But then I think I can't engage him very minute that he's awake either .
And then I feel guilty for that and find myself exhausted because I run around like mad trying to get everything done before he wakes . Also have zero time for yourself with this method of " time management "

Sorry just what's on my mind and wanted to get it out there .

ambarnett1 · August 2014

I feel sad because I'm miserable with the way things are in my life. DH is never home and I'm exhausted with a colicky, reflux baby. I just want time off and for my DH to be around DS more. DH doesn't understand and thinks being a SAHM is easy, but he can't spend more than 30 mins with DS without needing help. DH says he will help, but then when I ask him for it he makes up an excuse or says he's tired or sick. I just want 12 hours off from this. I want a nap and to eat a full meal. I know a lot of you do it without DH's help or work and don't get to see your LO much, so I feel bad for bitching, but I'm just burnt out. Ugh.

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RedDawnsRevenge · August 2014

ambarnett1 said:
I feel sad because I'm miserable with the way things are in my life. DH is never home and I'm exhausted with a colicky, reflux baby. I just want time off and for my DH to be around DS more. DH doesn't understand and thinks being a SAHM is easy, but he can't spend more than 30 mins with DS without needing help. DH says he will help, but then when I ask him for it he makes up an excuse or says he's tired or sick. I just want 12 hours off from this. I want a nap and to eat a full meal. I know a lot of you do it without DH's help or work and don't get to see your LO much, so I feel bad for bitching, but I'm just burnt out. Ugh. (

I feel this way often. But DH is in Texas and I'm in California. So I deal. That's why it's beer Friday. So go grab your favorite brew and meet us back here.

TGIF and May the toddlers go to bed early.

JessieAlbin · August 2014

Sounds like several of us have been having rough days. All the hugs, y'all. This motherhood thing is the best ever but it's freaking HARD.

knotty-girl · August 2014

Xxlilies said:

I'm pretty OCD about cleaning and my house . We have too much house for us and also 2 large dogs so it's like a battle I can never conquer . I feel like I can stay on top of everything to my liking easily but then I feel guilty that I shouldn't be cleaning or doing other stuff while my son is awake . But then I think I can't engage him very minute that he's awake either . And then I feel guilty for that and find myself exhausted because I run around like mad trying to get everything done before he wakes . Also have zero time for yourself with this method of " time management " Sorry just what's on my mind and wanted to get it out there .

I totally am right with you on this one. My OCD can be really debilitating and as organized as I am, I have trouble with time management and prioritizing. I just try to be relaxed and accept that I can't get everything done- at least not all at once. I have to remind myself the cleaning can wait, our LO's grow up fast and we won't get those moments back, it's not worth it to miss out on LO's first giggle because I'm vacuuming. I'm not going to remember if the laundry was done on this day 10 years from now. You don't have to entertain your LO every second of the day either though, if he is content in his swing or lying on his activity gym, by all means, sneak in some cleaning. The moments we do have to ourself are few and fleeting, so we do have to choose among everything we'd like to accomplish. I find I'm worse for the wear if I try to take care of everything else around the house before myself all the time. It's ok to take a shower or paint your nails (or eat something!!) during LO's naps even when the house isn't picked up. Sometimes self care can give you the burst of energy you need to tackle more things efficiently the rest of the day.

I 100% related reading your post... It sounds like you also clean to manage anxiety? Spending a day with your LO without bothering with the housework (other then picking up as you go) is the best kind of cognitive therapy, really!

speechie517 · August 2014

Some grubby lady pinched B's cheek while she was in the ergo as we waited in line at the post office. I couldn't even get words out, it happened so fast...

knotty-girl · August 2014

ambarnett1 said:

I feel sad because I'm miserable with the way things are in my life. DH is never home and I'm exhausted with a colicky, reflux baby. I just want time off and for my DH to be around DS more. DH doesn't understand and thinks being a SAHM is easy, but he can't spend more than 30 mins with DS without needing help. DH says he will help, but then when I ask him for it he makes up an excuse or says he's tired or sick. I just want 12 hours off from this. I want a nap and to eat a full meal. I know a lot of you do it without DH's help or work and don't get to see your LO much, so I feel bad for bitching, but I'm just burnt out. Ugh. (

Aw hugs. I have days like this too.

The other weekend DH was home, but he spent all day working in the yard. It's not like DH isn't working 12 hour days and then doing his share of home maintenance in the little time he takes off either. But I took care of Jack, as I do all day every day, cleaning and taking care of all kinds of phonecalls/bills/life stuff in between. I made DH breakfast, lunch, fed the dogs, and then DH came in saying he was hungry for dinner. After Jack went down, I had my small window of time to myself and DH wanted to have sex which is the last thing I wanted to do because I was tired, hadn't showered, and was just generally not feeling sexy/good about myself. I had a little cry then got it together and appeased him. But I was feeling like don't know how I am going to be able to keep doing this- to be a good mom, and a good wife- when I have no time to take care of myself. I just want 2 hours a week to work out which is like 1/8th of my old workout routine, and I can't even get that.

baileymama3 · August 2014

@emily041285 the marriage part of parenting is super hard on me too. My DH is really sweet and he tries, but I feel like he could try more and that I am constantly mad at him. I also do my best to try not to critique everything he does but it can be really frustrating. That and he works a crap ton and is always plugged in. On cell phone, laptop--- nature of his job but I am really craving family quality time. We got to spend 1 weekend together in 4 weeks. I am exhausted at being mad and also at feeling guilty. I am working on communicating what I need when I need it and not just shutting down.

I also don't know how any of you all with long distance DH's do this... I would be out of my mind. Props to you all.

Also LO has been only waking up once a night this week... I feel almost human with 5 hours of sleep straight.

allyandmike24 · August 2014

@imnatari I like the cut of your jib. Enjoy your vacation!!!

I wanted to update that LO's boob strike seems to be a fluke ::knock on wood:: and she had a stellar day, including several hours with a babysitter. Phew!

A side of hilarity: my (huge, burly, born in Boston, construction worker) neighbor Ralph came over to ogle the baby while we were outside cleaning out my car. He says "wow, she's a good eatah, huh? Do you have to wear those plastic cappy things on yah nipples??? She must eat like a hungry monstah" to which I replied @-). He then went into his house and I laughed my ass off for several minutes. (He does have a kid who I was later told used nipple shields, so he's not a complete weirdo.)

RedDawnsRevenge · August 2014

What happened to my avatar?

ambarnett1 · August 2014

The boys are asleep and I should be too, but I'm rereading 50 shades of Grey instead. I feel naughty. Hopefully baby #2 doesn't come out of this B-)

pineconey · August 2014

Bailey'sbride said:

pineconey said:
Officially extended our lease another 6 months. After that I'm hell-bent on getting us moved to michigan. No more summers here. No. More.
Where in Michigan? I think you're from here, but don't remember what area.

I'm from near Ann Arbor- looking at the Brighton-ish area possibly. All very up in the air right now!

Eta: currently living in WA.

pineconey · August 2014

Financial advisor I met with today (re: A's $$ from great grandparents- want to invest it for him) told me to start giving him solids (or formula) to help him sleep. He has a 5 month old, so clearly he knows what's best for my child. I wonder what his wife would say if she knew her H was giving out unsolicited advice like that...

Also (re:sleep) I'm simultaneously enjoying and feeling like the worst parent ever from reading the new LLL "sweet sleep" book. Gleaning what we can- bed sharing currently only works for us about 50% of the time.

RedDawnsRevenge · August 2014

pineconey said:

Also (re:sleep) I'm simultaneously enjoying and feeling like the worst parent ever from reading the new LLL "sweet sleep" book. Gleaning what we can- bed sharing currently only works for us about 50% of the time.

so LLLI thinks we should or shouldn't co-sleep? Also TP to the advisor man, some babies aren't great sleepers. DD1 was and still is not. Hopefully it gets better soon. Sending positive hippy vibes your way.

irisheyez7 · August 2014

celticlullaby said:

@irisheyez7‌ - I'm so so sorry. How are you feeling, btw? @snowbound - I second what poru said. I was going to suggest that you just ask to talk to an LC in the hospital if you're at a hospital with a maternity ward. I know you're nearby - if you're at Virtua Vorhees, those LCs are great!

I am doing better. Thanks for asking. Everything is healing nicely. The more superficial burns are almost healed over. The deeper ones are still nasty and painful but are coming along well. I am getting to that point where between the itching (UGH) and the pain it really sucks but I know its a good sign and it will hopefully only be a couple more weeks before I can stop having to bandage them and get my full range of motion back. It's a long road to hoe but I am getting there. Dealing with moving to our new house in 2 weeks, the baby and the burns is overwhelming but with help from hubby, my mom, and my sister I am handling it pretty well. I will be so relieved when all this is over and I can just relax!

BiggerinRealLife · August 2014

Got my IUD today. My vag hurts, I'm bleeding, and I am FREAKING PISSED OFF at the medical community at large, with their bias towards women. It's pretty freaking fracking ridiculous that the sex that is fertile 14% of the year is responsible for 95% of the birth control options. I had to stare down the barrel end of a list of possible side effects and sign away my right to be upset if my chosen method of birth control resulted in me being unable to have the number of kids we ultimately want. God forbid they make a BC method for 100% fertile men other than condoms and risk messing with the male boner!!

I'm freaking OVER the fact that we turn out bodies inside out to have a baby and then have to deal with all the "family planning" crap that comes after it! Thank God DH is happy to get snipped when we're done having kids. I'm so not doing this BC crap one second longer than I have to.

But why isn't there a better solution for men than a condom or a visectomy?!?

/end feminist sociology of family and medicine rant.

Tferr02 · August 2014

Normally G wakes up at 2:30, 5:30 and then for the day at 7:30. Tonight he slept until 330, which is wonderful! Except for the fact that now he can't fall back asleep

littlesocks · August 2014

Vinny424 said:
@Amsull324‌ you should stop lurking and join our discussion about food!

So we can make plans for our awesome food truck? ;;)

irisheyez7 · August 2014

.2:0.0.0.0.0">Funny story. I started calling Amelia Peanut Butter. Just a pet name. My brother the other day asked me why I call her that. I said because she is CHUNKY! He laughed for like 10 minutes!

Teresa1896 · August 2014

DS has been waking up 2-3 times per night lately. Last night I put him down at 6 when he fell asleep eating, fully expecting him to wake up a few hours later. It's 530 and he just woke up! I'm so excited to have slept! Except my poor boobs, which are like, "WTF?!?"

snowbound · August 2014

Oh boy. Two days in the hospital and no "real" answers. At least I get to go home and see my baby today. That's all I care about.

chichi589 · August 2014

@snowbound‌ I've been a lurker these days with limited time to bump at work and busy nights so I'm not positive what's going on I just wanted to say I hope things get better for you and you enjoy your time with your baby!

hlm184 · August 2014

dani+california said:

@Amsull324‌ you should stop lurking and join our discussion about food!
So we can make plans for our awesome food truck? ;;)
Well what's your egg roll idea going to be? (I'm judging this whole partnership idea on your answer)
Take a crepe, spread Nutella on it, wrap it around a banana, fry. Other fruits are acceptable. But I like the Arrested Development factor of the banana. I know that question wasn't for me. Just a free idea.
This wast fave treat in Southeast Asia. Except they cut the banana up and fold it into the crêpe like an envelope, then cut it into tiny squares so you can eat it with a toothpick. Yum!

And in Guam it was then covered in honey. Mmmm.

pineconey · August 2014

RedDawnsRevenge said:

pineconey said:

Also (re:sleep) I'm simultaneously enjoying and feeling like the worst parent ever from reading the new LLL "sweet sleep" book. Gleaning what we can- bed sharing currently only works for us about 50% of the time.
so LLLI thinks we should or shouldn't co-sleep? Also TP to the advisor man, some babies aren't great sleepers. DD1 was and still is not. Hopefully it gets better soon. Sending positive hippy vibes your way.

We ARE supposed to bed share if we meet the "safe sleep 7" including EBF.

speechie517 · August 2014

Vinny424 said:

@Amsull324‌ you should stop lurking and join our discussion about food!
So we can make plans for our awesome food truck? ;;)
Well what's your egg roll idea going to be? (I'm judging this whole partnership idea on your answer)

Buffalo chicken egg roll please!

chichi589 · August 2014

@dani+california‌ so jealous of your tan in that picture!

chichi589 · August 2014

This is me every Saturday night lol

RedDawnsRevenge · August 2014

BiggerinRealLife said:
Got my IUD today. My vag hurts, I'm bleeding, and I am FREAKING PISSED OFF at the medical community at large, with their bias towards women. It's pretty freaking fracking ridiculous that the sex that is fertile 14% of the year is responsible for 95% of the birth control options. I had to stare down the barrel end of a list of possible side effects and sign away my right to be upset if my chosen method of birth control resulted in me being unable to have the number of kids we ultimately want. God forbid they make a BC method for 100% fertile men other than condoms and risk messing with the male boner!!

I'm freaking OVER the fact that we turn out bodies inside out to have a baby and then have to deal with all the "family planning" crap that comes after it! Thank God DH is happy to get snipped when we're done having kids. I'm so not doing this BC crap one second longer than I have to.

But why isn't there a better solution for men than a condom or a visectomy?!?

/end feminist sociology of family and medicine rant.

There will be soon. It's in clinical trails as we speak, (and has been for many years). From what I've heard they've been having good success so far. Sadly it will have been better studied than the BCP.

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