Longest Thread EVER! (aka Random Thoughts Thread )

PoppySeedWindsor

@allyandmike24‌ it sounds like you're doing the right thing for yourself. This too, shall pass. Lots of hugs to you and the LO!

PoppySeedWindsor

Dr. called hubster and they had a good chat about my appointment and what needs to happen. He needs to step up, take charge in helping me actively recover and work through these hormonal imbalances. Go on dates. Get outside. Give me the chance to be something other than a mom. Hubster cried and cried. It's been a hard but good emotional night. I finally feel hopeful again.

MissHSoonToBeMrsS

mamrotu73 said:

Never watched Dating Naked before. Didn't even know it existed until RTT. But DH are watching it now and being super judgey of the people on it.

I watched it the other night! I can't believe they show bare asses! I'm not mature enough for naked dating.

PoppySeedWindsor

We have absolutely no way to make any type of dessert in my house right now. Waaaaaaah.

RedDawnsRevenge

PoppySeedWindsor said:

We have absolutely no way to make any type of dessert in my house right now. Waaaaaaah.

Not even sugar cookies? Butter, sugar, flour, vanilla, baking soda? Nothing?

RocksInTheWater

allyandmike24 said:

Oh man we've had a rough day. I'm not sure what's going on with W, but she's had recurring freakouts where she's inconsolable and won't nurse all day. Pedi seems unconcerned unless there's a fever or rash. I have an appointment on Monday anyway. Gas, constipation, teething idk.

I should be counting my lucky stars that she's usually such an easy baby- this is really the first time in 4 months that I've felt like "oh shit what the hell do I do!?!?". She won't nurse, and will only take a pumped bottle so I'm in the bedroom pumping while DH feeds her. Having a glass of wine and a good cry. I don't know why, but I feel rejected somehow- like I'm no longer enough for her. Dramatic, I know, but my heart is hurting a little. 

Our babies are so small yet they can make us feel rejected at times for sure! I've been there. DS has had episodes of screaming when I tried to nurse him and it's so stressful. Looking back, I think he was usually overtired. Since he is a paci lover I would put him on the boppy and give him his paci. I would have my boob sitting right by his mouth and when he calmed down I would pull the paci and offer the boob. It usually worked. Sometimes I had to reset his buttons by changing his surroundings and trying again 10-15 min later. Try not to worry and just keep trying. She'll come around!

JessieAlbin

I got to cut out of work early tonight and got home just in time to snuggle a freshly bathed baby and take over bed time so DH could have a break. The best!! I was so hoping I was getting home in time.

Also one of my besties (and the only person DH and I are comfy with watching Sullivan) came up to my work tonight and insisted we find the soonest time for her to watch him so we can go on a real baby free date. We are going to a movie on Tuesday night!!

It's been a good day.

allyandmike24

Thanks guys. That's all really good advice. It's so hard when you feel like you can't do anything to help. She finally nursed right before going to sleep, which was nice. I'm crossing my fingers, eyes, toes, etc. that it was a fluke. BCIH (big creepy internet hugs) to you all!!!

Teresa1896

DS got super fussy at dinner time and I stuck him in his P&P so I could eat. Not a peep out of him, and he fell asleep. That was 2 hours ago. Hoping he sleeps for several more hours instead of waking up in the motn ready to party.

J&NL

I dont know what's funnier.. the look on LOs face when I sneeze him off the boob or when he cough and farts at the same time then cries because it scared him. 

I'm such a nice mom.

baileymama3

Question: for those of you taking birth control pill (not the mini), when did you see a reduction in your milk supply? Or did you? I am taking loestrin lo and just curious when I would see that happen (it's been 5 days).

PoppySeedWindsor

RedDawnsRevenge said:

PoppySeedWindsor said:

We have absolutely no way to make any type of dessert in my house right now. Waaaaaaah.

Not even sugar cookies? Butter, sugar, flour, vanilla, baking soda? Nothing?

No eggs!!! Or milk. Or yogurt. So I spread Justin's chocolate hazelnut butter on a banana. It was so...healthy. I feel cheated.

Dessert for breakfast!

SoulTermination

A's finally rolling on her own now! Still having trouble getting that bottom arm out from under her, but she has done it on her own at least once. *whew*

In other news, she's officially a Legend of Zelda fan girl. Zelda's Lullaby and Song of Storms are her preferred lullabies. So much for Enya! XD

avidkeo

Well tonight we are going no swaddle. Shes been sleeping for weeks with one arm out, and DH has had her napping during the day without the swaddle. Time to try it at night. 

kseccomb17

Thinking about opening my very own overpriced etsy shop..

RedDawnsRevenge

aronie82 said:

Reddawnsrevenge I haven't heard the story as to why you were pepper sprayed while pregnant.

TPD brought in this drunk a-hole. All arrests get a med clearance. He claimed to be diabetic. So we need a glucose check. He was not cooperative. And was spitting/kicking/thrashing about while cuffed. So me and another nurse are in there fighting this 300lb man when the rookie cop decides the best thing to do is pepper spray him in an ER room that's 8x8 maybe. I have had many PTs that have been sprayed before coming to the ER, and it sucks for us. But being less than a foot from the pt is the worst. I was pissed. When I finally could open my eyes again and stop coughing I let the cop have it. I really can't remember what I told him. But I believe I got the point across.

Edit: not sure what a pepper foray is ?

pineconey

Decided to just go ahead and plan my birthday date rather than leaving it up to DH. We will be going kayaking Monday night and my in laws will watch A. can't wait!!

Manda+panda

At Harley's 2 month appointment, she was in the 50th percentile for both height and weight. Today at her 4 month appointment, she was in the 75th for height and the 15th for weight. I'm worried that she only gained 2 pounds in 2 months.

Her doctor isn't concerned, so I know I shouldn't be, but I can't help it. So, in two weeks or a month I'm going to see if they will let me come for a weight check. I'm also debating calling my lactation consultant to do a weighted feed.

She was back up to birth weight at two weeks and 4 pounds heavier at 2 months. So this is a drastic slowing.

On th flip side, she was 18 inches when born, 22 inches at 2 months and 25 inches now. Can a drastic height change make it harder for her to gain weight?

That was a really long vent.

snowbound

I miss my baby! I'm spending my first night away from him. I went to the ER for my abdominal pain and I've been admitted. I'm so sad. I'm also not cool with pumping and dumping and I miss my DH.

snowbound

Let me add.... Does anyone know if I have to pump and dump since I had a CT scan and was injected with iodine?

Twirple

avidkeo said:

Well tonight we are going no swaddle. Shes been sleeping for weeks with one arm out, and DH has had her napping during the day without the swaddle. Time to try it at night. 

W ditched the swaddle 2 nights ago with no issues.  Good luck!

misskristina21

Both my children are asleep, but I can't fall asleep at all.

avidkeo

snowbound said:

Let me add.... Does anyone know if I have to pump and dump since I had a CT scan and was injected with iodine?

You should be fine, contrast is excreted via the kidneys very quickly. If you aren't 100% comfortable dump the first lot but you should be all good after that.

ETA its not absorbed orally so even if a small amount got to your milk, it would pass straight through baby. This is assuming they used omnipaque which is the most common contrasy.

I hope you are ok!

Roufi

@snowbound‌ that sucks I hope that they find out what it is, and thst it's no big deal. FX for you

thomas930

@snowbound‌ hope its nothing serious and you are feeling better soon.

MissHSoonToBeMrsS

lia619 said:

Way late but @MissHSoonToBeMrsS‌ we did U below the feet but under the butt might be really helpful---less movement around the crib!

Hope everything is going okay!!

Thank you! He was sleeping by 7 tonight so between 7-8 was rough. We were in there constantly. But then he slept until 4! Definitely a success. His crib is slightly elevated so he ended up about halfway down the crib.

mamahann

@allyandmike24‌ Ev has started to do the same thing and it's so frustrating. For us, mornings and nights are totally fine but the first day session on weekends she's usually a mess. She gets bottles during the week while I work and while we use a really slow flow nipple I think she just gets mad that she has to work harder. I usually offer a few times and if she really gets worked up DH will take her and give her a pacifier. When she calms down I try again.

She's started being fussy with the bottle too and has a definite tooth bump so it could be that too. Either way big creepy internet hugs (or not since we've actually met!). I hope today is better for you/her.

snowbound

Thanks everyone! I have some kind of air bubble near my liver. Don't know how that happened since the body is a closed circuit. I am now waiting to talk to the surgeons.

irisheyez7

What a rough couple of days. My brothers best friend died suddenly Sun night. I have known him most of my life. He was an electrian and was electrocuted helping a friend out with a new vacation home they purchased. He was 42 yrs old and set to be married Oct 4th. Instead of having her wedding at this restaurant, she threw a funeral luncheon. My brothers buddies have known eachother since childhood and are a really tight knit group. So hard seeing a bunch of tough guys cry. They did a really nice job celebrating his life. It's just so not fair for such a great guy to go out like that. Just so sad. Way too soon :-(

thomas930

@irisheyez7 I'm so sorry.

@snowbound keep us updated. Hopefully it will be easy to correct. 

ETA: words are hard

thomas930

DH saw that my anxiety was creeping up the past couple of days and insisted that I get out of the house. So I went and had dinner by myself and then went grocery shopping. Not real exciting but I took as much time as I wanted. Came home and the kids were in bed and he told me that older DS put himself to bed, that has never happened before.

eireyes

honeyzoo said:

forgot to post...yesterday a woman at work asked me when i was due.   ( X(

Please tell me you punched her, because if you didn't I will!

speechie517

@honeyzoo WTAF? Does she not know you just had a LO?

@Poppyseedwindsor NO dessert here either. I had to break out the emergency bag of chocolate chips to eat by the handful

Our Joann's and MIchael's are equally sucky, as is our Macy's, Kohls and Target. I can't wait until I live in a bigger city again because I love shopping. Luckily, internet shopping is just as fun.

B is going to be naked after she grows out of these 3-6 month clothes. I need to start looking for some larger sized winter clothes. ANy recommendations for solid color onesies and leggings?

Ashleypixie

Awesome morning. DH forgot it was our anniversary and woke me up ready to fight, basically telling me what a terrible person I am and how inconvenient it is to stick around and watch the baby every morning while I take advantage of my ONLY opportunity to take a shower. Once he realized what day it was he just defended himself and yelled at me even more instead of addressing my hurt feelings. Day ruined and I still haven't showered. I win the award for the worst husband ever.

Teresa1896

So sorry, @Ashleypixie‌. Happy anniversary to you, huh? Hopefully your Dh will shape up!

LO slept better than he has been, so I think we're all a bit happier today. I have been feeling queasy the past couple days. Not sure what that's about- definitely not pregnant. heading to target in a bit to buy a crib- DH has been refusing to put together our old one because he hates it, so a new one it is!

ambarnett1

@Ashleypixie‌ I'm so sorry. That's a terrible way to start your anniversary I hope your day gets better and you finally get a shower. My shower is my only alone time during the day, so I know how important it is. You need cake!

hordol

So...maybe you guys can tell me if I'm being unreasonable.

My twin sister's husband was wait listed for med school. They thought that it was a no go because they went months without hearing anything and school was starting soon. Well, two weeks ago they found out he got in! So they are doing a last minute move from western WI to PA. My BIL is already out there since classes start Monday and my sister is joining him on Monday. A friend is throwing her a goodbye party Saturday night.

We can't go because we have to go to Iowa this weekend for a belated baby shower for DS. DH's extended family all live there (his parents, sister, and us all live in MN.) it's a 3.5 hour drive or so down there. Because we are in Iowa we won't be able to see her off which makes me sad because my twin sister and I are very close. I feel bad wanting to reschedule the baby shower in Iowa because it's been planned for awhile and DH's aunts and uncles haven't met DS yet, where as my extended family sees him often because we get together more often and live a tad bit closer together. I want to be "fair", it's just that the timing sucks.

Because I felt bad rescheduling, I suggested to DH that we go down to Iowa for the day but don't stay the night like we planned and drive back late Saturday (baby shower is at 4pm) so that even though I can't make the goodbye party, we can go see her on Sunday before she leaves Monday. DH didn't really say anything. Then last night I heard him talking to MIL on the phone and he told her we would ride with them to Iowa instead of driving separately (which means we have to spend the night because that's what their plans are.) I was a little hurt that he completely disregarded my suggestion to leave early so I could see my sister before she leaves. I know it won't be forever and we will probably see her at Christmas, but this all happened so fast I just feel bad not being able to say goodbye. I know we hardly ever see his family, but I thought that driving home late would be a fair compromise.

He's not normally a jerk which is why I'm sitting here wondering if I'm just being unreasonable again. The thing is, if the roles were reversed and we found out his sister or his best friend had to do a sudden move, I can't imagine suggesting we still go forth with our original plans. That's why I'm a little bit upset. I did bring it up to him and he just said, "you should have told them to have the party a different day." Well, I'm not the one throwing it DH, I cant just dictate that. Besides, there wasn't a whole lot of notice so it's not like they could hem and haw over a date...

Sorry for the novel. I'm just curious if other people would be upset or if I have been spending too much time alone/thinking that this is a bigger deal to me than it should be lol.

hordol

@Ashleypixie‌ I'm so sorry you had to start off your anniversary that way. I really hope your DH realizes what a jerk he was to you this morning and makes it up to you in a big, big way.

PoppySeedWindsor

Manda+panda said:

At Harley's 2 month appointment, she was in the 50th percentile for both height and weight. Today at her 4 month appointment, she was in the 75th for height and the 15th for weight. I'm worried that she only gained 2 pounds in 2 months. Her doctor isn't concerned, so I know I shouldn't be, but I can't help it. So, in two weeks or a month I'm going to see if they will let me come for a weight check. I'm also debating calling my lactation consultant to do a weighted feed. She was back up to birth weight at two weeks and 4 pounds heavier at 2 months. So this is a drastic slowing. On th flip side, she was 18 inches when born, 22 inches at 2 months and 25 inches now. Can a drastic height change make it harder for her to gain weight? That was a really long vent.

Merri was 90% for both at birth and at her two months she was over 100% for length (seriously, she was 26 inches long) and only 50% for weight. She's JUST now starting to chunk up again. No worries mama! Babies grow in all sorts of wonky ways.

PoppySeedWindsor

@Ashleypixie I'm sorry that you woke up to that. What a bummer. Maybe go celebrate out with the kiddos today?