If you are male, over the age of 8, and not working out or doing some form of physical activity please do not wear a tank top. The whole "Suns Out Guns Out" is only cute on a pudgy 9m.
Wrong. Channing Tatum can wear whatever he wants.
This leads me to another UO: I do not find Channing Tatum attractive. Give me Tom Hardy any day.
Seriously, please give me Tom Hardy.
I'm not a hundred percent sure who Tom Hardy is (actor?) but I agree that Channing Tatum does nothing for me. Not ugly, but he has assface. You know, when a guy has those round cheeks and then the little pouty mouth?
All I said was where I am from it's common courtesy to cover your plate. It's not greedy, or obligation, or judging and no one in the thread made it seem otherwise.
This phrase here is judging and being greedy because it's saying if you don't cover your plate then you're rude, ie your gift is not good enough ie greedy.
Andplusalso, I take that phrase as etiquette not greedy.
If you are male, over the age of 8, and not working out or doing some form of physical activity please do not wear a tank top. The whole "Suns Out Guns Out" is only cute on a pudgy 9m.
Wrong.
Channing Tatum can wear whatever he wants.
This leads me to another UO: I do not find Channing Tatum attractive. Give me Tom Hardy any day.
Seriously, please give me Tom Hardy.
I'm not a hundred percent sure who Tom Hardy is (actor?) but I agree that Channing Tatum does nothing for me. Not ugly, but he has assface. You know, when a guy has those round cheeks and then the little pouty mouth?
I think he looks crosseyed
That, too!
I will just take Clint Eastwood's son!
Yay!! Is this week's UO going to turn into another NSFW thread?? Sign me up!
OK this is going back a few to Nryan's guest but Kraft mac n' cheese isn't even the good kind.
#velveeta
#liquidgold
My UO: I don't like velveet shells n' cheese. It's TOO fake cheesy. I like the old school kraft, but we've only eaten it twice in 5 months. Not every meal.
UO: If big weddings are your bag and you want to spend all the doll hairs on one, all the more power to you. But I cannot see the appeal when all of that money could go towards a pretty hefty down payment on a house, instead. We spent $5k on ours and in retrospect, I wish we had just gone to the courthouse and been done with it.
#itwassupersmallanyway
#IthinkIhavealreadysharedthisUO
#Ohwell
The key is make your money back from the people who come!
Exactly we pretty much broke even. As long as you don't count our wedding rings or our honeymoon.
UO: If big weddings are your bag and you want to spend all the doll hairs on one, all the more power to you. But I cannot see the appeal when all of that money could go towards a pretty hefty down payment on a house, instead. We spent $5k on ours and in retrospect, I wish we had just gone to the courthouse and been done with it.
#itwassupersmallanyway
#IthinkIhavealreadysharedthisUO
#Ohwell
The key is make your money back from the people who come!
Exactly we pretty much broke even. As long as you don't count our wedding rings or our honeymoon.
What a horrible way to think of a wedding, "breaking even".
Why is it so bad? You have a party for friends and family, an awesome time. If you end up breaking even what's so bad about that?if you do great, if not great too. As long as everyone has fun. I'm sure she thinks upon the day fondly and so did her guests.
I really don't understand the big deal that is being made of this whole thing. The original comment I made was semi joking, then serious comments came after and I addressed them.
If you are male, over the age of 8, and not working out or doing some form of physical activity please do not wear a tank top. The whole "Suns Out Guns Out" is only cute on a pudgy 9m.
Wrong. Channing Tatum can wear whatever he wants.
This leads me to another UO: I do not find Channing Tatum attractive. Give me Tom Hardy any day.
Seriously, please give me Tom Hardy.
I'm not a hundred percent sure who Tom Hardy is (actor?) but I agree that Channing Tatum does nothing for me. Not ugly, but he has assface. You know, when a guy has those round cheeks and then the little pouty mouth?
I think he looks crosseyed
That, too!
I will just take Clint Eastwood's son!
quoting to see pic again #foine #isithotinhere
Damn!!!! I deft would NOT kick him outta bed!!!! #itishotinhere
All I said was where I am from it's common courtesy to cover your plate. It's not greedy, or obligation, or judging and no one in the thread made it seem otherwise.
How do people know what you paid? Is in on the invite? "You're invited! Your plate will cost us $87!". #justcurious
All I said was where I am from it's common courtesy to cover your plate. It's not greedy, or obligation, or judging and no one in the thread made it seem otherwise.
How do people know what you paid? Is in on the invite? "You're invited! Your plate will cost us $87!". #justcurious
Just in general around here a catering hall is about $100-130. I always give $150 so hopefully they get a little extra.
If you are male, over the age of 8, and not working out or doing some form of physical activity please do not wear a tank top. The whole "Suns Out Guns Out" is only cute on a pudgy 9m.
Wrong.
Channing Tatum can wear whatever he wants.
This leads me to another UO: I do not find Channing Tatum attractive. Give me Tom Hardy any day.
Seriously, please give me Tom Hardy.
I'm not a hundred percent sure who Tom Hardy is (actor?) but I agree that Channing Tatum does nothing for me. Not ugly, but he has assface. You know, when a guy has those round cheeks and then the little pouty mouth?
I think he looks crosseyed
That, too!
I will just take Clint Eastwood's son!
quoting to see pic again #foine #isithotinhere
Damn!!!! I deft would NOT kick him outta bed!!!!
#itishotinhere
Eh, what the hell. #heshawt #iddohim #iwonderifhehasmagicfingers
UO: If big weddings are your bag and you want to spend all the doll hairs on one, all the more power to you. But I cannot see the appeal when all of that money could go towards a pretty hefty down payment on a house, instead. We spent $5k on ours and in retrospect, I wish we had just gone to the courthouse and been done with it.
#itwassupersmallanyway
#IthinkIhavealreadysharedthisUO
#Ohwell
The key is make your money back from the people who come!
Exactly we pretty much broke even. As long as you don't count our wedding rings or our honeymoon.
What a horrible way to think of a wedding, "breaking even".
All I was trying to say. Is that spending money on your wedding isn't a waste.
All I said was where I am from it's common courtesy to cover your plate. It's not greedy, or obligation, or judging and no one in the thread made it seem otherwise.
How do people know what you paid? Is in on the invite? "You're invited! Your plate will cost us $87!". #justcurious
No one should know what you pay. If we didn't break even whatever. There were several people who came and didn't bring a gift . I didn't mean my statement to make it seem like. We were aiming to break even , but we did. It was nice that it happened!
If you are male, over the age of 8, and not working out or doing some form of physical activity please do not wear a tank top. The whole "Suns Out Guns Out" is only cute on a pudgy 9m.
Wrong.
Channing Tatum can wear whatever he wants.
This leads me to another UO: I do not find Channing Tatum attractive. Give me Tom Hardy any day.
Seriously, please give me Tom Hardy.
I'm not a hundred percent sure who Tom Hardy is (actor?) but I agree that Channing Tatum does nothing for me. Not ugly, but he has assface. You know, when a guy has those round cheeks and then the little pouty mouth?
I think he looks crosseyed
That, too!
I will just take Clint Eastwood's son!
quoting to see pic again #foine #isithotinhere
Damn!!!! I deft would NOT kick him outta bed!!!!
#itishotinhere
Eh, what the hell. #heshawt #iddohim #iwonderifhehasmagicfingers
I was wondering the same thing. #notasmagicasmyhusbands
If you need to spend soo much money on your wedding that you're counting on being reimbursed for it, then maybe you should tone it down.
Nobody is counting on being reimbursed. It is just normal in our cultures/circles/geographical location to receive cash as a wedding gift. It is common knowledge to "expect" cash as a gift in these circumstances, but in no way is it a requirement for entry, or used to pay for the wedding itself. There is no minimum, there is no maximin . It's the same as getting a gift from Macy's. They are purely gifts for your wedding.
Registering for your wedding is "expecting" people to buy you a gift in the same way.
UO: I hate registries and never ever buy from them.
If you need to spend soo much money on your wedding that you're counting on being reimbursed for it, then maybe you should tone it down.
Nobody is counting on being reimbursed. It is just normal in our cultures/circles/geographical location to receive cash as a wedding gift. It is common knowledge to "expect" cash as a gift in these circumstances, but in no way is it a requirement for entry, or used to pay for the wedding itself. There is no minimum, there is no maximin . It's the same as getting a gift from Macy's. They are purely gifts for your wedding.
Registering for your wedding is "expecting" people to buy you a gift in the same way.
UO: I hate registries and never ever buy from them.
No it isn't
Why not?
Registering is expecting your guests to buy you a gift. If they get one from there great. If they don't, no big deal. If someone chooses to give me cash as a wedding gift, great, if they don't, no big deal.
If you need to spend soo much money on your wedding that you're counting on being reimbursed for it, then maybe you should tone it down.
If this was a jab at me, you are talking to the wrong person. We both worked extra hours to pay our wedding off. We did not expect anything, but it was nice to break even.
The whole point of my post is that while you spend money. You will be getting gifts and money in return. So you shouldn't look at spending money on a wedding as a waste of finances.
We had a large wedding and we did not put anything on a credit card. If we couldn't pay it out of our pockets we didn't buy it.
If you need to spend soo much money on your wedding that you're counting on being reimbursed for it, then maybe you should tone it down.
Nobody is counting on being reimbursed. It is just normal in our cultures/circles/geographical location to receive cash as a wedding gift. It is common knowledge to "expect" cash as a gift in these circumstances, but in no way is it a requirement for entry, or used to pay for the wedding itself. There is no minimum, there is no maximin . It's the same as getting a gift from Macy's. They are purely gifts for your wedding.
Registering for your wedding is "expecting" people to buy you a gift in the same way.
UO: I hate registries and never ever buy from them.
No it isn't
Why not?
Registering is expecting your guests to buy you a gift. If they get one from there great. If they don't, no big deal. If someone chooses to give me cash as a wedding gift, great, if they don't, no big deal.
You aren't making a ton of sense, but I agree with the second part of your statement. An expectation would imply that you would be disappointed if it did not come to fruition, so I think I just got hung up on the wording of your initial post.
I also think you didn't understand Welderjack's post, she wasn't hating on cash gifts, just saying that if you can't afford a wedding then don't have one.
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Sorry English is hard. I need a different word for "expect"...that's why I put it in quotes to begin with....not really sure that's the right word. How about..."it is understood that it would not be out of the ordinary to receive cash gifts in some circles".
Edit: and yeah, maybe I misread welldracks post, but after retreading I still see it the same....regardless #notworthafight. Just felt bad @bkeane619 was the only one defending #teamcash and I was just love titting her posts.
If you need to spend soo much money on your wedding that you're counting on being reimbursed for it, then maybe you should tone it down.
If this was a jab at me, you are talking to the wrong person. We both worked extra hours to pay our wedding off. We did not expect anything, but it was nice to break even.
The whole point of my post is that while you spend money. You will be getting gifts and money in return. So you shouldn't look at spending money on a wedding as a waste of finances.
We had a large wedding and we did not put anything on a credit card. If we couldn't pay it out of our pockets we didn't buy it.
It's not a "jab" it's an opinion. I'm happy for you that you got what you wanted without going into massive debt which is on par with my sentiment of have a wedding you can afford while not wanting your guests to cover their meal.
If you need to spend soo much money on your wedding that you're counting on being reimbursed for it, then maybe you should tone it down.
Nobody is counting on being reimbursed. It is just normal in our cultures/circles/geographical location to receive cash as a wedding gift. It is common knowledge to "expect" cash as a gift in these circumstances, but in no way is it a requirement for entry, or used to pay for the wedding itself. There is no minimum, there is no maximin . It's the same as getting a gift from Macy's. They are purely gifts for your wedding.
Registering for your wedding is "expecting" people to buy you a gift in the same way.
UO: I hate registries and never ever buy from them.
No it isn't
Why not?
Registering is expecting your guests to buy you a gift. If they get one from there great. If they don't, no big deal. If someone chooses to give me cash as a wedding gift, great, if they don't, no big deal.
You aren't making a ton of sense, but I agree with the second part of your statement. An expectation would imply that you would be disappointed if it did not come to fruition, so I think I just got hung up on the wording of your initial post.
I also think you didn't understand Welderjack's post, she wasn't hating on cash gifts, just saying that if you can't afford a wedding then don't have one.
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Sorry English is hard. I need a different word for "expect"...that's why I put it in quotes to begin with....not really sure that's the right word. How about..."it is understood that it would not be out of the ordinary to receive cash gifts in some circles".
Edit: and yeah, maybe I misread welldracks post, but after retreading I still see it the same....regardless #notworthafight. Just felt bad @bkeane619 was the only one defending #teamcash and I was just love titting her posts.
I defend team cash too. Its really not weird around here to see a box full of cards with cash and maybe a gift or 2 on the gift table. Its the norm. We probably got $12ish from the wedding plus the actual gifts we received at my shower. I was very happy and our party is still talked about by my friends and family so Im thrilled everyone had a good time. It was everything I wanted and wouldn't change a thing. We certainly didn't come close to paying for the wedding with what we received in gifts, but that wasn't the intention. My friends in NY usually get in the $30-$50,000 range in gifts. They also have more expensive weddings then me so its all relative.
Do people really get thousands of dollars as wedding gifts?!? What!? I've never heard of this.
Also, even though *technically* etiquette does NOT require a guest to give a gift, I think it's pretty shitty for people to eat, drink, dance it up all night long and not even give you a $25 gift card, handmade item, or something, anything.
We saved up for a year for our wedding and paid everything cash. Oh, and I ordered my fresh flowers from Sams Club online, they sell wedding packages and centerpieces and were amazeballs and I spent around $800. I saved thousandssssss.
I think we got like $8k. Lets poll it
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The problem with a poll is that it's limited though--There are a lot of variables..how many people, geographical area, age at wedding, first/second wedding... But asking all that starts to get nosy/privacy/over sharing.....it's a delicate line!
If you need to spend soo much money on your wedding that you're counting on being reimbursed for it, then maybe you should tone it down.
Nobody is counting on being reimbursed. It is just normal in our cultures/circles/geographical location to receive cash as a wedding gift. It is common knowledge to "expect" cash as a gift in these circumstances, but in no way is it a requirement for entry, or used to pay for the wedding itself. There is no minimum, there is no maximin . It's the same as getting a gift from Macy's. They are purely gifts for your wedding.
Registering for your wedding is "expecting" people to buy you a gift in the same way.
UO: I hate registries and never ever buy from them.
No it isn't
Why not?
Registering is expecting your guests to buy you a gift. If they get one from there great. If they don't, no big deal. If someone chooses to give me cash as a wedding gift, great, if they don't, no big deal.
You aren't making a ton of sense, but I agree with the second part of your statement. An expectation would imply that you would be disappointed if it did not come to fruition, so I think I just got hung up on the wording of your initial post.
I also think you didn't understand Welderjack's post, she wasn't hating on cash gifts, just saying that if you can't afford a wedding then don't have one.
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Sorry English is hard. I need a different word for "expect"...that's why I put it in quotes to begin with....not really sure that's the right word. How about..."it is understood that it would not be out of the ordinary to receive cash gifts in some circles".
Edit: and yeah, maybe I misread welldracks post, but after retreading I still see it the same....regardless #notworthafight. Just felt bad @bkeane619 was the only one defending #teamcash and I was just love titting her posts.
Thanks, I was beginning to think I was losing my mind.
I think what one spends on a wedding and what one gives as a wedding gift are completely independent issues.
I don't think everyone expects or thinks it is the norm to receive enough cash to count towards expenses. I have been to weddings that the bride and groom requested donations to their favorite charity in lieu of gifts and/or had a blanket drive for the homeless.
I think what one spends on a wedding and what one gives as a wedding gift are completely independent issues.
I don't think everyone expects or thinks it is the norm to receive enough cash to count towards expenses. I have been to weddings that the bride and groom requested donations to their favorite charity in lieu of gifts and/or had a blanket drive for the homeless.
The blanket drive/donation instead of gifts is a great idea!! I wish we had done that! We did donated to the American Cancer Society instead of giving party favors and left a poem on the tables explaining it. It was important for us to not "waste" the money on crappy favors (no offense to anyone) and gave it to a good cause instead. We had lost a few family members to cancer, my mom had breast cancer and DHs father had prostate cancer with the few year prior to our wedding so it just felt right.
I don't have a problem with gifts. I don't even have a problem with your social norms. Everyone can agree that giving gifts for special events is something most people want to do. I've already said what I mean about what I said.
I got all excited about getting a milkshake thanks to the milkshake discussions here today. I told DH when he got home and he also wanted one, so we made a detour (only a few blocks, but in the disgusting heat) to the conjoined Baskin-Robbins/Dunkin Donuts to get them. We got all the way there, I was just about to open the door, when I realized the other reason, besides the fact that it was cold out, why I haven't had a milkshake in ages. I'm not having any dairy because of DD's milk protein allergy. Total let-down, plus I felt like such a dummy for not remembering until we were almost at the point of ordering. Oh, well, at least DH got a shake.
I got all excited about getting a milkshake thanks to the milkshake discussions here today. I told DH when he got home and he also wanted one, so we made a detour (only a few blocks, but in the disgusting heat) to the conjoined Baskin-Robbins/Dunkin Donuts to get them. We got all the way there, I was just about to open the door, when I realized the other reason, besides the fact that it was cold out, why I haven't had a milkshake in ages. I'm not having any dairy because of DD's milk protein allergy. Total let-down, plus I felt like such a dummy for not remembering until we were almost at the point of ordering. Oh, well, at least DH got a shake.
We paid for plain tickets to kauai and accommodations for our closest friends and family. Obviously we didn't make back what we spent but it was really the best time of our lives. Destination weddings are amazing!
Re: UO anyone?
@btimes3 I submit for your viewing pleasure...
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Andplusalso, I take that phrase as etiquette not greedy.
World Wildlife Fund for life!
#literally,ForLife,Wildlife
Any degree of attractiveness of Clint Eastwood's son is cancelled out by the cigar in his mouth.
Also, why doesn't he have a name? Surely his birth certificate doesn't say "Clint Eastwood's son Eastwood".
#StillNotGooglingIt
#Don'tCareThatMuch
Scott Eastwood. Cigars>cigarettes
Cigarettes are a definite turn off.
The key is make your money back from the people who come!
Exactly we pretty much broke even. As long as you don't count our wedding rings or our honeymoon.
quoting to see pic again #foine #isithotinhere
Why is it so bad? You have a party for friends and family, an awesome time. If you end up breaking even what's so bad about that?if you do great, if not great too. As long as everyone has fun. I'm sure she thinks upon the day fondly and so did her guests.
I really don't understand the big deal that is being made of this whole thing. The original comment I made was semi joking, then serious comments came after and I addressed them.
quoting to see pic again #foine #isithotinhere
Damn!!!! I deft would NOT kick him outta bed!!!!
#itishotinhere
Just in general around here a catering hall is about $100-130. I always give $150 so hopefully they get a little extra.
All I was trying to say. Is that spending money on your wedding isn't a waste.
No one should know what you pay. If we didn't break even whatever. There were several people who came and didn't bring a gift . I didn't mean my statement to make it seem like. We were aiming to break even , but we did. It was nice that it happened!
Registering for your wedding is "expecting" people to buy you a gift in the same way.
UO: I hate registries and never ever buy from them.
Registering is expecting your guests to buy you a gift. If they get one from there great. If they don't, no big deal. If someone chooses to give me cash as a wedding gift, great, if they don't, no big deal.
The whole point of my post is that while you spend money. You will be getting gifts and money in return. So you shouldn't look at spending money on a wedding as a waste of finances.
We had a large wedding and we did not put anything on a credit card. If we couldn't pay it out of our pockets we didn't buy it.
An expectation would imply that you would be disappointed if it did not come to fruition, so I think I just got hung up on the wording of your initial post.
I also think you didn't understand Welderjack's post, she wasn't hating on cash gifts, just saying that if you can't afford a wedding then don't have one.
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Sorry English is hard. I need a different word for "expect"...that's why I put it in quotes to begin with....not really sure that's the right word. How about..."it is understood that it would not be out of the ordinary to receive cash gifts in some circles".
Edit: and yeah, maybe I misread welldracks post, but after retreading I still see it the same....regardless #notworthafight. Just felt bad @bkeane619 was the only one defending #teamcash and I was just love titting her posts.
For the wedding we paid somewhere between. 5k - 6k can't remember exact figures anymore.
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The problem with a poll is that it's limited though--There are a lot of variables..how many people, geographical area, age at wedding, first/second wedding... But asking all that starts to get nosy/privacy/over sharing.....it's a delicate line!
Sorry English is hard. I need a different word for "expect"...that's why I put it in quotes to begin with....not really sure that's the right word. How about..."it is understood that it would not be out of the ordinary to receive cash gifts in some circles".
Edit: and yeah, maybe I misread welldracks post, but after retreading I still see it the same....regardless #notworthafight. Just felt bad @bkeane619 was the only one defending #teamcash and I was just love titting her posts.
Thanks, I was beginning to think I was losing my mind.
I don't think everyone expects or thinks it is the norm to receive enough cash to count towards expenses. I have been to weddings that the bride and groom requested donations to their favorite charity in lieu of gifts and/or had a blanket drive for the homeless.
#BFPun