UO anyone?

carawasa

bkeane619 said:

has615 said:

Gift are for bridal showers and cash at a wedding.  Thats how NYC does it at least. 

That is correct on LI too

Also in my mind.

kimbo1216

I guess my UO is that it is NOT the guests' job to cover the cost of YOUR wedding.

Throw the wedding that's in your budget. Give gifts in your budget.

Ajoyd

btimes3 said:

Whitey McPaleface here.  

Dead. #postingfromthegrave

MrsStuessyWI

holy shit! I could not afford to come to these weddings if a minimum of $100-$200 was expected. Now that I know how much other people gift I don't know if I can attend weddings in the future. $40-$50 was much more standard at our wedding, besides family. I guess I will stick with gifts off the registry and hope I'm not judged too much. Honestly, if I can only afford to give $50 max should I not go to a wedding? Serious question, not trying to be rude. I feel bad now about the wedding we went to last weekend. 

bkeane619

MrsStuessyWI said:

holy shit! I could not afford to come to these weddings if a minimum of $100-$200 was expected. Now that I know how much other people gift I don't know if I can attend weddings in the future. $40-$50 was much more standard at our wedding, besides family. I guess I will stick with gifts off the registry and hope I'm not judged too much. Honestly, if I can only afford to give $50 max should I not go to a wedding? Serious question, not trying to be rude. I feel bad now about the wedding we went to last weekend. 

I think it's regional

Ajoyd

Connorsmama2006 said:

Amjoy25 said:

missgpsu said:

I am going to see my ILs for the next 5 days.  They run a milkshake stand at fairs and carnivals all summer.  My UO: Milkshakes are better than alcohol

In Columbia they have a place that serves alcoholic milkshakes!

STL too. #weloveourboozeinMO #milkshakesandalcoholarenotmutuallyexclusive

EmJ&B

btimes3 said:

.  Speaking on behalf of my pallid brethren

#dedagain

EmJ&B

EmJ&B said:

btimes3 said:

.  Speaking on behalf of my pallid brethren

#dedagain

#whataboutsisteren
#thatsnotevenaword
#friendsreference

dovetail223

MrsStuessyWI said:

holy shit! I could not afford to come to these weddings if a minimum of $100-$200 was expected. Now that I know how much other people gift I don't know if I can attend weddings in the future. $40-$50 was much more standard at our wedding, besides family. I guess I will stick with gifts off the registry and hope I'm not judged too much. Honestly, if I can only afford to give $50 max should I not go to a wedding? Serious question, not trying to be rude. I feel bad now about the wedding we went to last weekend. 

I don't think you should feel bad at all. If someone thinks your gift is too little than they are jerks IMO.

Weljadraak

If someone judges you for what gift you bring or how much money you  give, they are a greedy, ungrateful, entitled individual and they need to check their privilidge. 

Ajoyd

Weljadraak said:

If someone judges you for what gift you bring or how much money you  give, they are a greedy, ungrateful, entitled individual and they need to check their privilidge. 

Before they wreck themselves amiright?

Sorry, couldn't help it, one of my fave gifs.

Weljadraak

hahahah exactly, Ajoyd!

MrsStuessyWI

ok, thanks. I agree it is probably regional. I don't really think any of my friends would judge, their new spouses I can't vouch for. So, if I go to a wedding in a different region would I seem like a jerk for not giving them more money? (not that I am going to any different regions anytime soon)

Lee81

I liked the polls, but I wished they would have been spread out across two or three evenings, not crammed into one. I couldn't keep up!

I don't expect reimbursement for my expenses at any other party I throw, I'm not sure why my wedding would be different.

Milkshakes for lyfe.

bkeane619

Weljadraak said:

If someone judges you for what gift you bring or how much money you  give, they are a greedy, ungrateful, entitled individual and they need to check their privilidge. 

I don't judge anyone, I paid for one of my bridesmaids dresses because she couldn't afford it. I was just stating that where I'm from it's common courtesy considering how expensive weddings are in our area. Things are different all over the country and in different social circles.

Ajoyd

bkeane619 said:

If someone judges you for what gift you bring or how much money you  give, they are a greedy, ungrateful, entitled individual and they need to check their privilidge. 

I don't judge anyone, I paid for one of my bridesmaids dresses because she couldn't afford it. I was just stating that where I'm from it's common courtesy considering how expensive weddings are in our area. Things are different all over the country and in different social circles.

This I agree with. If I was a person of means and someone invited me to a really swanky wedding, it would be pretty cheap of me to not give a nice-sized gift. 

Weljadraak

bkeane619 said:

If someone judges you for what gift you bring or how much money you  give, they are a greedy, ungrateful, entitled individual and they need to check their privilidge. 

I don't judge anyone, I paid for one of my bridesmaids dresses because she couldn't afford it. I was just stating that where I'm from it's common courtesy considering how expensive weddings are in our area. Things are different all over the country and in different social circles.

I get that.  I wasn't talking about anyone, I was saying in general if you judge the gifts you receive then you're an asshole.

MrsStuessyWI

Ajoyd said:

bkeane619 said:

If someone judges you for what gift you bring or how much money you  give, they are a greedy, ungrateful, entitled individual and they need to check their privilidge. 

I don't judge anyone, I paid for one of my bridesmaids dresses because she couldn't afford it. I was just stating that where I'm from it's common courtesy considering how expensive weddings are in our area. Things are different all over the country and in different social circles.

This I agree with. If I was a person of means and someone invited me to a really swanky wedding, it would be pretty cheap of me to not give a nice-sized gift. 

So, if you could not afford a nice-sized gift should you decline the invitation to a swanky wedding? I agree it is social circles though. I am also 24, so most of my friends are on the younger side as well and have cheaper weddings in general. 

Ajoyd

MrsStuessyWI said:

Ajoyd said:

bkeane619 said:

If someone judges you for what gift you bring or how much money you  give, they are a greedy, ungrateful, entitled individual and they need to check their privilidge. 

I don't judge anyone, I paid for one of my bridesmaids dresses because she couldn't afford it. I was just stating that where I'm from it's common courtesy considering how expensive weddings are in our area. Things are different all over the country and in different social circles.

This I agree with. If I was a person of means and someone invited me to a really swanky wedding, it would be pretty cheap of me to not give a nice-sized gift. 

So, if you could not afford a nice-sized gift should you decline the invitation to a swanky wedding? I agree it is social circles though. I am also 24, so most of my friends are on the younger side as well and have cheaper weddings in general. 

See the bolded. I am not a person of means so my point above is moo as it relates to me.

DETrent

Weljadraak said:

bkeane619 said:

Weljadraak said:

If someone judges you for what gift you bring or how much money you  give, they are a greedy, ungrateful, entitled individual and they need to check their privilidge. 

I don't judge anyone, I paid for one of my bridesmaids dresses because she couldn't afford it. I was just stating that where I'm from it's common courtesy considering how expensive weddings are in our area. Things are different all over the country and in different social circles.

I get that.  I wasn't talking about anyone, I was saying in general if you judge the gifts you receive then you're an asshole.

True story. I was in a wedding where the bride constantly made snide comments about gifts. Of course, she's also the same girl who made her fiancé exchange her engagement ring because she wanted something bigger.

Amjoy25

jnsmith85 said:

He's a  married man!  ...but I am dying  for a taste of his beef wellington.

I have eaten the wellington at one of his restaurants in Vegas, it was okay.... but I don't have a very sophisticated pallet either so maybe that's why. eta: It was at his Restaurant "Steak" in Vegas. Everything else was aaammmaaaaazing. His toffee pudding is to die for.

Been there! I saw David Spade!

bkeane619

MrsStuessyWI said:

Ajoyd said:

bkeane619 said:

If someone judges you for what gift you bring or how much money you  give, they are a greedy, ungrateful, entitled individual and they need to check their privilidge. 

I don't judge anyone, I paid for one of my bridesmaids dresses because she couldn't afford it. I was just stating that where I'm from it's common courtesy considering how expensive weddings are in our area. Things are different all over the country and in different social circles.

This I agree with. If I was a person of means and someone invited me to a really swanky wedding, it would be pretty cheap of me to not give a nice-sized gift. 


So, if you could not afford a nice-sized gift should you decline the invitation to a swanky wedding? I agree it is social circles though. I am also 24, so most of my friends are on the younger side as well and have cheaper weddings in general. 


When I was younger I declined weddings of friends due to cost. Mostly travel/clothing. I would still send a check but it would be a little less than if I attended.

Amjoy25

kimbo1216 said:

I guess my UO is that it is NOT the guests' job to cover the cost of YOUR wedding. Throw the wedding that's in your budget. Give gifts in your budget.

Greed is not a cute color on anyone.

MrsStuessyWI

Ajoyd said:

MrsStuessyWI said:

Ajoyd said:

bkeane619 said:

If someone judges you for what gift you bring or how much money you  give, they are a greedy, ungrateful, entitled individual and they need to check their privilidge. 

I don't judge anyone, I paid for one of my bridesmaids dresses because she couldn't afford it. I was just stating that where I'm from it's common courtesy considering how expensive weddings are in our area. Things are different all over the country and in different social circles.

This I agree with. If I was a person of means and someone invited me to a really swanky wedding, it would be pretty cheap of me to not give a nice-sized gift. 

So, if you could not afford a nice-sized gift should you decline the invitation to a swanky wedding? I agree it is social circles though. I am also 24, so most of my friends are on the younger side as well and have cheaper weddings in general. 

See the bolded. I am not a person of means so my point above is moo as it relates to me.

ah, then ignore my comment. Makes sense now. 

Amjoy25

Connorsmama2006 said:

Amjoy25 said:

missgpsu said:

I am going to see my ILs for the next 5 days.  They run a milkshake stand at fairs and carnivals all summer.  My UO: Milkshakes are better than alcohol

In Columbia they have a place that serves alcoholic milkshakes!

::searching Orbits for flights::

Weljadraak

DETrent said:

True story. I was in a wedding where the bride constantly made snide comments about gifts. Of course, she's also the same girl who made her fiancé exchange her engagement ring because she wanted something bigger.

I have a close relative who is like this.  Nothing is ever good enough for her.  I don't think she realizes she could have nothing, that she has more than others and to be thankful for what you have.

Weljadraak

Pandora should get it together and add more lyrics to their database.  There's really no good reason I am not seeing the lyrics to "Foxey Lady" right now.

hlb622

My UO: Fox News is not news. 

bkeane619

hlb622 said:

My UO: Fox News is not news. 

That's unpopular? Actually, I think lately none of them are news.

Ajoyd

hlb622 said:

My UO: Fox News is not news. 

WHAT?!?!?! Do you also think WWF is not wrestling???

Kdanson

Connorsmama2006 said:

If you are male, over the age of 8, and not working out or doing some form of physical activity please do not wear a tank top. The whole "Suns Out Guns Out" is only cute on a pudgy 9m.

Wrong.
Channing Tatum can wear whatever he wants.

DETrent

Kdanson said:

Connorsmama2006 said:

If you are male, over the age of 8, and not working out or doing some form of physical activity please do not wear a tank top. The whole "Suns Out Guns Out" is only cute on a pudgy 9m.

Wrong.
Channing Tatum can wear whatever he wants.

This leads me to another UO: I do not find Channing Tatum attractive. Give me Tom Hardy any day.

Seriously, please give me Tom Hardy.

carawasa

Ajoyd said:

hlb622 said:

My UO: Fox News is not news. 

WHAT?!?!?! Do you also think WWF is not wrestling???

ahem....WWE

Kdanson

DETrent said:

Kdanson said:

Connorsmama2006 said:

If you are male, over the age of 8, and not working out or doing some form of physical activity please do not wear a tank top. The whole "Suns Out Guns Out" is only cute on a pudgy 9m.

Wrong.
Channing Tatum can wear whatever he wants.

This leads me to another UO: I do not find Channing Tatum attractive. Give me Tom Hardy any day.

Seriously, please give me Tom Hardy.

I mean, Tom Hardy is also extremely hot, but you don't find Channing Tatum attractive? Have you seen Magic Mike? The way that man can move... Puts dirty thoughts in my head.

Also, the pics of him with his baby are oh so sweet!

hlb622

bkeane619 said:

My UO: Fox News is not news. 

That's unpopular? Actually, I think lately none of them are news.

Y'know, I didn't think it was, but the last few days on TB has surprised me. 

Ajoyd

carawasa said:

hlb622 said:

My UO: Fox News is not news. 

WHAT?!?!?! Do you also think WWF is not wrestling???

ahem....WWE

Well in my day young lady it was WWF!

bkeane619

btimes3 said:

DETrent said:

Kdanson said:

Connorsmama2006 said:

If you are male, over the age of 8, and not working out or doing some form of physical activity please do not wear a tank top. The whole "Suns Out Guns Out" is only cute on a pudgy 9m.

Wrong.
Channing Tatum can wear whatever he wants.

This leads me to another UO: I do not find Channing Tatum attractive. Give me Tom Hardy any day.

Seriously, please give me Tom Hardy.

I'm not a hundred percent sure who Tom Hardy is (actor?) but I agree that Channing Tatum does nothing for me.  Not ugly, but he has assface.  You know, when a guy has those round cheeks and then the little pouty mouth?

I think he looks crosseyed

PinkDahLia44

Team not your guests obligation to pay for your wedding.

Also team Channing Tatum is not attractive.

bkeane619

All I said was where I am from it's common courtesy to cover your plate. It's not greedy, or obligation, or judging and no one in the thread made it seem otherwise.

bkeane619

crunchymama11 said:

bkeane619 said:

All I said was where I am from it's common courtesy to cover your plate. It's not greedy, or obligation, or judging and no one in the thread made it seem otherwise.

This phrase here is judging and being greedy because it's saying if you don't cover your plate then you're rude, ie your gift is not good enough ie greedy.

Ok let me rephrase. "The norm"