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January 2015 Moms
Toddler/restaurant rant
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Re: Toddler/restaurant rant
I so love this. My child was difficult for the first 8 years of her life and is slowwwly becoming better behaved (at age 11). It drives me crazy when people judge parents for their children's behavior or say stuff like, "If my kid does that, I just give them the eye and they zip it!"... well good for you, you have a child who doesn't like to ruffle any feathers- my kid likes to switch things up a bit and push any and all buttons she can find. Some people have no fucking clue what it's like to have a child that is hell bent on doing whatever they want. Come back when your well-behaved child gets a sibling that acts like the spawn of satan.
Hey - if you want to make child leashes your hill to die on - great good for you.
I will save my "I will nevers" for things like leaving my kid in a parked car on a 100 degree day.
A kiss he will never forget- Disney World 2014
that's great. I am glad it worked for you. For some it doesn't. Doesn't mean they are dehumanizing them. If it keeps a child safe, why do you care? I held my kid's hand one day becasue it was a busy day and there were no more carts. I had a basket in one hand and him in the other. And guess what, he wiggled his hand out of mine, dodged around some displays, and was faster then I was, I lost him down an aisle and couldn't find him for 10 minutes. Want to know where I found him? The parking lot. So what is worse, a kid with a monkey on his back or a kid being hit by a car?
I don't really care if you answer this- I never had to use a leash because that day he got a giant swat on the ass and he never did that again (you can go ahead and judge for spanking too- that was something I swore I would NEVER do, but whatever) but after that day I considered it.
So good for you for never using a leash or even considering it. I'm glad you never had to go through the absolute terror of losing your
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I don't care if you use a leash! I have said that so many times I feel like a broken record. I am sorry you had to go through that experience, and I also would have swatted my child on the rear for that! We spank in this household when the behavior being exhibited could cause harm (running to the street, playing with the stove, etc.). We also spank if no other form of discipline will catch his attention.
1. I never had to use a leash because he never did it again, I lucked out. I said I considered it and I am not against them.
2. I find it interstesting that you are so anti leashes, but you are meh to spanking.
3. I am assuming you are going to have another child. Just remember what may have worked for your first, may not work for your next. My best friend was anti leash, anti this and anti that. She went off about how she was able to raise her kid without doing any of THOSE things. And then she had her second child. A child who was 100% the complete opposite of her first. A kid who basically looked at her and her thoughts on parenting and said, "challenge accepted".
I said, never say never because you just NEVER know. Unless you are not going to have ANY more children and you have miraculously gotten through this stage, you just never know what you are going to get the next time around.
Good luck to you and I hope you never have to go through losing a kid in a store. I really do. It sucks. But it was on that day, that I decided that everything I thought I knew about parenting was wrong and from now on I would take it one day at a time and one decision at a time.
A kiss he will never forget- Disney World 2014
K- born 7/5/2011
G- born 6/24/2013
What do leashes and spanking have in common, anyway?
The big ol' boob isn't obnoxious, but that smug look of self-satisfaction is.
<p align="center"Because you are basically saying you won't tie a monkey on his back to keep him from running and "keep him safe" , but you are willing to hit him to keep him from the stove to "keep him safe"
Its just a bit hypocritical. But whatever.
A kiss he will never forget- Disney World 2014
Are leashes common where you live? They are not here. I've seen maybe three kids on a leash in my entire life. That also influences my opinion.
This kid may not be a runner, but your next might be. You just never know.
I never said you aren't putting your kid in danger. You are fortunate it worked out. What I said from the beginning is never say never, because although this kid may happily oblige and hold your hand, your next one may not. It works better when you are just open to various methods.
I see some people with leashes, not a ton, but some. Mostly at places like the zoo, airports, and the mall. they aren't hugely popular, but they are around. And my thought is, if that's what the parent needs to keep their kid safe, then good for them.
A kiss he will never forget- Disney World 2014
I hadn't thought twice about it either until a friend from a precious BMB was lurking ours and asked me about it. I had to go look to see and then had the "huh" moment.
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Omg I didn't see this thread. Really 8-|
K- born 7/5/2011
G- born 6/24/2013
When you train that hard for something, it's something you are proud of. I've run 3, and I met my sub 4 goal on my last one. I can't run them anymore because of knee surgeries. I miss it. FTR, I never shit my pants running though.
DSS: 15 DS: 7
DD born 1/3/15
You just do you, darling.
What the what?? Did you just refer to preferences to use harnesses or spanking as tools to parent CHILDREN as a reference to BDSM?
Uh. Yes..... I use a harness on my TODDLER.... Because I like BDSM.
That is fucking gross of you.