Toddler/restaurant rant

LadyXaverian

hollywooeb said:

@YaMrWhite - How do I know my parenting style? Not sure I really understand the question, but I guess I have a pretty clear understanding of what my parenting style will be because I'm basing it on certain things my parents taught me and the ways in which I was taught. I know my children will be taught to say please and thank you because it's polite, they will also address adults with respect (use mam and sir), they will be taught to clean up after themselves...among many other things.

The first time your kid throws a huge tantrum in public (which will happen) and you're unable to control it (because you can't) and you're unable to remove them quick enough to avoid some judgmental looks (which will also happen), I hope you will remember this thread as you plummet head first from your high horse.

LadyXaverian

CinemaGoddess said:

I am so happy right now. Welcome @cinemagoddess .

CinemaGoddess

LadyXaverian said:

CinemaGoddess said:

I am so happy right now. Welcome @cinemagoddess .

FTMs are the absolute best.  

I love them so much. 

CinemaGoddess

The #1 parenting rule FTMs need to know:

Kids are jerks. Period. 

#2 parenting rule:

Yes, your kid will be a jerk no matter how "perfectly" you parent them. 

kaybeeknits

CinemaGoddess said:

LadyXaverian said:

CinemaGoddess said:

I am so happy right now. Welcome @cinemagoddess .

FTMs are the absolute best.  

I love them so much. 

Hey now! We're not all dumb enough to say out loud all the ways we are going to be perfect parents!

LadyXaverian

Who is @ghostof5letters ?

CinemaGoddess

mrs.kay+emm said:

CinemaGoddess said:

LadyXaverian said:

CinemaGoddess said:

I am so happy right now. Welcome @cinemagoddess .

FTMs are the absolute best.  

I love them so much. 

Hey now! We're not all dumb enough to say out loud all the ways we are going to be perfect parents!

No, but the ones who are going to be perfect parents are the most hilarious people on TB. 

"I will NEVER use a leash. My child is not an animal."

"I will NEVER give my child non-homemade solid foods."

"I will NEVER allow my child to have an epic fit in the middle of Target, complete with arm flailing and revenge peeing."  

ghostof5letters

LadyXaverian said:

Who is @ghostof5letters ?

Who are you?

SpaceGirlSpiff

I keep cracking up at @CinemaGoddess 's gif.  It's so perfect for all this.  Keeping that one. ::files it away::

motherboy

ghostof5letters said:

Who is @ghostof5letters ?

Who are you?

Your Janelle gif is awesome. It's worth horrible ipad formatting to be able to see it.

LadyXaverian

ghostof5letters said:

Who is @ghostof5letters ?

Who are you?

LOL. I didn't mean the question to be snarky at all. I've enjoyed your posts in this thread, and I'm wondering if your screen name is an AE.

LadyXaverian

CinemaGoddess said:

mrs.kay+emm said:

CinemaGoddess said:

LadyXaverian said:

CinemaGoddess said:

I am so happy right now. Welcome @cinemagoddess .

FTMs are the absolute best.  

I love them so much. 

Hey now! We're not all dumb enough to say out loud all the ways we are going to be perfect parents!

No, but the ones who are going to be perfect parents are the most hilarious people on TB. 

"I will NEVER use a leash. My child is not an animal."

"I will NEVER give my child non-homemade solid foods."

"I will NEVER allow my child to have an epic fit in the middle of Target, complete with arm flailing and revenge peeing."  

Have you been following me around?

CinemaGoddess

Naw, dude. 

This happens at Targets all over the country.  The same as when adults walk in and somehow you have to poop immediately even if you've already pooped.  

The toddler reaction is major freakout.  Every time. 

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ghostof5letters

LadyXaverian said:

ghostof5letters said:

LadyXaverian said:

Who is @ghostof5letters ?

Who are you?

LOL. I didn't mean the question to be snarky at all. I've enjoyed your posts in this thread, and I'm wondering if your screen name is an AE.

July 2011 and July 2014 BMB
Sort of an AE since I was banned before, although I was told it was a glitch by mods, I posted some gifs that were reported. it was never resolved so a new sn was necessary.

Sunflower9939

If you want a meal without children around, go to a nicer restaurant. Otherwise, keep your judgey mcjudgerson attitude to yourself. You don't know shit about that child, his temperament, what he's upset about, etc. sometimes my 15 month old gets mad at home because I won't hand her the knife I'm using. Does that mean I shouldn't go out to eat with her because she might randomly get mad about some irrational thing? You're a ridiculous person.

Disneygeek77

I perhaps wonder if we shall need another Bump rendition of " Reasons my kid is crying."

As of an hour ago.  My kid was crying because he wanted to put his Captain Hook undies on by himself.  He then threw a fit because he couldn't figure out how to do it.  I tried to help a bit, but he screamed " No, I want to do it."  So I backed off and let him figure it out himself.  He again threw a massive fit because he couldn't balance himself and put his legs through the leg holes.  I again told him " Mommy, will start it and you will be a big boy and finish it." Nope, he still threw a massive fit. Do you know what I had to do ?  I walked away and ignored him and after a few minutes he calmed down.  

His reason for crying yesterday ?  He wanted to pour DD's entire container of bubble juice on the front lawn and I wouldn't let him.   

Smelh324

ghostof5letters said:

This just keeps getting better.

Damn, I was just thinking I need a GIF with popcorn!

Disneygeek77

Sorry, I know I'm being a PW today, but I have to throw this one out there too.

https://www.buzzfeed.com/mikespohr/19-things-people-swear-theyll-never-do-until-they-have-kids

Lanatir

CinemaGoddess said:

No, but the ones who are going to be perfect parents are the most hilarious people on TB. 

"I will NEVER use a leash. My child is not an animal."

"I will NEVER give my child non-homemade solid foods."

"I will NEVER allow my child to have an epic fit in the middle of Target, complete with arm flailing and revenge peeing."  

I'm THAT mom.  DD does this and I walk down the aisle from her (I can still see her) and tell her when she's done being ridiculous, I'm over here.  I get TONS of bad looks, but it seriously curbs a temper tantrum faster than trying to calm her down or giving her any kind of attention.

LadyXaverian

Disneygeek77 said:

Sorry, I know I'm being a PW today, but I have to throw this one out there too.

https://www.buzzfeed.com/mikespohr/19-things-people-swear-theyll-never-do-until-they-have-kids

QFT. Anyone who hasn't clicked on this needs to click on this. I'm looking at you, sanctimommies whose names I have already forgotten.

ShakeyJakey

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@BookitBoo - I don't have children. I don't need a child to know how I will handle my future one screaming in public. He or she will be promptly removed to a private place and calmed down. I realize every parent is different and each has their own way of dealing with their children. What seems right to me may not be right for another parent and that's ok.

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LO fucking L! You're from the future? You know what discipline strategy you'll use on your fetus? You're in for a hayuuuuuuge wake up call. I wish I could see it when you realize how absolutely CLUELESS you are when it comes to raising a child.

CinemaGoddess

ICarriedAWatermelon said:

Lanatir said:

CinemaGoddess said:

No, but the ones who are going to be perfect parents are the most hilarious people on TB. 

"I will NEVER use a leash. My child is not an animal."

"I will NEVER give my child non-homemade solid foods."

"I will NEVER allow my child to have an epic fit in the middle of Target, complete with arm flailing and revenge peeing."  

I'm THAT mom.  DD does this and I walk down the aisle from her (I can still see her) and tell her when she's done being ridiculous, I'm over here.  I get TONS of bad looks, but it seriously curbs a temper tantrum faster than trying to calm her down or giving her any kind of attention.

Which brings us to another great point. FTMs (well, some of you), take note.

What actually works to calm your toddler (and what is probably the most loving and teachable way to do so) is very often the complete opposite of what all the judgy mcjudgersons and passers-by think you should do for your child.

For serious. 

Walking away from your kid will often result in the tantrum going away a lot quicker than engaging the child. 

I may or may not have actually said "Bye Felicia" to my daughter the other day at the store when she wouldn't stop yelling about wanting to go down the escalator.  She yelled once more and then silently followed me.  

January Bride

This is completely off topic, but as I was scrolling through and had to keep seeing OP's signature about running a marathon over and over and over, I couldn't resist posting this:




(Don't get me wrong, I have many friends who have ran marathons and I'm super impressed with their accomplishments.  I just had to throw in this for OP)

CinemaGoddess

I learned today that marathoners shit their pants during marathons. 

Ew.  

I will never do a marathon simply for that reason.  I will never be so invested in my exercise/hobby that I will intentionally let loose my bowels in my underwear.  

ShakeyJakey

rainbows said:

It boggles my mind how many parents here feel like they can let their child act any way they want to without concern on the effects of others around them.  I dont understand why you think I should have to pay lots of money at a FINE dining establishment to be able to expect a peaceful meal.

My mom and DH's mom didnt let us act up or cry excessively in restaurants.  My sister doesnt let her son.  Its not unreasonable. 

Did you miss the FAMILY RESTAURANT ATMOSPHERE in the OP? Have you read anything? No one ever said they let their kid do whatever. @rainbows‌

YaMrWhite

CinemaGoddess said:

I learned today that marathoners shit their pants during marathons. 

Ew.  

I will never do a marathon simply for that reason.  I will never be so invested in my exercise/hobby that I will intentionally let loose my bowels in my underwear.  

Lol it has happened and I've heard about it but not all of us do that. I promise everyone here I have never shit my pants running a marathon. But I have shit my pants! Lol

Lanatir

Disneygeek77 said:

Sorry, I know I'm being a PW today, but I have to throw this one out there too.

https://www.buzzfeed.com/mikespohr/19-things-people-swear-theyll-never-do-until-they-have-kids

But...  I NEVER will let my kid use an ipad.  I'd have to buy one first.  Then we can break that rule.  lol.

LadyXaverian

ShakeyJakey said:

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@BookitBoo - I don't have children. I don't need a child to know how I will handle my future one screaming in public. He or she will be promptly removed to a private place and calmed down. I realize every parent is different and each has their own way of dealing with their children. What seems right to me may not be right for another parent and that's ok.

-------- LO fucking L! You're from the future? You know what discipline strategy you'll use on your fetus? You're in for a hayuuuuuuge wake up call. I wish I could see it when you realize how absolutely CLUELESS you are when it comes to raising a child.

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I just want to point out that this has been somehow misquoted. It is not @bookitboo that said the above.

aerotigergirl

@Disneygeek77 - That list is great! I've done nearly all of them, I admit.

Number one on the list hits home for me. Back when I was pregnant with DS, those "leash" things were getting a ton of scrutiny here on TB. So much that, even now, with my DS who is a RUNNER, I've considered buying a leash for him but I've not done it because I'm convinced that every other parent under the sun is going to give me horrendous side-eye for using it.

Well, we went to a theme park with DS on Saturday with some friends who have similarly aged kids. We were all getting off a kiddie ride together, which meant I had to let go of his hand so he could climb down before me, and that was when my son took off. Of course, my friend's son took off chasing him, and hey look it's a game! We had to chase them 100 yards or so before we caught up to them. I gave DS my best "mean mommy" scolding voice and he didn't run off again for the rest of the day, but it's looking more and more like the leash may be necessary in our case. X_X

Stargirlb

I still think leashes are totally ridiculous

ShakeyJakey

LadyXaverian said:

ShakeyJakey said:

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@BookitBoo - I don't have children. I don't need a child to know how I will handle my future one screaming in public. He or she will be promptly removed to a private place and calmed down. I realize every parent is different and each has their own way of dealing with their children. What seems right to me may not be right for another parent and that's ok.

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LO fucking L! You're from the future? You know what discipline strategy you'll use on your fetus? You're in for a hayuuuuuuge wake up call. I wish I could see it when you realize how absolutely CLUELESS you are when it comes to raising a child.

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I just want to point out that this has been somehow misquoted. It is not @bookitboo that said the above.

I ALWAYS mess up quotes. It was @hollywooeb‌ I think?

Disneygeek77

My son is a runner too and I will probably end up getting one.

I swear every time we leave church ( which used to be a few times a week) he would throw himself on the ground because he wants to run around the parking lot.  He refuses to hold my hand so I have to pick him up and carry him kicking and screaming to the car.  If he keeps this up, I will just get one because I don't want him kicking me in the stomach especially when I am further along.  

Besides, I think he would like it.  He has a bit more freedom and his arm doesn't get tired from holding my hand.  

LadyXaverian

Stargirlb said:

I still think leashes are totally ridiculous

Oh FFS.

CinemaGoddess

Leashes are useful when you have twins.  

Lanatir

Stargirlb said:

I still think leashes are totally ridiculous

They're just like baby wraps...  Only for bigger kids.

SpaceGirlSpiff

Stargirlb said:

I still think leashes are totally ridiculous

Of course you do.

SpaceGirlSpiff

"Strollers are so cruel too! Why would you want to push your baby AWAY from you!?!?!"

BookitBoo

Heck yeah I love that baby leash! After flying alone with DS when he was 1 1/2 and 2, it was the single thing that helped me keep my sanity

1. DS Is energetic, and a runner. I am less energetic, and have a bum ankle.
2. I was less paranoid he would get snatched up by some random nary-do-well.

AggieMom0809

ImJessesGirl said:

Have you ever been the parent of the screaming child? I have... and trust me, it's mortifying.

It is, but unless I'm just with friends at a park and my kid is throwing a stupid tantrum (one for no reason or because they don't want to follow the rules) I take them out immediately. The other people at the restaurant didn't ask to have their meal interrupted by a misbehaving child. Either teach the child better so tantrums in public are limited or don't eat out.